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I don't want to bore you with much worse.

I dated a girl for 5years. We started dating back then when we were in the university. She was very kind and very understanding.
But she broke up with me and went ahead to date her colleague because he was more handsome (I'm not really that sweet to look at)

She treated me like a piece of shit, like a used rag, not considering the fact that we were together for 5years.
Now she broke up with him again and she's been begging me consistently for two years now wanting a relationship.
I've blocked her on all platforms but she always uses new numbers to get with me which they all go into the "blocked zone".

Back when we were dating. I was told by someone that I shouldn't leave the girl no matter what. Now this year, revelation has come out from two different people that I must take that girl back. That she holds a key to my financial breakthroughs. Not like I believe that bullshit anyways but It's kind of bothering me.

1. I feel like she lacks loyalty, how could I taie back someone who doesn't understand what loyalty is.

2. I have a deep and an intense hatred for her. How can I take back someone I have a deep hatred for?

3. She no longer meets my spec. I have a better taste now.

4. My ego is bruised because, she chose her colleague who had a GF over me who all I had was her.

5. I feel like her colleague is the person she really likes. She might be back because she isn't getting what she wants from him.

Guys please advice me, How do I date who I hate and please teach me how to avenge myself?
She hurt me so much when she left that I was bleeped up mentally up to the extent that I lost a huge sum of money and a source of income, I've been struggling since then. I even fell sick after that.

An eye for an eye. I want to avenge myself please. Please teach me all the possible wicked things I can do even if I must took her back.
cc: Martinez39s
Skepticus
Luminouz
CaveAdullam
MrBrownJay1
Faber
Heartofcity12
Pukkalolo
JESHAL007
Rizzputin
Nonexistent1
@ everyone. Please save a brother.

Boss...this is a long my own experiences. I have a story to tell you. I am coming soon...


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Inobeyourmate:
Lol, mumu say he chase Almiron inside, see, we Messi fans just too get peace of mind, nah una mumu Penaldo fans dey alwys celebrate rubbish, like most YouTube followers and 900 goal, when we Messi fans don win and still keep winning every available trophy 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ain't you ashamed to be so invested in someone who doesn't know you exist?
Shame no dey catch you ni?

VinnyBaba:
You mean Almiron? 🤔

Yes ...

mushroomFarm:

A goat that prefers to score and his team lose the match than for them to win without him registering a goal.
He is a goat no doubt but zero of a team player more focused on personal stats.
This is why we love Messi. Team player, highest goal s and assists stat in the world today, a world cup winner, most d'ors most golden boots and the list goes on.

For people who do not know, or they just love to join the bad wagons by always shouting 'rigged' balon d'or is by votes from experts, top journalists, national teams and football captains. The voting results are always released.
So how can you open your dirty mouth and say it is rigged when people like Pep, Ferguson, Klopp, Mbappe, Neymar, Top managers from EPL, top journalists etc voted for Messi?

Oh you think you know better than these experts? No wonder you have become wretched with your betnaija odds. Zero football knowledge. The same hate that made Ronaldo to never vote for Messi not even for third position. Lolzzz imagine o but Messi voted for him once or twice.
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Abi no be the same baba that dropped his country's captain band when he lost? Putting blames on others...the same guy that broke a kids's phone all because he couldn't handle his emotions?
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And you want us to believe this guy didn't cry the night Messi conquered the world

Choose your goat wisely
In Russia if you say Ronaldo is your goat, na knock you go chop my whole hostel shook with noise of joy the night we won the world cup. Even my boss cooked a pot of horse and bear meat, I ate till my tommy and teeth wouldn't allow me anymore...everyone just dey celebrate like say na we carry the cup

So you are Almiron?

I will fix you soon

VinnyBaba:
Where is Almiron plz?

We Messi Fans need him to tackle this achievement.

And where is Obembet?

Its like Tinibu HUNGER don finish her badly o.

I chased that werey inside na...he is under a new moniker now and I will find him and fix him too

Wealthyonos:
I can see that you have anger issues. I can't even count the number of girls I have dated. For you to say I don't have knowledge of women, I just nor get your time. Keep your ideologies to yourself. I don't think inline with societal perception. Any small thing, una go shout simp.

K

Wealthyonos:
Life is bigger than your imagination. I can relate with your own kind of perception, but life is not always like that. You think once you beg a girl, she becomes very powerful and the man weak? Women love to be chased. With the way you think, anytime a girl tells you it's over, you will just move on. You go soon date the whole world, you never see anything. For me to beg her, you should have known she is not the kind of girls u think she is. Nor worry, this story big pass you.

