Kobojunkie:
1. Not to sound heartless but I asked those questions of you, as an individual in that marriage of yours, and not of your husband.

2. You say you are doing your part as wife and I wonder if that part is as slave girl or what. You feel gor your husband, but don't you think you can better show this by being available to cuddle and maybe have sex with him after work?

You call it a phase and I am inquisitive at this point to know how long this particular phase has lasted and wonder how much damage it may have already done to your relationship that you may not even be aware of.

3. I hate to tell you this... God does not do magic... you need to help yourself too in order for Him to help you. He is not going to automagically stop you from acting as slave girl in your marriage. You have decide it is no longer your lot in marriage and life.

4. Please ask hubby to share the chores with you so yu can make time for you marriage and relationship, thus instead of living like house slave in your marriage.

Sincerely, i am not angry at your comment. I am not a slave even though I live like one. I've talked about this several times that i am being seen as a nag, so i stopped talking. I do my part, the day he decides to help, fine and if he doesn't, still fine. Not like I am trying to defend him o but I've come to understand that everybody is not the same. He's the type of man that will spoil you silly when the money is there but coming down to chores is a NO for him.

He doesn't ask me to contribute to the financial running of the house because he feels that's his job except when i feel like helping out. Same goes to the house chores. He believes everybody should do their part peacefully. Though he's looking for a help for me. I just had to speak out because of the question that was thrown to the house. Some women don t just say they are tired, they actually are and I gave my reasons.

Meanwhile, i really appreciate your concern for me. (Smiling)

eminemkayc:


Madam, I've quietly read some of your write-ups. If you are genuine and not an online fraud, send me a message privately let me see how I can assist with a token.

May God continue to shower His blessings upon you Sir. May heaven rain its blessings upon you this day and always o. Chai, you will never lack anything good���
Sir I sent you a mail sir...

eminemkayc:


Madam, I've quietly read some of your write-ups. If you are genuine and not an online fraud, send me a message privately let me see how I can assist with a token.

God bless you sir, sincerely i am not a fraud. I even make and sell pap to help out

truthsayer009:


Madame If you don't change your routine you might just fall down one day in coma. As opposed to popular believe, a lot of families in Nigeria got married when they were struggling. No matter how poor you are, there are steps you can take to make things better, money isn't the only solution. I didn't grow up rich.

- When you wake up by 4AM, he should also wake up as well, preparing children for school can be done by anyone when taught how to do it. Your MIL staying with you is another human burden that needs catering for, It is not a robot that will do the work.

- Anyone who leaves work early should be able to go & pick kids from school, It is not a woman's job to pick up their own kid.

- Do a non-negotiable Ajo or Esusu donated by both of you, use the money to purchase a washing machine. At this point you should choose either living the rest of you life on a wheel chair if your back bone breaks or you buy that washing machine.

- On cases where you fall ill, things shouldn't be left undone. That's why people marry wives who have jobs, so they can help out when medical issues happen to one person.

The people who don't need to help their wives are the ones who have enough money to hire people to do those chores. Not for families earning combined low income. If you kill yourself, there is no reincarnation for you. So berra live your life well.

Bro, person no dey use suffering brag o. It has never been like this. Hubby lost so much during the covid that we had to start selling our properties to survive.

Got married when i was serving. After serving, had to relocate to Lagos. Started my fashion training( thats what ive always wanted to do) but the stress made me have series of miscarriages that i had to stop doing anything till I put to bed, same thing happened with my second child. In order not to remain idle, i started applying for jobs until I finally got this one though the pay is not encouraging. We are saving towards a lot. Its not like I am enjoying this life style, who no like better thing?

Just had to open up on why most women deny their husband sex. Truly I feel tired after everything and that's why.

I'm combining my current work with making easy wears(placed on orders) to manage and save as well so I could go back to further my training. Been able to get a sewing machine; so you see, i am moving forward. Hubby wants to get someone( a relative) that would come stay with us. Like I've been saying, this is a phase...

Kobojunkie:
But why would any human being do this to self ? What do you gain from living this way?.

You got married so you could enjoy not having to go it alone yet clearly, in the marriage, you are stil going it alone, why?

You are too tired to have sex because you are burdened by it all. Your husband may himself be getting his kicks outside and I wonder what exactly is in all of this for you?

Your comment got me crying... My husband too is not having it funny financially, i worry and feel for him sometimes. I guess this is our rough time, i don't have a choice but to do my part as a wife and mother even though it's telling on me. It's just a phase that will pass.

For the sex, that's the least of my problems right now. If he's getting it outside, i don't know o.

It's Christmas, yet nothing dey for children because we are saving for rent and school fees.

Bro, no be everybody wan begin reason their matter for people o. Sometimes i weep at night, crying to God for a change.

Regarding hubby's financial story, the matter na for another day

Kobojunkie:
But why would any human being do this to self ? What do you gain from living this way?.

Never wished it upon myself but situation of the country kept us this way. Saving towards something big even though the salary isn't encouraging at all. Things was a bit easier until the covid 19 came up, Since then it's been hell. All these will end some day; working towards that and believing God.

1Sharon:


You're a super mum. Kudos to you

But can't you ask your hubby for help?

Thanks dear...

Often times I've asked but he believes these things are for women.

My mom did more for me even though I lost her early. I should be able to do same or more for my kids. Besides, it's my duty.

ntipro:

This is the first genuine answer in this thread.
From the horses mouth

Yea, that's because we choose not to talk about it. Same with men who prefers not to talk about whatever it is they are passing through. Its not been easy journey o

Klass99:


This is not sustainable, madam. You go wound pass waist and back pain o. I don't envy you!

