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martyns303:
Already clarified the issue.....

yeah seen thanks

martyns303:
Already clarified the issue.....

yeah seen thanks

TDonald:
You see why i said its so hard for you to comprehend things

But instead you resorted to insults.

don't insult me I comprehend just fine

SirMichael1 made assumptions , assumptions I didn't make when reading and as such we weren't thinking the same way ,
he assumed that because she had his number and she called him means he must have had her number what's more he failed to realise that he was just making assumptions and went ahead to point fingers and call "lie"

now I wasn't thinking in this direction because I know very well that calling someone doesn't mean they'll automatically have ur number because I've been called several times by unknown numbers and as such it has be programmed in my head , not to talk off there could still be other reasons such as she wasn't using her number to call the guy etc..


so when he called that guy a liar and asked what number did she use to call him I simply told him that she only had his number and no where in the story was it said he had hers not knowing he had already made stupid assumptions and expected me to do the same

lol this is how people get tricked in contracts , noticing loopholes .


do u understand now Tdonald cause it seems u were thinking along the line of SirMichael1

gloria34:
I agree with u, men and women are wired differently. My question is this, y do u guys see women as d worse evil when they do anything Forgeting that they are wired that way? Y do u guys act like only women can be bad? There are bad and good people in both gender but guys have made it look like women are d worse things to happen to earth. My conclusion, men are hypocrates who create excuses 4 their mistakes but would condem a woman 4 lesser crimes

which men act like uve described ? pls don't use nairaland men to judge men because they even embarrass me


I'm all for gender fairaness and all , men who attack women and women who attack men are both wrong , and like u've said those men who attack women are hypocrites


let's all just have peace

SirMichael1:
Lol. The dude is slow

lol I wasn't slow

u said he is lying he didn't get her number , what number did she use to call him


now ur saying this by assuming that having a person's number = they having ur number too


but it doesn't because some people can hide their numbers like I said or she could have used some else's phone to call him .

Either ur the slow one here assuming the guy is lying without considering this two factors

SirMichael1:
You should make it a thing to read to a wide extent, different meanings to a single context. You'd improve your comprehensive skills by so doing.

don't BS me , if u weren't clear u weren't clear


like u said there are different meanings to a single context , I just chose a meaning while u meant another


if u say I need to improve my comprehensive skills then u need to improve ur writing skills

BigBashiru:
Since the beginning of time it had been a partriarchy! So because women were oppressed society couldn't be built by women. But countries like Sweden inmodern times hv been rebuilt by women and those countries are now more peaceful.

so ur saying that women being oppressed was the men's fault?

I beg to disagree ,u see in life it has always been the strong rules, the strongest survive , and men were the strong ones in those times and hence the patriarchal system , u can't expect women to have been treated equal when they really weren't . Now did later men realise they were wrong and gave women equal treatment ? or did women cry on their knees and begged to be given equal rights? NO!!! women woke up one day and realized they they could be stronger, could be better and they FOUGHT for it ,it was hard , it was bloody , people died , but they fought relentlessly , they became strong and got what they wanted


u see in life it has never been men Vs women it has been the strong Vs the weak


even among men the strong prey on the weak , that's why there's been some much lip service on women empowerment and being a strong woman because in this world u have to be strong , when ur strong ur strong , no gender can look down or try sh!t with u


the only thing I would say was wrong in the past was society thought only men to be strong and left women to be weak and that is a fault of both genders because women were just as responsible in the raising children as the males

BigBashiru:
At the bolded, if men were programmed to be violent then men having built society have no place in the modern world they built.

Proud feminists like myself believe this violent programming is a social construct - men are told they have to be violent to be real men. It's that specific programming that feminism is looking to deprogram.

no place in the world they built ?
that doesn't even make sense!

when they were building did they say they were building it for u ? imagine building something for someone else , ur not even making sense anymore and just hating here

if u want someone to leave it should be u WOMEN!! we are bad , we are dangerous then u leave!!! , we built this place
if a wife is in a toxic relationship u don't tell the husband to leave his house that he built instead u leave because it's dangerous for u !



now men being violent s not a social construct ,I've said the early men needed to be violent to hunt for food and protect themselves and the females from danger

SirMichael1:
Bros... Understand the context of my post.

Dude said he was always asking fro her number but even after getting arrested, she didn't give it to him. Then I asked, which number did she used to call him? or maybe you might understand this better. "What phone did she used to call him? can't he get her number from his call logs??"

That dude is lying.

ah u should have been clear then

maybe she hid her number some obnoxious girls do it a lot

BigBashiru:
Yes men built society due to partriarchal oppression of women and we thank you for building society - now that you ha e finished building society, men can now retire to the jungle so you can continue killing yourselves and robbing yourselves there.

