₦airaland Forum

Dikegodspower:
Soludo too the talk.
Oga govo,swing into action and stop all this trash blc I'm seeing you as the worst and weakened govo

He started what he cannot finish. Leadership is not accountancy work in the bank.

BabaIbo:
LoL, C. Ronaldo and Mikel are married, na im dem dey call their girls BabyMamas OR girlfriends anytime them wan address them?

That is the language the world understands since a priest or a judge did not join them. Ask yourself, who joined Adam and Eve? That same person that joined Adam and Eve can join me and my babe.

BabaIbo:
Marriage they say is a beautiful thing but if you ask many men out there what marriage is to them or what marriage has brought to them or will they get married if they are given chances to rewind time, their responses will be in negative form or NO.

That same step(marriage) is the next step to be taken by me but I have one unanswered question. I am a young man in my 30s, currently free from any dating relationship and about to begin my search for a life partner, but I like being cleared/well-informed about something before going into it.

Pardon me for this long note I am about to dish out and the question I will be asking at the end.

For sometimes now, people around me have been telling me I am next in line to get married, some telling me to ensure I bring a responsible lady home and all that.
My mom do tell me she won't rush me to get married but as an observant person you will notice she really wants me to bring a woman(wife) home.

My dad told me sometimes ago that if I don't have a lady, that maybe they should search for a young good girl for me early next year.
My younger ones are expecting me to take that step so they can start planning on theirs and all that.

All these are for their own good or benefits, I am not saying they don't deserve it but I have been trying to get a tangible reason to get married i.e what is the SPECIAL thing(benefit) it will add to my life, I am the one getting married not them.
"Na me wan wear the shoe."

A bikeman, popularly known as Okadaman that do come to my place told me story about himself and big opportunities that marriage has made him miss.

In addition to his words and those I have heard from others, the fear of things going south, disappearance of peace of mind and all that are other factors.

Presumed(anticipated) benefits which are not as they are expected to be again are)

CHILDREN: Children can be gotten without marriage, for example: C. Ronaldo, Mikel, and others did that and they are doing well.

GOOD MEALS: Foods can be gotten from outside or prepared by the man or any other person that is not a wife for the man. Moreover, how many of them can cook well like our mothers? I'm a better cook than most ladies I have come across.

COMPANIONSHIP: That is an overstatement in our present society. It is even more noticeable in dating relationship than in some marriages these days.

SEX: That is the cheapest service/thing to get after air and water(clean water is even more expensive). Moreover many marriages are lacking sexually. It is worse if the man has high sex drive aka high libido.

SUPPORT: I don't want to go there because it is an open fact that instead of getting support, the man is being leached/milked of the one he has.

HOME: I can still remember how some married men will pack their cars at the junction, stay inside their cars for long before driving home, some go to the bar/relaxation centers to chill before going home, some don even like going home. You all know why?

With all these in mind, I want to ask this question that has been bothering me because I need to sort it before taking the step...

Now, my question is "WHAT IS THE BENEFIT OF MARRIAGE TO A MAN IN THIS OUR TIME?"

PS: I used this image because what marriage did to the man in the picture is in the open

LOL, you used C Ronaldo and mikel as examples, those two are married. When two come together to procreate, cohabit, with the consent of the parents, they become one and as matter of fact married. Africans took it extreme and made it look like marriage is expensive. Just get a babe, and procreate with her with the consent of her parents.

The problem we have is African marriage... If you want to avoid those problems you listed there, just get a girl and start living together. The benefits of having a woman by your side is the children and the children needs security. If you don't cohabit with a woman, the children will lack.

Note that forces beyond human understanding will worry you to go public with weddings and the nonsense, just block your ear until you achieve all your goals.

However, if you are not financially stable, do not marry/cohabit/procreate yet. E get why

Jmichael1:
i don't get you,hw do u mean?

You act like your dad because, his DNA is embedded in you. In order to change or edit the DNA, you need chemical or psychological force.

Jmichael1:
Good day my fellow nairalanders.
please I'm not good in writting, abeg make una pardon me. I just want to go straight to the point.

i'm michael,the first child of my parents(all boys)as a 1st son,i took 90% of my dad character of wish i don't like 70% of them but i can't stop acting like him, I behave exactly like him in almost every thing.

I have tried all i could to stop bt no way...
Please want do u guys suggest for me to do?
i don't want to live the kind of life my dad lived.

please i need your advice...

Drugs, environment, religion and education... These are the four things that can edit your DNA.

Ishilove:
Give them their Biafra and in one year there will be full blown civil war in their country.

Thank you my brother... But Fulani people say it's risky because they may end up better.

