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blizard44:
Hello , Nairalanders.

I recently called off a two-year relationship with my Ex Girlfriend.

I found out she was cheating on me with two other guys and decided to walk away.

But the thing is that I can't stop thinking about her.
I can't eat, work or do anything without memories of the times we shared together hanging over my eyelids.

I felt that the depression and pain that suffused me after I told her it was over was hinged on the fact that she was my first love - and would go away with time, but I was wrong.
I think of her now more than I ever remember doing.
I'm afraid the feelings heightens everyday.
And this is made worse by the fact that we're colleagues.
We see each other everyday.
And concerns for her, I found out, still manage to hide behind my ribs.

I'm not thinking of going back to her.
It's not an option.
That to me now, is like dining with my archenemies blindfolded.

I feel like I don't know her .
I never knew her!

At least, I never knew she could tell heavy lies with our eyes locked.


I need help redeeming myself from her.
I want to see her for who she really is.
And I want to go back to the life I led before her.

I need help getting her out of my head.

Tell me how you survived breakups.


P.S
I want to read your comments.

You do not have to worry. The fact that you see her daily should be the motivation behind you moving on.

When you forgive a cheating partner and same re-occurs, it leaves this semi-permanent mark on your memory hence you have to be strong mentally so you don't live in your past forever. I experienced this about a year ago and was bitter with myself for tolerating a cheater for long although i did because i wanted concrete evidence for moving on. Cheaters never change and you need not condone them; once is enough to send her packing.

I am quite sure you'd be concerned with whether she feels remorse or not but trust me, that should be the least of your worries.

There is alot to achieve in your lifetime. Do not be held back by memories that were hinged on false feelings.

Roon9:
See what psG has caused. Now every player is worth more than 50m

Please I'm I the only that holds the opinion that the Women's world cup is much more matured than AFCON?

Absolutely not. Neat passing of the ball.

Greenarrow01:
Before you got into the house... You were claiming common sense and man of the people... You gitbin there.. And got blinded, deaf and dumb.. Came out now and you re telling us trash
Why didnt you try to raise a bill that will discourage this courses.
Same with adeyemi guy.. Una no fit open mouth talk about changing of constitution when una they there.. Na when una leave.. Una they bla bla bla

EXACTLY. Hypocrites.

franchasng:
Yes we know sir, but the gullible psychopathic youths won't agree.

Abiola invited Abacha to overthrow Shonekan so that he, Abiola could be made President by Abacha, but Abacha betrayed Abiola his perceived friend, and rather held firm to power and never wanting to leave again.

Muhammadu Buhari, Abacha's close friend and ally didn't advice Abacha against the bad things he was doing to Abiola but today the same Buhari has cunningly recognized Abiola as the winner of June 12 election just to spite Obasanjo and to turn Yorubas against each other so they can condemn Obasanjo and hail him despite his wrong deeds in the past.

Remember Buhari was very close to Abacha, he refused to advice him to hand over to the winner of June 12 election Abiola, instead Buhari was more interested in his own political gains with Abacha, so he continued to hail & dine with corrupt Abacha and even went to collect a political appointment from Abacha and helped Abacha government in many ways he could as at then.


...and at the same period in 1993 or thereabout, Bola Ahmed Tinubu had already agreed to serve as Abacha's VP not minding that another Yoruba man Abiola has already won the annulled Presidential election which he was supposed to join hands and ensure his brother reclaims his mandate, no, he was desperate to become VP to the detriment of his Yoruba brother Abiola.

This is how treacherous these people can be to even their own brothers...

Let's go back to 1960s...

...and the power tuzzle between Awolowo and Akintola tore Southwest and later Nigeria to pieces in the 1960s, it led to the first military coup headed by Maj. Nzeogwu in 1966 which was later wrongly tagged *Igbo Coup* due to sentimental execution of the coup by some of the Igbo actors in the coup of 1966.

