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all these stuffs you wrote is just a wishful thinking, because at the end of the day when konji come knocking, you will abandon all these talks,the last time I checked girls enjoyed sex also.

relationship should be mutual in the sense that,you have sex just because you want to, not wanting some form of benefit or reward from the other party. you can as well spell it out to your partner (no sex)at the beginning, so that he will be left with two option's, either to opt in or otherwise, girls should stop playing victims just because sex was involved.

it is also imperative as a girl to increase their self worth, is when you depend on a guy in the name of having sex with him, that you will be degraded in front of him.

it is a simple stuff.

you sex a girl for a whole 3years, called relationship without assurance? and still has the gut to say she wants to leave you, guy 3 years sex without marriage never do you? you don't want her to try her luck else where? guy better focus jooo.

golddust6000:
There are nothing like spiritual being! You are responsible for your action! Stop

hmmmmm......you have taught that the world is just like a mathematics, that you can just solve and get the answer? bro things that are beyond your knowledge is your Senior, where your own knowledge stopped, another begin's. the world is a mystery that can't be solve or shoved by mere mortals

golddust6000:
There are nothing like spiritual being! You are responsible for your action! Stop

hmmmmm......you have taught that the world is just like a mathematics, that you can just solve and get the answer? bro things that are beyond your knowledge is your Senior, where your own knowledge stopped, another begin's. the world is a mystery that can't be solve or shoved by mere mortals

J111333:
Oga if the house is on a good location and for sale, please send me a pm.

I hope you have contacted the oops about the other building at IMO also? well I'm not from that community, I only went there for a building project. i don't need to investigate further because i don't have interest on the building,moreover my client have told me whatever I needed to know. if you have interest consigning the building based on my story, i can take you to the community. you can dig whatever you want to dig out from there.

kingxsamz:
Hearsay.

there we go again, I can direct you to that building to go and occupy, free of charge. are you game?

Martinez39:
That's not true. Succubi and incubi are myths. You are responsible for your actions. Everything is physical, nothing is spiritual.

what are you trying to say man?just as we have physical life,so as there's spiritual life, don't live in denial about it. you must not encounter some certain things before you agree on them,life is ambiguous like that.

well back to the topic, is either the girl is playing on your intelligent or she is not yet committed to you. do your research you will either find one of her friend that may attest to her stealing nature. because if stealing is in her blood, I'm sure you're not the only person she must have stole from.

marriage is not about your feelings only, because some years down the line when your must have be seeing the consequences of your actions, your will seek that butterfly feeling's now,you won't find it.

the onus is at you now to thoroughly crosscheck her now,her family background and the likes, before saying I do. subject that your butterfly feeling's to the background, until you're true with your search..........my opinion.

chenzen:
lol... I believe u get to hear, observe or notice things like that in almost every part of this country

there is one I encountered in one community like that in UDI local government two years ago when I went there,to built a house for a client in his village, the said building was close to the main road in that community, a well painted building,but no one was living inside the compound, as first, I taught maybe the owner is some how out of town, because of the way the compound was marred by bushes,not flowers.

these fuel my curiosity to ask my client what might be wrong with the owners of the said building, whether they don't want to hire people to clear those bushes ravaging the compound of their building. he then told me one sad tales like that.

to cut the whole story short, he told me that anytime someone stays in that building, it won't be long, that person will die from unknown illness, which sound so strange to me,but it's true.

till these very date no one have dare to occupy the building, the whole duplex is just wasting away.

things are happening in these world.

maviduchez77:
correct you know am

yeah he is my set that year......he studied law.

a k a gburugburu very popular and funny comedian in unizik.

we need to understand that, these is just a miseducation,aka (red pills) it's just an eye opener, aimed at awakening your consciousness on the relationship games played by both genders in our contemporary world. you're not expected to swallow everything hook line and sinker, sieve it to your own advantage, understand the points that suit your lifestyle,and go with it. you can't be expecting the poster to tell you what to do at each point in time in your own relationship, the onus is at you to go with the points that suit you,without regrets. hence I don't see the reason why we should be so emotional towards these write up.

