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omorttee4u:
Test or no test. If you want to relocate, you have to weigh your options. I will advise you to gather money to buy a house before coming back. Even if you don't like staying , you can always depose the property to get back your money with profit.

Coming to rent an apartment Oh. You might get stuck and frustrated.

On the business: the best moving business ,i can recommend that can sustain and still have sound sleep at night is development property. It's common in Lagos, such as surulere, shomolu/bariga and other city like that.

In summery : before you can make the move you need money, money and money.

Hi bro, yes you are so right about money as an essential, but about buying a house, I think it takes time to commit such huge funds towards buying one. I'll have to find a suitable environment before committing to buy. That's why I've got to test the waters.

ferhyntorlah:
I find your comment very ironic. While many in Nigeria are looking for means to move out of the country and you are planning to move back.

Talk about different strokes for different folks.

I just feel a certain vibe when I'm in Nigeria that I don't get abroad. The way our people share their happiness with laughter gives me joy. I miss that about Nigeria and I want to be a part of it everyday.

cococandy:
Op how long have you lived here.
When was the last time you went home to Nigeria?
Do you have family in Nigeria? (important)

I have lived in Nigeria for about 19 years, the rest of it was spent abroad. But I've been continously living outside Nigeria for the last decade though I still visit Nigeria once in a while whenever I get the opportunity.
Yes i still have some of my family members in Nigeria but they are just as clueless as I am about this move.

Abudu2000:
I thought you were going to mention something about buying a house not renting. Or it seems the condition there isn't Favouring you. Lagos is a nice place if you have money, like real money not audio. Get a nice house a good estate. Don't tent in normal environment no matter what they promise u. Only an estate can garantee you don't live amongst more touts

Hi, I prefer to rent so i can test the waters before committing to staying permanently. My initial thoughts were to get a 6 month apartment before anything else, so I could easily relocate elsewhere if it became necessary.

Lessonteacher:
ok, wonder why you want to come back when most youths within your age range want to leave naija.
if i were you i would prefare lekki or any other area within the island in lagos

Lekki was the first recommendation i got but then I heard there were flood issues, plus the cost of living (rent) could be quite high due to it being an upper class area. I'm still considering this alongside other options though.

About coming back, I found that living abroad for years places you in a position where all of your efforts are spent in developing another man's country while our fatherland is in ruins. If I have kids abroad, I don't know if they would ever fit in, with all the black lives matter movement going on, it's appalling we still have to talk about this in 2020. cos despite my efforts, people my colour would still be seen as less human than others and for all the effort we put in to develop the countries we are in, I don't think we should have to put up with disrespect and this sort of treatment for our future generations. If our fatherland did great, we won't have so many of our best running out here to be regarded as second class citizens, neither would some privileged people look down on other people that are our colour or mistreat them.

missyojo:
Hi poster,

Abuja is your sure bet. As for accommodation for a 2-3 bedroom apartment, per annum is from 600k. I don't know if they collect 6 months payment and this 600k is in lugbe axis you can get apartment for such amount.

For a serene environment with light and access road, I advise you get an apartment in an Estate as they are secured and always boasts of electricity.

Hi, thanks. I will look into this. Please what is the average literacy/rate of the population in this place like? Is this high- middle class? Or Rural? 600k looks fair for annual rent but I'm going for a half year rent. I think it's great that you mention estates may be the way to go, thanks for pointing that out. I'm not sure if there is a known/recognised online portal where I can view houses in gated estates. If you or anyone knows of any pls do let me know.

southniyikaye:
your specifications matches Jericho/Ile tuntun ibadan.
Almost 24hrs light, serene environment, good road, sane people and almost quiet neighborhood

Hi thanks, I have read Ibadan is an ancient town with a historic old theme running through the metropolis in building design and also community dwelling. I love places where there is a mix of cultures, so is this a largely cosmopolitan area now? Is it a thriving town for business and work activity? What is rent cost like for a 2-3 bedroom half year?

Commentor:
Abuja

Ibadan

Enugu

Lagos.

Kano.

Kemimarch16:
Lagos,Abuja,Abia,Ogun,Kano and PH

Is this in order of preference? can you list any good cities within the states?

