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I'll beg to turn back to a man

greatnaija01:
lol whoever gave you this idea may not have seen clearly



THE SAME GIRL WHOSE CODE YOU ARE SLAVING TO CRACK .... is openly chatty and jovial on whatsapp with a rich dude using a foriegn number and a DP that shows wealth plust VOICE NOTES that proves he has British or american accent ..... You, BE THERE be cracking code like palm kernel .... SEE, MAKE MONEY and all these stress will end.


The girl will come to you and initiate the chat and be patient with you and laugh at your dry jokes....

This might actually explain why I can't seem to get rid of boring girls sending me emojis everyday

I am so happy for you bro. Something similar happened to me exactly 10 years ago. She had left me in 2006, I took her back some years after amidst tears, but she left me again in the most cruel way, that even the first breakup looked like a joke. She even went online posting pics of her and the new guy and twisted our roles in the breakup story to make the new man know she loved him and was done with me. Only the 3 of us understood the post. I never cheated on her apparently she did but everyone else thought i was the one who cheated cos in her story she said "a guy had another girl but didnt know how to get rid of her" whereas she was referring to herself who didn't know how to get rid of me cos she was double dating and she had to post that to let Mr new dude realise I was out of the picture now. Well guess what, that relationship didn't last either.

I have since moved on and got closer to God. I received the greatest blessings from God, I now live abroad, got advanced degrees and a fantastic career. I wish her the best nonetheless cos if she didn't do what she did, I wouldn't be such a great fellow today.

daddyfreeman1:
Please your advice is needed urgently. Help a brother. I feel like calling her back because I can't deal with the pain and I love her so much.

Please should I call her back? Right now I'm depressed.

OP I would refer you to a popular old post I made on nairaland. Perhaps it might help you see through the situation. If you need any help comment and I can personalise it to your situation.

majorbravo:
Dude if you can afford it, travel abroad and see the world. You would still feel pain occasionally but you would definitely overcome the need to have her in your life. This is a quicker option.

Alternatively but most importantly, you must work on becoming a successful man.

Overall, try to focus on your life. You lost her because you prioritised her over your own success in life. Being in this kind of relationship where you idealize your woman, keeps you relaxed in complacency. You have to keep growing as a human being and the false sense of security you have in such relationships usually poison it. It makes you not realise how much you have not grown until the day she gets up and leaves for a man who is everything you should have become but couldn't, cos you took the back seat and got too comfortable in it.

Focus on becoming a better person. Do you usually not worry about fashion or how you look? start investing in fashion and looking good, hit the gym if you can. Can you afford a better house/car, double your hustle and get it. Buy only things that are original and of high quality and look for a job that rewards your strengths and capabilities, or start a business, anything good and worthwhile to get ahead in life. Get better professional qualifications and stop at nothing to become valuable to your society. And when you get there, you would look back and wonder how anyone could even date the former you.

By chance, you would find another guy going through this same thing and see why it never worked out.

As a successful man, you would not have a problem finding a replacement, you would have problems picking, and trust me all of the ladies would be 10 times better quality than that ex.

Best of luck

OP I think Deicide made some salient points to note. To be honest, I have tried everything to get rid of some boring girls but it just never works. Yours seems to be the one giving up. Tell me how you do it man seriously.

Ok now to advice you. I think if you really want her to stick around stop greeting her like a child 'good evening' dude really? Is she your aunt's mate? You are making her feel old and that is boring. A girl should be the one to greet a guy not the other way around.

If I were the one she was chatting with, I would tell her yes you are really boring but don't worry I can turn it around only if you agree to buy me lunch when next we meet.

davidologus:
I still can't login. I have tried 3 different mails.. Invalid username and password is the response. Really need help here

The password is case sensitive. Try starting the password with Capital letter.

[quote author=Jamoojazzy post=76772421][/quote]Here you go buddy. Try the first one.

if that too doesn't work try the second (head ratio optimized).

