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Lilprincey:
You're wrong you don't know what the Girl must have been goin thru

The guy is supposed to be her boyfriend for crying out loud. She didn't feel comfortable telling him and he didn't make it easier for her either. He should know how to handle his woman without being sarcastic about her past. He really isn't mature or man enough to take on all that emotional baggage cos he joked about it and decided to talk about it when the chat got boring(wtf?). This is likely a chat(online) relationship, I doubt they actually see one on one. They no dey compartible (Q.E.D)

I don't know what kind of help you need. How is she your gf if she cant even comfortably tell you about her exes? Unless she is still in love with him/them. Let her go back to her ex. Bro, no time. You cant take on all that emotional baggage.

alobright17:
My Guy Kashybaby don pick your call finally

Lol. Na you sabi we just dey play here. Nothing serious.

KashyBaby:
Hahahahaah.... watever that means...aight I'll send u now..

Bravo!

KashyBaby:

Drop me a pm, I understand yours is under high level security by special forces.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#8ab2e2] Then I go from you.Bye[/color]

Typical, now that money is involved you take the first flight outta town.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#ffd801]You should have left it with the first time you mentioned where you git yer view an quoted not more.
But OK.

An,yer right non Africans do but 9/10 it'll be a African[/color]

On a different note, why are your posts so damn difficult to read though? You would have to promise to pay for my next visit to the eye clinic.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#ffd801]Ah ta assertain her racial makeup?
...It's a African form 99.9% of the people here are African.
...You wouldn't need to look.at her profile. [/color]

I see where you are coming from but I'm not close minded to not appreciate the fact anyone from anywhere could use the forum and learn from it. So I repeat, my assertion was purely scientific. My questioning your motive for requesting my race should in itself tell you I don't reason along racial lines. We are all humans first.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#ffd801]What does looking at her profile matter?[/color]

I'll just quote your words here

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#ffd801]but yer thinking Africans/Blacks need an racial admixture ta be cute is....[/color]

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#ffd801]OK.Still wrong but OK.[/color]

I didn't even look at the OPs profile, I simply answered the question on the thread to the best of my scientific knowledge. I might not be an expert but I wasn't ignorant.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#ffd801]Racist?
So yer not African? NO.

°•I didn't say you where racist, but yer thinking Africans/Blacks need an racial admixture ta be cute is....

But even if you where African I'd tell you the same.[/color]

And just to add, the laws of natural selection, the more distinct the genes when they merge, the stronger the offspring. That was my reason for the assertion not to undermine anyone or any race. Whites don't have the monopoly on racism neither do blacks. And I never inferred that the OP was Black/African or that Blacks in particular need racial mixture. It applies to all races.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#ffd801]°•Mmm.
...Well wherever yer from you should have kept yer ignorant comments[/color]


[color=#ffd801]°•Don't misunderstand, I'm calling yer mindset ignorant,not you
You can fix that though
[/color]

I understand. Thanks for pointing your intent out. I am not a racist. The Op never complained.

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#ffd801] I thought that'd be yer response
.....So you won't answer then?....no.ok[/color]

For Health and Safety reasons

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#ffd801]°•May I ask you a few questions
....what's yer nationality /race[/color]

Does it matter?

KashyBaby:
they are my friends..

Splendid. you know what's up.

KashyBaby:
With who?

Some Smellybrothers or something?

onila:
not all mixed race kids r beautiful

There is a higher chance of them turning out cute

KashyBaby:
I'm juz ryt here..u know where to find me..
And btw ,I polished my own self juz so u know


#missindependent

That's great, but I thought you were already hooked?

Simple, look at the mirror

alobright17:
Hahahahhahahahahha kai nairaland smh for una ooo

Brotherly, that's the way now oh, you saw what was happening to that dude in the other thread.

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OP, I have been in your shoes too and the other guys on this forum have given you the best idea of what is happening. She is simply waiting for the guy she likes to ask her out, and when he does, you become history. Mine avoided me like a devil, it was so bad, she even lied to me on valentine's day so she could be with this dude. I couldn't take it anymore and then next thing I saw after our breakup was pictures of her and this new dude on facebook exact same day we broke up. She met all the criteria the dude above my post mentioned. Very Pretty, Neat dresser, changes hair every week, but never uses my pic anywhere.Oh did I mention she was a runs girl too? confirmed that from a couple of friends who saw her hanging out with politicians. She was after the cash, she dumped the next guy too (of course she deleted his pics from facebook afterwards too) and has been hoping from one guy to another ever since. God save us righteous men from Karashikas!