At the bolded, go to Google and type: "London stabbing", "Toronto shooting", " Chicago shooting", "Lagos rituals" to see the wonderful order men are creating including the wonderful order of biafran war hat killed 1 milloon ppl and now boko haram.

Your brutality is TOXIC. See how Nigerian politicians are assassinating themselves.... that by definition is I. I can understand having a bruised ego but you just need to attend anti - violence training from the ladies.

lol after building society u want us to go to the jungle so u can enjoy our work
and who says after going to jungle we won't build another society again? after all didnt we build it from jungles in the first place?


now yeah some men are violent , and some women are violent , big deal , u complain that we are violent but it is from this violence that the world was built upon , do u know how many discoveries were made from war ?

if not from men and our violence humanity won't have survived this long , we would have just sat at a cave all day and gossiped till a lion or any other predator came and ate us

BigBashiru:
Road rage is male on male violence. When two females get involved in road rage incident they don't bring out a gun or bottle and hits the other person dead. Let's talk of female to female road rage; in that case they don't kill themselves. It's men that are always killing themselves and it's nothing to be proud of.

Let's talk about gangs. There are female gangs too but the difference is the female gang members and gang rivals don't go about killing themselves.

This is the thrust of feminism and this is why the movement is here to stay.

listen men and women are programmed differently , men were programmed to take e action be violent, if not for men and that violence mechanism the early humans won't have survived in the wild


men and women both get angry ,both get road rage but men act on that anger and women talk but a lot of women do act on that anger , trust me I know first hand how violent women can be


and u just mentioned feminism and that's why feminism has such a bad image both here and abroad , u talk about equality but go about it by women supremacy

BigBashiru:
I agree with you. But I would rather fall victim to a woman's schemes that be murdered by a man because his ego was bruised before my time. While women scheme and are nefarious but in most cases it doesn't endanger life thru violence. If someone is robbed by a woman they most likely will still be still alive, but if someone is robbed by a man, chances are the person will also be shot dead in the process.

guy watch IDx you'd see what women can do
and you'll know ur full of sh!t

BigBashiru:
Most violence women commit is in the context of occultism, marriage/ relationship and petty theft. But men commit most brutal/ violent crimes and their actions are a menace to society.

ur line of thinking is stupid


ok they are menace to society right? can u remove them? can there be society without them? , women that give birth to this men should also be considered part of the problem should u remove them too?

BigBashiru:
By this admission, you admit then that men are inferior to women and men belong in the jungle where bruteness is the order of the day. So all men can go into Sambisa forest and brute it out with their bh brothers and leave the modern world to women. Not trying to be insulting just trying to be thought provoking for others that will read this. With thought provoking statements everyone can learn.

men are inferior and belong in the jungle yet society was built by men !

we are poor at conflict resolution yet the world order that we know today was created by men ,
yes we are brutal but we are also rational when need be , we have strong and weak sides .

BigBashiru:
For centuries men have claimed that they are more rational than women and women are too emotional and excuse themselves by citing mental problems. Now I'm giving you raw facts.

The statistics from police departments worldwide simply prove that men are murderous and have very poor conflict resolution skills.

what statistics?

TDonald:
It's hard for you to comprehend isn't it

Have a nice day

why are u so arrogant?
did u even read what I posted ?


what part of " asked for her number but instead she collected mine" do u not understand ?


it means instead of giving him her number she collected his and that's how she was able to call him!!!!!!!


if u had read his post very well u would have known that instead of asking stupid questions

TDonald:
Oga, i think you are the one who can't read

martyns303:
I was put in a cell because of her.

Helped her registered her jamb, begged for number, but instead she took mine and promised to call. Didn't call, that's not until one faithful morning.

.

receive sense!!!

EmekaBlue:
Yeah Africa is no longer in chains but its very obvious white girls r more confident and seem to have a better body that can be xposed than our sisters.....All ur epistle writings cant change that fact. Its a truth we have to embrace, just like whites embracing african men r stronger physically.

those that seem to have better bodies are those that take care of it with , so much waxing, body creams and such


here in Nigeria u can't expect poor ladies to have the same bodies with their white counterparts

there is poverty here so u can't expect poor people to look amazing and it's not just girls guys too ,

listen there is nothing here about color , any white person can look ugly and any black person can look amazing it's all about class , and how much they take care of themselves

trying to turn this into a white Vs black thing instead of what it actually is which is "poor vs well taken care of " is quite slave minded of u


u need to understand that ur self-hating

SirMichael1:
Dude, but why you like so much na Which number did she used to call you??

goodness ,u can't read ?

u didn't see where he said he gave her his number?

stephleena:
if the naija girls begin Wear the Bikinis,na the same men go be the first to call them oloshos and farm tools.. mtcheew

I swear , sometimes some men embarrass my gender , I'm like "God, I really hope the ladies seeing all this sh!t know that all men aren't like this and these people are just losers"

EmekaBlue:
We always claim black is beautiful and natural, this and that but I'm yet to see our girls flaunt this so called beauty in nigerian beaches...All you see is ladies dressed like grannies. No one is confident enough to wear bikini.