I have to say these.....humans are fallible,and life is like a rollercoaster ride, you can choose to withhold your money in a relationship,with the aim of being too careful before marriage and still go ahead and divorce your partner after marriage, so what happens to all those money wasted in the course of the marriage?

imaging a situation where everyone is seeing their partners as a potential wolves in sheep clothing in every relationship, does it make sense that way? there's life and reality before and after red pills, be your own boss without (regrets)

kudos to ubunja for these, I can see through your perspective.

wany:
A guy over 40yrs still been childish in speech,no wonder your marriage crashed.men your age are busy with meaningful stuffs cause at this age over 40 retirement is near,but here you are gallivanting with your suppose children mates .idleness is really sickening.

kukuma kill him na, just because he is over 40, he should not gel with people younger that him? he should not be opinionated again or have some fun? I wonder how some people take these life so serious, bearing in mind that no one leave it alive........

wany:
A guy over 40yrs still been childish in speech,no wonder your marriage crashed.men your age are busy with meaningful stuffs cause at this age over 40 retirement is near,but here you are gallivanting with your suppose children mates .idleness is really sickening.

kukuma kill him na, just because he is over 40, he should not gel with people younger that him? he should not be opinionated again? I wonder how some people take these life so serious, bearing in mind that no one leave it alive........

adedayoa2:
at 35?

at 35 she should act her age already, she should desist from all these useless display of her nude.

mama no wan gree old.

lovely

ubunja:
What makes women tick at the most basic level.

FRIENDSHIP.
Let's say two Laws are passed: one banning sex between men and women; And another banning friendship between men and women. What will happen?

Riots and mayhem that's what.

Men and women will riot and burn the country. But it is important to understand which gender will riot against which law.

Women will riot against the banning of FRIENDSHIP between men and women. Men will riot against the banning of SEX.

Men can not live without Sex, Women can not live without Friendship with men.

Friendship with a man is the only relationship that a woman can have with a man that allows her to get money and stuff from him WITHOUT giving him sex. That's a secret hidden from men.

For women, a man's friendship is more important than a man's love. And more important than a man's dick. Because with male friends, a woman can get ANYTHING without giving back ANYTHING.

A woman's guy friends don't mind helping her move, checking her car, fixing her place, helping her out with money, keeping her safe etc - for FREE. If the woman gets all that from a BF she has to PAY with sex. But with guy friends it's free.

ATTENTION AND VALIDATION.
If all the men in Nigeria ignore all the women, and instead focus on 1 woman - every man adoring and worshiping her - that woman, receiving that infinite attention, will feel her need to have sex diminish to almost zero

There's a level of Attention and Validation that if a woman gets from men it cancels out her need for Sex. The female sex drive differs from the male sex drive in this aspect. While the male sex drive is a physical hunger like the hunger for food or the thirst for water, The female sex drive is VALIDATIONAL in nature.

The more important you make a woman feel the less she needs to impress you. (You're impressed already) And the less she needs to sleep with you to feel important (she's important already to you)

The more valued a woman feels the weaker her sex drive is because the less she has to use her sexuality to get Validation. And in the opposite way, the less valued a woman feels the stronger her sex drive is because the more she has to use her sexuality to get Validation. Or to feel valued.

A man can date a woman who seems to enjoy sex, But as soon as he marries her, give her comfort, security and peace of mind her pussy turn dry. Too many men are confused why the happier they make their women the less their women want sex. It's because these women are content and secure. And that has a chilling effect on their sex drive. It slows it down. To reignite the passion the men have to subtract the things that are making the women content and secure.

If your woman has lost interest in sex, bring in drama, uncertainty and confusion. Start acting funny. Have suspicious phone calls. Have female friends visit etc - Make your woman think she's about to be replaced. She'll stress, process a lot mentally and question her value to you, and in the process her legs will snap open. And pussy juices will flow.

THE SOURCE CODE.
Here are the codes to female sexuality:

When a woman gives the least amount of sex for the most amount of money It's about money

When a woman gives the most amount of sex for the least amount of money it's about Validation

Women who participate in 3sums and gangbangs don't speak too much about enjoying multiple dick but speak more about enjoying being THE CENTRE OF ATTENTION. Because it is about seeking Validation not seeking Pleasure. A woman can pleasure herself better than any man can and no man can pleasure a woman better than a intimacy gadget can. Strictly speaking a woman doesn't NEED a man for pleasure. So when a woman chases men for sex it has more to do with Validation than pleasure. She feels valuable when she's valuable to men.

