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angela98: This is the kind of news that makes flying frightening.. I think trekking is seeming more safer now.

Who says treeking is safe. Remember the crashed plane must land somewhere.

This is a very sad incident kids paying for the mistakes or their fathers. In the mind of the Israeli soldiers who killed these kids, they are collateral damage forgetting they were someones son, someones brother, someone's friend... And they are right ... Such is war.

But on the other hand I am pissed with Hamas your rockets are not getting into isreal and you keep shooting them to what end ... For more of your innocent citizens to die due your fool hardedness? Retreat and restrategise your attack. Damn.

I am not a big fan of the Gaza conflict. But the way Isreal is approaching this conflict especially how she is invested on a powerful defense technology to safe guard her people ... Gives one an insight into who they are. They value the lives of their people more than the Palestines.

The Palestinians are at error here.

GodMode: Stop quoting CNN

Quoting what ... I am just stating the obivious. Everyone is coming up with different conspiracy theories. And most people are already taking these theories as fact.
Just like I erroneously did at first.

I think with way new information is coming in... Especially the seperatist denying been responsible for this nightmare it is important one never runs into quick conclusions as to who is responsible.

This is what happens when terrorist i.e seperatist get hold of deadly technology. Damn this very sad.

May their soul rest in peace.

PS. I am very sure Russia is not directly responsible for this nightmare.

She fine damn!!! Congrats Jude.

Mehn their is no reason to settle for less looks wise.
Future Mrs Briggs must not be lacking in the looks dept.

lynpetra: We good!

*drops matchet*

Nice

Fire

faakay: Nice one bro, I have seen girls wooed me in the past so it's no big deal to me

I don't have to wait till I have all the money in this world, I will attract bad eggs.


I don't need a girlfriend, I know what I want

A girlfriend doesn't make sense to me anymore at this age. I need a fiance - even if I need one most Nigerian girls nowadays want we guys to pay all the bills. If you have got no cash - they would go for the guys that got the money

Money isn't the foundation to relationship, it is just of one the basics but most Nigerians girls have chosen money first before anything

I have contacted some girls and they told me, go get money, when you get money, you will get girls and that is what a lady also told me - MONEY RULES girls in Nigeria

Everybody have got his goals and career to accomplish in life

I am not expecting or stating you have all the money in the whole world ... But enough to at least lead a comfortable life.

Finally ... On reading your posts and blog ... I feel some of them are out of touch from reality. I really do hope you sort out any metal challenges you faced or once faced ... Once and for all. So it doesn't stand in your way towards whatever you desire.

You have potential all you need do is unleash it. For me that should be your main goal.

Wish you best of luck.

MathewBriggs

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teeo:
True that but unnecessary civilization and the drive for feminism has pushed women away from the home front which should be their primary duty. Men are to be bread winners working hard to put food and good resources on the table. Am totally in support of ambitious women but I don't think I would want my wife to sacrifice the development of our children for an unneeded achievements.
If after all the achievements your child becomes wayward and ruins your name, the achievement amounts to nothing, it becomes total rubbish.

Word!!! Same here @ bolded

sholasholala: I think following your footsteps will be best for me.

Hahaha. .

Ngokafor: ...It was a gradual thing just before we got married..I honestly do not feel so bad cos apart from the fact that he was polite with his suggestions and made so much sense with his legendary 'sweet mouth ' lol,(not the teaching suggestion though )my work is becoming more demanding so i dont think i can cope for much longer..something has got to give..
...My ambition to be very very successful will not wane but i have decided to be smart about it.

Lol @ bolded. "Legendary Sweet mouth" .
The ... Bright side is you've Adapted to the situation.

sholasholala: Your friend's point makes sense.
Personally, I have dreams and whenever I think of my plans for myself (career wise), I try to fit my husband and kids in and I finally realized that I can't fully engage in what I want to do if I want to always be there for my kids.
I know that I have to compromise at some point for the sake of my family (especially my kids). But that doesn't mean I will totally abandon my dream and become a full time house wife. No. My career will take a slow pace till my kids grow to a certain age.

