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Good topic!!!!!!!

Respect is reciprocal in life, there is no sane husband that will not reciprocate the respect of his wife to love.
The bible said :
Wife respect your husband and husband love your wife.

As man truly you can never love what you don't respect, so God bible saying love your wife means both respect and love.

Never mistake indiscipline for freedom, wife's are helpers cos no man can have a peaceful home without a woman. As a man you only own a house not a home without a woman for the stability of the structure of your kingdom.

Nothing like slavery, when there is mutual real feelings of understanding.

I tell people, real women control their men cos they overwhelmed them with true respect and in return the men grow in love and men are easy to control when they naturally in love with you.


As a man, any true woman that give you peace deserve your infinite love and respect.

infogenius:
This post is painting with a very broad brush, and it’s not fair or accurate for most situations.

Not every ex refuses to marry his former girlfriend forever. Plenty of couples break up young, grow up, fix what went wrong, reconnect, and end up happily married with kids. It happens more often than people admit.

But yes, in many cases, when a man leaves a relationship, he has already decided (consciously or not) that he doesn’t see her as wife material. Reconnecting later is often for convenience, loneliness, or sex—not marriage.

That’s why “goodbye sex” or “one last time” happens when the woman is finally moving on. The ex suddenly wants what he thinks he’s losing.

And the claim that a wife’s pre-wedding “goodbye sex” causes her husband to cheat later? That’s just shifting blame.

Cheating is a choice the cheater makes, full stop. No past action from the wife justifies it.

Real talk to ladies reading this:
1 If he left once and only comes back when you’re happy or engaged, he’s not serious about marriage—he’s just scared of losing access.

2 Protect ur dignity. No “goodbye sex,” no “let’s see how it goes.” If he wants u, let him commit properly.

3 Focus on the man who chooses u first, not the one who chooses u last.

To the men: If u know she’s not the one, leave cleanly and stay gone. Don’t come back for ego boost or bedroom benefits when she’s finally healing.

Breakups hurt, but playing games hurts more.


Let people move on in peace. That’s true maturity. 🙏🏾

Respect, respect and more respect.

It's better to end it with dignity than playing with someone heart and feelings.
I keep to my words cos it's my bond.

Me rather remain single than entering relationship below my frequency for pleasure.

God bless my Exs but were i say goodnight, i don't say good evening.

Ex na ex

It takes courage to be independent!!!!!!!

Any true lady living alone not for prostitution is a winner. That's the uniqueness and beauty of her worth ready for marriage.

Never be afraid to wife an independent, respectful, discipline, intelligent but not perfect woman.


No woman big pass man, all you need is to build your kingdom and empire yourself.
She only comes for the stability of the structure already in place.

Remember all women can cook and clean but not all are respectful and discipline.

Dtruthspeaker:
Ok, then, have a great day

You too your day is blessed man

Dtruthspeaker:
I understand, but... Yourself can fail you ooo and it will fail you. Remember, you are not the first to do this

When you guide the intuitions with divine direction, you never fail. Clarity forbids pride, ego and emotions. All needs is humility, realness, kindness, respect, discipline and fear of God.

Have never failed with my clarity from God, even in land of failures my clarity is always successful.

All it takes is God!!!!!!!

Dtruthspeaker:
All it takes is 1

When you are authentic to who you are not what you are, real intuition exposes all.

When you role with what you are: that's pride and you need performance to keep the ego. It will drain and destroy your empire.

When you role with who you are: that's authentication of your soul, you easily read people and energies.
Most times I pretend to be a fool for people to think they are smart around me but when the clarity exposes them they call me dangerous.

Intelligence is when you understand something and pretend to be fool of it.

My silence is golden, that's why I'm calm , listen more and talkless around fake people.
I only talk when necessary except around people I know truly care about me.

Dtruthspeaker:
When them plan you they can be respectful oo. It is better that they are the way they are.

Yes I concur but my clarity and intuitions level are strong. People find it difficult to pretend around me cos I see beyond the mask.

CandidNotes:
1. There is a consequence for EVERY ACTION, good or bad. Immediately or in the future.

2. Wife not cook, wife, not maid is a ridiculous ideology; it’s a woman’s responsibility to NURTURE HER FAMILY and she should do it WITH PRIDE.

3. Don’t waste your time fighting men over who is the head of THE HOME. Your husband is THE HEAD OF YOUR HOME. Every other man around you is the head of HIS OWN HOME…

4. Sex is spiritual; life is spiritual. The Netflix and chill you are doing with that guy today, will complicate your life in the future…

5. Virginity is not old fashioned; REAL MEN will be over the moon, with a virgin wife. They’ll respect and treasure you for the rest of your life. By the way, they’ll boast to friends and family about your virginity and those people too would respect you for it…

6. MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY; if you want your husband’s respect, if you want to prevent side chicks, if you want to secure your children and your future, if you want your man to be IN AWE OF YOU, MAKE YOUR OWN MONEY…

7. Finally, but most importantly, know God, walk with Him, trust in Him. E get why…

Respect queen of a true kingdom.