IKBARUTEN11:
No place in naija matches your taste.


So,remain where u are and thank me later

Many wan commot neva 2 come bk naija again

N/b: if u come bk na u do yourself nt village ppl

Hi bro,

I will only be in Nigeria for about 6 months to test the waters then I'll decide to stay or leave based on my experience. Abroad isn't really all that great either. Whatever talents we've got is spent on western countries who don't value black people as much. I just want to be able to contribute something to my fatherland. Possibly start a family.

Hi people,

I'm in my early 30s and i plan to come in to Nigeria and possibly start a family when the time is right, but I'm looking for a cool city to set base in. Some people have suggested Lagos, some Abuja, but im sure i can weigh a wider level of options if you guys can help with some recommendations . Here are my specifications:

1. Family friendly.(for when I eventually get married)
2. Security (Safe environment for returnees).
3. Good job/business prospects
4. Affordable House rent. (Possibly 2-3 bedroom flat for 6 months: can I get a good house for 6 months rent?)
5. Serene environment (Middle class society and definitely not rural).
6. Stable Electricity (not constant but at least not the kind with blackout for weeks)
7. Good roads (I can drive).
8. Sensible people with sane mentality (very important that the inhabitants of the city have a good head on their shoulders).

Thanks.


Please if you give a state, please be specific about the area within the state, as I hear some areas may differ within each state.

vybzkartel:
I proposed love to her though knowing that she had a guy
Wanted to marry her but she said she will think about it. Later she said No so I moved on.

I decided to avoid her totally since I wanted the feeling I had for her to die since I couldn't get her...I wouldn't call nor message for about a month and then she would either call or message me. This cycle has gone on for about three years. Anytime I decide to forget her, she will call or message asking why I don't call and bla bla. When she does that and I decide to call or message her, she would give excuses and hang up or quit chats.

When I shun her, she will find her way back to call me or message me. Should I blacklist her and block her on messenger?

If she doesn't love me and can't date me, why can't she let me be? Please advise

The simple solution is this:

TELL HER YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND YOU LOVE SO MUCH.

SHE WILL LEAVE YOU ALONE.

TRUST ME.

There are too many auto dealers on NL and sometimes it can be difficult to find out who is genuine or who is selling stolen vehicles.
Can someone please list the genuine NL auto dealers here? as well as the Dealers to avoid on this platform?
We need to have a Trust Pilot style rating for dealers.
Only recommend if you have personally bought from them.

AsapKen:
It is registered

I sent you a message on Whatsapp

AsapKen:
Extremely clean 2003 nothing to fix Fx35 available for a giveaway price of 1.1m only
Call for pick up 08143516977 @ Lagos, Nigeria

Why no number plate? Is it registered?

Hi amdman do you have any 2004-2008 infiniti fx35 in stock?

How much would it cost to get it down to Nigeria?

Hi guys, I am relocating to Nigeria soon, I am single but would need to know House rent for 2 bedroom without breaking the bank in the following areas:

Lagos:
Victoria Island

Lekki

Festac

Abuja:
I heard this place is popping but I don't know anywhere here so please be kind to pop in rent info for good areas,

I am generally looking for an area that is friendly for Nigerians returning from abroad. Thanks

Oluneutral:
Fine, apologize to her for raising up your hands on her explaining to her that it wasn't intentional that it was out of provocation

Only? (at the bolded) Is this coming from a man? If you are, you are definitely not married. This would be the end of his authority in that house. He should never have raised his hands on her in the first place. Seeing the mentality of the woman in question, if the OP takes your advice and does this, he is signing up for more verbal abuse from her and since he already apologised, he wont be able to caution her otherwise if she messes with him again. OP made a mistake by hitting her, this is what she wanted to achieve so she can find a good reason to do what ever bad she has been advised to do by her friends. She has seen the extent of his immaturity (and that is the fact he is a coward who can use his strength on a woman but will not use it to make money).