I have come to realise one thing. If you date a B*tch, don't expect loyalty. She would always go for the highest bidder. Even with all my efforts to brush her up she used her new found image to net the next dude. This was ages ago, I'm not where I used to be, I'm a lot better now and I joined the patriotic vocation, there is no room for B*tch type ladies in my life anymore.

osedvgirl:
is it the same guy on no. 2 list of most handsome guys?

I think so

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LordIsaac:
We are in a generation that does not understand the words: commitment and fidelity. No one gets possessive of a disciplined and truthful spouse. However, that is not to say there are no exceptions. I'll recommend we stay single until we are prepared for marriage.

henryhemon:
We ve to be sincere .....It's wrong to be extremely possessive.....it breeds violence. But the truth about possessive boyfriends is they didn't develop such attitudes all of a sudden,women are manipulative and full of lies, These ladies will cheat and expect their men to be quiet about it and they come here to say he's possessive..........if you re not willing to stay with one man or play by the rules just dont make him feel hes the only one in your Life,that way he will get the message clear,its ladies insincerity that drives them wild,you know the relationship wont lead you guys to anywhere but you still go on and rip him off.....women famous lines is they 're just friends when they 're all b...ing her.

To guys rule no 1 never trust a woman until she has shown she could be trusted even at that no woman is worth all the stress only your wife who is loyal and truely loves you deserves all the attention.

You took the words right out of my mouth (mind) thumbs up*

ikp120:
I understand what you're saying. But from the little I know, there's no wrong in developing a girl from the scratch and then another guy marries her. She has a will of her own. That's her choice. At least she won't regret marrying a guy she never wanted to spend the rest of her life with, neither will I regret marrying the wrong person. At least also, I will see her tomorrow rejoicing that I added value to that girl's life.
As am doing that, if she is not mine, then my own is also being developed by another man [maybe her father, mother, friends or whoever].
I also know as much as you do that in every pre-marital relationship one is free to walk away if there's no mutual respect from either or both party(ies). Therefore, if you think or feel that she doesn't deserve your respect, then why not take the exit door and let the poor lady be. It's a win-win end, since you will look for the girl who respects you and who deserves your respect, while she also wait for the next guy knowing fully well that she is not in any relationship.
As for those jumping from bed to bed, they don't deserve any serious guy's time. Once a guy spots such attribute in a girl, he should kind take a walk. Life is so simple, but men make it look like rocket science.

I REST MY CASE!
THANK YOU!

I agree with the bolded, the classic b*tch type girls fall in this category. Prevention is better than cure, true. But you and I know taking a walk is easier said than done. Most men that become protective don't take a walk immediately things start to go sour because they hope they can correct the situation, these are men who made the ultimate sacrifice for love they thought was real, and wont quit at the slightest sense of provocation. Still no serious man enters into a relationship with the intention of walking off to the sunset if she turns out to be a b*tch-type. He tries to work it out because he has planned a future with her, that's what a real man would do, but b*tch type girls never get it, they wanna play all day and still expect him to stick around. You are right to walk away, but how many men in love find that easy to do in the twinkle of an eye? Its easier from the outside than from inside, i.e before commitment.

ikp120:
To control the life of another human being because you buy her "biscuits and chewing gum" is 21st century WITCHCRAFT!
Even God hates it!
Earn her respect and love or let her be. She is not your property.
Advice her, let her choose and respect her choice. If you can't do that, then, leave the relationship because respect is not by force but by choice.

#SayNoToYouMustLoveMeByFireByForce

I REST MY CASE!
THANK YOU!

And end up like Tee-Billz abi? Keep developing all the girls you picked from scratch for other guys. Girls also need to earn their respect. if they want their man's respect, the b*tch-type girls should stop hopping from bed to bed.