Jesus!!! A simp is trying to convince me that the sun is blue?

I'd rather be a pope than believe your words!!! You have no knowledge of women at all. And worse off? You don't even wanna learn. So I'd let you burn.

Mark my words!!! You will come back here and say that I was right!!!

santopelele:
Why do girls always shouting while having sex? I can't relate the misery behind it, does that mean that the thing is touching them in MEDULLA OBOLONGATA?

Misery keh?😳😳

Wealthyonos:
We loved each other so much. I brought her to Lagos against my friends' advise. I was told that if I bring my girl to Lagos, Lagos boys will take her from me. I doubted them, even have to bet with someone. So, I secured a sales girl job for a in a game shop frequented by boys. That's how they started giving her wrong advices which led her to start behaving like an 'ogbanje' possessed girl. To cut long story short, she broke up with me when we went home to bury my elder brother whom I lost to the cold hand of death November 23, 2023. She broke up with me April this year, but I wouldn't let her be cause her reasons were not genuine. She is someone with whom I have cohabited with for over a year in 2021 to 2022 before I moved to Lagos, Saturday 3rd of September, 2022. So I knew how to convince her in anything. As God would have it, she accepted me back in August this year 2024 after begging her everyday, from April to August. Well, we are now stronger in the relationship than before.

Lmaooooooo

You begged a girl everyday for 4 months? Are you under a cûrse? You even said 'as God will have it' are you nörmal at all? You think that girl didn't fûck for 4 months while you kept doing bambiala on her case?

You even said the relationship is stronger than before? Mumu...once you beg a woman to accept you, she becomes the man and you the woman. She now has power over you...and you become her slave. She will always use any small chance to threaten to leave because she now knows you can't do without her.

I can keep talking but I just weak...that you can't even see how fûcked up you are is embarrassing, quoting love and shiit.

Your eye go clear

Wealthyonos:
Bro, are you in Lagos? Let's be friends. Our stories are similar, just that in my case, after my girlfriend broke up with me, I begged her for several months till we came back together. But I'm beginning to understand how women think.

You begged a girl that abandoned your life when you needed support the most? 😳😳😳

Now she will kuku come and ruin you. Jesus, you niggas are big ass simps. This is embarrassing.

Faber:
Boss, you gat no chill this is savagery at its peak

It's September....no mercy for yamayama

Faber:
I do 20 x 6 presently ... I know a close friend instructor that does 20 x 15 some times he goes beyond 15 and that's my target.

Here is the hack:
You do 3 push ups at a go for 6 times
Then 4 push ups at a go for 6 times
That's 7 push ups x 6 ✅
Then You repeat:
3 push ups at a go for 6 times
Another 4 push ups at a go do 6 times
That's 7 push ups x 6✅
Total you have done 14 push ups x 6✅
The Final:
You do 6 push ups for 6 times
You have done 20 push ups x 6✅

By next month I will be doing 20 x 10 daily



I wake up at 3:00am daily... Pray, do some reading ,research and writing ...go back to sleep agian at 4:00am...wake up at 6:00am and kick off my day.

Don't quote that werey serial begger

He is not only mæd, he is also a troll. We all ignore his craw-craw ass

Faber:
I salute you sir. Each time I remember what a simp Police guy, did to me when I hard a small misunderstanding with one girl like that 5 yrs ago, I keep crying. It was the girl that was even at fault. No one stands up for men. Even the brotherhood exits only on paper. The Society, The sisterhood, the Government run by the simping Political class are all there for women.

Very sad indeed

Very right!!!

Faber:

Women turn to their pu**y when nothing else helps, but as a man, you have nothing to fall back to.

Never compare your life, achievements and success with women, it is easier and faster for a woman to succeed in life than a man of the same age.

The Society loves women only for their femininity, but the same society punishes men for their masculinity, the society is cruel to men.

💯 Spitting facts!!!

DrAda:
It is. The mistake people keep making is thinking that marriage is a bed of roses.

Lol..ok.

gbadexy:
Even this ex would show her true character later.

Egbon was weak and didn't take control of his wife. If he is weak like that with the ex, she go show him shege.

DrAda:
As long as it ends with contemplation. We all nursed the same idea at some point several times in our marriages but as the wise ones always say time does heal all wounds.

Listen to Mitchell Obama portrayal of her thoughts

Even you too?