Most girls who do gang bangs do them free. And the most hardened sluts will be offended if you offered them money for sex. I once related the story of a Bleep addicted slut who, after we offered her money, told us she can do it free if we go hardcore enough on her. I had told her we were about 7 guys. Shît is crazy.

SELF-ESTEEM.
A woman's sex drive is opposite her self-esteem.

The reason treating a woman like trash pays in sex is because it erodes a woman's self-esteem that she then seeks to replenish by opening her legs. The more worthless a woman feels on the inside the more she seeks worth through sex. The sex compensates for the inadequacies. It's the reason disrespectful men get a lot of sex from women. It's the same with men and money. The more worthless a man feels on the inside the more he seeks worth through money. The money compensates for the inadequacies. And a man with zero self-esteem will pay the most amount of money for the least amount of sex. Even paying for NO sex. And still feel good. A man's spending habits with women are opposite his self-esteem.

In women, things like sex addiction are more a symptom of deeper underlying issues than mere love of dick:
Let's say a boy and a girl are going through problems at home. They will both act out. But in different ways. The boy will turn to petty crime. While the girl will turn to sexual promiscuity.
Sex is how women deal with issues. Antisocial behavior is how men deal with issues. That's why in Society's eyes a man at his worst is a criminal. And a woman at her worst a whôré. And both whôré and criminal live side by side on the street because where there are prostitutes, criminals will be there. They understand each other because they're going through the same shît but expressing it differently.

The weaker a woman's self esteem is, the easier she becomes a slut. And Pîmps know low self-esteem women make the best prostitutes. While sexologists know the first step in treating female sexual addiction is raising the woman's self-esteem. Meanwhile to get the best sex from a woman you destroy her self-esteem. Everything with female sexuality hinges on Self-esteem. Everything with male spending habits on women hinges on Self-esteem.

When a woman loses her self-esteem - when she feels worthless on the inside - her Inner Self seeks to regenerate the lost Worth the quickest way it knows how: BY MAKING THE WOMAN OPEN HER LEGS. Because what's between her legs is the most wanted thing in the World guaranteed to generate the attention she needs to feel like a somebody.

The woman's Inner Self points to men's lust for the woman and says to her: "See, all these men want to fvck you. And you make them cum nicely. You're not totally worthless!"

As a young boy I remember two prostitutes from the neighborhood pub fighting and one shouting in vernacular, "ayisikho uthanda amadoda" (that's why you love men), and I remember the other throwing her ass in the air and defiantly shouting back, "Bayangithanda ngoba ngimnandi" (They love me because I'm sweet).
Everyone burst out laughing at the shamlessness of the reply. I never forgot that incident.

She loved men because men loved how sweet her pussy was.

CHASING VALIDATION.
Ever noticed this on Social Media?
A girl posts a picture, and she gets a hundred nice comments. Then an asshole of a guy comes online disses the picture calling the girl fat and ugly.
Then the magic happens: The girl ignores the 100 sweet comments and fixates on the 1 bitter comment. She engages the hater while the supporters look on feeling neglected.

It's a natural law.

We all fear rejection and a even 1 hater in a sea of supporters gets our Attention. We chase the Hater's approval wishing for him to be AGREEABLE. And as long as we're chasing the Hater's approval he has power over us.

If a woman meets 99 guys who compliment her but 1 guy spits in disgust, What will stress the woman that night?

The 99 compliments or the 1 spit?

That 1 spit of course:
"Why did that guy spit? Am I not pretty enough in his eyes? I will show him". Then over the following weeks the girl will dress and act TO IMPRESS THAT 1 GUY WHO SPIT. She then LIVES FOR HIS VALIDATION. And once the girl does that, as far as that guy is concerned, with that guy, the girl is dealing from a position of weakness. She's chasing that validation. And as long as she's chasing, that guy has tremendous power over her. Power even to fvck her.