I don't know why most Yoruba elites are always desperate to rule Nigeria at all cost, just as Bola Ahmed Tinubu has started again today, when we tell future children how desperate Tinubu is today to become Nigeria's President to the extent of romancing with his adversary in the past (Buhari), they will think we lied, isokay

VERY ACCURATE. I never saw Abiola as being innocent. NEVER.

iamJ:
how did 36 become branch manager?


this story no complete

You are so naive.

funmike83:
When will God free Nigerians from this bondage we call politicians. Are these pple there to serve the pple or to serve their mouth and pocket. All this excessive spending won't take us anywhere and before you know it they will be begging China for loan again . God where is thy face

God will not come down to save us; He did not come down to save the citizens of those countries you guys run to.

Libetation/Freedom is never relinquished with ease by the elites, YOU FIGHT FOR IT and e.gs include The French Revolution, The American Revolution.. They fought; innocent lives were lost but not in vain. Now, the Q is, are these youths you see around today ready to fight that "fight"?

davillian:
1) your sim card connected to your bank should be kept safe ( mine doesn't leave the house )
2) lock your sim card
3) once you loose your phone that contains your bank account sim. Block the acc immediately.
4) I have 1 ATM card and have 3 bank acc.
Only 1 account has ATM card and used for online payment etc.
I keep a minimum of 10k in the account with card.
I just transfer what I need to the account with ATM card from the account without ATM card .

Lol. Maximum of 10k NOT minimum of 10k.

thorrvik55:
I hope u factored in morata's appearances for Chelsea and At. Madrid b4 saying lukaku scored more than him.

Besides self, if it was a bet I would have won two seasons in a row because my original argument is that there is no way in hell Lukaku is worth #75 million. And lukaku has proved time and time again that I was right...

Ahan. What was the argument all about? Not Morata as a player but as a Blues player. Lukaku outscored him back to back which was the original bet. Who am i to say a player is worth a certain amount or not? What are my metrics for such judgement? I made it clear and it was a very simple bet. If you have doubts, check my initial message on the matter.

schumastic:
But is the truth, I don't bother myself in situations like this, I just withdraw my emotions and play along. She will use her own hands to back out and I won't beg, after all we are not married. Dem no de tell blind man say rain de fall

Yes o, bro. Hard truth . Questions such as this are not important. He knows what to do but lacks the courage.

schumastic:
She asked a ?, I expected you to give her an answer.. if am in your shoes I will be happy because it means you both are in an open relationship... Feel free to sample, make and receive calls as well.

Signed.

Vice President,

Bachelors Club,

Ikeja, Lagos Branch.

You are insane.

babyfaceafrica:
me ke?...I don't have such time for epistle...you cheat you leave!!,..simple...I have never cheated and will never do so.. if I have problems with my fiancess/wife....we call it quits if it can t be settled... to be jumping up and down with another lady is not my thing ..one woman self na struggle I dey take cope..not to talk of adding extra..God bless us all

A real KING.

StrikeBack:


Glorified Olosho.

Symptoms.

Leg Chains
Nose piercing
Multiple nose rings.


Don't argue with me

You left one out. Multiple ear-rings on the upper ear.

stinflame:
First and foremost in which culture is marriage not a sacred entity. Culture they say is dynamic , of recent and ethnic group in Nigeria, lay a fix amount which should be spent on traditional marriages, why because they feel the pain of the young legal working men ,. My brother their is no solid yardstick to their high hardness, the truth is they see marriage of their daughter as a money making Avenue. A common factor in the East I must say, why because money moves them. A frnd once ditched an anambra babe whom he have seem her parents for an enugu, why becos expenses was much and the lady wasn't even helping matters, was saying he have to borrow to settle everything. Am sure she's happily married to her Father.

[quote author=stinflame post=78410484]First and foremost in which culture is marriage not a sacred entity. Culture they say is dynamic , of recent and ethnic group in Nigeria, lay a fix amount which should be spent on traditional marriages, why because they feel the pain of the young legal working men ,. My brother their is no solid yardstick to their high hardness, the truth is they see marriage of their daughter as a money making Avenue. A common factor in the East I must say, why because money moves them. A frnd once ditched an anambra babe whom he have seem her parents for an enugu, why becos expenses was much and the lady wasn't even helping matters, was saying he have to borrow to settle everything. Am sure she's happily married to her Father.

