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RomanceRe: My thoughts on friend-zoning by Matthewbriggs(op): 8:51pm On Jul 12, 2014
ihedinobi2: Briggs my brother, platonic friendships across genders don't stay platonic forever o. Emotions can erupt and what then? Stay friends and try to be cool about it hoping that he or she eventually gets with the program? Isn't that a bit like your definition of the friendzone? Break the friendship because it's no longer enough? Aren't you mean to do that? Squash the feelings and stay friends? Pray tell, how?
Its a bit like my definition.

Not neccesarily breaking the friendship but moving on emotionally, squashing the feelings and return to been just friends ... That is if he or she can than hanging on to those feelings hoping that by miracle he or she would get with the program.
PhonesRe: Android Vs Windows Phone Vs Ios - Home Screen by Matthewbriggs(m):
Android rocks. Followed by IOs then windows and BB

PS. I actually think you can read people via how their home screen looks like.

RomanceRe: My thoughts on friend-zoning by Matthewbriggs(op):
missberrypop5: seems this friendzone stuff is really a big problem to you guys. grin eiyah. grin una sorry ooo. Hahahaha
It not a big problem but one of those problems. Just as the issue of Men cheating is to women. tongue
RomanceRe: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Matthewbriggs(m): 10:49am On Jul 12, 2014
lynpetra: Wow,thats nice.Can't wait to get to 30.That's when the true beauty of a woman starts.For those like me that eat healthy and keep fit. cheesy
For real ... Tell me something. I thought according to society that's when a woman's expireing process starts taking place. When the already bloomed flower starts ...

Oh I remember it is a bit better for those who eat fit and stay healthy. cheesy

Eat fit ... Stay healthy.
RomanceRe: Help: I Need To Find A Husband Soon by Matthewbriggs(m): 10:33am On Jul 12, 2014
MizMyColi: I see Matthewbriggs is here cool
MizMyColi what's up. I was just passing by cool.

@Op Lynpetra made a very valid points... Do not let desperation get the best part of you.

In my opinion I am not really a big fan of finding love on the internet, I have my reasons, that is not to say I haven't met awesome people via this medium.

Focus on the real world ... Be more open, friendly and meet new people. Hang out in places and scenerios where men that fit your list are in quntum eg take up Volunteering opportunities, attend networking events and mixers, attend weddings, parties be active in your local church etc.

The greatest method of finding Mr right is making yourself Mrs right. Because Quality knows quality ...Ensure you have the attributes a Mr Right is looking for. Trust me you would have men all over you... All you would have do is sift select and choose


#MathewBriggs
RomanceRe: My thoughts on friend-zoning by Matthewbriggs(op): 9:38am On Jul 12, 2014
Medunah: A girl cnt date all d guys dat ask her out. All dis nl guys are jz making mouth, half of them re frnd zoned in d real world.
Exactly she can't. And can't have all of them as friends.
Read point one and understand that point clearly.
RomanceRe: My thoughts on friend-zoning by Matthewbriggs(op): 8:19pm On Jul 11, 2014
Neymar2: [color=#000030]I didn't bother reading the thread though. [/color]
I guessed as much ... cheesy
RomanceRe: My thoughts on friend-zoning by Matthewbriggs(op): 8:17pm On Jul 11, 2014
sholasholala: undecided
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RomanceRe: My thoughts on friend-zoning by Matthewbriggs(op): 8:15pm On Jul 11, 2014
Neymar2: [color=#000030]Friendzone isn't actually a bad thing. [/color]
Renforces point 3. Hehehe. cool
RomanceRe: My thoughts on friend-zoning by Matthewbriggs(op): 8:10pm On Jul 11, 2014
sholasholala: Point 1. Noted

