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Dating some girls could be very toxic or as spicy as an hot pepper. That one might need to have a glass of water by his side all the time. Cos, most girls are so dramatic, and do display antics or tantrums that can be choking atimes. So, a glass of water shouldn't be far from you, if your girl is like an hot chili pepper!

@PunkyOh, you've said it all!

PunkyOh:
The butt pad thing is so crazy & unbelievable. Some women must have really low self esteem. SMH.

Nothing's more fun & liberating than looking a little different from the rest, even if if means having smaller assets. Why, why anyone would want to look like millions of other people really baffles my mind. People need to embrace their individuality & put a stop to this madness.

Come to think about it, it's really sad.

They don't need it. Any man who doesn't like you the way you are physically, should simply walk away. There are better guys who would cherish you just the way you are...being fake, is soooo vain!

I hear a lot of ladies now wear butt pads on their bum bum in order to enhance it and also use it to seduce men, who are crazy about girls with big ass (fake) like Kim Kardashian.

I can't just imagine a girl being fake just to belong or make men chase after her. Wearing fake body parts just to look sexy is so vain. Imagine a lady removing all these fake body parts at the end of day and now faced with reality each time she looks in the mirror. Who is she fooling...?Herself of course!

Just like what happened to a lady whose husband later got to find out on their wedding night that all she had on were butt pads and foamy boobs. He felt humiliated and heartbroken. And had to end the marriage right there and then. When a girl is fake, she's not real! Be proud of your body. Being flat chested or having flat/small bum bum doesn't make you less beautiful. You are beautiful the way you are. Any man who crave after busty or big ass women is only lusting, and wont stop lusting after other women even while with you. That's the fact. So, stop trying to impress others and be yourself.

Be happy with your body. Because you are beautiful the way you are...

Confused? I don't think so! Many of them are simply mean and not confused, and actually know what they are doing.

Most girls like playing the victim. They keep saying they're looking for someone to love and care for them, and yet most of them are experts in breaking people's hearts. Imagine the irony? A lot of girls are like that. Always playing the victim, when she's the villain...in disguise!

You see a man being chased by armed robbers/assassins, instead of calling for help or rescuing the victim you stare and snap until they harm or kill the victim. You see a baby abandoned and at the point of death, instead of calling for help or rescuing the baby, you stare and snap until the innocent baby dies. You see a man about to jump into a lagoon, instead of stopping him from committing suicide, you stare and snap until the man jumps to his death. You come across an accident victim on the road, instead of calling for help or help take the person to the hospital, you stare and snap until the person dies. What kind of society are we, that we no longer care for one another. And when you hear or see the evil others are doing, you will be the first to condemn them. What about you. Have you check yourself very well? Every evil act has a root! We need to stop this craze of always snapping anything thing we see instead of doing what is right at that moment. Everybody wants to be a paparazzi. These pics you snap and upload on social media or store on your phones are just for fancy. Bikonu, don't allow your hearts to turn cold...help save a life, wherever and whenever.

COPIED:
HOW A POPULAR NAIJA ARTISTE WAS FALSELY ACCUSED OF RAPE

Esther Ijewere, a social activist and coordinator of ‪#‎WalkAgainstRape‬ took to twitter some hours ago to narrate a story of a 'Twitter' girl that almost framed a popular naija artist of rape.

Lat week I got a call from a young girl who claimed she got my number from someone, apparently she called to report a case of RAPE. According to her, she met this Artiste on twitter, they got talking and then started dating. From her story she said the guy RAPED HER. She started crying on the phone, saying she will kill herself. Then I asked her to meet me at Min of women affairs. But she declined and said she wanted to talk to me first before we report the case. I met her, and it was all tears, I pressured her to give me the name of the artiste who raped her and his number, I insisted on her going to report officially so that we could get him arrested. She declined and said her brother is a police officer and she's sure he would help get him arrested, she changed from a victim to a wild animal who just wanted to get some kinda revenge. I called the artiste and told him i will go public and let everyone know what he did.

To cut a long story short (so many messy details), the babe was not RAPED. They had consensual SEX, the dude bailed out (dumped her afterwards) and the lady threatened to tarnish his name and tell people he raped her. Luckily for the artiste he recorded their last conversation where she threatened to frame him of rape. I listened to the recorded conversation and read their chat history. I called her and asked if the guy's story is true, and she confessed! I was pissed, very pissed. We would have locked this guy up, destroyed his career for a crime he didn't commit. If he hadn't recorded their conversation and saved their chat I would have believed the girl.

She begged me not to report her and also begged the artiste (imagine the twist), he was ready to go all out but for his name and career. Because justice is fair with women and merciless to men in cases of Sexual abuse doesn't give us the right to frame people or bring them down.

