Jacktheripper:
I don’t even know who gave me the idea but I used to think marriage was like a delicious soup, a perfect mix of ingredients that, when cooked just right, becomes something greater than the sum of its parts.

Five years in…

I am starting to wonder if I have been served a plate of overcooked, burnt offerings instead.

Don't get me wrong o, I love my wife. Or at least, I'm pretty sure I still do.

It's just that lately,things with her feels like trying to hug a porcupine - painful, and leaving me wondering why I keep attempting it.

Why?

I usually drag myself through 12-hour shifts at work, working until my eyes blur, all to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table.

Meanwhile, my wife stays home with our son. It should be a fair division of labor, right?

Except lately, I feel like I'm working two full-time jobs: one at my work, and another cleaning up the messes my wife leaves in her wake.

Take last week, for instance…

I came home to find my son with a nasty bump on his forehead.

Well, my wife had been scrolling through TikTok videos while he climbed onto the kitchen counter and took a dive onto the tile floor.

When I suggested maybe she could pay a bit more attention, you'd think I'd accused her of trying to sacrifice our child to Moremi.

"Are you saying I'm a bad mother?" "Do you have any idea how hard it is to watch a toddler every second of every day?" she shouted at me like my manager at work.

I suggested it might be easier if she spent less time debating BBN housemates with her Twitter friends and more time, oh I don't know, actually watching our son. But I have learned that logic and my wife go together about as well as garri and palm oil.

Then there was the great stovetop incident of last month.

I came home to find the kitchen filled with smoke, my wife fanning at our glass-top stove with a dishcloth.

You won’t have guessed what happened.

Apparently, she decided to cook vegetables directly on the stovetop. No pot. No pan. Just leaves sizzling away on the glass surface.

"I was trying a new recipe!" she protested when I asked what in the name of the gods she was thinking. "The blog said to cook the vegetables on high heat!"

I took a deep breath like a supervisor when he had just finished listening to a terrible project defense, channeling the patience of a thousand ancestors. "Sweetheart," I said, as calmly as I could manage, "when recipes say that, they generally assume you're using some kind of cookware."

Her eyes narrowed. "Are you calling me stupid?"

And there it was.

The minefield I step into every time I try to address these... let's call them quirks. Any suggestion, no matter how gently phrased, is met with defensiveness sharper than my mother's best paring knife.

More often than not, I find myself lying awake at night, staring at the ceiling fan as it whirs above us.

I think about the bright-eyed girl I fell in love with, the one whose laugh could light up a room. I wonder where she went, and when she was replaced by this doppelganger who seems to view me as her personal enemy.

Some days, I feel the love I have for her slipping away, like sand through an hourglass.

I catch myself daydreaming about a life where I don't have to constantly be on guard like Arsenal supporters trying to defend why they have never won the UCL.

Where I can come home and relax instead of wondering what new disaster awaits me.

But then my son will come up to me, arms outstretched, babbling "Daddy!" And I'll see my wife eyes in his face, her smile on his lips.

In those moments, I remember why I fell in love with her in the first place.

She called earlier today, her voice tight with that usual tone that always spells trouble. "We need to talk," she said.

Those four words hang in the air as I write this on my laptop.

I know for sure when I get home that I will sit in the car for a long moment, gathering my courage. Whatever awaits me behind that door, I know it will test the very foundations of our marriage.

I'd have advised but that shot on Arsenal is a NO NO for me.

That's a lighter note.

Good you identified the background of the problem - social media & television which shows, she needs to get busy.

As for your boy, check him into all these kindergartens just to leave home and learn new things away from home.

I believe you have an intuition of what she's trying to bring up. As advised, doused the tension with something she loves (drinks, food, just a surprise) that will melt her heart. Let her bring the topic for discussion, listen and don't respond immediately. Whatever it is, tell her you need to take your bath and eat. That short period, think of the best way to still douse the tension.