BUT it is better to be friend zoned than to be treated like dirt by a lady. If you have feelings for her and she decides to make you her friend, you are better than the guy who has feelings for her but gets humiliated, insulted and embarrassed by her. At least you are still a part of her life.
If i have feelings for her and she is not feeling me point 5 takes effect. With speed. No dulling.
RomanceRe: My thoughts on friend-zoning by Matthewbriggs(op): 7:50pm On Jul 11, 2014
sholasholala: It really is not a bad zone.
That zone brings you closer to her. She tells you stuffs about her, she leans on your shoulder when she is hurting, she jumps on you without thinking twice when she is happy, y'all go shopping together, she happily cooks for you because you are her friend, she is so free with you etc grin
what more does a guy want?
S3x is over rated lipsrsealed
Read point one again. I don't mind be friends with a woman. smiley
RomanceRe: My thoughts on friend-zoning by Matthewbriggs(op): 7:17pm On Jul 11, 2014
sholasholala: What exactly is so so wrong with the friend zone? I really don't understand why guys dread it so much.



Why are all the guys on this thread insinuating that they are not/have never been in that zone?

OP has been friendzoned by me lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Read point 1 and the definition of friend zone he gave ... So many thing is freaking wrong with that zone.

@bolded Ehhenene ... Tell me something. shocked cheesy .
point 5 comes to mind
RomanceMy thoughts on friend-zoning by Matthewbriggs(op):
Lots of friend zone threads flying around lately. Evident of the fact that this is a very controversial and heated topic. I know this is an overflogged topic lately ... therefore What I intend to achieve via this thread is to bring to light, some perspective to this subject.

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What does it mean to be friend zoned ?

To be friend zoned means to really like a lady in a romantic way instead of letting her know directly, you instead try to do nice things for her, buy her stuff, be a good friend, a listener, be her Mr nice guy and all that stuff for a really outrageous period of time ... all because you want her to fall in love with you, only to be surprised that she really do not have any feelings for you instead has it for a totally different guy, and instead of moving on you, think you can still win the ladies heart by still been her friends and been nice ... Only to be emotionally drained, sad and miserable.

Been friend-zone is more than rejection of your advances and a lady saying she wants you to be her friend. The Friend zone is hanging in as a friend even when it is clear she aint into you ... hoping she falls in love with moving on ...

Below are Tips, Concepts and ideologies to help you get out of this Emotional mess


1. Been Friends with a woman is different from been friendzoned :- This is a common misconception among ladies and guys ... that been Friend-zoned and been friends with a lady is the same thing ... They are completely different things.
The fact is ... it is very healthy for you as a guy to have female friends they come in very handy ... from helping you land clients ... to serving as a casual date for an event to chatting and getting a females perspective on things.

To be friends with a female means you have no romantic feelings for her, you do not give her any form of special treatment ... She is your friend ... because she is adding value to your life not because you hope she ends up been your lover

While been friend-zoned is the complete opposite.


[img]http://domestigoth.files./2013/01/friend-zone-22.png[/img]
2. Define what type of relationship you want from any woman from the start and communicate that definition clearly :- When you meet a woman for the first time. The first question you should ask you self is what do I want from her is it sex, romance or just been friends.

You definition should influence how you approach her ... Whatever your definition is never fail to communicate it to her as early as possible through words or via action ... her reaction should decide your next course of action ... If she does not accept your definition by all means move on.

Eg. You like this particular Lady in your dept and you want her to be your girlfriend ... go and woo her do not I repeat try to be her friend in the hopes of getting her to like you ... be bold go directly for the kill. If she refuses and strings you along too much ... move on.

The truth is if a girl really likes you ... In Most cases you wound not have to try sooo hard... speaking from experience


https://www.bride2mum.com/wp-content/uploads/friend-zone1.png
3. Drill this into your head the average girl will not think twice before friend zoning you :- The AVERAGE woman just like you wants to eat her cake and have it. Just like MOST guys want as much sex without commitment so do women want attention, they want to be treated like princess, with love and care and admiration ... without the burden of commitment ... and they would go as far as stringing admirers like you ... not because they of they have feelings for you ... but because of the way you make them feel. The can mess with your feeling for years under the guise of friendship beware.

As a guy one of the greatest gift you can give any woman is your attention, your time ... she must deserve this attention ... do not give it to her on a platter of gold.

For a woman to be the centre of your world ... You must be the centre of her existence.


4. You do not win a girls heart by trying to be just her friend ... you win her heart by trying to be her lover. A lover is a friend and romantic partner meshed into one.

