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I was hanging out with my friends yesterday evening oh, so we ordered for fresh fish and drinks, the next person beside us came in with his girlfriend and ordered drinks and fish too. They are drinking and holding their hands together, the lady was resting on the guys shoulder. So these people were having fun, before we knew it, a woman walked in with a Baby and the baby is not up to 4 months, She dragged a chair and came to join the man doing ROMANCE With his girlfriend. The girl was looking at the woman with such a Surprise look, why the man was so quite.
Then the woman called the Bar attendant, please give me a bottle of malt and Fresh fish, they served her. Then her baby started crying and she fed her baby and continued eating . She now called the bar attendant to call people in the kitchen which he did, then she ordered for two fresh fish (point and kill), they told her its #1500 each she said she needs two of the fish. And ordered for Ise-ewu 3 full mortar, they did and packaged all for her.
She now ordered for 7 cans of malt which dey gave her. All these while the man was kind of scared for the woman not to create a Scene at the joint, while the girl he came with was no longer comfortable.
When she was about to go, the bar man said "Please madam your money" and she replied "My husband here will pay". She quietly Drop her baby on her husbands Laps and went with her Goodies home.
People there started laughing and talking, while the girl was ashamed to leave the joint. I and my crew follow too and laughed oh. The man now asked of the bill, o boy the bill no be here oh. He now called the bar attendant, gave the guy his ATM card to withdraw money. When the guy came back, he settled the bill and left there in SHAME.
I Respect that woman a lot, she didn't make noise, but her Action spoke for her.

I've come to notice that most girls usually dont hide their age anymore once they are happily married with kids. You see them saying or displaying their true age with pride, and also letting you know she's happily married through the wedding ring on her finger or the picture of her cute baby and husband...

Wont it be nice to do something like that...mtcheew.

The way this pre wedding thing is bn carried, very soon they'd start taking pics with wild animals as pre wedding pics. Our parents were never into all these, but still enjoyed their marriage till old age.

I once had a discussion wt a lady about marriage and how most women used to depend on their husband for everytin. Which according to her is not right. She went on to say she wud never depend on her husband when she gets married. Since she already has enough money of her own (she is from a rich home), she would only demand her husband to take care of their kids very well, while she takes care of herself with her own money made from her sweat...she said when a woman depends on her husband for everything, it reduces her value before him. That its advisable for every woman to be self sufficient...

A lot of girls can relate with this, especially if you have a twin sister who is finer than you, or a sister who seem to get all the attention and attraction from guys cos of her beauty. Having a very beautiful sister as a girl can be intimidating most times. Especially when both of you go out and she seem to be the one getting all the attention and hits from guys. And if she is the exposed type that knows how to dress finer or better than you, she don finish work be that. Just like a girl I know, who feels till tomorrow that her immediate younger sister is finer than her and has also bn lucky with guys, while she keep ending up with the wrong guys. And whenever you see both together, she's always looking inferior to her much beautiful younger sister...the 'psychological' intimidation is just too much.

There are guys who are married to women who find it difficult to trust them, and as a result such a wife is always giving him close marking. Anytime he receives a call on his phone, goes out to see someone, comes back home late or try transacting any business with a lady, the wife will always be suspicious of him. Nothing he says is enough to make her trust him. And women who do this a lot are those ones married to handsome and successful men. Guys who are always surrounded or bugged by girls...The issue of trust is always a problem between such couples. Having that kind wife, means no girl is allowed to come near you, for fear of bn accused of infidelity.

To most married men, there is nothing wrong in having a girlfriend by the side. They feel its a normal thing that is necessary to make a man think straight and also balance the equation. I was with a married man some days ago, when one of his girlfriends called him on phone. He wasn't happy with the way she used to call him all the time and warned her about it. After the call, he started explaining to me why he keep girls outside despite bn married, but that while doing such one should make sure his wife doesn't get to know about it, and the mistress should also be kept in check in order to save your marriage. And I guess that's what majority of married guys are doing these days. They all have mistresses outside. Cos they dont see anything wrong in it. But to me, its very bad. And such shouldn't be encouraged at all. Cos, no man would be happy should his wife keep lovers as well.