I don't know her age but she sounds young to understand why social media shouldn't be a yardstick in the home. That needs to be corrected ASAP. If you can make her busy and take your boy for some hrs from home, I believe she will change.

The identified social problem is a big menace with this young ladies. Don't over look.

The North wants power to them as soon as possible.

The shortest means is to ensure they satisfy the South with 2terms.

The best means to achieve this is to bring GEJ to complete his 2term.

Tinubu did not perform well in some Northern states in the last election.

We all know Northern states take decision of who becomes the president due to their population & spread.

It's politics. Mathematics is allowed.

It's politics. Chess board is allowed.

We understand our culture but we are never satisfied until the white ma says, it is wrong.

Spraying of notes has been in existence before we were born.

bmasz:


Let's pretend for once that we don't have selfish leaders.

Did you notice that she lamented the fact that she scaled through the interview process several times only to be asked to drop something on the table.

This is also a citizens problem, where 'good people' do bad things to increase their take home.

Collecting bribe before doing their jobs.

This is not only a leadership crisis that we are facing, we are also facing a citizens crisis.

Even if we have good leaders, I'm of the opinions that the citizens would not let their impact to be felt.

Case in point, the distribution of palliative during the COVID era.

Just recently, I went to apply for grant in a ministry, I was asked to sign an undertaking to give 5% of the grant awarded.

We have to change as a people, if we need a change in leadership.

I won't point you to a thread on Nairaland where it's obvious that jobs are either sold or shared among politicians. If you hear the way they share slots, you won't have any option that to source for the money to secure a job. Custom job will soon be announced. What happened to NSCDC? When last did the FG announce vacancies in Federal Civil Service or people did not retire/japa?

See, the son of a nobody in this country is going through a lot. The woman has gone through a lot, she's just surviving with the help of a good husband and hope for better days.

Let me also burst your brain, rarely will you see civil servants either at state or fg level who got the job on merit. It's a man no man issue. That's the bane of our problem. We have selfish, greedy, opaque & absolute good for nothing leaders who sees nothing good in doing the right things.

We have a long way to go. Advertise vacancies, shortlist and employ the best. This is further help our economy and development. The best brains who have passion for Nigeria will be there. It saddens my heart to see how our leaders use employment & poverty to impoverish the downtrodden.

Nothing for NOA. That Agency needs funding like never before.

sreamsense:


You are just looking for opportunity to hang on pastors in general. Where did he tell you he is a pastor? Is pastor and deacon the same? If he claimed to be deacon online, how did you go to verify his claims first? If he claimed to be deacon in 2022, how are you sure he has not changed his faith or join traditionalist? You did not do through investigation before you generalize the whole matter.

You were only looking for opportunity to attack pastors unreasonably. However, if indeed he is a deacon or pastor and does wrong things. He or other pastors or deacons are not the perfect example of christian leaving. Christ is our perfect examples not pastors. Christianity is an individual race not hanged on pastors or deacons and Jesus that is our perfect examples have warned that in the end times there will be many fake prophets (not fews) who will arise to deceive many. So, take heed, to avoid being deceived by them and ensure you don't loose your focus on Christ.

However, in your own case; you are only looking for opportunity to attack pastor unnecessarily. In doing so, you are also fulfilling one of the prophesies of Jesus Christ in warning his followers, "that you shall be hated". Your hatred of anything pastor is what makes you jumped on pastor even when the person never claimed to be pastor and your information was never verified before rushing online.

In a nutshell, you are justifying OMI ERO by a deacon?

Truly, it's not easy.

I have triplets and I understand

Anguldi:
NASS should cancel states electoral commission and replace with INEC

Ahead ahead 💯🔥

I swear down, the present NASS can & will never try such. You know why, opposition will win strong holds which becomes a problem for the Governor.

We ain't ready for true democracy. Though, a step at a time if it's not truncated by another administration. At least, LG autonomy was in existence before now.

So sad..!

