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When you are helping a girl or after helping her either with money or other favors, simply forget about it. Cos she has already forgotten about it as well. When it comes to moving on or erasing a past, girls are very good at it. In fact, they invented it. So when you do anything for a girl, expecting her to show appreciation, remember or return the favor tomorrow/in future, you're only wasting your time. Cos helping a girl is like pouring water into a basket. It usually comes to nothing. Cos most girls hardly appreciate and might not even see your help/favor to them as anything. You'd only end up among the list of guys whom she probably had used to re-brand herself or better her life. To her, its all part of her hustle...So if you want to help any girl, just do it and forget about it. Don't even remember you did anything for her. Just believe you're doing it (helping her) for God.

These days, the chasing and dating of underage girls is now a competition among most married men. Who dont care if these girls are their daughters' age mates. As they compete among themselves to woo and lure young girls to bed by giving them money, gifts and expensive handsets... And they no longer hide their lust for small girls any more. As you see them drooling and daydreaming anytime they see a sexy young girl...I feel for their wives at home, who are now made to not only share their husband with all these small girls, but also compete with them for her husband's love and attention.

Sometimes you hear girls talking about the woman her ex got married to, or how she is better than her ex boyfriend's wife in every area. Some girls even boast to their friends, about an ex begging to come back and also how he regrets marrying another woman instead of her. I laugh whenever I hear such talks, cos guys tend to talk like that just to continue sleeping with an ex girlfriend. And more so, why didnt he marry you, if you are indeed better than the woman he got married to? Girl, stop deceiving yourself, and dont let any man deceive you as well...Every man wants to marry a good girl that would make a good wife. Some girls are suitable to guys only as a girlfriend or mistress. Its left for you to make yourself a wifey material, and stop acting like girlfriend material only.

As a guy or married man, will you allow your girlfriend/wife to call or have any of your male friend's phone number. Will you be cool with it? Some guys usually frown at it. They dont like it, and would never encourage their wives or girlfriends to have any of their friends' phone number, talkless of calling him on phone. Its a risk a lot of guys wont like to take at all. Such could put the relationship or marriage under a lot of stress. And more so, you can never trust a friend. Now that guys dont mind sharing or having access to someone else' girlfriend (or wife). Even most girls too wont allow their guy to call or have any of her friends' phone number. Almost every girl dont like it whenever their boyfriend try to call any of her friends or collect their phone numbers. It makes her angry and suspicious. The only phone No she might want her guy to have could be that of her sister incase of an emergency. But some girls dont allow that as well. Cos you cant leave your tubers of yam with a goat, and expect to find them intact/untouched when you return.

I met a girl recently who told me she doesn't like or fancy tall guys cos they tend to be arrogant and pompous to girls. That tall guys always want girls to jump on them and beg for their attention cos they are tall. That they do shakara for girls alot. Well, she is not far from the truth, cos I've also noticed it in some tall guys. They tend to feel too big, cos they are tall

I've noticed that most broke guys ain't respected nor regarded by their girlfriends. Infact, some are treated like poo by girls. But compare to a rich dude, he is usually treated with respect by his girlfriend(s) cos of his money, and also cos of the way he spoils her with enough gifts and financial assistance. Some girls can even lick a guy's ass once she discovers he is very loaded and comfortable. You know girls worship money. They love money. Cos money makes a woman feel good and happy...

If you are a guy and you have girlfriend and also have lots of female friends or admirers, you'll understand what I'm talking about. Girls usually don't like competition. And some of them are ready to break up with their guy if he happens to get a lot of attention from other girls. I have a friend whose girlfriend didn't find it funny when a lot of his female friends and Exs started calling him on the day of his birthday just to wish him a happy birthday. She became jealous and felt intimidated by the number of female admirers he has. But funny enough, if a guy seem not to be attractive to other girls, his own girlfriend will even be wondering what could be the problem. Some girls love it when other girls admire their boyfriends, while other girls usually feel threatened or jealous as a result. Girls are just too complicated themselves.

