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hmmmm.......some girls here claims that the miseducation is not effective, yet they are having sleepless night over it.

some goes to the extent of reporting the guy, some are wishing the moniker everlasting ban. some are saying that the guy is having a cult like fellowship over the red pills.

all these is just to discredit and discourage ubunja from his business of rescuing the men from the shackles of the manipulating women.

I know that all their antics will not work,and i hope the guy will continue to wax stronger.

been an introvert can be a blessing, real introverts worry about issues, but not those the ones you listed above. maybe you're just been timid. or you're battling with unworthy attitude, which is seeing yourself below standard. is a thing of the mind,which you yourself can help yourself.

work on your mind set, start seeing yourself as the greatest, with time you will feel alright.

Martinez39:
The truth is like most malarial drugs. They are very bitter and might make you vomit but they achieve excellent results. It appears to "mess you up" because it destroys your illusions and you so much love your illusions. What the truth reveals are things you wish were not true.

yeah the miseducation can be likened as a drug without prescription, if you overdose it, you feel the adverse effect of it, majority that are against the guy, doesn't know there place as a man.

the truth of the matter is that, both miseducation and redpills are strictly reserved for some few men,

whom has the wherewithal and mindset of enthroning themselves above the love, manipulations and feelings of the females.

because it has it pros and cos, it depend on the individual aims and purpose for seeking it. it shouldn't be something that one should possess on a platter, so that you will tend to appreciate and value it the more.

majority of men shall never be emancipated.

zedman1:
You must be very lucky not to have met the type. But if you want to try for the sake of experience, try dating a very beautiful girl from a very poor family background... Most of them, not all, but most. Just for experience sakes.

I don't pray to to come in contact or have a relationship with them. though before I walk up to a gal for friendship purpose, I must have done my underground checks on her.

seriously I still wonder where guy's meet these leeches. or is it my luck, that I have not meet one? perhaps I can't see myself talk to, by a lady I'm getting to know in such a derogatory and condescending manner. even when I decided to be a little benevolence.

funmisticqueen2:
thanks for your honest input, but expecting someone to know what is wrong when he or she is not a Mind reader is plain wrong and sets unachievable expectations. A lot of people especially women are guilty of this.

is good that you admitted that majority of women are guilty of it more than the guys, but I have to say this, for the fact that a relationship is consign and involves two matured individuals, both of them are expected to be sensitive towards the plight of each other.

perhaps there are something you're not expected to be told before doing so far a relationship is consign. you don't expect your partner to be telling you what and what to be done at each point in time. been sensitive enough blossom the relationship.

hence whenever a guy notice you're lacking on that aspects, they tends to be harsh and rude which might lead to that question

for instance...... when he/she hasn't call yet......call
good gestures.......... reciprocate


etc.............

any guy that ask that kind of question to his partner, ask so out of frustration, maybe after he must have exhausted all the subtle signs and clues he knows,trying to let his partner knows that, something is wrong in the relationship. Guy's goes through a lot financial but they won't come up straight to tell you that, the chips is no longer there as before, some expect that you should decode that, via there actions and inaction.

emmaodet:
I don't know what is happening to me again because ever since i joined nairaland and started reading some threads and comments on nairaland, following people like ubunja and co, my life as never been the same again.
I thought social media is just a place for fun but it seems what we hear/watch and see as a way of shaping our lives.
Am a very quite, gentle and respected person in the church and my area but things are really happening fast that calls for concern.
Am in a church organised family whatsapp group with alot of respected families but of lately have been more or less an outcast in the group.
Last week, they raised a topic about Love and why people were commenting positively about how they love their wives and how their wives stood beside them when they were poor, i entered the forum and took the whole topic to the opposite direction. I told them about how Love is not enough to hold a relationship because most ladies will leave when no more money or they see a better option.
The forum went hay wire, cut fire and things went south.
Yesterda, they raised a topic about hiw not to condonea cheating partner and as usual i came into the forum and pointed out the fact that only if they know the high rate of infidelity, a large percentage of marriages will crash instantly.
Ever since my first issue, i noticed a lot of them are really avoiding me like a plague because i was raw, harsh and blunt unlike my previous self.
Ubunja, the manipulated man and pther topics of infidelity as really changed me alot and presently my wife is concerned about me because she said my comments were wild, different, raw etc
Am losing my mind pals, don't know what is happening to me.