Virginity is nothing without respect.
I know it's take alot of discipline to be a virgin, so discipline without respect is a 50/50 race.

I'm always proud of women who kept themselves for their husbands and my daughters will be virgin before marriage or no wedding.

Winneepye:
Enjoy yourself very well before you clock 30 years. invest in your career and start making money early. Marry a knd and God fearing man only. Money will come when you marry a man you can plan with.

Respect queen

Luckybelt:
Marry God fearing and hard working man, even if he doesn’t have much money. Support and pray for him to be prosperous.

Respect queen of a true kingdom

infogenius:
Here’s my own advice to every 20-year-old woman reading this:

1 Your body and time are ur biggest assets right now. Protect them jealously. Say no to anything and anyone that wastes them. The energy u have at 20 will not be the same at 35, so use it to build, not to scatter.

2 Invest in urself early. Learn a skill that pays well, save money no matter how small, read books, travel if u can, build ur mind. The compound effect is real. What u do (or don’t do) between 20 and 30 will shape the rest of ur life.

3 Don’t tie ur worth to any man or relationship. Love is sweet, but a man should add to ur life, not become ur life. If he leaves, u should still be standing strong, not broken.

4 Choose ur friends carefully. The people u roll with in ur 20s will influence ur decisions heavily. Keep friends who push u up, not the ones who drag u into drama or competition.

5 Your beauty will change, but ur character and peace of mind will carry u far. Work on being kind, confident, and wise more than being “hot.” Hot fades, class doesn’t.

6 Don’t rush marriage or children because of pressure. Have them when u’re ready—financially, emotionally, mentally. A good man will wait for the right time, not force u into it early.

7 Learn to say NO without explanation. Protect ur peace like it’s gold.

8 Enjoy ur 20s, but don’t waste them. Party, date, have fun, but always have a plan. The freedom u have now is precious—use it wisely.

To the 20-year-old reading this: U have time on ur side. Don’t let society, family, or social media rush u.

Build quietly, love wisely, and become the woman ur future self will thank. ❤️

Respect queen of a true kingdom, i can see the kingdom of your king is in safe hands.

This is a queen with intelligence and discipline, Keep it up.

DeGLORIOUS:
If you haven't learned the art of submissiveness and respect yet, then marriage is not for you.

Respect, respect and more respect.

I pity how many will beg younger men to impregnate them just to have kids out of wedlock cos of no respect and discipline.

I tell people, all women are beautiful, can cook, clean but not all are respectful and discipline.

I can't waste my time and money and the future of my kids.

Goodlady:
Make sure you're self sufficient cos money is very important. It's the only weapon men have over us so get your quids and be ready to be independent.
Don't depend on men.
Love may come early but it must be worth it before you go for it.
Beware of men. They have sweet mouth but when you have your money, they're powerless over you.

Good advice for women to be independent but not all men are afraid to wife an independent respectful and discipline woman

infogenius:
Bros, this ur take too extreme o.

Not every woman wakes up plotting “control” or ready to burn house if she nor get her way.

Plenty women just want respect, peace, and partnership—same thing most men want.

Yes, some women (and plenty men too) love control pass anything. When things nor go their way, dem turn beast: anger, manipulation,
revenge. That one na human being problem, not “woman nature.”

I’ve seen wives wey submit, support, build with their husbands through hell, no complaint.


I’ve also seen husbands wey turn dictator the moment money enter hand.

The real truth:

Power and control tempt everybody.
Some women abuse it.
 Some men abuse it worse (with fist, cheating, or silent treatment).

Don’t paint all women as “beasts in nature” because of the bad ones u don meet.


That same brush fit paint all men as dogs because of the players and abusers wey full street.

Look for a woman wey get sense, respect, and fear of God.
 She go add to ur life, not turn u to donkey.

And if u find her, treat her right so she nor turn to the “beast” u dey fear.


Relationship na two people wey choose peace over power.


That’s the winning formula. 💯

Well said respect

As a man your peace should be priority when chosen a life partner.
I love the word respect in your post.

All women are beautiful, can cook, clean but not all are respectful and discipline. Same thing as men it's both side.

I can do anything to wife any discipline and respectful woman resonating in my frequency.

Man must love is girlfriend or wife but not in exchange of his peace.

Samantha125:
I'd rather take my chances with elderly couples than these two minutes couples who'd play marriage experts just after two minutes of exchanging their vows only to wake up the following day to find them divorced.

Even I don't consider myself as eligible to be giving people marriage advice, I need at least 20 to 25 years to consider myself as a proper person to be advising people about marriage. Even so, I'm not sure if my marriage will reach the goal I'm hoping for because the future can be unpredictable, but I'm hoping for the best.

Intelligence without wisdom doesn't build a long lasting marriage while many of you would get married to disciplined decent women and start taking their decency for granted, forcing them to reveal that beast they've been suppressing within them... Go and watch The Diary of a Mad Black Woman.

No intelligence without wisdom, when you are intelligent it means you can activate your wisdom for success.

Yes you right about that it's both side experiences that turns people to activate their beast side. Everyone has beast personality in built, when pass their safe limit it gives vibes of strength.

