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A solid frienship is the foundation for a happy relationship. Infact thats the secret of a successful relationship. Rushing into a relationship without getting to know the other person well is not the right step to take. You'd only be doing yourself more harm than good, should you overlook the need to be friends first before any other thing.

Having a plan B saves you a lot of pain should your relationship crash anytime. Cos its the absent of any alternative plan that makes heartbreak very painful. Girls are aware of this, that's why most of them usually have a stand by guy while in a relationship. And as a result, you hardly see a girl bn heartbroken that much after any break up. Compare to a guy. Na guys dey feel am pass, cos they dont usually have any solid back up plan...

when he was struggling, girls were turning him down. But now that he's a big boy enjoying oil money, girls are leaving their boyfriends and running to him for marriage...to most of these big boys, na payback time!

According to a girl I spoke with recently, she says every girl has the right to ask her boyfriend for money or assistance all the time, cos he is her boo. She went on to say its every guy's responsibility to take care of his girlfriend always. Failure to do that, could make the girl turn to other guys for help. The girl even used some scriptures in the Bible to support her points. That every girl has the right to demand money from her guy whenever she wants....But when I said only when its necessary, she said anytime a girl ask her guy for money is necessary. Trust naija girls to always have an excuse for whatever they do.

This lady says she's the Kim Kardashian of Nigeria cos of her shoot out bum bum, #naijakim. Check out her picture posted on facebook today. what do you think?

Some beautiful girls are usually under a lot of pressure to help change the condition of her family. You see such girls getting so much pressure from parents or siblings to marry a rich guy that would help better their lives or condition. A friend of mine once knew a very beautiful and sexy girl, whose brothers kept pressurizing her to use her body to get money from men and give to them. Her brothers were virtually on her neck, reminding her of the condition of the family and how she could use her beauty to attract rich guys, make money from them and use it to better the condition of their family. He said the girl had no other choice than to succumb to their wishes. But when yawa gas, this same brothers of hers would be the first to call her a loose girl. Beautiful girls are always made to be the escape goat in everything. Their beauty at times is more of a curse than a blessing. And most beautiful girls usually carry a lot of burden on their fragile shoulders and constantly looked upon by her family as the last hope/saving grace, if she's from a poor family. That's why they look out for rich dudes to date and marry, cos of the pressure and expectations from her family.

I've met girls who usually claim they dont get carried away by the number of advances they get from guys daily, only to see same girls tripping and becoming so full of themselves later cos of the numerous guys wooing them everyday. It seems majority of naija girls cant handle such. Cos the thing tend to get to their head, and before you know it, she'd start seeing herself as kim kardashian.

Most people are fond of doing this when they notice how close their girlfriend or boyfriend is to a particular guy or girl, especially after going through their phone and seeing a lot of disturbing text messages. Some go to the extent of deleting the other girl or guy's number and messages on their partner's phone as to prevent him or her from contacting or communicating with the person. which to me is a very wrong move, cos the ex or toaster can always call so far he or she still has your boyfriend or girlfriend's contact on his phone. A girl did something similar recently by deleting the number and msgs between her boyfriend and another girl, whom her guy is also dating. She did that, so as to prevent them from communicating. Only for the second girlfriend to call her guy right in her presence some days later. She was so angry and is now thinking of walking out of the relationship. The best thing to do in such a situation is to let the person be...Cos,you can't stop a fly from perching on faeces..

Most of us girls are selfish naturally. That no matter what a guy does for a girl, it wont stop her from hurting him whenever she wants to. Cos our personal interest and happiness always comes first in everything.

Many of the girls you see getting married and behaving responsibly afterwards were once bad girls who had mulple boyfriends, had enough pre marital sex, and did all sort of rubbish as a single girl. But immediately after getting married they tend to change for good. By discarding their past life, bad habits, ex lovers and friends they felt might be bad influence to their marriage. Most girls usually plan this before getting married. No wonder you see many of them enjoying themselves and having enough fun with guys while single, with the hope of turning a new leaf once they find a wonderful suitor and also get married. And such transformation is common with igbo girls. Seeing them acting all sweet, quiet, submissive, godly, loyal, faithful and committed as a married woman, one would never thought they were rascals, sex freaks, irresponsible, serial cheats, loose and adventurous before getting married. Though some of them are usually lucky to start afresh after getting married, while others usually find it difficult getting over a bad past. They just cant stop looking back

A girl is currently being threatened by another girl over a guy she claims is her husband to be. She has been making series of threats to the girl to leave her guy alone. The other girl (who works in the same office with her fiance) is so scared at the moment, and doesnt want to have anything to do with the guy. But the guy wont let her be. Dont know why most guys are like that. Always trying to toy with a girl's heart. But its not fair.