Another way some girls like friend-zoning a guy is by preventing him from buying or spending his money on her. Like going out, and being the one to buy and pay for the drinks instead of allowing the guy (toaster) to pay. Doing that is a way of making the guy realize they can only be friends and nothing more. I know a lady who does this to a particular stubborn toaster who has bn on her case for weeks now. She doesnt allow him to buy anything for her or pay for her whenever they go out. She has virtually turn the guy into her escort, and automatically friend zoned him for life...

Most times, a lot of sweet girls usually changed into something else once they get married. Especially becoming mean or hostile to their inlaws. Some of them do this just to secure her space or scare away any unwanted intruders from her home. Such transformation from being a loving sweet girlfriend into a mean and confrontational wife gives not a few guys enough cause for concern. Many of them usually find it difficult to understand the reasons for her sudden change and hostile attitude towards the same inlaws she used to warm up to prior to marrying her. If being bad to her inlaws is understandable, but doing the same to their housemaid is condemnable... A lot of married women are guilty of such, and I just dont understand why most women change when they get married...

If you have any guy who is always pestering you for a relationship and stalking you (despite telling him you are already in a relationship), simply give him your handbag to carry for you since he enjoys following you upandan...like a bouy bouy

It's so funny how girls lament over the number of friends they have on facebook. And many of them are always fond of threatening to unfriend or block guys especially, on facebook at the slightest provocation (as if doing that is a big deal). Yet, these girls are th same people who go on instagram and twitter begging guys to follow them....imagine.

There are guys who out of crazy love go out of their way to rent apartment for their girlfriends especially if the girl is in schul, just to show how much he cares about her. But such gesture in most cases, dont usually turn out well for guys who do this, should the girl start using the house to harbor her other lovers in school. Gettin to find out is like rubbing salt to an injury... And not a few guys have experienced such in the hands of girls... If na you, how would u feel, and wetin u go do?

A girl is currently at the brink of losing her boyfriend of many years to another girl. And she doesnt know whether to fight for her guy or simply allow the other girl to snatch him from her. Though she and her guy are planning to get married, and both of them have also met their parents. But this new girl in her guy's life is seriously trying to sink their boat, and the girl seem to be helpless and doesn't know what to do to save her relationship

Some guys cant help feeling insecure especially if he is dating a very beautiful girl every guy wants. Some go to the extent of watching and monitoring every movement of such a girlfriend. Always doubting her and also asking his friends to help watch her for him. The worst part of it, is if he keeps hearing rumors or have friends who always tell him bad things about his girlfriend, he will always feel insecure and would do anything to justify his fears...

There are some people (unmarried couples) who really cant do without each other. Even when they seperate, they always find a way of getting back together. Nothing seem to make them hate each other forever. Even when they move on to other persons (start a new relationship with someone else), they always keep in touch and also sustain their feelings for each other. Such a couple are friends for life. They breath and live like one soul. They might quarrel often or break up, but will always find a way to settle or come back together no matter what. Even getting married to someone else, may not be enough to seperate such a couple. If you are dating any girl or guy who has a very strong bond or attachment to his or her ex, that no matter what you do, you cant stop him or her from being with his/her ex, you just have to take it like that or move on. Cos such bond is usually unbreakable...

Meeting or having a new friend, is just like when rain falls and stops...it starts gradually, rains heavilly before stoping gradually and completely. Just like when a girl is 'inlove' and so crazy about the new guy she just met, only to start losing interest in the friendship later. This is common with a lot of guys and girls, who develop this hot and cold feelings when meeting and starting a new relationship with someone. The only thing that keeps the friendship going, its the understanding, and connection initiated when the rain was falling heavilly (when they were crazy about each other). Like providing an umbrella to protect and prevent the other person from getting wet or a sweater to keep the other person warm during the rain....thats what true friendship is all about... A friendship that doesn't end well is like a flood that occur after an heavy rain...