Cyphar:
Seriously, your moniker and writeup make me laugh out loud here......


But big head no suppose be issue.... My own head is kinda big even my mum calls me big head sometimes jokingly same as my friends but i no alllw am bother me .. i guess your problem is girls not giving in to you. I doubt if your head is the reason for that. Maybe you wor wor

No man wor wor, just fill your pocket. Ordinary dog is doing wonders with small money talkless of a big head with large gbola and big pocket. My brother OP, don't let any part of your body betray you. It is normal

Roseey0:
Can you let us into this valid reason.
Just curious
That is if it's not for security reasons

No, its private between us. What I am saying is, I am sure she has an explanation or a valid reason. Some women dont showcase there hubby if they feel insecure around there wayward friends especially, if the husband is cute

Threesha:
From DM

I have never put my wife pics with valid reasons and she knows... So in ur case, find out the reason or ask her. If she no give tangible reason then come back for advice from the RPs

VillagePipu:
Propaganda indeed. There was one ipob fool on Nairaland like you, it was when UGM visited his family and killed his uncle that he regained his senses.

I personally feel Buhari should withdraw all security agents from the South East for just 3 months let UGM take over.

I wish too but somehow, Nigeria is just afraid of igbos

Joshcoli:
The difference is if it's African it's an expatriate
While abroad its an immigrant

Africans need to change the narrative

African success is hidden somewhere, I think God purposely reserved Africa to preserve life after Nuclear war.

The guy man may be depressed and came here to catch cruise which didn't work out eventually

YoshihideSuga:
The South East not Nigeria*

The kind of poverty that will ooze out from the South East in the next decade will make Somalia look like Switzerland.

OK, Nigeria is wonderful, may God help South East achieve Biafra so that they will kill themselves and die in poverty. Say Amen

richeeyo:
Alaye go to the woman's shop
Yourself
Stop Running
The more you hide the more guilty you become
Heaven no go fall

The guy dey scam the little girl... Na why conscience dey blame am. Small girl sent you 250k you begin chop am already. Make him go answer police simple

michlins:
Now this is the reason you should know that crime doesn't pay. This guy made billions and already blew it all in less than a decade.

He's back to his old life of crime. Unfortunately he will still catch fresh greedy Nigerians

ONE thing about crime, you will always go back to it somehow may die with the persons head. Some people no dey forget ooo, they may roast the guy finally.

siofra:
What's the difference between expatriate and immigrant and refugee??

Good question... They use English dey deceive us.

illicit:
E still dey eye d girl by that gate

E be like him no finish the job...

Kriss216:
As usual, Igbos and MNK must be blamed.

The hatred for South East is the only thing keeping this useless country together.

Yes as far as you join hands hate MNK... You will be loved by unity beggers.

Nigeria is gone... Killing was not enough na to cut the head join. Somehow nobody is shouting graphic again, it is now a norm... Na wa

Urheadmaster:
She was once my woman friend but we had stopped dating for a long time. One day while I was on my way home with Muslim, we saw the deceased and he told me he would like to date her too.

“So I arranged for them to meet and they met in my house. I excused them, but after about 45 minutes, I went back and met them naked. I thought she did not allow him to have sex with him, so, I held her leg but few minutes later, I discovered she was dead.


“I asked my friend why he killed her and he told me he wanted to use her hand and that we should go ahead to bury her. I quickly ran to another friend, Rabiu Fatai to inform him of what happened. He returned to the scene with me and with Muslim, they both cut the head, hand, heart and legs and buried the remains.


“Fatai took the head and heart to his place, while Muslim took the hand to his house where it was burnt and we shared the ashes. I was told by my cleric friends in the village that I would make money from ritual and stop riding motorcycle, so I took part in burning the hand.

“Meanwhile, Fatai was also burning the parts with him and I was to share from it too. But at the time I was supposed to meet him to get my share, I heard the news that Amotekun operatives were searching for me. So, I took Fatai’s motorcycle and ran away to Lalupon to avoid being arrested”, he said.

Afonja and skull mining has become so rampant in the whole of Oduduwa federal republic.

Not a single day without a news about Oduduwa people mining their fellow human parts.

Very useless set of people .

Those Afonja people and harvesting are like 5 and 6.

606thearena:
Good morning Nairalanders.
Please I’m really begging you guys for solutions.
I’m currently in 300 level in unilag . I’m currently In my 4th relationship Because of this issue of premature ejaculation. You lease if you been in my shoes before what did you do to get out of it . I don’t want to be on drugs to have sex all the time I’m just 24 years . I used to masturbate when I was young but I was not a chronic masturbator could that be the reason . Pls guys help with any remedy that will work , my currently relationship is currently shaking because of this issue every other thing I’m blessed with, just this premature ejaculation that is ruining my life and relationship.