Hit on her from the get gooo. let her know you like her, give her those seductive glances, hold her hands, make her know you want her ... tell her how you feel.

I cant seem to understand why a guy who likes a girl instead of flirting with her and hitting on her left right and centre is busy doing her home work, going on errands for her and keeping her company hoping that by doing so she would fall in love with you ... he tries to be all mr nice guy ... dude you are on long thing. The truth is that such a guy is nothing more than a wimp, a mugu and would be severely USED. Note I am not against guys been all nice and caring but against doing such when he sees it as a way to trick a lady to fall in love with him ... instead of been direct.

5. Be sharp move on if you are not getting what you want from her ... Be it friendship, sex, love or whatever. As a guy no woman is indispensable ... there is always someone better that her out there.

Do not put any woman on a pedestal ... tying your joy and happiness to her if she does not do same to you. I am yet to understand why a guy would want to kill himself ontop a woman that every signal in the world is telling you that she is not that into you ... dude MOVE ON, Even if you decide to settle as friends Move on emotionally... Kill every form of hope of having her as your gf.

Yes it hurts to be rejected, and lose something you love. But if one thing life has taught me is that ... what should matter most to you is your happiness and the moment you are not fulfilled in a friendship with whatever lady move on.

There is someone more better, curvier, finer, intelligent prettier lady than her that is dying to have you as her man ... The world is freaking filled with beautiful women ... one of them is looking forward to be yours ... do not spend time with another man's future wife all in the name of some stupid feelings.

In all it is not a crime to have a female friends, have the ones for fun, for intelligent discussion, as business partners, the FWB if you so please.

but it is a crime in this twenty first century to be Friend zoned and even worse to to remain there... move the F$uk out of that zone before you get brother zoned.


Mathew Briggs
RomanceRe: Friendzone In Picture...(photos) by Matthewbriggs(m): 4:10pm On Jul 11, 2014
sweetguy10: But really I don't know how guys ended up being friend zoned . The truth is that I really can't be "Just friends" with a girl and still spend time together . I don't know how to be "friends" with girls , it is either we are sex mates , romantic partners or acquaintances . How will a girl spend lots of time with me and I won't bodge her ? Ahh I know myself sha , as I take spoil reach e nor fit happen
Word !! ... Even if we become friends their would be boundaries and limjts I can go.
RomanceRe: Virgin's Forum by Matthewbriggs(m): 6:12pm On Jul 10, 2014
ShirelleBaby: proudly virgin cry
undecided undecided
PhonesRe: Operators Licensed To Run 4G LTE Networks In Nigeria by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:23am On Jul 10, 2014
akraym: lame attempt. You are a spectranet agent. Tryna use trick to woo customers to them.

Peeps are wiser than you think
jdilight: You sound like a marketer of spectranet. Spectranet speed here in Lagos is nonsense.
The fastest I can stand for is Mobitel, but their after sales services is worst to non in the entire world.
cheesy cheesy ... I am not a marketer but a satisfied customer. I can only vouch for spectranet in Abuja and in the area/branch that I go to renew my subscriptions.

Like I said earlier please ... People should go for other networks and leave spectranet (especially those in Abuja) ... to avoid over burdening the network. I like my fast download speeds and I want it to remain that way.

grin
RomanceRe: Which Would You Ladies Prefer: A Rich Cheat Or A Broke Faithful Man? by Matthewbriggs(m): 12:11am On Jul 10, 2014
MrRenaissance: I attacked the messenger, which is you. We treat retàrds, with "whips" if advices can't work. I didn't attack the message cos it's baseless rants from the orfice of a nonsensical pseudo-intelligent wannabe!! Nigga, everything is not an avenue to spit your boring philosophical lame, migrane-inducing rants. We're talking of insurbordination of the highest order and you are mouthing off tripes you think everybody is interested to read.

Just because you are Matthew doesn't mean you should conjure Matthew-like epistle that makes no single sense!!

When dictator changed people's moniker without telling them first, you didn't speak out against that toutish act. How many times have Facebook or Twitter edited your name without you being notified? You are adumbassified clown if you can't see the insultive acts meted to members who weeped about the oga's highhandedness. You didn't write an epistle about it. You stuck your head far up your asss and kept mute.