OP I doubt your wife is educated, if she is, she probably didnt do well at school. If she did, she would have thought about using her certificate rather than blame you for the money drought. Afterall its women that are applying for Canadian visa and adding their spouses to the application. If you are directly responsible for her not developing a career, she is always gonna be on your neck to make her live the life you didnt let her live. If you are not directly responsible for her lack of career life, It is your duty to invest in her business so she can grow and travel as she likes. Only then would she leave you alone to do what you like.

As for your going physical with her, I have no advice for you except that you should never apologise with mouth alone. If you are gonna tell her you are sorry, its either you go withdraw a huge sum of cash (take a loan if you must) and throw her a birthday party or anniversary party or invest heavily in her business or go get a new job. Sha, you must show working, do something new.

You hurt her with your actions, you can not apologise without action!

All they had to do was initiate social distancing within the court room, such that everyone sits far apart.

Does NOUN have an Alumni association? The only difference between open universities and their conventional counterparts is experience. No university is able to really succeed without keeping track of its alumni. If this association exists, I do not think they are doing a good job at promoting the university, if anything, they rather hide the fact that they finished from there. This is not good for the schools reputation. When successful NOUN alumni start giving opportunities to NOUN graduates and selling same news of exploits and inventions discovered by NOUNites and their graduates, then we would have a university to be proud of. I remember when Private Universities started out in Nigeria, like Igbenedion and Madonna, many people looked down on them, now many people attend private universities and proud to. There is nothing wrong with NOUNs system of learning, the problem is poor PR. And it falls on the graduates and students of this noble institution to promote the university better and positively,

Kenshinmunac:
*sigh* searching and searching for a girlfriend, all to no avail. Young cool fine guy, but very lonely, no girlfriend. I don't think at this point with all this rejection that I will ever get married in life.

I have searching for a gf, met some girls who turned out to be nasty gold diggers, I didn't wanna waste my time on them cause I'm not a flirt, I'm not looking for a short term relationship so having "fun" with all these girls seemed like a waste of time to me as Sex is not my problem, love is.

So I met this girl few days back, we got talking, I fell for her instantly, she looked calm and very honest, she is not all these girls who do kk in chat, she is caring and very simple, hard to come by., we flowed really well chatting and I was very happy I found someone as I quickly asked her out and she said "let's see how it goes"

I said okay, so today being Sunday, normal chilling day, I called her, very eager to see her beautiful face once more, we got talking and she said I should come to her side.

So I said okay by six,

Six reach I entered road straight to her side, 30 mins drive, when I got close I dialled her number twice she didn't pick I thought maybe she was taking her bath or something was patient and kept on going, so when I got there by 7pm, I called and called but she didn't pick up the call and she was expecting me o!

Na so I begin call her, Even send whatsapp message and direct message all to no avail. I got so maddddd and pissed off, I almost cried because I don't know why I'm being treated like this by ladies. Head to toe I complete, face I fine, fashion sense Is great, but yet, my handsomeness and the growing cash I get can't even get me the slightest fly talk less about a lady

*sigh*

By 5 mins past 8 she called me, by then I was already going home, and she began to plead, this where error words.

"please I'm sorry, my elder brother took my phone to share WiFi, I didn't know he would go far"

I asked "didn't you tell him you were expecting someone"?"

She replied" i did na but he did not listen, I can't just come and stand on the road and be waiting for you, please don't be angry"

In my heart I said Chai! What kind of excuse is this?? This girl just told me indirectly that I'm not important.

So painful.

I see guys with their girl very happy preparing for Christmas, me i have none. All I do is admire beautiful couples and wish It could be......

Unfortunately the sad reality greets me in my face.

I begin to lose my self confidence gradually because of rejection.

Smh, all I feel right now is self pity, all I can do is lament.

I don't know if I just dislike women right now self.

Listen bro, she didnt pick up cos you came at 7pm. You were supposed to be there at 6 not 7. When its dark, most ladies dont step outside, unless they live on their own.

Reichel99:
1. If the girl didn't say I love you, guys will say her shakara is too much, na only money girls like.

2. Why guys are obsessed with virginity when most are not virgin themselves, the girls you guys disflowered who will marry them?

3. That should be the aim of every relationship.

4. How do you know she is an easy lay if you didn't try to lay with her? If you tried, then both of you are easy lays, don't blame only her.