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ThuGnificenX:
FOR COUPLES AND THOSE ABOUT TO GET MARRIED

FOR OUR MEN:

Carry your wife to the bed when she sleeps off in the sitting room, make her feel like a baby at times. The truth is, every woman wants to be treated like a 2yrs old girl at times, that's why women behave childish or silly at times.
You may have an argument with your wife and the next thing is that you will see her putting her bags outside the house, it doesn't mean she is asking for a divorce, she is just being childish, she simply wants you to hold her, look her in the eyes and say "I am sorry for the argument".

That's women for you. Every brother needs to study in the university of women before getting married, read books about them, learn what the Bible says about them and you will hardly have a problem with them.
Though there may still be some challenges, because you're both from different background and your imperfections are bound to stand.
So, read books about marriage, an ideal home, child upbringing, importance of marriage and the likes. Don't just jump into marriage with an empty head about matrimony, you will have problems.

How many men can tolerate their wives nagging let alone shouting? It's said that, you should be quiet when your spouse is angry, when one person is fire, the other person should be water.
Brothers, when your wife steps on your feet intentionally or mistakenly, don't let your eyes turn red, just smile at her, if she did it intentionally, she is just playing with you, if she did it mistakenly, its not her fault. So why shout at her over every small mistake?

As a man learn to ignore some things, don't be petty. Some men are feminist; Do "hide and seek" with your wife, sing poems for your wife in the garden or inside the house, even if she is teasing you.
Assist her in the house chores, pound yam, fetch water, don't make her look like your maid. Bathe together, wake her up for prayers, swim with her if it's available, cook together, teach her how to cook if she doesn't know how to cook. Cooking is not the ticket to Paradise. It's not only a feminine duty.
Use blind folds to cover her eyes and tickle her, scare her at times, call her from work/ school, text her, write "I love you" in a small note and put it under her pillow or in her purse or in her bathroom or in her cosmetics box or inside her cupboard. Kiss her always, cuddle her, pamper her and play with her hair. Always tell her, she's beautiful and that you're happy to have her as your partner.

All these are part of being romantic...When a woman tells you that you are not romantic. It means you are not doing all these things, its not the romance in the bedroom she is talking about. That's why, you brothers have to study "women's language" it's a 10 year course.

FOR LADIES:

It is part of your duty to be romantic too. Your shyness shouldn't get to your marital life and that doesn't mean you should be shy to express your love to your husband.

Send sweet text messages to your husband at work, sometimes even if you are in the room discussing with your husband, still be chatting with him on social media (Facebook, Whatsapp, Viber, Imo, bbm etc) even though he is right in front of you, it's fun and romantic! Discuss how lovely he is on your facebook timeline, this will trip him a lot.
You should be chatting with your husband, not other men on social media networks.

Buy flowers for him. When eating, give him the biggest meat. At times, bake cake for him to surprise him. Ladies, use your soft voice to sing for him, be creative, a poem like (twinkle, twinkle lovely spouse, how I wonder what you are, up above my world so high, like a diamond in my heart).
Sing poems for him, no shyness is allowed. Don't just be welcoming your husband with an angry face because there is no money in the house, God is our provider. Don't welcome your husband with your body smelling maggi, don't only play with your husband when he receives his salary.

Welcome him with a warm hug always, and when he is going to work, pray to God to keep him safe and for him to be successful. Support him, advise him, wipe his tears, be grateful to him, it's not easy to be a man, when you see his faith waxing cold, encourage him, don't threaten him that you will seek for divorce, don't compare him with other men, buy him gifts, wash his clothes, sing for him, praise him in a way that he wouldn't think of an alternative, be the best cook, wash his car if u have the time, dress him up, pamper him when he is sick.

Wake him with a peck and don't complain about his snoring habit.
Let kiss be the messenger between you. Read books on intimacy, don't learn it from what you see in movies..
Most of what you see there are not real. Call your husband pet names. Though you can also call him by his name even if he is 30yrs older than you, as far as he is comfortable with it.

Remember that, God said, men are the protectors and maintainers of women. So respect him and honour him even if he is younger than you. Marriage isn't a bed of roses but a bed of sacrifice. It's said that, there is nothing better for two people who love each other than marriage.
To fall in love is a disease and its cure is to marry the person one is in love with. Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance and you find out you still care for that person.