A working class lady tend to be more committed, independent and also more matured when it comes to relationship issue. They are not greedy and hardly play games unlike girls that are still in school. A working class lady is focused and ready to settle down. She doesnt come with baggages. She is a wifey material in every area...and dating a working class lady is more exciting and fulfiling. With both of you having a clear goal and direction aspa taking the relationship to the next level...

Like I said in one of my posts, there is no girl without a boyfriend. Even a Junior secondary school girl has a boyfriend. Every girl seem to be taken. Every girl you meet is in a relationship (which is a fact). So, what do you do when a girl you like is already in a relationship? Do you wait, wish and hope for her to break up with her boyfriend so that you can take over. Or create problems for her in her relationship, so that you can snatch her from her boyfriend? Which is what is happening these days. Since every girl seem to be taken, guys are simply snatching other people's girlfriends.

A Player hurt girls while a loverboy gets hurt by girls. Which one are you? Are you very good with girls, gifted with moves and lyrics that sweep girls off their feet and right into your bed. Or you are the type that get played by girls and run home to cry each time you are hurt by a girl.

I find such to be a very wicked thing to do to a girl. And guys tend to do this a lot. Imagine, after sleeping with her, wasting her time and taking much of her youth, only to later dump her and go for a much younger girl as a wife. You think karma will let you live in peace when you do something like that to any girl? And what should a girl do to any guy that dumps her after several years of dating? Cos its not right to treat any girl like that? Some guys are fond of bringing up any kind of excuse just to dump a girl once he's tired of her. Some guys use tribe or their parents' disapproval of the girl as an excuse to end a relationship. Imagine if such is done to any of your sisters. How would you feel? No wonder most girls don't bank or live on the promises of guys these days. Once a girl realize or see that her boyfriend is not serious about marriage after six months or a year into their relationship, she takes off (leaves him for a much serious guy) without notice. You wont blame them. Cos, these days, there is no time to waste...

A guy once told me how he fought a guy cos of a girl in Port Harcourt some time ago. The guy he fought in public happened to be the girl's ex boyfriend who kept stalking and troubling her after she broke up with him. He said him and the girl's ex both got into a street fight when he tried to harass her in his presence. At the end of it all, he was able to win over the girl. But funny enough, him and the girl are no longer together presently. which is the case with most girls. They keep changing boyfriends no matter the sacrifice you do for them.

Lack of love or mutual feelings between a couple, has been attributed as the reason why some people cheat on their partners in their relationship or marriage. Especially if you are dating or getting married to someone you don't have feelings for but just had to be with him or her due to some circumstances beyond their control. Imagine living under the same roof with someone you don't love. Guess sight of him or her could make you feel so uncomfortable. Someone I used to know once had a similar experience, when he was forced to marry a girl he didn't love, after putting her in the family way. According to him, they only had sex once. And that was it. Reluctantly,they ended up becoming husband and wife...Imagine being in a union without love...if na you, what would you do in such a situation, go ahead and marry him/her?

Is it my eyes or ears or does it seem like when men talk about sex abuse they experienced as kids they talk about it with so much pride and excitement.
They proudly tell you how this aunty dis- virgined them when they were 6-16 years of age and how the aunty thought them all about sex and it even helped them to know how to pleasure a woman now as an adult, they don't we to be affected by those experiences.
On the other hand, The ladies are scarred by the experience and claim it affected them so badly, with some saying it put them off men and all.
So why is that men find it amusing and funny and a nice memory to remember while women get sad, depressed and angry over theirs?.
Is it society that program us to feel bad about some things as women while men feel differently?
It confuses me and leaves me wondering.

Its common to see a guy get nervous before or on the eve of his wedding. But what could be the reason for this? Is it the fear of losing his freedom or the opportunity to flirt and bed any girl he wants. Or is it due to the fear of the responsibilities that comes with being a married man? In life, everything has both good and bad side. And taking such a step is part of being a man. So perish any fear or doubt you may have, and go ahead and marry your bride...Being married is better than being single, anytime, any day.

