SNEFF:
All these on top pvssy with how many body count ?
If she is virgin then she is worth it.

Exactly my first thought. On top wetin another person got for free.

heartofcity12:
LOL 😂

The guy even try. As long as i havnt met you, aint sending shit. Aint RP but that's my own code.

Merry100:

Broke guys don't deserve a partner.
There is a reason why God told men to till the ground and provide for their wives. Your wife deserves to be treated like a queen. You can't be broke and expect an innocent woman to marry you. Your financial status matters as a man!

Ofcourse; just as the past of a woman matters for women.

Emekaphilip360:
Lies. Everything is interesting in virgins. I have dated one before so I know. They are always open to new stuff and they don’t think about sex unlike non virgins. They are very productive as well. Find yourself a virgin, its for your own good.

Leave him to wallow in ignorance. Let him seek non-Vs while we seek our choice, simple.

Anny69:
Another foolish man.

I refuse to engage a low IQ female. Go and find your type.

wis3:
An average Nigerian girl's brain 🧠
60%=Iphone
40%=Nothing

LMAO!

izonborn098:
You can avoid the thread..

Simple as ABC! Why engage a thread you deem useless if your mind isnt pricking you?

Emekaphilip360:
There’s a reason why your kpekus is sealed by God. It’s only for your husband. You can’t have many body counts and you expect an innocent man to pay for your bride price. Your past matters as a woman!

I am TOTALLY of this opinion.

Hayzed203:
I broke up with my girlfriend about 3months ago and I still struggle to convince myself that I did the right thing and I believe this is affecting me in the process of trying to move on and meeting new people. We both live abroad and you don't meet a lot of Nigerians easily around here.

She was very caring, admired me and always supportive but still I made a decision to end the relationship. Why ? It was based on some sort of things that happened when we started being together. We started as friends with benefits while in school though she was in a distance relationship at the time. We both agreed it was just sex and nothing more when we started and I was fine with it. However, we started acting like couple - sleeping over, going out together, doing everything exclusively, and all that despite not defining things officially.

She wasn't always happy when I'm on phone with any girl irrespective of whatever relationship I have with such girl and I just sort of started distancing myself from all other girls. On her side, I acted 'maturely' by not interfering during her phone calls and all. Things continued that way for some months till the pressure was just too much that we had no choice but to define things. At that point, I was hooked already - in that, I was saying in my mind that it was just friends with benefits but I couldn't even leave her and I also found it difficult to make a decision to commit to her forever due to some number of reasons:

1. She once asked me to give her MouthAction which I have never done before at that time. I told her I wasn't ready and her response was that If I don't do it, someone else will do it for her. She went on a dating site, hooked up with a guy for one a night stand and I was aware of this though shocked at such boldness. I couldn't complain because we were not dating officially though we were always together at this point.

2. Another time during our time together, I was on a night duty and she went to a party which I was aware of. I saw a guy with her and her female friend and she earlier told me the guy came with her friend. Unfortunately for her, her female friend left early without the guy. I added 2 + 2 together and fixed it that she had something with the guy that night. I subsequently saw their sex chat on her phone. She later confessed they had a one night stand only.

3. There was a guy disturbing her that I was aware of, she always told the guy off until one day she told me she was visiting the guy for the weekend. I was shocked because we were literally talking about building a genuine relationship the previous night confessing how we have come to like each other. She was love-bombing me throughout her stay with the guy and I knew they were probably having sex throughout the 3 days. She came back on the 3rd day and started acting all nice and all to me.

4. She has a bit of bad temper especially with others. She is not the most likeable person out there and she doesn't care and can say anything when she is angry. She can bullshit anyone and I was always wondering if she will do it to me too one day. She was an angel towards me but opposite towards others.

5. Unlike me, she was very experienced in Nigeria with series of sexual partners littered on her phone. I stumbled on her nudes being with different guys on her snapchat. Sex wasn't a big to her and that was a total turn off for me since I didn't live that kind of life.

I know this might not make sense to anyone reading as you may assume I have reasons to make an easy decision but trust me, it wasn't an easy decision for me as I was almost used to being with her which I have never had with any other woman. My mind kept tricking me saying maybe it is not totally her fault as I didn't commit her. Plus, I have never been with any woman that showered me with so much care in my life before this girl. I have met very decent girls that still showed me shege despite being ready to commit.

I have only seen things like that on movies and I would have said it was juju but it was not. I have never experienced that kind of 'love' before and I didn't even care if it was fake or real. I enjoyed it as we both went on dates, vacations abroad and all but I was scared to commit to her.