Let me know when its done so I delete them from nairaland.

captainbangz:
Not yet. phew! even the Nigerian Army aren't this strict.

I've deleted the previous one.
Try this one, I have used the exact same head ratio as the one I used, and improved the colour.
If this one below doesn't work. Maybe you need a different passport. (it could be the NNPC site software didnt pick your eyes looking directly at the camera in order to calculate the distance between the pupil).

Gec8:
You people are like 1,000,000 that have applied for this job sha.

520,000 SO FAR

Hiploko:
Portal is working perfectly well.... Best of luck and sorry for all the wahala

I no be NNPC staff o..

Please check that your date of birth is accurate on the summary page. There seems to be an issue with that as has been reported here.

UPDATE: IT SEEMS THE 1/1/1970 DOB ISSUE HAS BEEN RESOLVED!
CC eddymontana123

Nazydanoy:
Please, someone should assist me. I've been trying to upload my passport without success.

Here you go buddy. Try this

captainbangz:
please assist me with this, been tryna upload even after resizing but to no avail.

Anyluck?

Try this one.

Rotji:
Please fam save a brother, I must be missing something as this my passport just refuses to upload. Thanks in anticipation

Anyluck?
Try this one.

I had to crop the picture so your face takes up more of the space as recommended.

I'll delete the previous.

Onyi2008:
I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO UPLOAD MY CERTIFICATES BUT IT IS NOT UPLOADING AT ALL. NOT EVEN ONE. THE FILE FORMAT OF MY CERTIFICATES IS JPG WHILE MY CV IS IN PDF. ANY WAY OUT? PLS HELP ME TO DO THIS.WHTA SHOULD I DO PLS?

Do it twice.

So after you select the file and click open.
You would find the name of the file in the form.
Repeat the process again and it should work.
At least that's how mine worked.

Anyone figured out the date of birth stuck in 1/1/1970 yet?

Rotji:
Please fam save a brother, I must be missing something as this my passport just refuses to upload. Thanks in anticipation

I don't know if this would work, but try.

Okeji:
Pls house, am having difficulty reducing my CV to 200kb or less even on pdf. I need help plsssss!

Here try this: https://smallpdf.com/compress-pdf

Caseless:
Can we have that of Atiku?

Here you go.




N.B: This is not an endorsement of any politician's election Bid or anyone else for that matter.

Duru009:
Okay, did you watch his interview on Channels television some days back where he was accused of thesame. He denied it !

Even Channels show him a footage in far back 2014, were he was telling people in a gathering to vote against GEJ and vote for Buhari !. Infact, He was shocked !



I like him as a person n motivational speaker. But with this alone, he should stop deceiving himself. He is no saint !

The only interview I have seen of Fela sitting in a channels tv studio this year was in January, where he said money will fail in 2019 elections, he wasn't shown any video neither was it spoken about. I have searched through Channels tv logs online and haven't found any interview where the things you have mentioned transpired. I believe if this video exists it would be everywhere online. Kindly post a link if you are certain this actually happened.

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cbrass:
Fela Durotoye popularly called FD was seen enjoying himself greatly with the residents of Kwali Area Council in Abuja yesterday.

Do you think he is a good dancer? ;

NB: Fela Durotoye is running for president under the ANN party

At least post the full video bro, it's not as if he was just partying. He said a lot of meaningful things people could learn from.
It's here:
https://www.facebook.com/feladurotoye/videos/10156457418068340/

Duru009:
Thesame man campaigned for buhari in 2015 !

