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DrFunmisticGlow:
I called them bastards and I will say it up your face again (not to their's).

Those children have no benefit from you being their sperm donor. If you die like fowl one day. Those kids have no right to your property, they can't even claim your surname. Paying child support is not fatherhood, protecting your children, being in their lives continually without cherry picking the time that is convenient for you while you pursue other women is not fatherhood, giving them your time and attention, being there when they are sick or vulnerable, teaching them to be morally responsible adults, giving them your legacy and inheritance. THAT'S FATHERHOOD.

Not using child support as a weapon to get sexual access to a baby mama who made the mistake of opening her legs for you and has to pay for it for the rest of her life.

if you luminouz have sired illegitimate children, then this is the gravity of what you have done.

Mind you. That delusional belief that bastards will look for their father is a risky gamble, they may not and even if they do to satisfy their curiosity , they will most likely not cater to your old age.

I am tired of seeing middle aged and old men who made irresponsible choices in their youth die with regrets, lonely and miserable, unable to call family out of shame to see their last moments. Family members will not even claim the corpse sef. If he is lucky, his friends and people in his area will. If not it will be dropped in a mortuary or donated to medical students for anatomy dissection. I am yet to see that happen to women though. Even If a woman dies alone, family and loved ones always show up immeadiately after crying to claim their corpses or make a fuss in the hospital.

This is all bullshiiit!!! An attempt to shame men into commitment they gain absolutely nothing from. Any man who wants marriage is free to go that route but painting a doomsday scenario is just one of society and women's ways of blackmailing men into committing to a construct that is scientifically dead in this century. A man can be in his kids lives without being married to their mum and be raised right. I have seen Dad's who travel for work and never come home or even be too busy working everyday to give a fuq what their kids do? If marriage is so holistic, then why is Gen Z so fûcked up, they don't have married parents or what? What are you talking about? How dafuq do you talk about fatherhood when you have no kids or any experience of what means to be a FATHER? You just assume fatherhood is bla bla blaaaaaaaaaa...and you know nothing about being a man. So how in hell will you know what fatherhood entails, bro?

I have seen the exact opposite of everything you said. So long you take care of your kids and they know you and themselves, burial arrangements would be according to your dictates in your will. Marriage is no guarantee your so-called legitimate kids won't kill themselves over you or themselves.

You saying marriage is a responsibility on a man's part is the root of many men demise today. You brandish that shiit to shame men into constructs they gain nothing from and yet when they don't measure up, you still blame them for daring to try. Men are tired of being the last to be cared about, cared for, tired of only being used as a provider, protector tool who no one gives a fuq about. Now, they are focusing on themselves and you are coming with the responsible tag bullshit? Spare me all that crap

If you ever call my kids bastards to my face, I will tear your guts out!!!

DrFunmisticGlow:
Yes. They are bastards. It's all lipstick on a pig.

I don't think so. They are his kids. If he ain't the dad, and they belong to the mum, then calling them bastards(at least in Yoruba parlance) is right.

If I have a kid and I don't marry the mum, come call him/her bastards na, make i wooze your 👄

Holluwhakemmy:
Thanks I'm Engaged

No you are not. Stop lying. Nah you wan marry oh

Holluwhakemmy:
I have advised him and he has explained everything to me. So go and rest your opinion is meaningless

So is yours.

So rest.

Holluwhakemmy:
I did not direct my comment to you, if you like go for 20 baby mama's it's your headache.

And I won't let you shame a man who decides not to marry you. He gains nothing from it but slavery and pain. So I will comment as I want and you can't do shiit about that

SocialJustice:
Look at you arguing for women even with their daily actions in relationships and marriages.

I personally don't see why I should be saddled with any woman. I want my kids too and that's it, she has all the freedom to fly as she wants.

I want a lot of kids too with diversity, one woman can't do it.