Imagine a girl that left her boyfriend for another guy, only for her to be used and dumped later by the new guy. Now she is heartbroken, sober and vulnerable, and indirectly trying to get back with her ex by being caring, respectful and loving towards him. Most girls like learning their lessons the hard way. Its until when they get hurt, thats when they tend to know who is good for them. But when they are hurting a guy cos of another guy, they usually feel they are doing the right thing, only to get their fingers burnt and ass dumped later.

There are girls who are somehow tired of bn a girl and tired of all those things that girls go through normally... Such as bn bothered by guys every day, having to wash and change her undies everyday, having her heart broken by guys, the issue of having sex, coping with menstral pain and her menstration every month, having to compromise her dignity just to get some things, bothering about making her hair all the time and struggling with the right make up for her face.... Some of them are so tired of all these, and wont mind swaping or changing their sex for a male even if its only for a day. And even trying to become a tomboy by some, cant still prevent her from going through any of these. Cos, a girl will always be a girl.

Some guys do have girlfriends who usually insist on no sex before marriage. And most times, they seem to have no other choice than to abide by it. But some of them who cant cope with it, tend to catch their fun elsewhere while pretending to be celibate or in agreement with their girlfriend's no sex until marriage arrangement. But some of the girls who do this (refuse their boyfriend sex), sometimes secretly go out to have sex with other guys. And its cos of this, guys with such girlfriends usually dont keep their eggs in one basket...

There are guys, who seem to be scared of commitment. Once their girlfriend start talking or pestering them about marriage, they get so uncomfortable. Some guys are even ready to dump such a girl and move on to another girl, just to avoid being pressurized into getting marriage by any girl. They tend to run away from it, as if getting marriage would take away a lot from them...

A lot of naija girls are fond of doing this. Imagine after acquiring a degree or becoming a graduate, they end up becoming a full time house wife once they get married. A lot of girls end up not making use of the degree or qualifications she sweated, struggled and sacrificed a lot to acquire in school. If that's the case, what is the need of going to school, if they dont intend using it to improve their lives professionally. Maybe, they feel getting married and becoming an housewife has more value than any university degree....

How can a girl make her cheating boyfriend pay for cheating on her and making her to look stupid? Sleep with his friend to spite him, cheat on him with someone else, forgive him or just move on with her life... Cos a girl is presently thinking of paying her cheating boyfriend (she caught him red handed) back in his own coin.

There are guys who treat their wives like a demi god...adoring her and virtually worshiping the ground she walks on. Such guys dont joke with their wives at all. Some of them even wash their wives's clothes, carry the baby for her, cook for her at times, and also listen to whatever she says. There is even a guy I heard, drops whatever he is doing (even if he's at work) once his wife calls him on phone and ask him to come home. Learnt this attitude of his, has gotten him into trouble on several occasions at work, with his superiors. Never knew such guys still exist. Imagine, putting your wife first before any other person or thing. Is this a sign of love or what? They say most of the guys who behave like that, do so, when they find themselves overcoming other wealthy or better guys to marry a beautiful girl wanted by so many suitors. Yeah, that's possible, especially when an ordianry guy end up marrying a very beautiful girl he never gave himself any chance of marrying or being with. He's bound to adolize her and also treat her like a queen for choosing him over other guys. But even at that, is it proper for a guy to be at her beck and call even when he is at work? Cos, should anything happen to his job cos of her, she'd be the first to blame him or ridicle him.

Which is better or safer? A girl going to spend nights at a guy's place or the guy (her boyfriend in most cases) comig to spend a wkend at her place? To me, all na the same thing. But to most girls, they feel allowing ur guy to spend a wkend or night at her place is not proper and cud also make the girl looks slutty. And more so, it could also give her a bad name among her neighbors. Thats why most girls prefer a girl going to spend a wkend at her guy's place rather than the guy comin to spend the wkend or night at her place. But are they not the same thing. There is no how one can camouflag sin. Cos sin na sin....no matter how you try to make it look finer or better. Either way, sex will certainly take place.

A guy who is dating more than one girl at the same time is not only creating a hole in his pocket, but also digging his own grave. Imagine having different girls coming to spend a week/wkend with you/at your place every week, and doing all you can to make sure none of them meets or clash at your place. The stress you go through while trying to hide each girl from the other is enough to make a guy age faster. Dont allow greed to send you to an early grave....