I'm sharing this story to warn men who are hunters on twitter, facebook, whatsapp and instagram, hunting for girls, hunting everything that looks good on dp. The face can be good, but the heart can be very dark...Like I said, I left out certain information cos of the Artiste. I promised him I wont mention his name but I have to share the story. Trust me, this girl told me a story close to an Africa Magic script, I even cried when I saw her Fake pain. If you're reading this, girl be thankful I didn't mention your name or tell it all. You are a DISGRACE to womanhood! Let this also to a lesson to other men. The heart of many are wicked...

PO: A lot of girls are like that. So desperate, mean and deceptive as a snake. You begin to wonder if they were given birth to by a woman.

Three things most men don't joke with are sex, relationship/marriage and women. And whenever a man is having challenges in any of these, most men tend to be dysfunctional as a result. Yeah, money is good. But who or what do men spend their money on most times? A man whose home is unstable, might not give his best at work or attend to his business very well. There are also those who can't do without sex. Sometimes, its a tonic that keeps them going. And coming down to the issue of having a woman in one's life. While some women can stay or cope without a man, most men can't do without them. That's just how it is. You can't live with them, can't live without them!

COPIED: Marriage Tips/advice for Ladies Who Just Got Married.

8 Marriage-Killing Mistakes Women Make (Yes, You Too)
By Debra Macleod.

I can’t tell you how many unhappy husbands I’ve seen in my office over the past decade or so. They present with all kinds of issues—from infidelity, to in-law troubles, and everything in between.

Yet, despite the variety of marriage problems that can arise, there are some complaints that are so prevalent and common that they warrant being singled out.

Below are eight of the most common complaints that unhappy husbands make about their wives. Read them. Believe them. Stop them:

1. You’re a grump.

When you speak to your husband, your voice tone is full of negativity, contempt and criticism. If he tries to express a concern or complaint about the marriage, you rise up in angry defensiveness and throw the blame back on him instead of hearing him out.

2. You’re a nag.

If your husband has a free moment, you pounce on him and order him to fix something around the house. If he goes out with friends, you text him incessantly, asking when he’ll be home. Basically, you’re a matrimonial version of the micro-managing boss.

3. You’re a cold fish in bed.

If he flashes you a flirtatious wink, you roll your eyes. If he reaches for you in bed, you turn your back to him. On those rare occasions you do give in and have sex, you lie there and stare at the ceiling, waiting for it to be over and sapping all the fun out of it.

4. You’re a frump.

Whether you’ve stopped exercising or started wearing sweatpants, you’ve let yourself go and lost your energy and enthusiasm for life. To be honest, this isn’t a top complaint that I hear from men; however, a woman who feels unattractive often withdraws—emotionally and physically—from her marriage. And that is something that husbands do complain about.

5. You’re a “Mommy,” and nothing else.

You get way more excited about a “Mommy & Me” playdate than a romantic evening with your husband. Just keep in mind that a child-centered marriage isn’t a marriage at all; it’s just a daycare.

6. You’re an alpha parent.

As the leader of the parenting pack, you snap at your husband every time he tries to be a dad or parent his children in the way he sees fit. As a result, you rob your children of a father’s care and discipline, and you drive a wedge between you and your husband.

7. You’re thankless.

Whether your husband has put in major overtime at work or spent his entire long-weekend building you that backyard deck you want, you take his efforts for granted and fail to show appreciation for anything he does for you or your family.

8. You’re (yawn) boring.

You don’t have any interests or hobbies outside the marriage or home (no, Facebook isn’t a hobby). That makes you predictable and bland company who never has anything interesting to add to a conversation. You should get a life, to put it plainly.

If you’re worried that the passion in your marriage is starting to subside, don’t panic. Instead, take a good, hard look at your own behavior. How can you bring more positivity and romance into your marriage? How can you make your husband feel more appreciated and desired? How can you build him up as a loving, competent parent? How can you make him happy?

Believe it or not, making your husband happy is the surest way to motivate him to make you happy. Like attracts like. Loving, appreciative behavior attracts loving, appreciative behavior. Positivity and enthusiasm attracts positivity and enthusiasm. Fun and affection attracts fun and affection. You get the idea.

Of course, it takes two to tango and men need to do their part, too. That being said, there’s nothing stopping you from taking the lead and doing what you can to make your marriage a happier, sexier and stronger one … starting today.

You see a girl who is either in school, not working nor into any business but has a dollar account, three different bank accounts with enough cash, wears the latest designer clothes, bags and shoes. And has several male friends (some she claims to be her rich cousins or ordinary friends) who visit her or take her out often in their expensive cars, and you still go ahead to marry her. Expecting her to change or mend her ways afterwards when you are not able to sustain her lifestyle. My guy, you are simply living on borrowed time!