You and I know whenever a girl says she doesnt have a boyfriend, she is not saying the truth (in most cases). Almost every Naija girl say this or keep mum about their relationship status whenver you ask them, cos its only few girls that are sure of their partners and where their relationship are headed (altar bound)...while others are simply floating & not so sure of whom they are with. That's why most girls who have partners, sometimes claim they are not in a relationship (don't have a boyfriend) whenever they're meeting a new guy. Some of them say or do this, if the person they are dating is not that committed. And in such situations, they might be tempted to try their luck with another guy. There are those who also find it difficult to boast of having a partner in public when they actually have one. This could be due to the same reason or probably cos the guy is not capable enough (financially or emotionally wise)...That's why I advise guys to always show some level of commitment whenever they are in a serious relationship. That's what most girls want. It's only a confused girl that would have a committed guy/relationship, and still be cheating or misbehaving...Love is commitment. And commitment is honorable. To Naija girls, seeing is believing!

Girls are fond of believing or thinking they own love. And that no guy can survive without her love. That's why a lot of girls like toying with guys and enjoy seeing guys cry cos of them. Its only when a guy beat them to their game (dumps her before she does), you see her crying. Not cos she's heartbroken but cos the guy dumped her before she dumped him. And seeing him having fun or finding love with another girl so soon, is like rubbing salt to her injured ego...

Can't stop laughing.."I was buying something at a junction and while waiting for my change, I saw a woman with a little child. The child was walking a bit faster than the woman and the woman shouted..."Degree wait for me". I was so amazed at hearing someone called that name, so I walked closer to the woman and asked ....ma,why do you call this child degree? The woman laughed and said "I sent his mother to the University and this is what she brought back".....

There are some break ups that ought to be celebrated rather than bn sad about it. Especially if the girl or guy that broke up with you was a pain in the ass. when such a girl decide to go/leave ur life, my guy abeg rejoice and be happy. cos her going could be a blessing in disguise for you. and more like a riddance to bad rubbish. There are better girls out there, craving to be with a good/great guy like you.

Almost every girl play games these days. Cos they tend to think they are smarter than guys. Cos in most cases, she's either playing smart or playing the victim just to have things done her way. Especially when it comes to the issue of dating and relationship. Believe you me, girls are the ones playing guys. And not the other way round. But such attitude only makes them look irresponsible. Imagine, dating more than one guy and expecting not to be caught. Or hiding some things from your boyfriend(s), and expecting him not to find out later? Just like every game has an end, so wil your (girls) games end one day...I pity this present generation, cos finding a genuine good girl to marry is gradually becoming an impossible task cos of the games women play nowadays...

To most guys, ''Do me I do you'', is the best form of relationship nowadays. Cos at the end of it, man no go vex...And this is what most guys are practicing these days...According to a guy I met recently, no girl is worth dying or crying for. He said that whenever he's with his girlfriend, that's when she is his girlfriend. But once he leaves or not with her, she becomes another man's girlfriend. Said that's how most ladies are. They are only yours when they are with you. But once you are not there, she's not yours...Ngbo na true?

Its known fact that most girls usually find it difficult getting help from the opposite sex without compromising. No matter the seriousness or urgency of the need, most men won't still be moved by the tears of a girl unless she gives in to their demands. This thing also happen to female job seekers who are expected to give, in order to get. Even when a girl is sent by her father to an influential friend of his for job assistance. Don't be surprised if she's asked by the man to play ball with him, without letting her father know. You can't really trust even a teenage girl with some men these days. Their hormones are just too high. And they tend to crave for that thing all the time. Out there, is not that easy for most girls. Getting help from men without compromising is just like passing through the eye of a needle for many of them. But I wonder why some men are like that. Why cant they do things without asking for something in return. Imagine if such treatment is melted to your sister or daughter in future, how would you feel? And atimes it's treatment like this from men or people generally, that push some girls into 'runs' or prostitution. Cos once they realize sleeping with men is the only way to get help or money from them, then they start utilizing it to their advantage. But this is not right. Life shouldn't be all about doing favor for favor. We need to do things freely and with a good heart. Cos, you don't know that by doing good, you are touching more than a million hearts...

