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It baffles me how some people feel they can use Church to hide their sinful life. Doing bad and using Church to deceive people. Its just like when the devil goes to church. No matter how it tried to conceal its true color or hide among the congregation, he will always be the devil. You can't serve God and satan at the same time. Taah! Its not possible. Just like a girl who double date (has more than one boyfriend) but is a worker in the church. Or like a guy who is a known trouble maker at home, but doesn't miss church service every Sunday. Who you really are, is what you are, no matter how you try to cover up your wicked side or irresponsible lifestyle.

She says she loves me, but I don't know if I should believe her or doubt her. You know whenever a girl says or claim to love a guy (genuinely), its like winning a one million naira jackpot. Cos, these days, its difficult to see a girl with just one boyfriend alone, not to talk of loving a guy genuinely without anything attached to it. A girl might love you depending on how much money you have or cos of how well you cater for her needs. For most naija girls, love now comes with a fee/price...

In the past, going for night vigils by ladies was seen as a commendable thing. Girls who do it frequently were admired and seen as responsible girls then. But these days, it has been abused by most girls of today. Imagine a girl lying to her parents that she was going for a night vigil in her church, only for her to go to her boyfriend'place to pass the night. A lot of girls do this a lot nowadays without feeling any guilt. They don't mind using Church to lie or cover up their immoral acts or irresponsible lifestyle. They can lie just to go and spend time or have sex with a guy. And the way some girls crave for sex these days, is just like a dog looking everywhere for a bone. And should this same guy she lied to be with, hurt her tomorrow, she'd start saying crying wolf where there is none. Cos its not by force to give your body to a guy or make unnecessary sacrifice for him. And for your information, most guys dont believe in karma or curses anymore. That's why many of them go about hurting girls at will. Ladies be wise...

According to a guy I spoke with recently, he said a lot of guys (including him) see no reason why a girl should feel bad or hurt whenever a guy dumps her or end up not marrying her. Since dating a girl is not a guaranty you'd marry her at the end. He said most guys date girls for fun, for the experience or for sex. And when the relationship ends, life goes on for him. No girl should cry or get herself worked up whenever a relationship doesn't end in marriage for her. Since the guy didnt sign any agreement with her, that he'd marry her. When it doesnt turn out that way for you, simply move on rather than start saying he used you or broke his promises to you. Becos maybe to the guy, it was nothing but a game. Dont know if every guy shares the same opinion with him. Cos as for me, I don't!

There is this pretty girl I used to admire and also wanted to go out with. But I guess she was already in a relationship then and as a result paid me no serious attention. But suddenly these past few days, she has been showing some seriousness towards me, by sending me msgs and calling me almost everyday, and also wanting to know if I wont hurt her should she give her heart to me. But being that I'm now in a relationship, I had to tell her we can only be friends and nothing more. When I wanted her, she was forming for me. Now, that I'm no longer interested, she con dey show me green light.

According to someone, this is what should be done to all those that voted APC into power. Imagine the calamity they've brought upon the country. Now, they want to sell and share all our national assets among themselves. E no go work o!

I know its not right to collect nor give bribe, especially to soldiers or policemen at check points/road blocks...but in order to be on a safer side and also avoid being harrassed or 'accidentally' shot at by trigger happy police/military personnel on the road, you just have to give them something, even if all your vehicle particulars are in order. Cos shd anything happen to you in the process of claiming your rights, its your family that would bear the pain at the end. Since it seems the fight against corruption is just a lip service scheme designed to hunt and deal with only a selected few and not for everybody...

To most newly married guys, getting married is just like acquiring/having a new car, and still be driving the old car(s). Cos being married doesn't seem to stop nor prevent them from having 'fun' with other girls...And some of them dont even hide their wedding rings anymore, since most of the girls they go after/date, seem not be be bothered about their marital status as well. Nothing is hidden anymore!

Sometimes, I wonder why guys dating beautiful girls still cheat on them. What could be the reason? Thought guys are moved by what they see? So, why cheat on your beautiful sexy girlfriend with another girl when your girl has it all. Is it a case of greed or insatiable desire for girls and sex? When you have all the good fruits at home, why go outside to pluck more or inferior fruits?