When an empathy encounters toxicity in a modern woman he truly care about, it turns him into a beast and every other women bear the brunt of his experience. Thats why it's better to heal before entering new relationship.
You don't need to punish Sandra because of what Jennifer did to you.
You just have to heal and cherish the next person for who he or she is.


Anyway, age doesn't guarantee maturity only experience and clarity does. We don't have to do things out of emotions and feelings but clarity.


My clarity is infinity! It can only improve.
I can only wife a queen, with intelligence and discipline not beauty. I want a home were my kids we have their mother forever by myside. I'm not a fan of getting baby mama cos my kids deserve the right of their mother with them as one united family.
It's better to adopt kids than to separate your children from the happiness of a true family.


All women are beautiful, can clean and cook but not all are intelligent and discipline.

My kingdom is ONLY PERMITTE me to marry a queen with intelligence, respect and discipline.

I'm not perfect , do have my flaws but can never settle for less.

Women supporting women squad nor see advice for young ones, that show all they care about is chaos.

As man never marry chaos into your life.

DrAda:
Embrace your femininity. Do not fight it. You score no points competing with men or other women, rather understand yourself and set your own standards that you should strive to attain.

Take care of yourself particularly your mental state. Learn to be content. Be mindful when choosing a life partner. Be happy. Be free. Be happy

Respect queen of a true kingdom

hatchy:
To me as a woman, not all women are marriable. Husband is everywhere you go, they ain't scarce, they're only afraid to marry the wrong woman.

Therefore, my fellow women, groom yourself and have good character, be industrious. Leave hookup.....e no dey help. Also know that our time is like the morning flower, we fade with age.

Respect queen of a true kingdom

Tayorshd87:
it.

Learn to be valuable and submissive at the same time.

Avoid feminists like a plague if you plan to have a good home later.

Respect queen of the kingdom

fredoooooo:
Get education, live morally , Be a woman

Respect queen of the kingdom

dierich:
Be independent and be faithful

Respect queen of a true kingdom

RevenuesBoost:
Get all the certificates you can get in your teens and early 20s because when you get married in your late 20s or early 30s, you can't subject yourself to too much school stress.

Do not get so relaxed after Marriage, still do that which you love doing, and follow up with your life plan.
Keep developing yourself, never rely totally on your husband for everything, build your own riches, a good man will love it when he isn't carrying all the financial burden of the family alone.

Respect Queen of a true kingdom

Capernum:
Learn the rudiments of womanhood and start to pattern your life around it.

Learn to be valuable and submissive at the same time.

Avoid feminists like a plague if you plan to have a good home later.

Don't keep company with loose girls changing boyfriends life undies.

Be a strong women as much as you can but understand your vulnerability as a woman is part of your strength.

Pray, plan, prepare to marry right. That's the most important thing for your life.

Be spiritual, be born again but don't be religiously foolish.

Your greatest investment is in your kind of spirit and character. Get the right spirit and let your character be noble.

Respect Queen of a true kingdom

Login2025:
Don’t do hookup

Everything is not social media …

Above all! Learn how to talk to ppl especially that man you love

Respect Queen of a true kingdom

Samantha125:
I'm sure they all said the same thing, but still ended up as divorcees.

Reason I only take marriage advice from elderly couples, the rest can take the back seat.

Yes you right about that reasons for advice from elderly couples but not all elderly couples are happy in their homes.

When we stop pretending and truly look inward for happiness, there will be few divorce men and women in the society.

Many are married but no truly happy, you can only fully appreciate life when your happiness is authentic from within not from status or societal validation.

Any way not until men men start chosen intelligence and discipline over beauty they can never be a better generation that have respect for humanity.

Seunfretty:
That's if u don't even drop to second by January...cos I don't see how u are surviving this city behind you from january

Everything will fall in place at the right time

ajalawole:
see the same Chelsea you dey call a shitty team, shame no dey even catch you. What were world-class Arsenal building all this year's bro.. I started watching EPL in 1998 so I no dey argue on football bro.
You sin some.
You lose some
And you Arsenal some.

Arsenal go win three of the cups this season.
We need am now.

No matter what, this is Arsenal's time and season.

Arsenal turn done reach

Samantha125:
I'm sure all the divorced men also said the same thing when they got married to their now ex wives.

And it's always those men who think they know the right ones that always end up as divorcees.

Most divorced men never truly followed their intuitions with clarity but with emotions

Clarity marries alignment
Emotions marries misalignment.

My clarity can never settle for less neither the wrong connection.
You must inspire me by resonating in my frequency as a woman.

I'm not perfect but knows what I truly appreciate in a modern woman.
Not beauty but intelligence and discipline.

In my principles, beauty sit at the back of character and attitude.

Life is all about choice, others experience shouldn't define my choice.

Believe in your self, trust and have faith in God.

Samantha125:
You'll never know who's the right person until you grow old with them.

It easy to know the right woman during relationship, even when you don't want her the greater man in you which is your intuition will expose she's the right one.

As a man always have a quiet alone time with your thoughts.

Sweet dreams