Ezewuzie01:
According to the constitution that the Supreme Court just trashed, the states and local governments were mandated to set up a joint account so that they could effectively overcome the challenge of paying the salaries of primary school teachers. Public Primary school teachers are unique in the sense that their salaries are paid by the three tiers of government the FG, states and LGAs. The primary school teachers suffered months of unpaid salaries in the past before the joint account set up because the local governments were the weakest link in the payment chain due to ineffeciencies and stealing and it looks like today's Supreme Court judgement will bring back those dark and gloomy days for public sector primary school teachers nationwide.

Exact statement I made today.

D4gmail1:
I am not religious, but it is 1000% possible for a breast to grow back not because it is a natural phenomenon but because ANYTHING YOU BELIEVE AND YOU CAN VISUALIZE IT AND FEEL LIKE IT HAS ALREADY HAPPENED. IT WILL DEFINETLY HAPPEN. This is a principle from Quantum Physics point of view.

She grew back her breast back only because she believed strongly in it.

If you doubt what I am saying. Take a glass of water and have someone drink it. Then prove to the person that the water was gotten from a latrine. If the person can believe beyond any reasonable doubt that it is a latrine water, watch how he will fall sick straight away. And yes, he will land in the hospital with a real sickness.

Conclusion: Your life is a printout of your thoughts.

Walahi.. your sarcasm is too notche.

We are in the same shoes bro..

Sit your wife down...Let her your pains

If she's the understanding type, she will bring up options to cut them off. Without her in the plans, you will take more blames.

Let her understand the situation of the country and expenses. Make her understand that Mum can leave and come back later. Women have lots of strategies to solve problems like this.

What will happen if you don't attend to number 3

Internet banking is working fine but GTworld is NOT

tomi4life:
Not sure if this is the right forum, but I am unhappy, as I type this message, I think it is usually too late to cry when the head is cut off, but i will cry anyways.

I have been married for 6 years now and brethren it has not been easy, I think I married a wrong person, am not a perfect neither is she, i just think we are not compatible. There is is no love between us. Our values are different. Me and my wife dont get along, well.

We have just been tolerating each other. I only realize what i am missing because i recent caught feelings for this colleague of mine. So there is this colleague of mine, we have worked together for almost 2 years now but more related to work. I have started catching feelings for this girl o and it all started in a party we attend together. I know she too has feeling for me. I see it in her eyes. She comes to sit with me, and we talk about alot of private stuff. She tells me all that is happening in her life, i also do same. she knows I am married with kids but i am sure if i make a move she will agree. I never could imagine I will find myself in a situation, tempted to commit adultery. When i have a wife at home, this opened my eyes and push me to want resolved the relationship issue with my wife. I approached her some days ago to voice my concern that the marriage is not working, we dont communicate, there is no love, what can we do to resolve the matter. My wife said she is used to our situation. I asked what can we do differently and she says we shd go see a marriage counselor. I said fine but can we even discuss and she tells me she is tired she wants to sleep and then stops responding to me.

My wife prefers to sleep alone, despite me telling her we shd sleep together as a couple. if she is in the room and I come to the room she will immediately goes to the parlor, we rarely have body contact. The few times we have sex she never kisses even when i try, she puts her mouth away. Even in the car we can be on a drive for 1 hr, without mentioning a word to each other. Most times it is either the car radio or my kids that break the silence. What surprises me is she is very comfortable with it, you just see her on her phone. The only saving grace is I have a source of income and provide for the home that why she listens sometimes.

