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Capensis:
Your ideology does not tally with your Dad's. Your mother is who she is to the family because of your Dad's strategic home management skills. Your Dad never considered your mum as a partner that 'must' assist, he was excited that your mum was able to assist.

No one is saying that women should not assist, but expecting them to assist compulsorily is the root of the crisis in marriage.

I do not think marriage is compulsory naturally, after all, other animals do not get married, but if you must be married, understand that as a man it is not your responsibility to provide 101% of all in that marriage and it does not stop there, you must remain romantic, chief security officer, the caregiver and the breadwinner.

That is why you are called Husband from Husbandry etymology and Wife is called Mother, as in the giver of life. So, a woman must know how to birth beautiful kids and sustain the lives of families with great organic meals. Fathers are Heads of families.

You do not expect a woman to contribute to your responsibilities without dragging the headship of family with you. It is just natural.

This is not what most people expect to read, but truth is always bitter. I do not know why truth is always bitter, but it appears so.

Do that and you will not die young. You will enjoy your years with wisdom and always have a wet pusssy on your bed and wine in your cup.

Capensis:
Your Dad was successful in marriage because;

He took full responsibility of being a man, and provided everything his home needed and never ever expected your mum to fill in except when he was broke. That reflects on how much he appreciated the wife when she helped out when he was broke. If your Dad was a weak man, who always complain that his wife should assist him, when he was doing well, your mum would not have stepped in the way she did.

The problem with many men here is that they expect a woman to contribute to the home compulsorily as a partner. Marriage is not a partnership. It is okay to stay single and have baby mamas, but if you actually want to get married, you must understand that you went and buy this woman. Yes, bride price is cost price, you change her name to yours, and that again is the change of title, when you buy land or car, you change the name to yours, that is how you complete the purchase.

Then it is your responsibility to oil the car, fuel it, repair, SO YOU CAN ENJOY DRIVING. Same thing with marriage. I do not like coating words when I am operating on a higher level of understanding.

Trick is: Do not expect the woman to know anything, do anything. Just like the car, prepare to do everything to have a clean ride for a clean drive and if your wife happens to contribute, please act surprise and be surprised. This does not stop you from giving her massages and treating her like a queen.

Like I always conclude, I will always take your girls from you with these strategies, cos I am not just wealthy due to my disciplined strategies, I am also great in engineering women to angels. I know the laws of this universe and how to play it. Expect nothing, work for everything and go all out to win at anything AGAINST ALL ODDS.

Do not ever give up, if the prize is great. But ensure there is a prize.

ogawisdom:
@quote author=Martinez39 post=76140678] The world is something else. Paying the bills doesn't warrant insults. It is not written anywhere that it is the man that must provide any one can provide as long as they are both happy with the decision. I know women who have paid the bills. My father was once broke and jobless and my mother, being a nurse with a good salary, paid the bills and started frying akara and selling iceblock to assist with the bills. She still gave my father his respect and encouragement. Luckily my father got back on his feet big time. My dad really appreciated my mum for this that immediately he got back in his feet, he started assisting my mum in many things. Unfortunately when he told my mum not worry about something she wanted to go to the market to buy that he will go by himself and help her out, he died in a car accident later. If my mum can do this, what excuse does any lady have? Can you and Capensis tell me? Besides my mum was still beautiful and I was just 8 years of age. She could have insulted and left my dad for other rich men.


@ Martinez39

The Bible which is the word of God shared the roles, husband ,= provider
Wife ,= helper

Note the word help is discretionary ie if she wants to. Your mum was an exception and not the norm.

Pls don't go into marriage expecting your wife to be like your mum bc it may never happen, if it happens then count yourself lucky.

I hope your mum didn't pay rent for your dad while feeding him too

ogawisdom:
The lady is even feeding your jobless ass and u are here ranting like a mad dog.

A jobless man will be disrespected by even an angelic wife.

You failed in your responsibility of providing for your family, A man must always be able to pay
1. Rent
2. School fees
3. Feed the family

Capensis:
Are you married?

Famousqueen:
To devote more time on books

Lush100:
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seriously I couldn't wrap my head on what she was trying to project a husband's role is.

more like a slave in medieval times.

Capensis:
Will you pay attention and stop this victim mentality. It is either you will take advise, since you brought this matter to the court of public opinion, or you will narrate your experience, believe your wife is the worst woman and conclude that you are leaving a marriage. You are sounding emotional and your feedback system has totally clouded your judgment.

Pay attention:
Being a husband is a full-time job. Just like any job, it comes with serious responsibilities and repercussions if you fail to understand how the game is played.

1. It is your responsibility to get the money, pay the rent, pay kids school fees. You are the chief medical officer of your home, so everyone's health including your wife's and kids', are under your care.