Eventually I had to make a decision on whether I should stay or leave her and that was I how started going back and forth. I didn't want to leave or stay. I had never been so confused in my life. It was as if I was getting the kind of love I have always wished for but I am not exactly settled with our circumstances. I wanted to forget but I just couldn't given that I knew these men and it doesn't appear she has sexual discipline as well. I felt so bad for her and myself.

Though we ended up dating officially for 2months, I struggled to let bygone be bygone as she had requested. Not that I am so concerned about it but I just hate the fact that if anything happens in the future, I can't say I didn't see the signs but she was still a good person to me.

It is been 3months since we parted ways and I still randomly wonder if I did the right thing. Should I have given her a chance to change and prove herself ? Could I have influenced her positively ? I guess I will never know.

Who has experienced this before and what are your thoughts please?

You are just missing the sex and reacting to being alone. I am in the UK myself and these girls cannot be trusted. Many lack what is required to tag them wife material.

blackgold2018:
that’s why they keep using your type until your brain resets. But by then you have already turned 35.

No dey reply that lady. All she seeks na attention online. The more people give her that, the more relevant she is.

Mcslize:


Don't mind them. They don't know what they are saying. A lady will claim to be 20-25. If you look at them, you will think they 40 already. Such ladies will now say marrying a man of 40 is too old for her.

Majority of ladies that are 20-25, have mature bodies like that of a real 40 years old woman.

Using myself as an example. I look younger than my age. And those ladies I am older than by age are already looking like aunties.

The best such ladies can do is marry a guy with enough age gap.

If you see one lady that is 25yrs old. Omo, she looks like my aunty but I am way older than her with enough years. Now, imagine marrying such a lady. Won't people think she is my aunty?

That's the thing ladies should know. They should marry a guy who is older cuz ladies age faster than men. With that, they won't end up looking older than the man after giving birth to 3-4 children.

VERY WELL SAID.

blueAgent:


Clown.

like I said b4 you know nothing about white women and curves.
I love and marry black ladies.

Lots of whites have mad curves. Until you see for yourself, you ll never believe.

Skyview01:


They are very complicated. They can show lots of affections this minutes and be divorcing your ass and taking all your properties the next minute.

You have to practically worship them every single day. Except from the overrated sex, they have nothing to over and I will never marry them.l

How Nigeria ladies are the BEST!

Even the sex is overrated o..Don't dull it, some Naija girls ll give you life time experiences and I can testify to this claim.

Obakoolex:

Na like this some feminist go dey view this thread.

Lol.

Offpointng:
There's just one Lady like that I've met during NYSC who I swore then I would have married if I made it. well I did made it but Bro she's way older than I am. she's 6years older than I am

But Mehnn this girl cared for me when I had nothing, respected me in that stage despite being older and would always do anything I asked if she really can do it. but that was the only coma , she's way older than I am. I'm thinking of opening a shop one of this days just to appreciate her. May God bless her.

I just wish I can marry her tbh.

Do not forget that lady.

Rapmoney:
This is just a piece of my opinion which is based on the realities on ground. Nigerian men should not lower their guard when it comes to dating and marriage. We compromise too much when it involves romance, especially among our Eastern brothers.

Arinze, you dey hustle since you graduate in 2010. You don toil sotay the skin for your palms don hard like Okpella granite. Now, Baba God don show you love small, come bless you with comfortable life. The first thing you did was to pick a girl from a financially weak background for dating or marriage because of big yansh and breasts. You polished her and has also done a lot for her family. Let me tell you, that same girl and her family would not accept you if you weren't comfortable.

In Nigeria, it's only bad for a man to be broke and not a lady. Broke men are useless while broke women are angels.

If you are a man who has struggled very hard to achieve comfort for yourself, you need a class of woman who will complement your status and not just anybody because that same anybody no go send you if you no get bread.

The only women that should be deserving of your financial generosity should be your mum and sisters. Except she is a girl who has supported you of which I know it is very scarce to see in Nigeria. Getting a Nigeria girl who can support you, even if it is shikini these days is like betting on Enugu Rangers to beat Manchester City and still expecting to win.

Na as e be me for mind I talk am. I know say this post fit vex some people.

FACTS!

Skyview01:


I can assure you it was not from a pragmatic experience. A complete figment of my lucid imaginations!

Yea, obviously. White women look simple but could be complicated in a matter of seconds.

Aaaaarghmed:
I pity who carry Naija woman for head.i really pity the person.i have numerous experience, as in.Na wrong move

VERY WRONG move but them better pass whites o or Western women.