Reflecting back on if i had to opportunity i wont have married her, she has caused me alot of pain. she doesnt play that supportive role expected of a wife, she has this feminist tendency. She also has this ego issue and find it difficult to take feedback, whenever i raise an issue, she just get very upset and in many times it turns into a fight. There are days I fall sick, my wife no send o. Even cooking for me is like stress. She goes out without telling me, does things without getting my consent or even carrying me along. When she brings people to the house, she wont even introduce them to me as her husband. she doesnt send respect or regards me. I tell you an example of something that happened last year, we were travelling November last year to the UK on holidays with the children, because of our luggages we took two uber vehicles, I sat in one with my daughter, my wife sat in the other with my son. While on the way to the airport, do you know my wife asked the driver to take a detour to shoprite that she wants to give someone the left over stew and food items we had. Shoprite is not on the way to the airport, we had less than 2 hours to go for an intentional flight. It was me that noticed their car going a different direction, I had to call the uber driver to tell him to turn back immediately. When the uber guy came he told me he had asked my wife to mention it to me, but she said no need, I dont need to be told. We got to the airport while offloading the luggage from the car, my wife suddenly disappeared. I had 8 boxes , 2 children to move with. Thank God for those people that help with the luggage at the airport. I passed through customs and NDLEA and began to clear with the airline before she showed up. I was so mad, even a custom lady was yelling at her, how can you just disappear leaving your husband with all the loads and children. My wife didnt even apologize, she said she went to drop the food items with the person she asked to come to the airport, after i asked the uber driver to reroute to the airport. That is how disunited we are.


The good side is not cheating, and she is spiritual, she can go to church 10 times a week, currently serves in 2 units and hold leadership roles in those unit. I have told her if she give 20 percent of the time in church to our relationship and family we would be happier. The major complain she mentioned from my side is we shd go out together more often, she wants me to organize morning devotions, that we shd pray more with the children, this was something I believe her dad did when they were growing up, the experience is different for me. I have told her I will try. She also mentioned I like to complain, which is not true.

This whole thing is hitting me hard cos I dont want to cheat with my colleague and i just experienced a glimpse of what we shd be enjoying. I also have the chance of relocating to the Australia but i knw if we do, I will enter one chance.

Does anyone knw a good marriage counselor, that can be recommended, I saw one done by one of this popular pastor they are asking for $150 for a 1hour session, I also dont want to involve my family or her family.

I am tempted to just leave the house for 2 weeks and go stay in an hotel, but how will that help it will only make matters worse.

You married her because she was naive, religious and believed she will be homely. That's the mindset of men that want a home and not a family.

You now have the home while struggling to have the family you desire.

Don't waste your money on any counselor, you already have the answer to your issues.

First, you need to understand her background and tag along with it. She wants you to be religious as well. It's either you start morning devotion, bibble classes and go to church regularly even join a society to have the family or loose the home.

Second,you have to start the above with utmost sincerity. It's a price you have to pay to have a family so, do it diligently. Then, start having family outings where the kids are playing while you discuss more on how to bring back the love you desire.

Your wife is not the problem, you are. Except you grant her heart desires, you will have a fling and your home will never be the same again.

Kperogi,you said he was taken out of context. So, you are the one to explain what he meant because you know is mind.

Your own description of his words is what we should believe.

Alaye double edge mouth, kosi danu

Let me help you make it very easy to read and understand

Hello everyone,

A young surrogate mother between the ages of 28 and 38 is needed in Abuja.

Benefits
She will be paid N1,200,000 and a monthly stipend of N50,000 for 10 months.

After delivery, she will be paid additional N300.000.

NOTE : No other benefit is included.

The conditions are:

1) She must be a mother of at least one child

2 Be willing/able to pass the required prior medical tests conducted by the IVF clinic.

If you're qualified and interested or know someone who is qualified/interested for this service, please respond to this post.

Please note that surrogacy is a selfless service for families who are looking for children. Please respect our desire for privacy.

Thank you for your understanding and not making any negative comments on this post.

Best regards!

Werey lawon people you shi.

Will they start going from one sport to the other do identify those who have not registered or what exactly is the effect of the registration?

Seriously, we cannot move forward with all these wake up and draft policies. That's not how it works.

Just to siphon money from the poor after cyber tax.

Let the poor breath..

I bought it 980.

Nigeria has been like this for many years and it would continue to be like this till we Nigerians, stand up against oppression from this archaic leaders.

thelegend1:


Loss is an integral part of betting which most people are not emotionally mature to cope with. Check my last screenshot, I lost N45k after generating N80k profit, and I'm honest about it.