Pls Nairalander do not view and pass by any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.

I will be waiting for your response Keenly

For all this buhari hardship, your problem is to stay on top for 5hrs. If I were you I will be thinking on how to become the next Elon musk, forget those hoes. If you like stay on top of 1 week, they will still leave you go fuckkk dog.

Well my advice is to use finger for 1hr and climb for 40 seconds... Total = 1hr40 seconds.

Remember to eat only roasted unripe plantain and water for one week. You go turn to fire.

Final advice, use ur time do better thing oo, women no worth am.

InvertedHammer:
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They take the corpses to churches for prayers because no human being understands God. Everyone is gambling hoping that something pays off at the end.

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LOL, I tell you. Na gambling things

Rugaria:
That's what happens when you recruite Boko Haram adherents and some funny french speaking mutants from Zinder in Niger republic into The Nigerian Army..., that's the kind of reaction you get from the public.... At every checkpoint in the East, you encounter these strange looking lanky homo sapiens that make you wonder if you know your country or your countrymen with their unmatched thirst for blood and carnage...

Terrible... I saw some group dressed like Alshabab militants in police van and I was wondering.

bigpicture001:
I love imo roads.. they are all wide

Thanks to Owelle Rochas Okorochaaaa. That man has vision

ZombieSlaughter:
Ralph Uwazurike the efulefu don scam Yeye Bello use the money to fund his dying BIM rubbish wey don cast. Like attract likes. Thieving bello goes to fraudulent Uwazurike for endorsement.

No wonder MNK called him out as a fraud while yoruba muslims now love him and proclaim him greater than Awolowo for hating MNK..

Why not change the BIM rubbish to Nigeria Indepent Movement (NIM) and stop confusing himself. Ralph the crook. Imagine a 'Biafra leader activist' endorsing selling endorsement for nigerian presidency. Akpiri ogologo egbugo nu uwazuruego.

ESN will be watching you all very keenly.

I noticed how some people now praise him, this country na mistake

lightskinnigga:
Every well meaning Nigerian wants Peter obi.

We’re tired of heartless, brainless politicians

The north don't want him, one he is from nyamiri region two he is a Christian and this the problem Nigeria has in selecting good leaders. Consequently, Nigeria is not designed to work unless, we sit down and discuss it.

Rugaria:
The government is totally aware of these killings in the East...
I mentioned how someone from Orlu confidently told me this week that most of the soldiers and Ebubeagu miscreants involved in these shootouts are not from Igboland and a re-tarded BMC member started lecturing his chi on why we should not believe everything... They shoot into markets and compounds unprovoked! Infact, the guy said that all markets in the Orlu area close whenever there is a report of these "security forces" around... People run from the military not from IPOB..

Look like people are scared of security agencies these days because, they don't even dress like security agencies again

kettykings:
I sincerely hope they don't go about shooting unarmed people and setting innocent person's houses and property ablaze

Gambia is Futa Jalon... U don forget?

Chopchopfine:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IkKUAboiy0s

Broke people here don suffer

StilmaVsBorn2w:
I can't borrow money to marry her corpse, never
The debts I borrowed from her treatment up to a millionaire is still in my neck, haven't even paid dine from it.

Look like that pregnancy na mistake, you for advice her to marry another person all these while. That you impregnated her does not mean you must marry her but if you started the process of marriage, tied her down and stopped somewhere then it's your fault.

Solofresh2:
There is course mate of mine. We were close friends in school. So there is this day she followed me to my home (because I don't live in the hostel, I rented an apartment outside), I was so hungry so she decided to cook for me. After we finished eating, one thing led to the other and we had sex. This girl is in her early twenties just like me.

Since that day, she never lets me rest. We have been having sex and she told me she has a boyfriend. She comes to my house and we always end up having sex all the time. I have told her enough is enough but she keeps coming. I use protection though.

I blamed myself for letting her know my place
How can I discard this girl totally because as long as she comes, I will keep sleeping with her.

Men, there is always this time man gets tired of sex... I had a girl like that, the more you dey pursue her the more she comes your life go just dey do anyhow. Man up and kick her ass but remember konji day. You may need her services

Puremaker8:
he must serve even though got to 40 before coming back, since he is 24 before his graduation

Na the problem I dey oo....I been thinks say i fit outsmart the system but I have finally made up my mind but that type of Davido serving will be a good idea

Mayannaic:
Batch A stream 2 wey we just comot for camp last week??

Please, when next registration dey start?