Please find ways to alleviate your stress before you quench. If you can, get a washing machine for the laundry.

Back and waist pain are not joking matters.

I don't envy myself either but what do I do when i earn little? I'm saving for it and also for my training. So it's not like I enjoy it.

You'd want to ask about my husband, hubby on his part, pays school fees, house and shop rent, buys food stuff and other things. Its not been easy but we are getting there

ERCROSS:


Na who she see for house she go dey do shakara for.

Body dey pepper pepper me sef, i need space

First of all, i stay in Lagos...
I wake up 4:00 am, prepare breakfast and lunch(plus that of my mother in law who stays with me), prepare the children for school, tidy the kitchen and parlour, take the kids to school before heading to work, pick up the children by 4( cause of traffic) sometimes 5. On getting home, i start preparing dinner, tidy the room, wash sometimes(including hubby's wears and mother in laws'; with hand o), bathe the kids, feed them and get ready for the next day before making the kids sleep. All these and more I do without help. Mind You, my first child weighs 20kg( funny but true), he'll cry for me to carry him and sometimes, carryinghim makes him sleep faster. At a young age, I've started experiencing waist and back pain that i can't stand for long. With all these, why won't I be tired No single help. Even down to when I'm busy with chores outside and the children needs something, i must come and attend to them (The dad is there with them o but i will be called to come attend to them).

On cases whereby I fall ill, mos things will be left undone. Let me just stop here for now

Guy forget o, e no easy at all

micflo28:
You need an elder brother in the form of boyfriend that will reset him to factory setting. I have a younger brother like that too that after the beating he received from me when I took a machet and told him I he did not stop doing drugs, I will kill him and kill my self. He received sense and calmed down. He once took the famous mkpurumiri and threatened to kill my mum with a knife. My own madness started where his own stopped . Honestly, you need a big brother figure to set things right. He is taking advantage of your gender. Plus, your dad should be ready with policemen that will bundle him to the prison if he misbehaves. He is a man and should go and fend for himself. If he faces the reality of life, he will appreciate his family. Don’t worry, he is not into yahoo, he must be into drugs. If he was into yahoo, he would not be coming home to eat. Tell your dad to get the phone numbers of some police officers that will be readily available to bundle him to the station. Three nights in jail and he will have a rethink.

I swear, na big brother go handle am...

Sis na soft hand naim cause am. My elder bro tried something similar, he almost gave my dad heart attack. Na so popsman send am go military, him brain don reset.

Meanwhile waybill hair give me na, i need am bad bad o. Do giveaway with the ones you are not using

The mum... ''i want my mum to be happy"

He never stated the reason for the break up, guess she wanted him to marry from their place... cos the next lady(same state as me) he engaged, he still did not marry.

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Danjikanbauchi:
Your reward is in heaven.

Please those children in the village needs you to educate them and God will bless you.

Secondly be very careful because of skull miners though I can't swear for you if you are not one of them.

Just be careful your people ar ritual killings is like 5&6

You got me laughing hard with this comment of yours...

CEOwatazs:
if nH Abuja u dey, let me know

I'm in Lagos

Congratulations to him

Good evening fam...

Please who knows where I can get a loan of 100k. With the stories online, i don't want to take from loan apps and my bank GTB says I must have worked for 6months and paid by an organisation; but i receive my salary from my employer...

Any help would be sincerely appreciated.

aktolly54:
try Skye bank but am not sure about that one

I don't bank with them. Does that count?

Skyfornia:


What do you want to use the money for? What is your payment plan and what do you have as collateral?

My dear, i have a project at hand. Payment plan is 20k per month starting January. Talking about collateral; hmmmm I don't even know what i have as collateral sef

aktolly54:
I hear fcmb is giving loan of 150k but you must be paying 5k every day till a month reach. I know someone who collect it . it depends on your investment thing whether you can be paying it every day or not

Thank you so much but daily payment would be difficult. What about monthly because that's when i get to receive my salary

Good evening fam...

Please who knows where I can get a loan of 100k. With the stories online, i don't want to take from loan apps and my bank GTB says I must have worked for 6months and paid by an organisation; but i receive my salary from my employer...

Any help would be sincerely appreciated.

Good evening fam...

Please who knows where I can get a loan of 100k. With the stories online, i don't want to take from loan apps and my bank GTB says I must have worked for 6months and paid by an organisation; but i receive my salary from my employer...

Any help would be sincerely appreciated.

theForth:
Hey guys, what's up?

I was at my uncle's place today with my mum, I noticed his wife complained about something bitterly because they had a private chat and it was so unlike her.

After the whole visiting, I asked my mother what was wrong and she told me that my uncle cooks his own food all the time and even does his laundry alone and his wife doesn't like it, and although she's been complaining for over 5 years but he doesn't seem to change. I asked for my mum's opinion and she said she'd be totally uncomfortable if her husband doesn't eat her food year to year, same with my babe.

Is it wrong for a married man to cook his own food?

Wahala everywhere...

See me begging my husband to help me cook sef; and he cooks better than me

DSC7:
If Wizkid try am .. sapa go choke am

OBO to the world

You say wetin

MITCHELL96:


Show me your picture let me Google lens one for ya!

As I ugly like so, naim you wan see my pishure

TheGift:


And if you do, what will you do?

Haven't given that a thought yet. I don't even know how I'd feel sef

Freerock10:


I dey here.

Lol, i don see you na

Really wish I can find my look alike.

Mtcheeewww.