Leave that one alone make he dey argue.
Men don't gain anything from marriage but women will try to hoodwink you with the 'responsible' man comment. Who gives a shiit?

rickleye:
When you are 60 and all alone . You’d quickly discover that you have nobody to share memories with . And when your kids are all grown up and have their own families to raise , you’ll understand loneliness.
I have uncles who separated from their wives and in their old age suffered a lot . To even operate the microwave is wahala. They go down 2 flight of stairs only to forget their keys and have to climb up and down again.
He died 2 days before anyone noticed and he wasn’t sick . Died normal causes.
Nah, because a few bad eggs give marriage a bad name doesn’t mean marriage as an institution is bad or outdated.
Someone to travel the world with share the hugs and tears.
Just ask the right questions , and put your head to the ground and you’ll find a good woman. She may not be perfect but at least your last days wouldn’t be filled with pain and loneliness

You assume that your wife won't die before you or you won't before her...who told you she would be there for you when your kids are all grown and left the nest? I can't count how many men are living alone while the wife are traveling around the world visiting their kids and never looking after the husband.

MEN GAIN NOTHING FROM MARRIAGE. I KNOW THAT LIKE I KNOW MY MUDAFUCKING DIICK

Holluwhakemmy:
From your last paragraph I don't think you can be a responsible father to your children if your mindset about marriage is to have baby mama's and raise your children outside. Think twice before you land yourself into trouble. Ire ooo

How is that your business?

That's how you lots try to shame men into slavery when they gain absolutely nothing from a marriage,so you don't tell a man what he should do with his life. At least he is not leaving his kid to suffer. So stop with the 'responsible' bullshiit you lots use to blackmail men.

EreluRoz:
Yes a man needs marriage to bring forth kids into existence. Were you conceived out of wedlock? I'm sure the answer is No. So who taught you all this woke (sick) mentality that it's ok to have a child without marriage? How many children born out of wedlock are proud to be product of adultery/fornication?
The word "Bastard" still exist and it'll never go into extinction. There are still some families who don't allow their sons/daughters marry a bastard.

"Bastards" are kids born illegitimately(product from two unmarried people).

Something is seriously wrong with you with this bullshiit you sent me. Men don't need marriage to have kids at this day and age. Not with the kind of women out there now. We are good not tolerating your crap.

Adultery/fornication ? What nonsense? How many women are virgins when they marry. Ain't you lots the ones who give bastards to the men you marry, and scared to take DNA tests?

Give me a fûcking break

EreluRoz:
She's right especially when you have crossed 30. Also no man is happy as a single man, he will also feel less of a man seeing his mates with wives and kids. So it's both ways and let's not pretend about it.

So a man needs marriage before he has a woman and some kids?

Nawa for your reasoning oh

heartofcity12:
Exactly. I don’t know what that silly Ben Affleck was thinking, being Alpha in movies don’t equate to being Alpha in real life, he and Will Smith are in the same WhatsApp group..

Exactly.

heartofcity12:
Not surprised

I didn't understand why they got married again to be honest. They could have just continued as they were or as a couple without the marital ties. Getting married spoiled everything.

lacasera14:
The best answer so far. I owe you a wine.

So what else have we been preaching here? Hatred or how to masturbate? 🙄🙄🙄

When you didn't calm down and read from page 1, you would be making mistakes na.

The key is to apply the redpill knowledge in your life...and grow in it

Faber:
The bolded is totally false assumption. How can u call a fickle, nagging, ever changing and cunning chameleons of a gender easy to control

Just dey play. To deal with that gender you have to appear very gentle and easy ...but ruthlessly cunning, selfish and wicked

Lol...as a redpiller, maybe you understand them better but that doesn't make them tender and easy to control. It's when you think that and relax that you get fûcked. It's always the punch that you don't see coming that puts you down.

Be vigilant and always take your dose of the redpill

EreluRoz:
Sometimes you it'll be like you are good, sometimes I see werey. Please stay one place and let thunder locate you well ntooor

K

Phant0mStranger:
I'm dumbfounded 😶

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Bullbearboy:
The Mod that blocked me because I spoke out on dat porn show called bbn will mourn his/her first seed unless there is no God……and Seun God will put sorrow in your life that money won’t erase
Your own God might be dead and deaf, mine is not and Seun will lack peace in his last days

Why not tell that your god to bless you so much you can open your own nairaland and do as you wish and no one will ever block you?

Why are you cutting someone over his own company?

Bullbearboy:
The Mod that blocked me because I spoke out on dat porn show called bbn will mourn his/her first seed unless there is no God……and Seun God will put sorrow in your life that money won’t erase

Lol..you dey invoke God because you were banned and even cursed the owner of the site you are freely accessing?