Boondocxs:
Carry your preferences and go
Leave us Nigerian women alone
Nobody forced you to date Nigeria women
Only Nigeria men hate on they own women
Foolish men
Carry your nonsense insecurities and go

🤣🤣🤣. Na wa!

Skyview01:
I can't marry a white no matter the qualities above. Most of our Nigerian men are like slaves to these white women.

The men wash the plate, cook the food and clean the house and can easily get divorced if they stop doing any of the above.

No good food at home to eat except you prepare it yourself.
Sex.
The Nigerian lady is not adventurous and want the guy to do everything. The white lady will take over during sex and are more open, expeessive and communicative during sex.

That is all they have to offer mostly but, the white skin is so light that you practically feel nothing on your d*ck during sex compared with our black women with thick and luscious kini that is capable of better grips.

The sex is overrated with the whites and the love is always conditional.
The white lady sex is overrated and you will get tired eventually.
I will take the black lady seven days a week and twice on Sunday.

Do not quote me to ask details as I do not have real life experiences, I only have my vivid imaginations.

They will also block your family members from visiting or having access to you.

Reason the whites have a high divorce rate.

Your points are factual even if they are not from pragmatic experiences.

uche87:


Written by Osahon George Osayimwen

VERY VERY ACCURATE.

Mcslize:


The problem is from you. Always listen to instructions. I stated it that I was only interested in correcting an old age impression. I was interested in only that and not the main subject of the matter.

You can't hold me accountable for being interested in only an aspect of the main topic. I don't want you and few other persons to make the same mistake of thinking a 25 yrs old lady is too young for an agile young man of 40 who can even marry a lady of 20.

Will you say that this Nolly wood actor called Bolanle Ninalowo who is 43yrs old is too old to marry a lady of 25 yrs if he was to re marry?

That's the impression I corrected in her write up and I wasn't interested in commenting in the main subject.

I was very surprised to see the age gap nonsense she wrote and many guys even seconded that premise. Lol. In a Nigeria wey a 30 year old never even see road finish. What do I know?

GO0DHardDick:


Typical behavior from a Nigerian girl. Chop his money and pay back with your used pussy!

When we say you Nigerian girls are parasites and liabilities your type will start barking like bulldog.

A virgin girl can never have this kind of mentality of yours. Ur body count must be numerous by now

Lol. The matter funny. Well, if no be money, she no go even dey reason the matter as it is; that is why me sef no take her matter to heart. A man wey know say na him money enter your eyes and he wants a virgin as well if he has to part with his resources and you dey vex. E mean say you never ready. I think we guys have to go back to the standards of our fathers. Full provisioning and bride price should only be a privilege for virgins. We have really missed it as a people.

Nengiraw:
Hello nairalanders, please I need help on this situation. So I’m a lady in her mid 20’s. I’m actually very much set for marriage in the eyes of my family, since society deem it fit to place marriage as an achievement for women, and always bring up your age to remind you to. Anyways, it’s not a priority for me to get married now, as I feel like I’m not ready mentally,and I have a lot of trauma to work on, but I’m also open to it, if it’s in my face and ready. I don’t stay in Nigeria, so my family don’t know if I have a man in my life, so they decided upon themselves to introduce me to a man who is my uncle’s friend that stays in the same country as me. They were more focus on the fact that he comes from a neighboring village from us and that he was a doctor. (Meanwhile he’s actually a nurse, but he told them, that he was a doctor, he also never mentioned to them that he was married and had a child, before they decided to introduce him to me)

So we eventually started talking on WhatsApp, he saw some of my pictures already and he was mesmerized. In fact he was already kind of making me his wife in that moment. So one day he called me and we were just talking,and I heard like a toddler crying so bad and needed his attention, I asked him who was that , he told me it was his daughter, there was this awkward silence for almost five minutes of us not saying anything, so I told him I’ll call him back. I called my mother that day and was mad as hell, that they didn’t disclose such information to me, but from my mother’s reaction she had no idea, and she was also mad and she told me, she will call me back, so she could verify from my uncle, since that’s his friend. Even my uncle too had no idea. To cut the whole story short, he later called me the next day on a video call, and he started telling me about his wife( Yes! She’s still his wife, because I don’t think he has divorced her yet)and how abusive she was, and how he tried to make it work, but she was so crazy and stuff like that. That he’s actually trying to get shared custody of the child. That he’s no longer married to her. I was not really having it, because I just felt like he wasn’t being honest with certain things and on top of that his wife is still in the picture, and I don’t know if I want to settle for that. Also he just turned 40, and I’m 25. So the age gap is too much for me. Also I have not met him in real life, cause he stays in a different state from me, my family still wanted me to be open minded until I see him in person, then I could make a decision if I want him or not. He always sends me pictures of his daughter, and he recently sent me one with his first wife and daughter, I was surprised that he did, and he said he wanted to show me the daughter instead. I still felt like I didn’t need to see a picture of her. I started seeing the red flags of him that I couldn’t settle with. Also the way he talked about the wife was vulgar, and I felt like he didn’t need to tell me about her in that manner.