Cc
Martinez39
Larryking540
Franchasng
Mekenz
Ubunja
Pansophist
Pocohantas

trust me you're on the right path, I totally relate and concur with what you wrote, I totally feel like the odd one amongst my friends because of my own thought patterns. my own views and opinions must always be on the contrary with theirs, which sometimes leads to some fracas between friends and even families, but I have learnt to navigate through the brouhaha, which is to say a very little then back whatever I wanted to say again with my actions. this is to avoid everyone perceiving me as an enemy/negative vibe nigga.

I no longer argue with then unnecessary whenever my opinions didn't go well with then, rather I excuses and disassociate myself from the midst.

NB. becoming too rigid and frigid is not always the best way to go, because you will loose some of your nice friends in the process, perhaps some persons always shy away from the reality and the truth. they always find succor running from one church to another just to hear and listen to prosperity massages.

perhaps you need to know when to readjust and apply leniency only when it seems necessary.


these pattern has been working ever since.

coming back to comment

niaralandtopuser:
Make sure you marry her. Don't turn that little hole into a river then run away

yes oooooo........seconded

he must marry her oooo,now he is digging her as he like later now he will start looking for flimsy excuses to dump her.

the destruction was so massive..... chai I feel for them.

Blackivy27:
We see them. Wife caught sleeping with pastor.

;lols my pastor said that we should not have sex this week.

everyone has their choice and preference in their partner, I will always go for good characters any day, anytime. I can't tread my peace of mind for anything. big ass, big Brest ladies are not my type. i like modest ladies and sexual attraction will always come.

the guy is just a Corp member posted in that village, no much alternative for him so he decided to settle there for the mean time, pending his relocation......

for me I can't even invite my girlfriend in such area.....

Heavance:
Like, you read this before typing? Or the other way round?

the guy is truly amazing.... shior
imaging him saying that is OK for the wife to fear and respect the pastor more than the husband, because the marriage was even permitted by the pastor in the beginning.....
some people sef......

GreenWhiteGreen:
You called your wife that you haven't eaten any "reasonable food" for the "past two days" and she replied you to buy food on your way home. First, she has no respect for you. Second, no sensible woman who loves her husband dearly will ever reply in such way. Saying for the past two days alone should get her worried, let alone ignoring your request.

so what then are you insinuating?

DrObiHogan:
I can't marry a woman that calls his pastor daddy or spend more than 3 hours in church on any occasion.

I'm telling you, so many husbands are passing through these issue at their various families.

Blackivy27:
Honestly. When they start complaining of marital friction, and you dont pity them, then you're insensitive.
im cool and you?

I'm doing fine dear.

you are absolutely on point, I hope is their pastor, that Will marry then,by then.

blackpanthar:
THIS IS TRULY THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY BUT NOT ALL.

FIRSTLY, the pastors have more power than the husbands ONLY IN THE CHURCH... in the home the husband has the power and authority and he shares it with his wife, because she is not LOWER THAN HIM.... SHE IS HIS PARTNER.

SECONDLY, the women are gullible because they have not been taught properly how to give honor to whom honor is due as at when due. HUSBAND THAT DOES NOT SERVE GOD DOES NOT DESERVE ANY FORM OF HONOR... HE IS SIMPLY AN IGNORANT DISGRACE because MARRIAGE CAME FROM GOD.... and not from tradition. WIFE THAT CARRIES CHURCH ON HER HEAD is a shameless idol worshiper because she is serving church or her pastor more than she should...


THIRDLY, Husbands should never complain about their wives being more afraid of the pastor because NA PASTOR PERMIT THE WOMAN TO EVEN MARRY THE MAN O.... many women would never have married their husbands without counsel from the SO CALLED PASTOR. The MAN SHOULD GET SERIOUS WITH GOD AND ALSO GET CLOSER TO THE MAN OF GOD FOR THE PROTECTION OF HIS WIFE. This is wisdom.