There is a friend of mine who is torn between two girls presently. The one he seem to love and wants to marry doesn't know how to cook and isn't that domesticated. while the other one is a wonderful girl, a great cook and domesticated. who apart from being loving and caring, is also very good with cleaning, washing and cooking. Now, he doesn't know if he should go ahead and marry the one that has all the wifey qualities, or marry the one he loves but who doesn't know to cook nor possess enough wifey qualities...

10 Things A Guy Does when He's Heartbroken

10. Hate Girls generally & Ends up becoming a badoo

10 Things A Guy Does when He's Heartbroken

9. Becomes Sober

10 Things A Guy Does when He's Heartbroken

8. Despises her so much

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7. Begs her again

10 Things A Guy Does when He's Heartbroken

6. Stalks his ex

10 Things A Guy Does when He's Heartbroken

5. Have Fun just to forget about his ex

10 Things A Guy Does when He's Heartbroken

4. He Hooks up with other girls to console himself

10 Things A Guy Does when He's Heartbroken

3. Gossip About the girl

10 Things A Guy Does when He's Heartbroken

2. Insults her if she doesn't want to give him another chance

These are some of the things most guys usually do anytime a girl dumps their ass.

1. Begs the girl to reconsider/take him back

Most girls tend to believe been given money regularly by their boyfriend or any guy is a sign of caring on his part. But what if he's just doing that to get what he wants from the girl...(which is sex in most cases)

Imagine a guy coming home to drink beer after church service, and a single girl rushing off to church for fellowship after having sex with a guy. Who are they deceiving?

As a guy, have you ever bn given such a condition or any other condition by a girl before accepting to be either your girlfriend or your wife? You know naija girls like giving guys conditions at times, just to test the guy's love or to know if he is for real. Imagine a guy being told by a girl to become a member of her church first, before she can accept his marriage proposal. We have girls who prefer to marry only their church members. And if you are not a member, such girls wont even consider your proposition at all. But do guys give girls condition before marrying them? I don't think so!

There are some sex styles most girls ain't comfortable with when having sex. And as a result they tend to be selective in bed (when having sex). Many of them are usually more comfortable with the missionary style alot, but distaste the doggy style. Which they feel is derogatory and meant for slutty girls. And more so, some sex styles are painful to some girls, but choose not to complain in order not to spoil the moment or get the guy pissed off. Atimes, some girls do experience stomach pains after having sex cos of a particular sex style used on her by the guy. And you know most guys always like to show their sexual expertise on every girl they meet. Not minding or caring if he is hurting her or knacking her to the ground...

To some girls, love matters alot in a relationship or marriage. And such girls will never compromise when it comes to choosing a suitor to marry. Heard of a girl who turned down a very rich dude marriage proposal cos she doesnt love him. The rich dude (who works as a staff with a very big oil company) was shocked that the girl could turn down a golden opportunity which many girls out there would jump at, or die for. Since every girl wants to date and marry a rich and comfortable dude these days... Never knew we still have girls who believe in love and will only marry for love and not for money or comfort....

Most girls are fond of doing/saying this, just to paint themselves as a responsible girl. Lying to whosoever cares to believe, that her ex boyfriend didnt see her pant talkless of having sex with her all tru the period they dated....which in most cases are bunch of lies... Naija girls and lies be like 5 & 6!

Naija girls are beginning to like and crave for sex more than guys these days. Any small thing, she don come your house to sleep and have sex within a week of meeting her. No more dignity among girls these days. Everything na sex, sex, sex. If you dont touch them, they will start saying you are not man enough. And its like some dont even mind having sex while in their period, with the way they have sex almost every day with guys. Girls and sex are now like 5 & 6. Anywhere girls dey, you go see sex.

Having realized that nothing can stop a guy from cheating, most girls would prefer their boyfriends to be discreet about his cheating/womanizing habit, rather than allow her to find out or catch him in the act. But what good would that be when she's already suspicious of his unfaithfulness? Is it not the same thing? And despite being aware of her guy's cheating habit, a lot of girls seem to compromise these days, just to be in a relationship or have a guy to call her own. But this is more like taking refuge inside a house without a roof...

Heard the story of a guy who ran away after collecting the traditional list of a girl he wanted to marry, from her parents. The guy said the things listed for him to buy and bring for the traditional wedding were too many and exorbitant. And as as result he decided not marry the girl again. Dont no why some parents like over pricing their daugthers when suitors come to ask for her hand in marriage. Its not right when some people intend using their daughters as a mean of making money.

Atimes, when you meet a girl, you tend to feel she is the best, and you always enjoy being around her all the time, cos of the way she makes herself look like an angel to you, not knowing she was very cruel to her last ex boyfriend. Girls are fond of acting sweet and nice when they start dating a guy (meet a new guy). Doing her best to look like an angel to her new guy, while concealing every trace or evidence of her cruel past and bad treatment to guys in the past.... Guys need to look well before jumping into the arms of any girl. You might be dating a dangerous damsel...who might end up putting you in distress.