Hehehe very well said.


This is a really complicated topic and from my observation .. Their is really no right answer or stance, it is not black or white ... the best bet is that one should go for whatever works for him or her and proceed to settle with someone who shares the same ideology.

But as we do so I think it is important to note the following points.

1. Family must come first before career for both couples. They both should be involved in a child's upbringing and more involved in each others life.

2. Both partners would try as much as possible to ensure they aid each other have a fulfilling life and career and should never try to prevent one another from reaching for the stars for egotistical reasons.

3. Nothing is set in stone, your stance may change in the future. The baseline is that both parties should be willing to make compromises when it is called for... To ensure the family never suffers.

4. Its not a crime for a woman to not have any ambition other than be a good house wife, so is it not a crime for a woman to desire to rise to be the CEO of a fortune 500 company. The most crucial thing is never let the home front suffer as a woman. The survival of the family structure is more dependent on you the woman.

5. Is not a crime as man to go for a less ambitious woman or to go for a very ambitious woman. The most important thing is you do your best to ensure you both have a fulfilling married life.

#Justsaying
#Mathew Briggs

carefreewannabe: Believe it or not, I do NOT have a problem with men, I have a problem with stupidity, be it male or female, and most of all stupid people who want to lead others.

You are really smart, bold and a goal oriented strong black woman. Someone a particular breed of men would find interesting.

But on the downside I have sensed after stumbling on your posts before is that you have this constant desire to argue and contend with men, their opinions, their decision, treating every contact with a man as a battle for superiority.

I might be wrong tho.
#Just saying

@ Ngokafor Wow what an eye opener during dating he supported your career but he changed during marriage.

This topic is really dicy. Making me in a way understand the perspective my friend is coming from.

They say theory is different from practical. I hope reality doesn't hit me in the face when the time comes given my stance.

Quick question? Did his stance change immediately you got married or after a particular period of time. If the latter where you willing to make the sacrifice or do you feel bad for his new stance.

crackhaus: These things are not black or white.
Who says a career oriented and highly ambitious woman can not also be there for her children and family?

There are ways around these things that work for heaven's sake...unless the woman is just plain lazy, which is where problem arises.

Very true they are not black and white. @bolded exactly my thought.

Nonso23: O.P if we cut down all trees and 'eat' up all their seed one day mother earth will lose all her luxuriant forests and tree canopies. Succession is paramount here.

Ambition though beautiful doesn't sound so appealing anymore if the children are caught in between. No one can have it all. There is a measure of sacrifice everyone has to make to keep oiling the wheels of succession. If these kids deprived of parental love and care turn out to be 'unfit' later on to carry on the ambitious heritage of the same parents, they are still blamed.

Your friend is just being realistic/careful. He's trading off a more interesting partner for a simple one to ensure that his legacy is preserved after he's gone in the lives of his children.

Not everyone is meant to get married.

Very interesting perspective especially @ bolded.

Moreover really think the two couples can combine their ambition and successful raise the kids especially if one gives birth to maybe 1 kid or 2.

Tval: I am supporting Argentina..


But I had to post this.


"G"is the 7th letter of alphabets.
"Germany" starts with "G" the name "Germany"
contains 7 letters...
Germany was in group "G" or group "7"
Germany ended group stages with "7"
points. Germany scored 7 goals in group
stages.
4 vs Portugal, 2 vs Ghana and 1 vs USA.
Germany scored 7 goals against Brazil.
This is also their 7th match in the tournament.
And obviously we are in the 7th month of the year the conclusion is that Germany is
anointed to win this cup.
Do you # agree ?

Crazy coecidence....

Because of Messi I support Argentina

carefreewannabe: Why do you think I have a problem with regards to men?

I also think you do. .