Now the most recent thing he started doing was sending me random stuff about marriage to my WhatsApp. I usually glance at it,and don’t reply, cause I don’t know why he’s sending me that. The one that gave me a major big red flag from him, is when he sent where Regina daniels( the actress who married Ned nwoko) was talking about marrying her husband a virgin and how it’s important to be a virgin. He then asked me if I was one. Honestly I felt really numb, because I don’t know why he will be asking me stuff like that, when he didn’t really get a respond back from me, he proceeded to send another message telling me, “No mind them sha, virgin no sabi. With a heart eye emoji. I was dumbfounded, I didn’t know how to reply to him anymore. I stopped picking up his calls and I have no intention to meet up with him anymore. Now my family is mad at me, saying that at least I should see him in person, but I don’t want to. In fact I’m no longer interested in him. Please am I wrong for feeling the way I feel? Thanks.

The problem is not the age. The age gap is right and very okay. However, other red flags are present which you should be worried about.

The man wanting a virgin is also well within his rights after all, we are entitled to choose whatever we desire for ourselves.

The onus is on you to do your diligence and make an informed decision.

RoadMozart:
If you want serious girls, forget those born from 1999-2005.

Go for those in their early thirties. Them go spend for you self

They are used up already; not advisable.

koolvin12:
Please before showcasing your ignorance on SM, always do a little research. A DGM in a bank has annual renumeration of about 30m with other benefits. He is in no way a small person in that organisation. If you research properly, you might not find up to 50 DGMs in all the banks in the country.

His renumeration is more than 4X what you quoted. 😀

SSpeter:
Are you serious? a DGM is not a deputy branch manager, you guys are just kids, as a DGM, his salary cannot be less than 4m naira monthly, his official car is not less than 70m and he gets to change the car every four years....you guys need to grow up

Plus free tuition paid for 4 kids maximum anywhere in the world, paid domestic help, personal driver (NOT official driver), MAD ALLOWANCES which is the main perk of the role. Shetimma like his followers languish in ignorance.

badoh:

Your comment shows that you're a novice. No be everything you go deh shook mouth for wetin you no know. Deputy manager(DM) is different from Deputy General Manager(DGM). You think say to reach DGM position for Nigeria Bank na moi-moi.

His ignorance knows no bounds. This is the reason why i seldom comment on NL. The forum is filled with very unintelligent people who languish in ignorance.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
This people knows that what they are paying senior and junior workers in both private and public sectors is appalling and pitiable

It is an eyesore that's why he made this statement. Imagine Nigeria min wage is $30! Just 30k for goodness sake. Professors and the bank manager salary this VP is dissing around is 400-500k!

Should b nothing less than 2m

Managers earn way more.

Bliss24:




I just love Shetima's blunt disposition

Best Graduating student of Economics in Prestigious University of Ibadan Citadel of learning......

After 30 years of Graduation

Ended up becoming Deputy Branch Manager at a new generation bank like Polaris bank

30 years after graduation that he should be planing retirement he is a Deputy Manager

His total salary may not be up to 200,000 to 500,000 a month


He made this submission at University of Ibadan to remind student the intricacies of life

PS:
IF you know say e no go better for your papa this morning qoute me to say trash

You idiots stay your lane and don't qoute me if Ogun no go perish your families, keep your useless mob mentality and keyboard war to your unproductive self



.

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DGM - DEPUTY GENERAL MANAGER.

Domaining101:
I no know who do Africa this thing, this curse is too strong...you sure sey no be land wey God tell Abraham make e commot from we dey so? Imagine what the president of the acclaimed giant of Africa and his supporters dey use brag, ringing Nasdaq bell, heiii God!!! What leaders of developed countries go see as insult, na him our leaders for here dey celebrate... Imagine calling xi jinping from china to leave Beijing, just to come and ring bell for you in New York.

If you talk, they ll say na bell of opportunities and more FDI inflow into the country. RETARDS!