5. Good point.

Interesting points of view young lady (I assume the 99 on your moniker stands for something age related). 1. there's nothing wrong with a lady saying I love you, but if she throws it about without even really getting to know the guy, its a red flag, init? cos she's probably done the same to more than just him. 2. not every guy goes about looking for virgins to deflower, some really desire true connection. 3. There's a thin line between aiming for something and being prepared for it. 4. easy lays from whatever gender are both culpable, a girl eager to get in the sack when you just met or a guy asking for nudes online are 2 sides of a coin. 5. Self explanatory.

Beetwaise:
Indeed, man is naturally benevolent & affectionate to his loved ones but you must understand that this generation of ladies in our country are almost the opposite of the older generations who were blessed with awesome virtues. Even a good number of the ones who appear loyal these days will twist & crush an honest man's heart once they realize he loves & shows true commitment towards them.
About less than 0.5% of Nigerian ladies are loyal & deserve to be loved wholeheartedly..... Believe me bro.

Wow fascinating analysis. I shudder to think of what would become of the next generation. It is truly sad indeed.

Beetwaise:
Guy, your last paragraph sums it up. Male folks need to be selfish in relationship matters with ladies. Psychologically, it keeps the body, mind & soul healthy when the relationship takes a downturn. I've mastered it & will uphold such act continuously.

It is not necessary to be selfish. It is in a man's nature to be benevolent to the ones he loves. Just don't water the wrong flower and dont plant flowers in gardens for people who refuse to water them. Keep this principle and you can never go wrong. Love is a two way thing, if she is constantly taking and not giving anything back to make things work, its a scam.

egopersonified:
she was angry because she thought she has caught a big fish only to find out say na mirage, like seriously I can't stop laughing

Exactly, the frustration in her reply was real.

Some rules to help young men live happier with the female folk.

1 - Do not date a girl who is quick to say I love you. Reason: it's either love means nothing to her or she doesn't really know what it means, or doesnt care, such a girl is the equivalent of a guy who would lie about imaginary things he owns and profess love at first sight to get into a girls pants. In your case, she wants access to your bank account, when she eventually realises there is nothing in it, she would hate you with passion. Such behaviour is a clear sign of a siren: sweet from a distance, but deadly at close proximity.

2 - Do not date any girl who only wants long distance relationship LDR (Unless she is a confirmed virgin): Women are highly emotional creatures, they like to connect with their loved ones in person, while they may say things that sound exciting to you at the moment, most of it is just as a result of their emotional state at that point in time, take such statements seriously at your own risk. Unless she is a virgin, when she is lonely or Hot, your money and soothing words on the phone will do you no favours, same way women can hardly hold themselves when they want to urinate is the same way they wont be able to resist a charming guy closeby who ticks all the boxes in their list at such moments. When the heat is on, trust me, the nearest guy that shows love and attention to her is getting it. Most perpetual long distance daters (female and male) prefer LDR cos it allows them to maintain multiple partners without the complications of them running into each other. In other words, most long distance daters are cheats, especially if they are very much sexually active.

3 - Do not date anyone until you are ready to marry: Yes, stay away from relationships until you are financially stable and ready to raise a family. A woman would be more likely to be faithful and ignore other men, not when you promise to marry her in the future, but when she sees you are consciously making preparations to meet her people. Any girl you date when you are not ready is only managing you till a serious man comes along.

4 - Never date an easy lay: Many will disagree with me on this, but if you are the extremely jealous kind and want peace of mind, stay away from girls who fall easily for your advances at the early stages before you even have had a chance to date properly. A girl who would lie to her parents and sneak out to spend the night with you at your house or in a hotel wasn't well raised. Such streak of stealth and rebellious attitude will poison your relationship eventually in the future. As soon as you are in a relationship with such a lady, she would do the same and tell lies to you when an exciting guy comes along with such a proposition just so she can feel that excitement of disobedience.

5 - Never date a cheat: A girl who tells you she has a boyfriend but still chooses to hang out with you while giving silly excuses like: Oh he is out of town or Oh I'm just managing him, I dont really love him, is gonna do same to you someday when a guy better than you comes along. If she doesnt really love him, why the heck is she still with him? Why didnt she break up with him before coming for you? When you date such a woman, she will say same about you to the new perp she'll be cheating on you with.