Seems white chicks are cleaner,skin tight and more sexy than our women

lol a self-hater ...


refusing to wear bikini doesn't make our ladies ugly(slave logic)


remember bikini is a white thing and a white culture , we just are fully integrated to it that's all


people like u that ull be complaining about gays, how immoral our girls are becoming nowadays and complaining about how feminism is taking over saying "this is Africa this is how do things here bla bla blah"

but at the same time self-hate when we don't do things u see the white folks do ,so ur just being hypocritic about what to copy and what not to copy,because our girls don't wear bikinis that means they are ugly? really?



ps what's even the whole point of this thread EmekaBlue ? no really what did u want to achieve here ? u want people to come here and insult our ladies so u can laugh and like ? people like u are exactly what's wrong with Nigeria and Africa , ur not in chains but ur still slaves !

1StopRudeness:
U smartness is so great yet u can't identify sarcasm even when it knock u right in the face....

see who's talking

u didn't know I was being sarcastic?

Newsblogger:
A Nigerian facebook user, Joel Williams has taken to his facebook wall to bash a lady for sexually harassing him in public without mentioning her name in particular.

The blogger who considers his so-called "breast" a sensitive and private part of his body condemned the harassing act of a lady terribly squeezing it in public saying just as women regard their breast as private, so does he regard his own breast.

The blogger who identifies as feminist says, just as women won't want to be touched on their breast, the same goes for men too, see what he wrote below;



https://web.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1037131956477847&set=a.305398622984521&type=3&notif_id=1549835958471989&notif_t=feedback_reaction_generic&ref=notif

lalasticlala
Mynd44

I get this guy's point

but did he really say all this ?

he could have expressed himself without sounding gay

1StopRudeness:
[s]Guy sharrap.....!!!!
Men and women are not the same....
It's seduction if a woman touches you...
It's harassment if u do the same.....
That's how the world works....

it's a feminine world. Women don't just like to see it that way cos they are too one way traffic and greedy..[/s]

ur not smart...

wetdick:
dat is my description of a man.

ok explain clearly what u think alpha male is

being rough, rude, obnoxious , a narcissist?

wetdick:
My guy, all these alpha male non-sense are pure marketing gimmicks by Pickup artists, who are cashing out on your misery, it will take you nowhere here in the African dating scene talkless of the Nigerian dating scene, you will be stuck in a limbo, listen, most alpha guy nonsense are very popular in English speaking western society with a high rate of toxic feminism agenda. for example being an alpha or acting like one might get you laid in the US but surely won't get you laid in Brazil or even in Nigeria because women might perceive your attitude as being very rude.

I know some African guys in Europe that is excluding the Uk who just have to dress up in the stereotypical ghettoish black American male dress of wearing a baggie jean, a over fit dress with a cap and an ear-rings to match added with a fake American accent and all the girls in the club wants to Bleep them and i also know another set of Africans guys in Europe who just have to be an average salsa and bachata dancer in the club and girls thinks they are superstars.

Sometimes, when i read all these alpha stuff here on Nairaland, it makes me laugh, i have met and dated girls here in Nigeria and all i had to do was to be myself and be a good conversationalist with a wide range of interest, I didn't have to lift thousands of weight nor act like James Bond. My point here is that you should be yourself, it is a fact that there are girls who will want to exploit and manipulate you to do their bidding, my advice is, do not allow anybody to disrespect you, always speak your mind and dont be afraid to offend anybody, also know when to move on and do not be a father Christmas. simple as abc.

You see, the alpha concept is western and do not have anything to do with us. an alpha might be an asshole, who bleeps all the girls in the US or UK but here in Nigeria, The man who provides for his family is the King. A fuckman gets no respect here in Nigeria, he is still seen as a boy with the peter pan syndrome. checkup your famous player who might as well be your friend or family friends, do you think they got pussy by being cocky or an ass hole, hell no, they got pussy by being a sweet talker and someone that has an option.