With the way most campus girls are so passionate about selfies (taking pics with their phones), maybe they should just create a new dept or course called Selfie and Social Media for students to study. Cos, everywhere you go, and at every corner you see a girl or more taking pictures of herself with her phone. Even when she is suppose to be in class attending lectures, she is either at the back of the class, at the eatery or with her friends taking selfies with her selfie stick, and then send them online (facebook, twitter or instagram) one time, for her numerous toasters, friends and guys generally to see, like and also make comments on them....you no its not easy to look fine and also smile these days, cos of the recession

A lot of girls are fond of chasing away 'happiness' (a better partner) cos of one fake boyfriend. They tend to ignore that good toaster even when they know their boyfriend is not serious, caring or is fake. Its only when her boyfriend leaves or breaks her heart, thats when she'd now remember or start responding to the good taoster she used to ignore. But what if by then, its already too late for her. What if the good guy has since gotten another girl? At times, its advisable to know what you want, and also know when your relationship is not meant to be. So that you dont end up wasting your time, or losing a good husband to be....cos of a fake boyfriend!

There are girls who have double personalities. They have guys they laugh, love or play with, and those they dislike, and treat with so much disdain. When you see such girl being so romantic, caring and loving to a guy, you begin to wonder why she is so uncaring or heartless to another...Especially if she was a bad ex to you, but a wonderful lover to her new/current boyfriend. While you might have good things to say about her (cos of how wonderful she has bn to you), her ex may be going around spoiling her image cos of the bad things she did to him. Guess, girls usually choose whom they want to be nice to. And for one to have it good with any girl, a guy need to hit the right cord, treat her better and also speak her 'language'...anything less, you are on your own.

If only guys were allowed to marry more than one wife, it'd help reduce and also calm the fierce competition among girls over a guy. Cos the competition is just too much. Everywhere you go, you see girls in different provocative dresses, and doing their best just to catch a guy to settle down with. Being allowed to marry up to five wives, might be the solution to this issue....

I always hear people say too much of sex for any girl makes her age faster and worn out. Some even go further to prove it by showing one, cases of girls who look older than their age cos of excessive sex and due to having several sex partners in the past. But there are guys who claim having sex a lot makes a guy look fresher and younger. Why is it different for girls then? If having sex a lot is good for guys, shouldnt it also be good for girls?

How would you feel should your girlfriend disrespect you in the presence of her male friend or toaster? I heard about a married man whose girlfriend disrespected him before her friends when he visited her at home. Despite bn the one who paid for her self contain apartment, furnished it and has also bn the one taking care of her needs. Guess the man is her maga, thats why she tend to treat and talk to him anyhow. There are guys whose girlfriend treat them like poo especially whenever her friends are around. And some girls do this on purpose and also to make it look as if the guy doesn't mean anything to her. And yet, he bangs you steady. So, who is fooling who?

Whenever your girlfriend (who stays on campus or far from you) tells you, you are the only guy she sleeps with without using condom(unprotected sex), and you believe her....sorry for you!

Note: Sexual promiscuity and sexually transmitted disease is more common among unmarried people, students and girls temporarily away from home (and who enjoys some level of freedom).

While most guys work and hustle daily cos of a girlfriend/wife (to attract, maintain and keep a woman), the only thing a woman does is to maintain her body and beauty in order to keep her man...shikena

She used to be in her Church choir and also an active member of her Church before she now met and started dating an elderly married man in order to meet her needs. And as a result, she has stopped going to church, since what she's doing is against her church and against what is expected of a good, godly and responsible girl. A lot of girls do make similar choices whenever they find themselves in a difficult situation and cant find help elsewhere except in the hands of a man. who most times, doesn't help without getting something in return. But why lose your soul, just to gain the world...

A girl I know recently confessed to me that she cant stop cheating on her boyfriend with other men in order to meet up with her needs, since her guy cant provide everything for her. She told me her guy knows she sleeps with other men for money at times, after she confessed to him. And that he's not even angry with her cos he understands. But always advise her to mend her ways. I was really shocked when I heard it. Imagine a naija guy happy and comfortable being with an unfaithful girlfriend? Cos I know a lot of guys wont accept such a thing at all. Well, maybe the guy is still with her cos of the regular sex he gets from her or maybe due to some other reasons best known to him...

@Firstking, smiles . Every girl has the right to abstain from sex until she gets married, whether she's a virgin or not . Its just like someone making up his or her mind not to sin again...

I always wonder why some girls enjoy dating/sleeping with married men. Is it cos of love or cos of the financial benefits attached to it. And I've also noticed many of them do it so openly and without shame. While some claim to do it out of love, others do it cos of money. They claim married men are more generous than single guys. But why date a married man whom you know wont marry you at the end. Money they say cant buy you true love...And which is what every girl desires...

A lot of guys usually feel any girl who is no longer a virgin has no right to deny her boyfriend sex or insist on no sex until wedding night (like what a lot of girls now practice). To them, what's she trying to protect or prove since she's no longer a virgin? But whats their business if a girl decide to be celibate until she gets married whether she's a virgin or not. If not for the pressure from guys, a lot of girls would prefer to remain a virgin untill she gets married.