Please stop wasting your wife's hard earned money

I believe if he actually did this it must have been published somewhere? please can you send a link?
I however have gone to look up his 2015 congratulatory message to those who won the 2015 elections to see if he admits to campaigning for Buhari or anyone and I can't see anywhere he did that. Rather I see a man urging people to not rely on a few people in government to bring change but work collectively towards it.
Here is the speech.
https://www.facebook.com/feladurotoye/posts/feladurotoye%27s-2015-democracy-day-message/10153310015728340/

altitudee:
from your own research about him... kindly enlighten my ignorance state about him... every being surely start from somewhere so that is not new.
give instances where he has created opportunities for growth... why are u so sure he is the right person for the job?...what make you think you are not the right person to lead the nation Nigeria... so he needs to be the president in order to give people jobs? hmmm hmmm let us all keeping deceiving ourselves with all forms of philosophies.

First off, I am not here to convince anyone, I'm not a campaign manager for Fela neither does he even know I exist. I have done my own research on the available candidates to the best of my ability and I enjoin you to do yours and make your own decision based on the results you want to see in Nigeria.

Nigerians are fixated on the wrong things and that's why nothing ever happens. Nigeria is the only country where people who fail to show up for debates win elections. How do you know what your aspirants are capable of if the decision of who runs for election on party platforms are made for you?
I only need to refer you to YouTube type in "Fela Durotoye' watch all the videos from 2-10 years ago before he started running for President and you would understand what I have seen in him. While others fight politicians on social media or sit in Air conditioned offices and only surface to connect with the grassroot when it's time for election, this man has been mentoring young people for future leadership for over 10 years. The key for me is someone who embodies the values i want to see in my nation.

I am not so sure he is the right person for the job, by all means if I find someone better I would be glad to move on, but he has demonstrated goodwill in ways I am yet to see in the other aspirants. Fela is not die hard interested in winning the election, he has clearly stated what he hopes to achieve with this, and that is to get people thinking about the kind of leaders we want. In his own words, he is "running for a new Nigeria" and win or lose, if he can get people to wake up and smell the coffee so we elect people who aren't paying us to oppress us, he is certain we wouldn't be far from liberation.

I never said I am not suitable for the job. I believe I have contributed so much to the good of my country and will continue to do so to the best of my ability in what ever capacity I am called to do so. I just feel people like Fela in office would make it a lot easier for people to see what a visionary leader is capable of. Subsequent elections afterwards would be based on quality not quantity of pocket and maybe someday people like me would have a fair ground to contest a future election that is not marred by unintellectual opponents, electoral violence and dirty politicking. At the moment, I am currently outside the country working hard to ensure I am capable of delivering the best to my country with or without office.

I didn't say he needs to be President to give people jobs, where did you get that? Presidents do not give jobs because jobs are not given by presidents, they are created. The created jobs are then given to the populace to manage and thats what we refer to as given jobs(because it becomes an accepted responsibility that keeps people busy and less likely to be idle enough to indulge in unproductive exploits). Its a president's duty to get us good deals internationally and provide a conducive environment for nation bullding. If you understand the dynamics of nation building you would understand that a job is not a favour but a responsibility. The reason there is high rate of unemployment is because you have leaders who do not even understand what education is meant to accomplish in the scheme of nation building. After studying something else in school, they tell you to go weave a basket to make a living when they have created no industry for baskets to thrive internationally neither have they identified a local shortage or economic need for baskets within the country. Leaders who can not make educated or informed decisions affecting the lives of its populace, would rely entirely on policing everyone throughout their tenure.

Please do your research I'm not here to convince you or anyone. I'm only sharing a story of my discovery.

sprints2:
corruption is the least problem of Nigeria its in our blood every nation is corrupt..to tell u d truth the present government and past one knows the problem of Nigeria and how to tackle it...Nobody is ready for continuity and everyone thinks of their pocket neglecting the growth of the country...British government is highly corrupt, American government too yet they have various scheme and programmes that is keeping the growth of their country.. the monarchy states like Spain, UAE , Thailand, Luxembourg are also very corrupt