Adonko:
let them be deceiving themselves with our culture this, our culture that, you want me to go borrowing just to meet marriage expenses and thereafter remain in debt, after marriage, cos you want to marry mother Mary nonsense. Tradition, culture and religion is what has brought this country to were it is today ,taking two steps forward and ten steps backward, one that call herself mirinda is saying respect the culture, respect nonsense that is killing this generation.

Am not hating on any tribe sincerely, but go to every ashawo joints around it is the ladies from this tribe that dominates opening thier pussy for every dick and Harry ( opening a thread on this soon), yet the elders are expecting you to rob a bank to marry these hoes whose pussy are as wide as dual carriageway, and deep as a borehole. Guyz dont give yourself unnecessary stress all in the name of marriage, wasting your life savings for someone that when you are financially down in marriage she uses the exit door using the term "I nu come marriage come suffer".

@2buffagain I like your thinking jare, guyz are becoming wiser daily nonsense.

EXACTLY @ exit door. Many wouldn't consider you without money in the first place. I have said it and will continue to; let them continue to marry themselves. As for me, i am not ready to spend silly sums just to satisfy the greed of irrelevant people. As it is, i avoid their girls like a plague. There is nothing about them that excites me. All i see are greedy mofos who would sell it all to the highest bidder.

Naija4lifeYank:
This is the story of most people dating Nigerian women. Most are scammers just using men for money. The guys themselves are no better. You are better off marrying the one that won't cost you that much as they will mess up anyways!

LMAO......I sincerely cannot fault your premise; i just cannot. A modest girl is so difficult to find; very difficult. Qualities that ordinarily should not be a big deal have gone extinct. The few that still have it are obviously arrogant because they know how difficult it is to get a loyal female.

thorrvik55:
Where did his goals keep u this season?

6th; Morata's? Atleast, he scored more than him. I would have won a bet 2ce as it stands.

shadeyinka:
Both are ok!
If you take a loan, you have saved on inflation knowing that it takes an average of 2-3 years to pay off a car or land loan.

If your income is high and you can save for a car within one year, then save for it. You will save on interest to your loan and purchase exactly what you can afford without loan repayment liabilities.

A mixture of the two is the best. Save half the cost price and take a loan for the balance.

A car is a liability (if it's not for business purposes ) that gives convenience don't do above yourself. Think of functionality rather than class

Excellent advice but i disagree with your bolded statement. A car is not a liability and even accounting recognizes this. Alot of people see it as one because of what goes out of your pocket in terms of fuel cost and maintenance. Have you ever taken out time to look at the value a car brings to you in terms of being prompt with your appointments, ease of conveying your items, flexibility? I bet you'd disagree with me if i say the average Lagosian spends more on commuting with public vehicles per annum than an owner of a sound vehicle and that excludes comfort as i would like to leave that out entirely.

The advice should always be buying within your income range and not above it and the reason for this can not be farfetched or overemphasized.

ojeysky:
There is noting wrong with getting a loan to buy a car, the question is whether you have a need for the car or just for luxury. The car has to be utility vehicle for it to be worth getting a loan for, especially if it's your first car and if you still live in a rental apartment

Best advice so far. I wouldn't be surprised if you have a finance background. It is only in this part of the world people buy such outrightly. In saner climes, you buy using agreements such as higher purchase or other similar kinds of arrangements.

The fear an average Nigerian has for a "loan" is embarrassing. We do not seem to understand its dynamics as many are used to the mentality of collecting, collecting and collecting.

ogawisdom:
Don't take a loan to buy a liability or for consumption.

Take loan to buy assets.

Asset is anything that puts money in your pocket

Liability is anything that takes money from your pocket

Point of correction; a car is not a liability. Get your facts right. Even accounting does not refer to a car as a liability.

northvietnam:
If u want result from Jose, just give him money, keep giving him money to buy already made players

Players who ll play for the money and not the badge. Utd knew this and was one of the reasons for the sack.

erons22:
Pogba leaving

Greatest thing that could happen to the team.