Whenever your girlfriend ask you to give her 'some space or a break' (as in, stay away from her for a while), its usually cos of another guy somewhere. Who probably is hitting on her seriously, and getting her so confused. She might never tell you the real reason for asking you to give her a break. She might just cook up a lie or use stress or pressure as an excuse. But if you investigate very well, you will find out it has to do with a guy, either at work, in school or in her yard. Sometimes, asking you to give her some space, is either for her to clear her head and make up her mind aspa whom to choose btw you and the new guy, or use it as an indirect way of breaking up with you and also using it as an opportunity to hang out more with the new guy without bn disturbed by you. Whenever you find yourself in such a situation, its advisable you let her be, and move on with your life. Dont make any attempt to beg her or wait for her to come back to you. Doing that would make you look cheap and vulnerable to her. Dont let anybody make you an option....

We've heard cases of girls getting back with their exs, making up or getting married to an ex after coming back together. At times, a girl could get confused when two or three of her exs keep pestering her for a second chance, despite knowing she's in a new relationship. And i'm also very sure its usually cos of such (in some cases), some girls sometimes ask their boyfriend for space or a break, when she start getting confused due to the constant pestering from a stubborn ex(s). In order to clear her head, and also make up her mind. I wonder how some girls with so many ex boyfriends would cope should all her exs desire to get back with her... Making such a decision is not that easy for most girls

When I read the story of the young girl who was abducted, forced to smoke weed and raped severally afterwards by two guys in Lagos last week, I fear for the safety of our girls and women in our society today. So girls can't walk freely on the street without been harassed or molested even in broad daylight? They need to do something fast before things get out of hand. One of the ways of dealing with this issue seriously is by apprehending and punishing rapists severely. Guess, treating any rapist caught like an armed robber would serve as a deterrent to others. Cos raping any girl is like robbing her at gun point, of her dignity, joy and future...the law need to start protecting our girls and women. Or else, people might resort to jungle justice. Enough is enough!

Most girls are fond of saying this a lot. That they can't date or have sex with a guy they don't like. And when saying this, they make it look and sound as if they are too special or too good to date any guy that approach them for a relationship. Some tend to feel irritated whenever a guy they dont like try to hit on them or ask them out. Its only the nice ones among them that end up 'friendzoning' any guy they dont like or wanna date. While the mean ones would simply discharge and discard the guy like trash, one time!

I heard most dating couples who have had sex several times, and about to get married, usually lie about it when they go for pre marriage counselling in church. Guess they do so, in order not to jeopadize their chances of getting married. Cos whenever they are asked by their Pastor if they've had sex before, they used to say No. Imagine people wey don sleep with each other tire, com marriage counselling for church come dey form saints...and in their hearts, they feel they are smart? But is it right to lie about such during marriage counselling?

When you are able to break up or let go of bad relationship with a girl or guy, you can't but thank the Lord for His saving grace.

You have a stubborn boyfriend, when he claims to love you so much, but yet cant stop cheating on you...always hurting you and apologizing afterwards. Always doing the same thing over and overi again. Saying withstanding his cheating habit, he still loves you more than the rest...that kind boyfriend na real stubborn boo

We do have some ladies going through such an experience. But at times its not due to their fault but due to their tradition especially if they are from the Igbo tribe. Cos usually in igbo land, unmarried girls are not allowed nor expected to rent an apartment and be living alone. It doesn't speak well of the girl, and their tradition frowns at such lifestyle. Thats why most times, you see a grown girl still living with her parents or brothers in the city if she is not yet married. To them, its better than going to live alone and be doing all kinds of rubbish with guys cos of the freedom she enjoys. They prefer a girl stays with her parents or older siblings until she gets married. Even in some areas like the south west, most landlords hardly rent out their house to single girls cos of this same reason. But nowadays, most single girls no longer care, as many now prefer to rent an apartment and live alone whether her family or the society likes it or not. But traditionally, is it right?

The Love Of Sex...

We now live in a world,
Where our kids
Are longer safe.
With perverts everywhere.
Some are just so crazy about sex,
As if their lives depend on it.
Less bothered about HIV/AIDS,
They go upandan,
Looking for sex,
From whomsoever,
irrespective of your sex.
To them,
Even without the looks,
Or the curves,
It doesn't matter.
As long as he/she has breath,
You are good to go!

Before it was our sisters we used to worry about, but now even our little kids/siblings are no longer safe, with perverts everywhere...

Imagine, a security guy was recently sacked for harassing a 9 years old girl for sex... They say out of sex a man is conceived, but shd he be consumed by sex as well?

Does ur ex have the right to be jealous whenever he or she sees u with another guy or girl. Imagine ur ex that used her own mouth and hand to break up with u, now showing jealousy cos you ve found love and happiness again with someone else