I know for sure that in most part of Europe, south america, africa and asia, the so-called alpha traits of being an ass-hole will surely get you no pussy, you will, in fact, be looked as a guy trying too hard to be who he is not.

The alpha game might work on some US and UK born returnee girls who have been dumped and used or women who want to move up the ladder afap, those type of girls are bored with niceness and will see your game as a useless. your game for those type of girls are your money and nothing more. so guys know, who you are and where you are and dont go acting like a stupid fool because people know how to smell fake confidence.

A man as a provider is everything in Nigeria, once a man can provide and take care of his girl firend, or wife and children needs his name will change, from her calling your by your first name to sweety, then honey and then daddy, only a true Nigerian provider man can go through these phrase of name calling.

lol what do u think alpha male is? uve been watching too much werewolf flims

all those things uve just described is being alpha male , being urself , talking smooth , not taking sh!t from anybody etc


besides even what u think being an alpha male is still gets u the babe as long as u have money

Deja93:
Check out this curvy slay queen CHINAZA EBUKA currently trends as she covers daily magazines in the USA and bags an award for most curvy lady in USA
She wastes no time admonishing her country Nigeria she had this to say

“I may be lush radiant and beautiful but I’ll never forget my home Lagos “

She’s currently trending check her insta handle here

@briannafrancisca_jr

I see

Having been on nairaland for sometime there are some things that I find inconvenient and I believe should be added or upgraded ,things like...

1. A dislike system - Having been on nairaland for a while I've noticed that there are some really really STUPID and tribalistic comments that get a lot of likes and it bugs me because it seems like they are saying thrash and getting away with it what's more their ego is being boosted at the same time . If nairaland should have some sort of way where we can express our dislike to a comment either by adding a dislike icon or by doing what some platforms like Quora do whereby ur can like and dislike but instead ur shown just one number which the sum amount of likes and dislike , for example if 5 people like a comment and 3 people dislike it then ur shown "2" or if 6 people like a comment and 8 dislike it ur shown "-2" . I feel like this is a much better system because this way I could cancel out people's likes or increase it if I want to and it's more organized. This is by far the most important thing to me because I should be able to express my dislike with a comment just like someone is able to express his like with it



2. Uploading videos directly - The stress of not being able to upload videos directly on nairaland is quite disturbing especially when nairaland is supposed to have passed this level by now I mean you can't share videos from ur phone for people to watch and having to go to another website to watch the video ,no wonder most people don't even bother to watch the videos posted here even if it's just a few second Instagram video , this is just too inconvenient .


3. Emoji- Nairaland emojis are just far too outdated and boring , something new and refreshing should be added , we are far too tired of seeing the same old thing over and over again and not being able to show other expressions.


pls I would also like to know what things u think should be added or upgraded and pls show if ur with me(possibly by liking) because maybe just maybe we could get seun or whoever else is in charge to do something about these things if we make enough noise


p.s moderators I not in anyway tryna say anything detrimental to the success of this forum so I don't think I'm in violation of rule 7

and pls I'm not a reporter or in a proofreading mood or so if there is any grammatical error or u don't like the way if short spelled some words welllll.....

BiafraBushBoy:
I think one of the ways of getting over a failed marriage is to heap the blames on the head of your partner.

Morally, it isn't right; but that is the only way to get over the feeling of divorce.

I am gonna get married very soon, and NOTHING will ever lead me to divorce.

I rather play the fool in my marriage than watch it crash.

What happens to my kids?

Personal opinion tho.

yeah I understand what u mean , sometimes I see couples fight and I'm like this can't be me ,if I was the man id never have let things get to this level ,I'd just play dumb be quiet and chill and sort this out logically but u see overtime I realized that was a bit of naive thinking .

u just can't play the fool for the rest of ur life infact tryna play the fool is what gets u in the mess in the first place ! u start piling things up in the name of peace until one day u explode do something crazy and set the marriage on a horrible track .
it's better to be true to ur self from the beginning say what u want and what u can't stand from the beginning, don't tolerate too much sh!t but still know what to let pass by


and yes do whatever u can to get the marriage to succeed


and most importantly open eye when picking a wife not all that love will show the way sh!t

paraltero:
So the man should not be loving, caring, kind, considerate or generally good. He can be whatever the hell he wants, it's the woman that must be good.

The misogyny.

yh i didn't even think of that


but I think this message was simply tryna tell men what to choose in a lady


but yeah it's a bit chauvinistic (which I think is a better word in this situation than misogyny )

post=75552981:
fan, you are noted!
Will you stop quoting us everywhere now?!

US?

ur a team?

oderinde151:
11courses on my mind .
How I wan read Abeg. Chemistry for that matter

iono how I even wan start chemistry