Finally, married men, divide your nights into 3: one for yourself (sleeping), one for your wife and one for your Lord.. That's the best night one can ever have.
LOVE MAKING IS ONLY FOR MARRIED PEOPLE. IF U CAN'T HOLD BACK, PLZ GET MARRIED.
I WISH YOU LOVE.

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I doubt anyone read the whole thing. I sure didn't.

Flickzvill:
When a guy is so possessive its bcz he loves you with all his heart he doesn't want to see u get hurt he bilivs staying close to him all the time will make u feel safe but u ladies over react acting all wild making him luk like his stalking wen he sees u with anoda guy u want him to he happy ? He will be so mad sometimes u women trigger this tinz but u don't notice he tells u wat to wear bcz he feels u will luk responsible in dat dress except u have one bobo u want to impress so u get mad and start nagging saying shits he tells u not to talk to a particular person bcz he feels dat person is a bad influence but not with your "family" that one is bad but d rest fvck dem see understand your partner most of u don't he loves you o u girls want freedom abi after u get this freedom u go Bleep other guys coming confessing mehn women r just complicated

You hit the nail on the head bro. These their so-called possessive boyfriends are just men in love and I will rather call them protective boyfriends. Although some take it too far (physical abuse) and that is not good. But in the case of the protective boyfriend, these same ladies want to eat their cake and have it. They don't want him to cheat, and truly he stays faithful, yet the girls go sleeping around and expect him not to keep tabs on them. Every boyfriend has an idea of what his girlfriend is capable of, but most girls underestimate the power of a man's perception.

Most of the time when your once loving boyfriend suddenly becomes over protective, its not because of insecurity. He sees a lot of things you think you are too smart to cover up. The day you start cheating, your boyfriend knows because it will reflect in your attitude and character towards him. At first, he might love you too much and decide not to confront you about it or doesn't have the evidence at hand to nail you. But what you find is an increased possessiveness.

A little advice for my faithful guys here. B*tch-type girls are never loyal, if you date a B*tch, you are no different from a dude who just got himself a job at the Police, because not a day goes without a crime to fight, guilty or not. So in order to save yourself the stress, either stay single, date a queen or if you must date a b*tch type girl, never date the one you cant bear to see cheat.

Girls that desire freedom, the easiest way a guy would never care what you do is if:
1. He is a cheat himself (player) or you are the side chick: This one is easy, the guy has his own madam or one too many sex partners to bother about your flings.
2. He doesn't plan to marry you in the future: If the guy never even imagined a ring on your finger, he would care less how many Ds have been there now and in the future before he has to wife you, cos he never will.
3. He doesn't love you: You are just his booty call when ever he needs to get laid and he doesn't mind if you play around as long as you are available when he needs to get down.
4. He is not investing in you: From Bride price to School fees to recharge card, the capacity of guys pockets differ, when a guy spends more money on his girlfriend than he can on himself, to him it is an investment, depending on how much he feels he has invested in you, he would become jealous when other guys want to do more than just admire you. Take this example: You go to the market and there is this piece of cloth material that has been hanging outside a store for a long time, no one even takes note of it. You pick it up and spend hours designing, tailoring and embroidering it until it becomes a very wonderful dress, now you keep it outside and people sneak around trying to steal it.

The truth is, a lot of ladies are ungrateful, when you meet most of them, they look plain like that cloth material, when you date her, you brush her up, and she becomes happy and irresistible to other guys that were not admiring her before like a finished product, all of a sudden she starts to think she has outgrown/outclassed you because she is now getting more attention from those same guys that she could not previously even say hi to and get a response. B*tch-type girls go for the highest bidder anytime anyday guys, do not p*mp a girl up if you cant afford to match her new class, when you cant keep up anymore, they move on. If you complain, they say you are insecure or possessive like this post. Take a cue from Tee-bill's situation. No lady wants a man she is better than. The minute she gets ahead, she starts looking for a potential bigger boy.

The battle rages on, victory is in sight

Just found this thread, well done op. I'm indeed impressed.

vicstar:
who cares about his racist ass?

Tommy Tsotomayor is black, he isn't the guy in the picture, he is a self-criticising black male with a channel on youtube.