With the way little girls and ladies are being raped here and there by guys these days, it shows how lustful and lost most guys are. What could be the cause of this barbaric habit in most men, who sees every girl as a sex object. A girl can't be alone with a guy, and he wont try to open her skirt or raise her legs. Imagine, the case of a so called adult man raping a 3 year old girl last week in Lagos, and the one of an uncle caught and beaten to a pulp for raping his nephew's girlfriend in America. The one that got me really vexed, was the one about a man caught raping a mad woman in Koji state some few days ago. What is the society turning into, that our women can't walk freely on the street, or work without being molested, harassed or pestered for sex all the time. Now in most relationships, it's sex or nothing else. No wonder, girls who are desperate open their legs anyhow for their boyfriends in all the name of relationship and fake love. Nobody cares. Even some married women are doing it. Cheating is now part of the game. And yet, every Sunday churches are filled to the brim with worshipers, most of whom are not there for salvation but to show up or show off. Menn, tired of all this whole mess. No wonder our country and the world at large is in a mess. Cos, every rot starts from the root! Girls be careful, rapists and deceivers are on the loose! Looking for whom to deceive, devour and also destroy!

There is no need to monitor or prove anything to your ex. Whether he initiated the breaking up or not, the best thing to do is to simply mind your business and work on finding love and happiness in life.

Its a normal thing to either mind your business or be happy when one's ex is able to move on happily. But it seems some girls don't usually like the idea of their ex finding love and happiness before them or being with someone else. Guess, they like it when they are the one happy and in another relationship. But when its the other way round, some tend to get jealous, even when they're with another guy. But why?

Don't get me wrong...what we are talking about here is the timing. There's nothing wrong in buying ice cream for one's girlfriend. But when a girl decides to be inconsiderate or punish her boyfriend by sending him on such an errand at that time of the day, when she knows getting the thing might be difficult, then that's when its bad...

A mugu is when a guy is asked by his girlfriend to go and get her Ice cream by 9pm, and he start running around looking for where to get the Ice cream for her by that time of the night....Smh for guys who do this. Cos, if you are like that, then you are under a remote control. Most guys can do anything for a girl cos of sex. Yeah, sex. Which is the only thing most girls do offer (or bring) in a relationship. If you are so much in need of a companion, then go get yourself a wife. A wife is better than a girlfriend, anytime, any day. A girlfriend most times, comes like a..., at night, and before you know it, she's gone before dawn. Get a good girl and make her your wife (marry her legally)....and stop being a maga, mugu or mumu to girls.

Its so disheartening when some sisters in church start developing envy, having fractions or waging war with one another over trivia matters. most times, it could be because of a church brother or two in the church or a sister loved by all. And yet, they claim to be in church to serve God. These are ladies who only go to church to fulfill all righteousness. You see them competing with one another, by assuming some official positions, over dressing or by doing their best to be noticed in church. Imagine how such ladies are turning the house of God into something else. If you are like that, you better sit up and let God and Heaven be your focus/target....

Every Christmas season, you see Santa Claus going from house to house on his sleigh and dishing out gifts to everyone from his bag filled with presents and making many smile and jump for joy all day long. But has anyone ever bothered about Santa Claus' happiness? He leaves us with so much joy to last the whole season, but who cares or gives Santa gifts during Christmas? None! Cos, we only care about ourselves. Kids keep asking their dads/moms for gifts during Christmas, wives always look forward to a special treat or surprises from their husband during this season, while ladies also hope to get something from their boyfriends for Xmas (which is typical of most girls). But what about him? What about the man of the house, or the mother who work his/her ass off to provide everything you need from January to December. Who gives him or her gifts or that special treat during occasions like this. You don't need money or gifts to show how much you appreciate someone. All we need to do is to let him or her know they are also special. So, lets get some gifts, food and warm clothes and take them up to the North pole for Santa Claus. And see if Santa won't jump for joy and also be appreciative for this show of love from us...

A guy is likely to marry a girlfriend that is supportive and not the one that is always demanding and collecting from him. A supportive girlfriend is cherished by guys. Cos, she's usually honest, responsible, hardworking and caring. Unfortunately, most girls are not like that. All they are interested in is what their boyfriends can do for them. And when things aren't going their way, you find such girls pitching their wares to other men. they are always quick to jump ship. And most times, they use their body/sex to trap men or get whatever they want from men. When you don't add or bring anything into your marriage, you are just like a bystander. Cos, the coming together of a couple either in a relationship or marriage, is the pulling of resources (commonwealth) together to become bigger and better. Love/relationship ought not to be one sided, if you don't want your relationship to tumble like an unbalanced boat...

My guy, girls don scatter NYSC camps no be small. Many of them look forward to it so much, cos of the bad things they intend doing while in camp. its like when a bird is let out of a cage.