Now a lot of members aired their grievances on that thread and the oga banned only two lovers and removed their profile pics, thereby invading their privacy, yet you dyslexic spastic dimwitt with an IQ of pubic louse, didn't speak out!!

Now the aggrieved party came to speak against the slavery they're being subjected to, only for your lame asss to come up your looser-like rants about the owner frustrating them even more. You're the perfect example of an ídiot.

You can't stoop to any lower, than you already are! You're far lower than a gum on the ground. You're a fraud!! [b] Weren't you preaching about bullying before the hackers attacked? [/b]But in dyslexic state, you have forgotten about it and have supported bullying with your lame tripe. you nonentity!! To hell with your sanctimonious bullshitt you pathetic, moronic, bag of filth. GTFOH, your hypocrisy stinks to high heavens!!
At least you mad some sense in this update... referring to only the bolded part of you post. The rest was just classic you ... and was very much expected... Like I said earlier I can't stoop low to your level to trade insults, I do not operate from that realm ... so leme addresses the areas where I felt you made some sense.

First I never supported Seuns actions. quote me any where. The name change he did not without notifying any one is very wrong ... at the same time I find it brilliant ( I can now see my mentions ) grin grin grin . He did a good thing the wrong way. he is human he is fallible. I forgive him.

Secondly I really do not care about how he chooses to run his platform ... therefore I find no reason to joining the cry, rant and pity party. I have more important things to do with my time than to whine over an anonymous identity. This is not Linked-in for f-sake this is just Nairaland ... If things are not going as well as I want I would just leave his platform shikena. easy pheazy.

Secondly my first post was not directed at those airing their grievances but at sexkillz and Seun saga... Please get your facts rights ... (its not ethical to quote some one out of context ... just like you just did. It very callous ) The fact is Seun is very wrong and sexkillz also has bitten more that he can chew ... imagine spamming his forum with confidential messages of a private conversation . As a boss I would do exactly what seun is doing to him if not worse, I would tear him to shreds, ... You can't just come in from know where and try to disrupt my empire or business, using the influence I once gave you ... I will destroy you while drinking coffee. grin the fate of Snowden and julian asange of wikileaks comes to mind. You want to be a whistle blower be ready to face the consequences.

Secondly it looks like you did not read my reply to Troy that went thus.

Dude ... No hard feelings man ... the fact you're fighting back is commendable. Continue to build a strong opposition as you're doing and see whether you can make your former boss change his ways. But do not cry foul if the heat gets hotter.

You are in freaking battle ... not just with any one but with a , much powerful opponent ... if I were you I would fight till my last breath. I Wouldn't just gather peoples symphathies I would move people to action. I would go down at the guy who changed the course of NL dictatorial history.

All you need to do is study your opponent ... and design a very strong offensive and defensive strategy. Your smear campaign is working. You need to utizlie the support you are gathering towards a specific goal instead of turning it into a pity and cussing party.
The problem I have is majority keep ranting crying, cussing thinking that would change anything. Instead of talking less and taking actions that reflects your grievances.

And for the record go and check the definition of what bullying means before accusing me of bullying any one. I never called anyone names or insulted anyone (quote me) . If I did I would gladly apologise.

The truth is Mr Renaissance. catharsisis a good ... I can therefore understand why you language is uncouth.

#MathewBriggs





#MathewBrigg
RomanceRe: Which Would You Ladies Prefer: A Rich Cheat Or A Broke Faithful Man? by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:22pm On Jul 09, 2014
Vivly: And Matthewbriggs is really fighting hard to be one.
I reject it ... I would rather build my own platform than be a mod. I would grow it and nurture it to not just become one of those forums trying to survive but instead morph it into a world class product.

I am more of a boss kind of person I am not a good follower. And even when I follow my bosses respect me because I think like them, I see what they see.. Therefore I can rengineer their minds and make them reason.