A word is enough for the .....

soobaba:
Very faithful. But guess shit happens and this is just one of them. Too bad that I've learned the hardest and most embarrassing way. Funniest thing was we spoke not quite long and she's always the first to say I love you... That made me to be faithful and love her more. Guess I gave out my heart to the wrong person. If she ever loved me as she claimed then I wouldn't have gotten such horrible reply...
Life goes on bro

I have a lot to say to you that I dont even know where to start.

Let me share my knowledge with you from the lessons I have learned over the years.

Rules of Engagement

1 - Do not date a girl who is quick to say I love you. Reason: it's either love means nothing to her or she doesn't really know what it means, or doesnt care, such a girl is the equivalent of a guy who would lie about imaginary things he owns and profess love at first sight to get into a girls pants. In your case, she wants access to your bank account, when she eventually realises there is nothing in it, she would hate you with passion. What happened to you and the reply you got is a clear sign of a siren: sweet from a distance, but deadly at close proximity.

2 - Do not date any girl who only wants long distance relationship LDR (Unless she is a confirmed virgin): Women are highly emotional creatures, they like to connect with their loved ones in person, while they may say things that sound exciting to you at the moment, most of it is just as a result of their emotional state at that point in time, take such statements seriously at your own risk. Unless she is a virgin, when she is lonely or Hot, your money and soothing words on the phone will do you no favours, same way women can hardly hold themselves when they want to urinate is the same way they wont be able to resist a charming guy closeby who ticks all the boxes in their list at such moments. When the heat is on, trust me, the nearest guy that shows love and attention to her is getting it. Most perpetual long distance daters (female and male) prefer LDR cos it allows them to maintain multiple partners without the complications of them running into each other. In other words, most long distance daters are cheats, especially if they are very much sexually active.

3 - Do not date anyone until you are ready to marry: Yes, stay away from relationships until you are financially stable and ready to raise a family. A woman would be more likely to be faithful and ignore other men, not when you promise to marry her in the future, but when she sees you are consciously making preparations to meet her people. Any girl you date when you are not ready is only managing you till a serious man comes along.

4 - Never date an easy lay: Many will disagree with me on this, but if you are the extremely jealous kind and want peace of mind, stay away from girls who fall easily for your advances at the early stages before you even have had a chance to date properly. A girl who would lie to her parents and sneak out to spend the night with you at your house or in a hotel wasn't well raised. Such streak of stealth and rebellious attitude will poison your relationship eventually in the future. As soon as you are in a relationship with such a lady, she would do the same and tell lies to you when an exciting guy comes along with such a proposition just so she can feel that excitement of disobedience.

5 - Never date a cheat: A girl who tells you she has a boyfriend but still chooses to hang out with you while giving silly excuses like: Oh he is out of town or Oh I'm just managing him, I dont really love him, is gonna do same to you someday when a guy better than you comes along. If she doesnt really love him, why the heck is she still with him? Why didnt she break up with him before coming for you? When you date such a woman, she will say same about you to the new perp she'll be cheating on you with.

Bonus - Stay away from relationships, no matter how appealing she may seem, at least until you are ready to marry.

Much thanks to those that have responded, please more inputs ladies and gents

Awaiting your inputs Nairalanders

Gina2019:
2M naira only.

Thanks alot. Can you give a breakdown?

Please how much is bride price in your area? Including list.

Also cost of trad and white. If you can give a breakdown of each, that would be much appreciated. Thanks serious replies only.

Tellemall:
Freedom.

This is the only cost of marriage. All the rest are formalities.

Thanks but we need to know the formalities

Ladies and gents, please some of us abroad need your help answering these questions.

For someone who wants to settle down with a Nigerian but not sure what it costs, What is the average cost of Bride Price in your area?
Our married folks on here please help us out.

Please use this format in your reply.

State:
Village/Lga:
Bride Price Cost:
Traditional marriage cost:
White wedding cost:
Court wedding cost:

If you can give a breakdown of each, that would be much appreciated. Thanks serious replies only.