2. You are the chief security officer of your home, you must check that all doors are locked at night and ensure the safety of everyone in the family.

3. You are the chief romance officer, you must master how to play women with sweet words, give her massage every evening, and make sweet love to her during the massage sessions, and I mean this. Get a massage table, it goes for about 180K to 300K for a good one. If you cant afford that, then buy massage mat. Prepare the oil and get some candles.

4. You must join her in the kitchen, even if there is a maid to do the chores and help her out, you must learn this. Wash those plates sometimes.

5. You must lie down with that woman on bed after sex, hold her face, and tell her truths and lies of how you love her. Then if you have nothing more to day, do some gossiping with her. Stroke her nicely and tell her how hard you are working to ensure your family is financial stable for the next 100 years.

6. You must stop thinking like your ancestors. Define your own path and ignore customary and traditional ways of running your home. Times have changed. Why wont you fetch water and wash your own hand. Seems she is the one doing all the kitchen work and you are the African man waiting to be served. It is not mandatory, besides do you know if her mother used to serve her father that way? It might be she got a different kind of training.

7. Do not ever think you have done enough, cos you havent done jack. If you feel that your wife is cheating, then rent a place somewhere else and move towards a different location. It does not matter if you own the house you are living now. Go and rent someplace nice for a year and move there and change your children's school so as to forget the shame and embarrassment your quarrel may have caused. If it is your house, you can return back after a year.

8. Always remember that most women are like babies. You must master how to lie to them if you know that truth will hurt. Learn all those skills from yahoo boys how they control white women and use it for your marriage. If you do it right, your wife might be giving your pocket money sometimes and you all will fall in love again.

You think your wife is bad? You have no idea. No one will tell you what is going on in their homes.

Master how to manipulate women, and you will control them like a intimacy gadget.

Chubhie:
She insults you,sends the accountant to embarrass you,the sister and the family also insults you?

Role reversal. She's now in a place of power and control while you are weakened.

How were you treating her and family when you were at the peak of your powers?

What are the lessons this situation is currently showing you?

What are your plans for a sizzling comeback to reclaim,restore and install true exemplary leadership?

You could put in the work and reclaim your world or take the easy way out.

Retrain your mind and hands to always get your water to wash your hands and serve yourself. Now, if someone perhaps your wife or maid offers to help out of love or service, be grateful and let them know about it.

Treasured4eva:
... She started as a terrible girlfriend and ended as a bad wife.I pray my daughters don't ever take after their mother because I can't wish a fellow man what I've experienced for almost 8 years.No body should ever marry a man or woman with flaws thinking they'll change with time;they don't change,they only get worse.

chenzen:
l actually groomed mine into loyalty... l can actually travel to Dubai knowing fully well that her cunt will still remain intact when l return.

Rextizz:
I've told my guy to never date a Nigerian girl, he should upgrade, but the dude will never listen, now his useless girlfriend cheated on him with her ex, he found out when he checked her phone.

I guess he has learnt his lesson the hard way, to think this is the same girl my pal spent money on, the fool didn't mind going broke just to make her happy but the ungrateful bitch finally broke his heart, am just laughing at him.

abbaashiru:
Okay Sir... Now think about it this way, as a child is being born in Europe, so is another one in Africa and/or Asia... This tells you God is everywhere. ...

idreezbaba:
I can't believe any sane person would have voted for buhari..Nigeria you are all fooooools

TheGuyNextDoor:
Most APC supporters beg more than almajiris sef...na me dey borrow my cousin money and he no go pay back. thank God his wife is pregnant now and he will need my help. if he complains of hardship in the country, I will just tell him to go complain to Buhari...I will show him

TheGuyNextDoor:
Most APC supporters beg more than almajiris sef...na me dey borrow my cousin money and he no go pay back. thank God his wife is pregnant now and he will need my help. if he complains of hardship in the country, I will just tell him to go complain to Buhari...I will show him

Biglittlelois:
Pls people, before you give almajiri and beggers alms, remind them they voted for Buhari, they should enjoy the suffering, we have to make them know where the poverty comes from.

Ishilove:
Reason why you should keep your friends away from your husband, especially if they have hoe tendencies.

Mrjo:
oga I like the boy's fighting spirit he is fit to carry on, so what's the boss problem?

LiveByNight:
Cry of pains

You know buhari has lost

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Capensis:
Why would anyone want Buhari to continue being President after such an abysmal 4 years. Are you guys really humans ? Other countries are developing techies and going to space and you mor0ns want to stay on Earth and live as animals.

If Atiku does not win this election, then I pity you all.

I am not biased, but why let illiterate govern you in 21st century. A man who is not even ready to improve his brain capacity.

You all should pray Atiku wins.