Nbote:
Oga don't forget it was Ole who even made United contest for d top 4 in d first place with his run of consecutive wins... Jose was having one of d worst runs United had seen so how would he had done any miracles?



How exactly is Mourinho beta? He took dis same team to d Champions league but U also forgot to include d fact dat d season he qualified dem for champions league he finished as runners up in d Premier league. Where was he on d league table and champions league before he was fired? U all now suddenly forget it was Ole's run of impressive wins dat got United back in d mix of d top 4 again. If Mourinho was still there Wolves would had overtaken United on d league table. De Gea was d one saving Mourinho's ass all d while and d same De Gea was d one who cost Ole some valuable points

Thank you for this. People seem to forget the team had lost all hopes of a top 4 place. Ole made it look possible. Mourinho was RIGHTLY sacked. GBP369million and no significant improvement. All you get are complaints, complaints and more complaints.

Neddstark:
Yeah Jose would have fought through. But the problem here is that cocklover Ed Woodward. He never supported any coach else from Ferguson. That man should be sacked and put in the midst of Liverpool football touts

Are you kidding me? Fought through? Do u remember the point difference? Even Mourinho himself said it would take a miracle to make top 4. Ole made it look possible with his straight wins but as usual, the dreadful players never disappointed.

Mourinho and Utd were NEVER compatible and ll never be. He does not sound like a Utd manager, big mouthed and poor public relations. No top club would want such a person to lead their team. We gave to be realistic, 10 seasons and all we would hear from him would be excuses and need for more money to buy players.

thoollz:
Is mourinho not better? At least he took them to the Champions League with this team. Huddersfield wey dey dash teams goals, manutd dey struggle to beat. Next season go sweet Sha. Overrated teams and league.

Oga, Mourinho lost to this same team last season when there was all to play for. The teams' season ended in December; i was even shocked to see Utd compete for Champions League spot because they had already lost it since December.

BronzeMajik:
Sis, I regret meeting him, I entered into the relationship with 6 figures in my account, made extra more, the young man was always having financial issues, always asking for loans I know he wouldn't be able to pay back, begging for free money, bought him a phone which he later sold, mehn I give up on men especially Nigerian men, I just couldn't do it anymore I had to flee I'm beginning to rethink this love thing it's a scam there should be a written agreement before the start of every relationship.
may I never come across any broke nigga again in my life especially those from the Abuja broke guys association .

Key phrase; WRITTEN AGREEMENT.

OgaBuhari:
why are u so keen on this?
Oh u want me to expose your fellow hoes (you inclusive).
I'll ask u a question.
Why is it that if an alpha male working in a reputable company let's say Shell, ExxonMobil or Chevron walks up to girls (that's if you're worth it cos ur type looks like those cheap girls that attracts Okada and Keke drivers).
Why is it that you'll accept him instantly? Cos he has money (your god) and you'll be submissive to his dictates and he'll use u the way he wants and even if you catch him cheating you'll keep quiet cos u got no choice..
My advise for you is get a career for yourself and be an independent woman if your own and stop chasing these rich men if not you'll end up as a ritual victim.
NB : I'm working with Exxon and my eyes have seen things and I've lost interest in naija girls

You need not be with Exxon before you get to see these things; these days, na to play along sure pass. No need to kill myself with worries.

OgaBuhari:
shut up hypocrite.
It's all naija girls except u are American

Make she dey deceive herself. Smh.

Penisinpenisout:
So na una dey place women on salary? I thought it was a myth.

I swear

Okworigeorge:
Money over bitches

CONSTANTLY.

freemanbubble:
Exactly my bro
A Kenyan lady don first tell me something when i reason for Hours

She says the reason why Nigerians is not growing is because 95 percent of Nigerian girls don't actually contribute anything reasonable for the growth of the nation. That Nigerian male are the ones killing themselves on how the country will move forward
She said a Nigeria girl can not engage in an intelligent discussion for thirty minutes. Even when you spend money in educating them still they will behave like they are not educated

You have nailed it all; kponkwem.