Its takes a boss to understand the angle a fellow boss is coming from. cool

#MathewBriggs
RomanceRe: Which Would You Ladies Prefer: A Rich Cheat Or A Broke Faithful Man? by Matthewbriggs(m): 9:50pm On Jul 09, 2014
hansobuks: Enough of your meaningless rants. No be everytime person go dey try to sound philosopical.

Shioor!!!
My rants are meaningless because it doesn't go down well with your school of thought, your arguement or for whatever reasons. Thats fair enough. cheesy . No hard feelings, I completely understand

The cool thing is, It's my rant I will continue to rant it. The best you can do is ignore them.

#MathewBriggs
RomanceRe: Which Would You Ladies Prefer: A Rich Cheat Or A Broke Faithful Man? by Matthewbriggs(m): 9:35pm On Jul 09, 2014
MrRenaissance: Frustrate his life abi? I don't blame you. you can now talk cos Hurricane Hack, hacked away your looser threads, filled with tears of you, loosing the NL competition. Frustrate him abi? Same way a girl on NL that you dreamed of having frustrated you and you had to go to your diary to weep!!

Niccur move the fùck on, this matter is way above your pay grade, Mr I-lost-to-beenkumar-and-i-must-kill-myself-with-looser-epistle-rants.
Classic ... as expected. Leaving the message to go after the messenger. The last thing I would do on Nl is to stoop so low to trade insults. Its beneath me... I don big pass that level. cheesy . Please attack my ideas ... challenge my thought process and engage my mind and watch me tear you down. wink

And for the record all your premise and conjectures are completely false. Very false... I couldn't help but chuckle at the degree of its error. cheesy

#Mathew Briggs
RomanceRe: Which Would You Ladies Prefer: A Rich Cheat Or A Broke Faithful Man? by Matthewbriggs(m): 9:18pm On Jul 09, 2014
TroyJay1: Better advice. I'll save this. Thank you.

You will be banned for rule 7. Prepare yourself.
My advice is not against any rule 7 . Because it not against NL success but against the perceived dictatorial tendency of the boss ... which I belive needs to be fixed. In fact it might end up well for NL.

But on the other hand Do not cry foul as he attacks back. And I completely support him if he does... because if I was him I would come more harder on you.

It nothing personal thats just basic survival...
RomanceRe: Which Would You Ladies Prefer: A Rich Cheat Or A Broke Faithful Man? by Matthewbriggs(m): 9:05pm On Jul 09, 2014
TroyJay1: I always knew your brain was composed of spaghetti.
Dude ... No hard feelings man ... the fact you're fighting back is commendable. Continue to build a strong opposition as you're doing and see whether you can make your former boss change his ways. But do not cry foul if the heat gets hotter.

You are in freaking battle ... not just with any one but with a , much powerful opponent ... if I were you I would fight till my last breath. I Wouldn't just gather peoples symphathies I would move people to action. I would go down at the guy who changed the course of NL dictatorial history.

All you need to do is study your opponent ... and design a very strong offensive and defensive strategy. Your smear campaign is working. You need to utizlie the support you are gathering towards a specific goal instead of turning it into a pity and cussing party.

#MathewBriggs
RomanceRe: Which Would You Ladies Prefer: A Rich Cheat Or A Broke Faithful Man? by Matthewbriggs(m): 8:43pm On Jul 09, 2014
hansobuks: Matthew Briggs give us an epistle biko.
A detailed analysis of seuns actions grin cheesy cheesy
Lol ... cheesy

If I give my detailed analysis. E go make things worse Lol. At this stage if I was seun ... I would cripple sexkillz Nl life completely ... tear him down to pieces .... frustrate his e-life out of my forum not because he may be right and some of my actions are really wrong but because he needs to know who is the boss ... This whole saga reminds me of one of the 48laws of power that states ... "never outshine your master"

Ps. Its nothing personal ... I careless about both of them ... its just basic survival ... thats how you treat rebels. In your organization.

Moreover that is not to say I am completely in support of seuns actions .., he has his faults and weakness. But from a fellow business man prospective... This is his business, his product ... he is the freaking CEO ... he decides how it is to be run ... all you can do as a customer is complain, protest or leave. At the end he alone will bear the consequences of his actions good or bad.

#Just saying.
Mathew Briggs

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