There is no sweeter girl than a girl that's chasing your Approval and Validation. Its how you deal with women from a position of Power.

DEALING WITH WOMEN FROM A POSITION OF POWER.
A woman can size you up by your choice of words. There's a superior way of talking to women. And there's an inferior way of talking to women. Learn the difference:

Nice Guy: I know how to fvck.
Bad Boy: Do you know how to fvck?

Nice Guy: I feel so lucky to have you.
Bad Boy: You should feel lucky to have me.

See the difference?

Back in my 2go days (about 9 yrs ago), I had a very different approach to getting girls than most dudes. In the chatrooms most guys would post: "I want a girl who wants me to lick her and I'll do everything she wants".
But because I always opposed everyone, just for the hell of it, I would post: "I want a girl to suck me and do everything I want her to do".

I made everything about ME.

While just 1 or 2 girls responded, It was interesting dealing with those girls. They came to me with the mindset of PROVING themselves to me. The same mindset the majority of men came to women with. It was a power trip having a girl try to convince me of her sex skills all the while I'm trying hard to hide my thirst.

When you present yourself to a woman as someone ready to serve you lessen your value. You're chasing her validation. But when you present yourself as someone ready to be served you increase your value and have the woman chasing YOUR validation. It's a fun ride. The sex the woman will give you is sex to prove herself. The best sex a woman can give a man.

And it's not even that hard to set a woman on that road.

It's as simple as chatting with a 19 yr old girl and in an unimpressed tone, remark, "You're too young. What do you know!". And boom!!!! She wanna prove herself to you and show you she's grown.

It's as simple as chatting with an older woman in her 30s or 40s and remarking, "Is that pussy still good or you just saying these things?". And boom!!! She's telling herself, "I'll show this motherfvcker!"

Just like that you have women chase your Validation. Eager to PROVE something to you. While other men compete to prove themselves to women promising to fvck their brains out and lying about Dick sizes and the rounds of sex they can go, you have women doing the same to YOU.

The key here is to play on women's fears, envies and jealousies.

A younger woman envies the older woman for her Sex Skills and her greatest fear is never being taken seriously. The older woman envies the younger woman for her fresh body and her greatest fear is that she's past her time. A line that has delivered for me with teenage girls is: "I promise to fvck you like a grown woman!". Delivered in raw vernacular. It works wonders.

MAKE A GIRL WANT TO IMPRESS YOU.
Girls start having sex earlier than boys and go on to have sex with more people than boys ever will. You can benefit from this extensive experience if you approach the situation right.

Like this: Next time, instead of boasting of your own sexual abilities to a girl, boast about how you're so hard to impress that even women with amazing sexual abilities have a hard time pleasing you. Make it about YOU. Come across as someone very hard to please. Bring the girl to a position where SHE is the one boasting of her sexual abilities. Where SHE is the one making promises to blow your mind. Even then, raise the stakes by remarking how women who boast about their sexual prowess turn out to be so-so when the time for sex comes.

That's how the fun begins for you. For when she comes to you, that girl is bringing along her entire sexual repertoire and may God have mercy on your sceptical soul.

#TheRedPill
#MGTOW

s a fun ride. The sex the woman will give you is sex to prove herself. The best sex a woman can give a man.

And it

Rekhina:
Where is warrior Amatarasha ?
pls come my sister dis agafu is doing it again!

are you pained? why calling him agafu?

they won't agree,but the Truth remains the Truth.
welcome back ubunja.

she has not settled emotionally with you, maybe she is still weighing her options.

Age : 26

Location: Awka

Occupation : professional builder(developer)

Religion : Christian

Genotype : AA

Relationship status : single

Persons of Romantic Interest : 26yrs and below(educated not student)

Hobbies:travelling, playing table tennis and reading
novels.

What Am I Looking For ? career woman,( business minded).

Dislikes: backbiting, slaying and entitlement mentality.

all these concocted stories here and there,just to trend. are you guys that jobless?nawa ooooo

anyone that feels like to ignore or shy away from the reality of things, will later bite the dust sooner or later........