Kai, shey marriages these days worth am at all?

johnog4sure:
Thank you, your story really helped me, I am also contemplating divorce right now, and my story is similar to yours, I invested heavily in my wife's business yet she looked into my eyes and said "YOUR MONEY IS NOT IN MY SHOP" I dated her for 5 years married her and had a kid, yet this happened, my friend in London I just spoke to is having similar problem, your advice won't work, and yes people change even in science it is believed that every 7 years you are no longer the same person you used to be seven years earlier.

My own advice is that MEN BE SELFISH(put yourself first and sometimes yourself alone, ignore wife ignore children they all will be fine even without you) I know it is hard for good men to take this advice, even me I am struggling to take my own advice

Nawa o....do something quick before high BP finish you oh

Lifemanage:
Major reason marriages fail is because such men behave like simps. A man should take charge of his wife as an authority not an equal partner. Anything aside that, bear the consequences

I support this

psucc:
Have you had any child with her? If yes, take a further step to see if she can have a rethink

2. Before you proposed to your X, be sure to have exhausted all avenue for peace and reconciliation

3. Have you checked around she's not into a second relationship while under your roof?

4. Have you investigated to know what she's doing with her income, such as taking care of her parents, siblings, building a house, or investing in a business?

5. If it's her view that it's the duty of the man to pick bills even in such situations, just tell her that the rent is higher than what you can afford and so you will have to move to a neighborhood with lesser rent. Probably mention a building around that you have consulted for relocation.

Watch her response. That will tell or exposed more than what you are currently seeing.

6. On the issue of s3x, hmmmmmm, it's not
easy being in that state. I can relate here but I decided to keep that relationship because of my children.

All these are too much shalaye. If a wife can treat her husband like that after marriage, it's as good as over. She no send that dude

Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.

Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.

“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.

But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.

My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.

I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.

The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.

I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.

Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!

I SUPPORT YOUR DECISION

Rukevwe999:
They don't need juju. Let them rub your bald head and call you "baby" softly and I bet you'll give them your ATM pin.

Oga rest.

Cho Cho Cho like fowl wey eat peppered corn.

I just came back from the gym....and after the heavy hitting and playing basketball like a mudafucker, one mumu girl go tell me say I must love her the way she is...as she use fat full everywhere....

Omoh.... September na no nonsense month oh!

EreluRoz:
Stop praising the Benin boy agadiewu, he's not a redpiller but a bitterpiller kos his girlfriend whom he sacrificed a lot for and also sending her to school dumped him for an abroad based guy.

K

Faber:
I salute you sir, I know the time, resources you have donated to make sure this thread and The redpill gets to all simping guys in our society. Mine is just little efforts to keep the fire burning...

New month blessings from my ends🙏

Same here boss🙂

FABER!!!


YOU ARE DOING INCREDIBLY WELL!!! 👍☺️☺️☺️

heartofcity12:
This man keeps learning the hardest way.. 😔

Damn....that's fûcked up

Jesus...

Another simp knelt down and was disgraced!!!

*Sighs*

This is becoming an epidemic

DeeScan:
Keep putting yourself on a goose chase .. Only God knows wetin you dey find .


You've been given the full run down of what transpired before the displayed event yet you still dey argue ..


It's clear the females is at fault yet for some god4saken reason , you're having ba hard time accepting that ... Flip the coin nw, there won't be this much argument coming from. You .


Abeg rest?!!!

😕😕😕

Lol..I have driven that girl mad!!!
Don't be too hard on her. She is seeing shadows and Lumi everywhere now. 😉😉😉

EreluRoz:
Hmm and Luminouz is still single and currently the president of bachelors association of Nigeria

Yen yen yen...you no be single too?

EXPRESSSMAN:
Well, I have heard you and you have heard me as well.
I am not only married but some of my children have graduated from the university. I am not thinking of marrying again neither am I regretting my marriage. It is not about me.
At this stage , I can only advise the upcoming ones. If they like, they listen.
So I am not talking in parables. I am saying it as it is.
But like you said, everyone is free to go for what he wants.
But, no come back to the complain to us. We don't want that.

You didn't meet your wife as a virgin so e dey pepper you

EXPRESSSMAN:
If these are the things you want from a woman, sure there are millions out there who will do it for you.
But the problem is you. When you want to befriend or marry, you go for a street or a village girl in the name of illusive respect or virgin. Then you come to tell us how difficult marriage is.
You should have the gut to go for what you want, they are every where.
Virginity is an illusion, matured men don't take it into consideration when looking for a wife.
Forget about that guy who talks of virgins here. He is only exhibiting his immaturity.
There are things in women that are far greater than being a virgin. But you will only need to discover it yourself. Nobody will tell that.

Rubbish