I remember those days when mothers used to warn their daughters to beware of guys and not to trust any guy cos of their lies and manipulations. Well, I guess girls no longer need their mom or anybody to tell them to be careful when falling in love wt a guy these days since they(girls) now know better. Even a church girl knows loving a guy is like seeing a fire and jumping into it. Guys have so messed up love and relationship, that most girls are now scared of loving a guy. The way guys use and dump girls anyhow these days, girls are so afraid of giving their hearts to a guy and getting hurt in the end...And its cos of this, some grls give in to the demand of sex by their guys in order to avoid bn hurt. But sex cant save ur heart. Cos a guy will always be a guy... You know what they are.

Breaking up with someone whom you ve spent or given so much for, is usually not a sweet experience for many. And for those who feel pained or used, you see them talking bad or ill of their ex boyfriend or girlfriend. Making it look as if the other person is a terrible person. Such is common with girls mostly. Immediately a girl breaks up with a guy, she start telling anyone who cares to listen bad things about the guy. Like castigating him for his bad character (which she didnt notice until after the break up), some of the bad things he indulges in or how uneducated or backward her ex is. She usually say all these with so much bitterness and with the intention of tarnishing her ex boyfriend image before others. But is such action right? Does it make any sense at all. Why voice such out or expose your ex' secrets and flaws cos you two are no longer together. Habits you were able to overlook or tolerate while dating him is now something you destaste so much... When you are hurt, going on a revenge mission would only worsen your pain. Just let go and move on...thats the best way to heal your pain

Due to the alarming rate of unemployment in the country presently, anybody that is working should be thankful to God. And cos of that, ladies no longer care about the kind of work a guy does these days. They are willing to date a guy so far he has a job. All they care about is for a guy to have a job, no matter how dirty or less paying the job is. Gone are those days, when most girls would only want to date bankers, lawyers, doctors or engineers cos of their status and financial capabilities. But presently, any job would do, so far you can take care of her needs...

If you check it out very well, we have more wifey materials than husband materials in our society presently. Cos, its not by having a car, a nice job, steady income, and a nice apartment alone that makes a guy an husband material. There are also other important qualities he needs to possess before he can now be referred to as a proper husband material. Cos some men are not usually mentally ready, spiritually sound, or understanding enough to go into marriage. Thats why you see such men having issues with their wives few months into their marriage. But unlike ladies, lots of them are wifey materials. Though some of them dont have the right character to become a wife, but majority of them are more spiritually sound, cultured, calm, wise, prudent, supportive and more understanding, godly, religious than guys. Such ladies are already groomed for marriage...when you see them, you will know. And unlike in the case of being an husband material (which is usually whenever a guy feels he now has the means to get married and start a family), being a wifey material doesnt happen overnight, its usually a grooming process embarked upon by a girl (who desire to be one) right from a young age, in order to be a good wife to her future husband and a pride to her family.

She can't stop looking stylish and sexy, all the time...

Imagine after dating and also sleeping with different guys as a girl, you can't boast of having a career, a profession or a job, your own apartment, a car or even finding a responsible man to marry and settle down with. The only things you can boast of for all your years of sleeping around with guys are just your expensive mobile phone(s), the weave on your head, expensive bags, shoes and clothes, and nothing else (which is the case with most girls). How do you feel when you find yourself in such a situation. when you realize there is no gain nor joy in living an irresponsible life. If that's the case, then follow the good path... You don't need any man to be happy or fulfilled in life. Cos sex wont take you anywhere!

Usually after every breakup you see either the guy or the girl doing his/her best to find a better or finer person as a replacement just to prove a point. Such things is common mostly with girls. In order to spite or make their ex boyfriend jealous or run back to them, they tend to choose a very fine and richer dude as a new boyfriend. And even showing him off on social media for her last ex to see just to prove a point. Cos while a guy may seek to find a better girl as his new girlfriend, a girl usually prefer to date a finer guy as her new boyfriend in order to use it to spite her ex. You know girls like making things personal. And tend to believe they are a step ahead in relationship matters.... But which one is more important, getting a finer person or a better person?