With the way things are going, married ladies might later be exempted from taking part in NYSC in order to curb the level of immoralities that happen in most NYSC camps. Like the recent case involving a married lady and some guys at the lagos camp. Imagine, the guys sleeping with a married woman and less bothered about the consequences? The world is indeed getting worse by the day.

And according to lady who just finished her youth service, its a normal thing among some married ladies serving. "It happened where I served,some of dem were hiding their rings and in d process,ds lady ring go lost,a gold ring for dat matter,and evry1 were like,she don get bobo. another one was caught with a guy on d field and was announced in our morning devotion,and later called her hubby 2 cum n hear d gud news and take her home.d tin there is,thy should just give them exemption letters datz ol.cuz I discovered that,d singles @d camps,re well behaved than those young married ones"

Such ladies are a disgrace to women. Whether married or single. And there are female students who prefer to go for their youth service first before getting married, guess due to this same reason. Cos, many of them don't trust themselves and don't know if they can overcome the temptations they are bound to face in NYSC camps. Many of them have taken NYSC as a means to enough fun and sex romps.

Without money, you can't get married! There are no two ways about it.

Men who used to see a female child as nothing are living in the past. Cos, nowadays married women are really setting the pace. So many of them are bread winners or the backbone of their parents. Supporting their siblings and taking care of their parents. Whenever I hear some men talk about a male child being better or preferable to a female child, I see them as being biased, brainwashed or not learned. Cos, same way a male is gold to most men, a female child is like a diamond to me. When you are old, who comes around to check on you or take care of you. Is it your son who is married and focused on his own family. Or your daughter, whom despite being married with kids, still cares about you? Whether male or female, a child is a child. Treat and treasure them equally. Cos, what a man can do, a woman can also do it if given the opportunity...

There are men who are only friendly or nice to ladies. But to their fellow man, they are like cat and mouse...

Learnt there are girls who usually strip naked before raining curses on any guy that hurt or break their hearts. They do this as a way of payback or exerting revenge on a guy after being used and dumped by the guy. A girl once told me she did it to her ex boyfriend after he left her for another girl despite all she did for him. And guess what? The thing really worked to an extent. But come o, what if it was a guy that was dumped or maltreated by a girl, what should he do? Leave the matter to God, or do what some girls do in such situations?

Most girls are just like Potiphar's wife, who are carried away by men and the favors they can get from men. And there are three major things that attract a woman to a man...Sex, Money or Appearance/IQ. Any man that doesn't have any of this, might find it difficult to get any woman. Cos, if you don't have money, but you're good in bed, you can have access to even the most beautiful ladies in the world. And if you don't have either of this, but you are handsome and intelligent, you wont be short of girls. As many of them would be coming after you, and taking care of you. But mind you, there's a limit to a woman's patience or tolerance. Cos, sex and good looks alone without money may not be able to make your woman stay with you for long. Most women are insatiable beings. Restless, adventurous and always craving for more. And once they are tired of one thing, they immediately change gear to another level. So, as a guy try and make enough money in addition to your good looks or sexual prowess in bed. Cos sex and good looks alone wont put food on the table!

@Cholls, sorry dear, its not about me. You and I know there are girls who do this to guys cos of finance. And most campus guys don't have the luxury to go after or date beautiful girls. Especially if the girl is a runs girl. So, this is a general issue, which has become part of our society...

One don't need to be told why a broke ass guy can't date or keep a beautiful girl. Such a guy will only end up losing her and being sorrowful after borrowing to keep her happy and at bay. A lot of guys (especially campus guys) have gone through such dilemma, and still licking their wounds after losing their babes to rich or working class dudes. And that's why most campus girls don't like dating campus guys, cos they feel they wont be able to provide for their needs like a working class dude would...And such traits is very common with runs girls. Who live life on the edge, buying this and that, changing guys and sleeping with different guys just maintain themselves. But one thing such girls don't know is that, a rejected stone would one day become the cornerstone.

No girlfriend or boyfriend will love you or care for you same way your wife or husband would. Cos, in a relationship some tend to look at other options, and hardly put all their heart, hopes or trust in their partner/relationship. And as a result, you can never get the best or the same kind of treatment, affection or love that you would get from a woman or man you are married to, from a boyfriend or girlfriend. Since in a relationship, you are never sure of the partner or where the relationship is headed. But when you're married, you're able to see the future when both of you share the same heart, focus and plans. Getting married is better and sweeter than dating this and that person...

Most times, 'investing' in a boyfriend or girlfriend could end up being a bad investment/market due to obvious reasons. Cos, its not every relationship that would end up in marriage. Some are bound to die along the way, while others might not even get off the ground. Cos most people tend not to put all their hearts and hopes in their relationship or partners. They are always looking for better options or where the grass is greener, thereby leaving the other party heartbroken or 'bankrupt'

Being pregnant before getting married, does the Church still frowns at it today?