Ladylite:
Send me your email if you are ready to break free from such disappointment.... Or if you are on Instagram kindly reply with your handle, I will ensure someone contacts you.

I was once where u are many people years ago. Before December if you follow the simple instructions things will change drastically.

I have someone that are in need of your service and knowledge too,can you reach me on my email at my signature?

at the end of the day, he will only have to stay in one of the rooms in the mansion..........

funny life.

virtually all girls in nija rite now has that entitlement mentality, hence if you must date them, you have to step up your games, (street wise) if you want to do anything that will be beneficial to them,do it just because you want to do it,without expectations. nobody should cajole you in doing something that you feel it's beyond you. if she teases you, tease her time's2, if she call you broke, tell her she is very funny and laugh out loud. if she tax you monetary, redirect the tax to her,tell her that something good is coming up,that you needs her prayers to sail through, always tax her to be praying for you. she won't even want to ask for anything again. you needs some scopes and orientations to vibe well with the ladies of today, without that, you will always cry foul.

Martinez39:
You don't want me to tell you about red pills? Now listen very well. If you had taken the red pill to know that as far as relationship is concerned, no girl is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, and the best thing to happen since slice bread, you would probably not have opened this thread. It's foolishness and degrading for a man like you to follow women to label Ubunja, myself, and others as women bashers when you clearly haven't taken time to read our messages. Isn't it stupid to cast judgement on things you know nothing of?

The fact that no woman, no matter how beautiful or educated, as far as relationship is concerned, is special, irreplaceable, indispensable, or the best thing to happen since slice bread is a common sense that weak and foolish men are yet to grab. Women are nothing special and they are just another human. There is no law in the universe that doesn't apply to them. Never, I repeat never, beg your fellow homo sapiens (especially one that you are providing for and hence needs you more than you need her), who isn't interested, to be in your life and love you. Get some sense of self respect. If a woman says she is not interested, let her go and don't beg her to stay. In fact, close the door on her for good and let her be the one to beg if she wants to come back.

Only foolish men put women on a pedestal. I know you will discard my advice like many since you love your sweet illusions of romantic love instead of reality. If you are crying, weeping, creating a scene, and rolling on the floor to beg your fellow human being to love you, you are a big fool and a disgrace to manhood. Mtewwww.



Omar09, healthserve, astroG, Ubunja, CAPSLOCKED

sissy men everywhere, they don't have the wherewithal to handle the ugly truths of relationships advice you just dished out. I keep telling them, never confide or depend on a woman for your emotional comfort, but they won't hear, they always depends on a woman for their happiness, that's the beginning part of their failures.

Fineboigossip:
Hello Nairalanders!
Pls I Have A Question To Ask...
There Is This Girl That I Love So Much And I Wanted Us To Date, I Toasted Her But She Refused,i Tried All My Possible Best, Yet She Refused,telling Me Dat "Shes Not Ready Yet",from That One To "She Already Have A Boyfriend " I Was So Confused....I Stoped Talking To Her,and We Stoped Seeing... after Few Months, Her Mom Opened A Bar Close To Our House And We Start Seeing Again..This Time She Became Friendly To Me,always Asking Me Question When I Come To Their Shop, Teasing Me Also....
Does It Means She Now Love Me
And
Should I Toast Her Again Or Forget?
I Dont Want 2nd Rejection
Please Nairalanders Help Me

if you need Bleep,then up your games, flirt and act bossy with her, whenever you're alone with her, initiate sexual talks,start small small touch touch with a warmth smile, let her start seeing you like a bad coded guy. with time she will drop the coochie.....never bring love talk or relationship matter with her.

nawa ooooo.

if the building is hers, I will gladly move in with her, and rent out my own bungalow, I doesn't see anything wrong with that, because I will still be fulfilling my duties as the head of the house.

get married if you're determined to, stay single if you wished.
but never gamble your breakthrough and fortunes on the alter of marriage, is not a wise thing to do.
set your priorities first, before carrying someone around on these journey called marriage.

ednut1:
Once a gal is into church activities . I dont proceed. Nonsense

but some of them are really wife material, I only detest the church rats amongst them lols.

no retreat..... no surrender.... continue your good works. I enjoys every bit of it.