*runs away*

donroxy: I love career woman because I[b]'m highly career oriented and If you aint following my steps or me following your steps then I'm gonna get bored easily cuz U can't be telling me about Tomato , Tatashe , abi some clothing lines everyday[/b] !! ....


The only thing is : we will always review impact of our engagement on the family and turn down positions with more than necessary adverse effects on the family !!


Strategic level management is not as demanding as middle level management = The company's messengers !!

@bold exactly . I concur

carefreewannabe: To each their own. I can understand why he reasons this way and I am ok with it. I just couldn't get married to a man with this way of thinking but I am sure he will find a woman who is ok with it.

@bolded well said.

Tallesty1: Every man has what he wants in a woman so allow him.

I am not stopping him ... Was basicly trying to understand his perspective.

ihedinobi2: To be honest, I don't keep female friends that close. To what purpose would I? Emotional confusion? I really could do without that. My best female friend I talk to only once in a while now but whenever we meet up we hang out, catch up and have a really good time. I don't fool myself that there can't be more on one side or the other. Physically, she's not my normal taste but I've seen the possibilities of romance before so I keep a respectable distance. My reason? Language. Close but not exactly the same.

My exes? We don't talk. But if they needed something and called I'd help out. It's not acrimony, it's just there's no reason to stay in touch.

Abeg I don't do "friends" across genders o. There are periods when I'm so there for one or other of my female friends but once they are ok again, I'm gone until later. Because there's nothing left but romance to do. My friends are guys.

Hahah ... I perfectly understand where you are coming from, especially at bolded. I hardly keep anyone close. Male or female. So it's pretty difficult for me to be friendzoned in the first place.

I prefer having lots of acquaintances to friends. I function better that way.

I had a chat ... With a friend and he was like he would not go for a woman as ambitious as him.

Just like me he has very crazy ambitions ... We are both committed to seeing our daring dreams come to pass.

He reason is that he wouldn't like a situation where him and his spouse are so preoccupied with their DARING goals at the detriment of the family.

Eg. He goes on a business trip to go seal a deal and his wife jets off to Paris to go launch her new line ... With both of then never having time for the kids or each other due to their demanding careers as they try to build their dreams.

He says he is not expecting her to be a house wife but more like she would have a lesser demanding career or job than his.

He was like their is need for balance. With one of the couple having a lesser dream or demanding career.

I am like if you have someone as ambitious as you ... You both stand the chance of sharpening each other and assisting each other achieve their dreams, I was like it would be very wrong of you to inhibit your spouses goals because you want her to have time for the family.

He was like he would not be inhibiting her ambition if she doesn't have a big ambition in the first place.

So now one of his criteria is a woman with little or no ambition but she would be very smart and intelligent and working class.

I am like you can't be smart without having an ambition. He was like her ambition would not be too big or demanding of her time.

As for me I am turned on by women with really bold ambitions. The only clause is do not forget I exist as you go on to pursue that dream.

What's your take people. Is it ideal to go for someone with a lower ambition than you. Male or female

#MathewBriggs

Shikaamaru: LOL.. same thing goes for the ladies. We can't date every one of them pushing their ways into our life's.
So what do we do? We friendzoned them also. It's a two sided thing.

Hahaha wicked.

ihedinobi2: I don't know o. I like a simple life o jare. I'd rather not be friends at all. I am no good at loving a little and stuff like that. I'll probably pick up any friendship after I'm married.

For me I place them as acquaintances in most cases. Only in rare cases do we become friends... Hence I added the phrase "If you can" to my reply.

ihedinobi2: Like I asked, HOW?

Their is no definite formula to moving on. But one way that works is asking your self what cause the feelings to develop in the first place ... And then reverse engineer the process.

Eg. If it started because you spent so much time together with her... Do the opposite. Till you have have successful moved on.

Read point 5. It has some ideologies to aid one move on.

Once you have emotionally moved on you can continue with been friends ... If you can.