Learnt she was the one that first brought up the idea of transforming and changing Olajumoke's life for good, after Olajumoke accidentally walked on Tinie Tempah‘s shoot with TY Bello. And the lady is also the same journalist that did the controversial pulse interview with Tiwa Savage after her split from Teebilz. Her name is Azuka, and she works with Thisday Newspapers.

Some girls wont like to get married so that she will still be able to keep several boyfriends, date any guy she fancies, keep late nights, travel as or go anywhere she likes, do as she wish, go partying or clubbing, have the fun of her life, be active on social media 24/7, and also be devoted to her mobile phone all the time....You know getting married might prevent her from doing any of these/enjoying such privileges..

There are girls who tend to behave like an alpha male in their relationship with guys. Such girls like controlling their boyfriends and also enjoy hurting guys. They like being the one to break up with a guy, and not the other way round. Some of them might look cool, quiet or responsible on the outside, but getting to know them very well, you'd discover that she's the controlling type, one that makes guys eat from her psalms, cry cos of her or stay glued to her despite her bad character.

Sometimes when a girl says she doesn't like a particular thing, that particular thing might even be what she likes most. Example, SEX! You know a lot of girls like to pretend a lot, just to create a good (false) impression to guys.

Read somewhere that the Dapper Wind Screen Washer is angry that people weren't coming out to help him or change his life like they did in the case of Olajumoke. And as a result he has gone back to his wind screen cleaning business. I just don't know what to say about the whole thing...Guess he was impatient, and thought his life would be transformed overnight just like what happened to Olajumoke. Forgetting that it doesn't work like that in most cases. when you are genuinely passionate about something, fame would surely find you. But when you go into it cos others are doing it, you might be disappointed at the end. Cos its only your passion, that can lead you to your purpose.

I used to hear people say this alot. And I guess they're right. Cos any guy who doesn't give his girlfriend money or is somehow stingy to his girlfriend, has another girl elsewhere who eats his money anyhow (in most cases). But truth be told, where his money is, is actually where his heart is...

Almost every young girl nowadays want to date an older or married guy, who has money and knows how to pamper a girl. And not a few young girls have lost their virginity to older/married men cos of this... You see married men buying expensive gifts and spending thousnads of naira on young girls just to have sex with them. Some married men have also been made to act like fools by young girls all cos of sex... And there are also girls (especially female students) who usually fall for rich married guys while doing their IT (Industrial training). And cos of the pressure, pestering and pampering they get from married guys at work, many of them end up dumping their campus boyfriend even before the conclusion of their IT

There are guys who prefer meeting or taking their girlfriend to an hotel rather than take her to his house. If you have such a boyfriend, then he doesn't see you as his serious date but more of a sex partner. Likewise guys who are also fond of taking their girlfriends to a friend's house to relax or have fun. Any guy doing any of this, might also be hiding some things from his girlfriend... Girls, dont let any guy treat you like trash

Dont need to say much about it, cos its so obvious that almost every guy goes after a girl cos of sex, and nothing else. Guys only desire girls cos of sex...The sexual urge among guys these days is really getting out of hand. And cos of that, no girl is safe anymore

These days, most girls don't use their so called 'uncle' to lie or cheat on their boyfriend again. They now prefer to use the 'cousin' tag to deceive or put off any suspicion from their boyfriend whenever they are cheating on him. If you have a girlfriend that keep saying my cousin this or my cousin that. Or going to stay at her cousin's place for the wkend. Bros, na 'cousin' na her side dude! Let no girl deceive you.