Corruption is a big problem in Nigeria as it is in other countries, however it is not felt in many other countries the way it is in Nigeria because we are tackling it the wrong way. One of the first things Fela mentioned when he started running for office that many of the other aspirants have plagiarized for their campaign without giving him credit, was the eradication of selectocracy from our party systems. People would not turn out to vote without being incentivised to do so because they were not allowed to take part in choosing the leaders they want to run for office in the first place. It's virtually impossible for a presidential aspirant to not be loyal to the godfather who gave him the party running ticket. The godfather invested money and wants to make a return on investment, they end up paying people to vote and when they get into office start making plans to recoup their funding and profit. This therefore makes the president weak and incapable of choosing his own cabinet or even arresting fraudulent elements endorsed by the godfathers. Fela suggested internal party democracy where common members not delegates are allowed to elect or be elected to stand as the running candidate of the party just like it's done in developed countries. This would ensure whoever wins does not only have the mandate of the people but is certain the same people would turn out to vote in the general elections.
Without this, we would continue to have leaders who turn a blind eye to corruption practised with impunity. We can tackle corruption the right way by first ensuring the government at all levels is at least free to stand their ground without fear or favour. This can only happen when aspirants become candidates without undergoing the investiture of some political godfather, Then we can start to see real justice in our system.

altitudee:
trivial things......
Naija....everybody na deceiver....i just feel like listening to "This Nigeria"...dem don start.
I have not seen who deserved my vote...who has actually render selfless service among all this aspirants?...
the painful part of it is that majority of the youths are gullible... i have nothing against any of the aspirants but let ask the right questions

How much research have you done to reach this conclusion that none of them have rendered selfless service? What do you regard as selfless service?

Fela Durotoye did not start today, I only urge you to go on YouTube and look for videos of Fela Durotoye from 10 years back. You would be amazed at what this man' has done from a young age, his passion has always been about bringing Nigeria to a state where we can compete with 1st world nations. The man has degrees in leadership from Harvard and Yale. The other aspirants in my opinion like Sowere might seem good too but in my opinion are only interested in fighting corrupt people, the same way Buhari came with no agenda whatsoever but to fight his political enemies and we have seen the result. No tangible development in 3+ years, only controversy, destruction and clashes everywhere.

Nigerian youths we need to stand up and see that the answer to our problems isn't chasing shadows. A visionary leader who knows how to create opportunities for growth is what we need. When poverty is eradicated, corruption would slowly but certainly decline.

You can't tell people not to steal when you don't give them jobs, you can't prevent them from importing goods to sell when lack of power, anti- security and poor logistics hinder local production. You can't stop politicians from stealing money when you join them to pay people to vote for you. Poverty would continue when you vote for these kinds of politicians, they have lobbied & paid you for the job, you have sold your freedom.

I am not asking you to vote for Fela, I just ask that you do a proper background research on all the aspirants and see for yourself who is more proactive in terms of development. Seeing all the Cabal in Jail would not put food on our table. We need visionary leaders not street fighters and from my personal research, fela has more vision than any of the other aspirants.

This is my question, where in the bible does it say it is a sin to carry dreadlocks?

Burgerlomo:
Biko, look for any Joseph in your neighborhood to help you interpret your dream instead of the Nairalanders

It has already been intepreted, it's the world cup and how we were to exit it.

ipobarecriminals:
maybe the usual pig Dat deceived Supa Eagus is the one behind ur nightmare. Shake urself

The pig was frightened of Messi behind me, we were presented a chance to win but VAR cancelled it.

empire2017:
it simply means nigeria is only gona beat argentina in thier group

Bro, have you seen the dream was real? Messi's goal and the VAR penalty we didn't get (ref denied us a win).

Guys it seems the dream was true. It was Nigeria vs Argentina match. It was a sign we would be denied victory we worked hard for. Especially the referee part.

Well these were my views on Ighalo after we beat Iceland.

ajl:
You are right though but Ighalo has mor physical strength and can bully defenders better than Iheanacho.

Well I hope you can see what difference he made