And you think God will answer your prayer/curse?🤣🤣🤣

sabbiboi:
A girl uploaded her status and he replied.

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Don’t be a simp in this life, it is worthless, even gurls hate it, they hate u for it.

God cooked!!!

In what kitchen?😂😂

Martinez39s:
Just allow the dirty water flow to its destination. Just cover your nose and watch in amusement. Don't stress yourself or be bothered to interfere.

Lol..ok

Martinez39s:
SMH. Let the ignorance, silly games, and misunderstanding continue. Have a nice day.

Ermmm...I'm lost...something is going on I don't know.

1Sharon:
You know everything. Okpo.

Okpo?

You are so razz!!! 🙄

Badmashiii:
He's right. Your collegues can never be your friend. Let me suggest a good book to you on that topic,if you don't mind ; "Workplace poker
" i can't remember the author name but just search it up.

One more thing,an act of kindness by someone does not means that person have your best interestat heart.

Unfortunately due to the harshness of this world, when we experienced such act,we tend to open up and trust that person further while also expecting something like that to happen once again in the future. We ended up getting disappointed though.

You can be quite friendly with your collegues at work,heck you can even be the best of buddies but when it comes to career elevation,they'd rather be ahead of you than you being in that position.

Collegues usually sabotage themselves behind each other backs,mostly to look good and gain favor from the boss. Not to talk of the hidden envy and hate some have for each other.

Do not be naive folks,your workplace is a battlefield of interest not a gathering of friends and family.

Exactly. You nailed it

1Sharon:
Doctors don't run the health sector. They only work within it's confines.

Lol...you know nothing.

Proserpina:
Yeah yeah yeah the Realist are always "cynical" cliche again... Yawn . So positive mindset is for those who fantasize right?

It's funny how black men (Africans) are always the REALIST while those who "fantasize" build empires and better communities

Hard man, Weak brain

He made a general advice for anyone with interest to re-evaluate themselves but you turned it into black men narrative.

What's wrong with you?

Gerrard59:
FYI, I DON'T envy anyone based on anything in life. I know what it is to make money and have seen how people progress in life. So, why should I envy someone I don't know?

I don't know what you think of me, neither do I care, but I don't envy people. I just find it odd that a man keeps conjuring funny looking stories when his income isn't dependent (presumably) on social media marketing. Solomon Buchi does the same - cho cho cho - every now and then, but at least Buchi earns money via such.

Me envy people? God forbid bad thing! Anything people have, I had such and will have them.

How does his Cho Cho Cho affect you? 🙄🙄🙄... It's freedom of expression Man!!

Gerrard59:
This means his experiences are fake and I bet he is not as financially comfortable as he claims. Anyone who does business with him is in for big trouble.

Lmaooo...I smell envy and jealousy reeking off your post. Level up, will you?

VikingKing:
Crude as the method is, people are trying to survive. If you go round Nigeria looking for a Saint before you can help, I bet you, you won't find a single one. So just do what you must and let their conscientious judge them. That way, you would've taught them a lesson they won't quickly forget. None of us is truly righteous.

I disagree.

That doesn't excuse their behavior.

Cousin9999:
Bro, stop trolling.

K

cococandy:
There are dirt cheap hotels that cost that much per day as at now. Much less many years ago. Meaning he could have gotten hotels for that price or less for 24 hours since this supposedly happened years ago.

Na him wan stay New York. In fact even in New York he could have gotten hotels at that price for 24 hours instead of 8 hours and stay the whole day. plus some will serve you breakfast.

Pls shut up abeg.

See liar oh ... Why so rude though?

Philosopher1979:
The redpill community is created by intellectuals and intelligent people. We are not superficial people you can just displace with a wave of the hand.
You Anita's here can't stop us. Basically why are you even against is. What Weare saying is rhe truth.
Again I repeat you cant stop us

No give her attention..let her starve

madridguy:
In Nigeria, we still have more than enough wife material that can serve every single men in Nigeria. Our greatest problem is poverty and this is seriously affecting everyone and any lady that ask for basic things will be tagged a gold digger.

A single lady asking her suitor that she prefers a man with an apartment with a running water will be considered a high taste lady simply because she said she cannot be waking up everyday to be fetching water up and down.

Lol...that's funny. Na sin for her to get what she wants herself or help the man get them?