If you're such a professional then you'd analyze the tickets I posted and understand the logic of my stakes.
Also, you can share your screenshots since you're a pro.

You can check my tickets from 1 month ago. You will notice that My style of play is the same to guarantee returns 80% of the time. I started with N10k as well and grew it to N150k profit and N40k (not inclusive of my original investment) the same day.

Whether it is stocks, crypto, precious metals etc...one will definitely lose on trades. But the goal is to make sure you generate profit on your investment over a specified period of time.

No matter the situation someone is going through, betting is not the forward. Stable income no matter how little should be the priority not anxiety of a win, then loose into depression.

DTOBS:
Hello guys,

Please I am having a small issue with my WES Evaluation.

1. Making payment for the evaluation has been a hell of an issue. I have tried my GTBank USD Debit Card all to no avail.

2. I am confused as to when I should process my transcripts from my school (OAU) to send to WES. Is it after I have made the payment on WES or I can proceed to pay for the OAU transcript when I'm yet to make the WES Payment?

Please, I would appreciate your support if you have passed through this stage before.

I will be waiting for your response...

Thanks all

Find someone abroad to pay for you or create virtual card (grey.co)

You can send before payment. Just ensure your WES number is on the documents sent to WES

Best of luck

KillIgbohoN0W:
Oga LASU VC don dey pay Chidinma conjugal visits recently.

Must you comment.?

Learn to keep quiet. If you go on like this, trouble is very close.

It's a plea. Read, waka & move to the next.

Avoid unnecessary problems o..

helinues:
It's an open market

No one is frustrating anyone .

Air peace should have made proper consultation with other airlines before splashing the average airline ticket to UK.

Win win for the travellers as the airlines would drag themselves to the extent of free falling the price

Consult? For real? For what exactly?

Our "presumed" national carrier should consult other national airlines before fixing a price for her country men. Gosh..!!!

Gibberish..

Giftedheart16:
I just got to lagos this evening,I wish I can sue her or drop her number here so she can get insults or questions from nigerians but in nigeria if no money no power.thanks to everyone for your advice.i will drop her name and clinic laterv

Don't drop anything. Just keep and make good plans on how to go about it. Don't rush when you are angry. Calm your nerves madam.

Hmmm. This is really loud.

First, you need to do a video with all your evidence and keep in an email. Don't share with anyone including your Mum because any leak can put everyone in a big trouble. The evidence needs to kept safe and not shared at this time.

Second,you need to thread softly. People go extra mile when it comes to money. I wouldn't advice you call the police or anyone because they always prepare for the uncertainty. You have done the needful especially the advice to that young lady. Walking away from trouble in a lawless country like ours will be the best advice I can. You can never predict the end.

Finally, as you rightly said, mind your business and go back to Lagos. You can continue to advice ladies through social media on precautions, checks and process before taking the surrogacy step.

Life goes on ma'am.

When you catch a thief, the only to confirm it's authenticity is -Stories/Lies.

You need 100lies to cover one 1lie

Memorandum of Understanding is not a binding agreement indeed. So, what is the binding agreement?

Awon ole jati jati

In the 20th century, parenting was the hardest job on earth.

Today, I can confidently tell you that, parenting is no longer a job but a joke.

Children are now parents so, the question is just absurd (apologies).

We ain't see anything yet.

Gmave:
Hi guys,
Please I've applied for skilled worker visa, my wife got a nursing job.
We've done everything we need to do so far.
We did biometrics on the 25th of Jan,
12 working days so far, biometrics remains stuck @ received by Dmc,
She has to resume by 25th of Feb or Cos might be withdrawn.
Only mail we've gotten so far is to upload TB certificate, which we have.
I'm panicking a bit, I've called them, they said decision hasn't been made. Help?

Calm down. Decision will be made and it will end in praise. They rarely reject health workers especially nurses.

Still available ?

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