FOURTHLY WOMEN naturally respect men who are much more higher than them in EVERY AREA OF LIFE..... so men should hold their game strong. A woman can only obey her pastor and disobey her husband when she feels her pastor is HIGHER THAN HER HUSBAND IN MANY WAYS. So men should KEEP IMPROVING ON EVERY AREA OF THEIR LIVES..... WOMEN RESPECT PRAYERFUL MEN... Men who pray well at home can control their wives easily.

A TRUE MAN/FATHER/HUSBAND is first a PRIEST of the house, the PROPHET OF THE HOUSE, the GENERAL OVERSEER OF HIS HOUSE and THE LEADER.... anything less is a disgrace to manhood. Many pastors rule over housewives because their men are too ignorantly weak to claim their position. BLAMING PASTORS WONT SOLVE IT, SIMPLY TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

there are some complications in your write up, first you said that the pastor possess more powers than the husband only in the church, then went ahead and said that, the husband is lower than the pastor, is it also in the home? so the husband is not longer the head of the house, he now shares it with the wife? I don't also understand what you mean by the husband to be prayerful in the home to deserve some respect from his wife.

Blackivy27:
Wish i could give you a kiss.

suh true. 100%. All those, "my daddy in the lord" women.

seriously some women need their brain to be examine.

how you doing?

A Husband called his wife while returning from a Journey and says

Husband: Nkem, how are you doing? I'm on my way, I will be reaching in the next few hours, I'm very famished, I haven't eaten anything reasonable for two days now, prepare something nice please

Wife: Di'm, Good evening, na wah oh, You just went straight to the point as if food is the only reason why you should call me. Well, try and get something on your way home, I won't be going home from here, pastor Bola said I should see him this week, I want to go and see him today.

Husband: Are you okay? What are you saying Woman? What has gotten into you?
Wife: (raises her voice), YES! Emeka, I'm okay, I just told you to get something to eat that I'm not coming home immediately and you are trying to insult me. I don't have strength for your fight. Moreover, Did you drop any money that you are asking for food?
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1 hour later, She prepares to go and see her pastor as she had planned, so after preparing, she picks her phone and calls her pastor

She: (almost bowing down from her end), Good evening Daddy Sir
Pastor: Good evening Sister Ngozi, how are you doing?

She: Daddy, I'm fine Sir, Daddy, I'm on my way to see you as you requested, I don't know if you are busy Daddy, hope you are around and free Sir?

Pastor: Oh, Sister Ngozi, don't stress yourself, I will be coming to see you in the next 1 hour or so, I hope your husband will be around then, My message is actually for both of you.

She: Yes Daddy, Daddy, wow, it will be a pleasure. Daddy, my husband is currently on his way, he should be close by now, Daddy, please, what will you like to eat? What should I prepare for you? What's your favorite?

Pastor: No No No, Sister Ngozi, please don't stress yourself, I just want to talk to both of you, that's all.

She: Daddy, please, I insist, please sir, Daddy just say something.......... (she keeps insisting and begging).

They Tremble, stay humble and shake before their pastors but towards their husbands, they.....

#IRESTMYCASE

science and their wonder's, proudly a science student.

sorextee:
What made me take trams(for sex) the girl I was dating then, I didn't know she was a machine. After the first disappointment, trams came to my rescue. If u know what I mean
But now, I see sex as one OVERRATED exercise. Maybe cos na how to get money full my head and sex won't bring money.

is good to know that you have desist from taking medicine capable of inflicting serious damages to your hearts and kidney's.

this is a country where things works, whatever the damages that the disaster will cause, will be rebuilt or replaced within a space of two weeks, unlike here that it will take the government forever to even care.......

seriously some men are trying ooo,just to satisfy a girl, even at the detriment of their health...... why going artificial if you can go natural? sex is an act not a do or die affairs.

peter:
lol

you're free to lols......seriously I have never seen,where a man will dole out a huge sum of money in marrying a woman, with the intentions of maltreating her after, I have a friend he is a weed smoker, which the wife is aware of,before they got married. he is now complaining to me that, the wife no longer respect him unlike before, even going to the extent of denying him sex sometimes, all because he smokes which the wife no longer tolerate. she married him bearing in mind that he smokes,now she wants to change him by force. tomorrow now she might no longer remember, why the husband chooses to ignores her, when he must have moved on to maybe other girls outside. or started being violence on her as the case maybe.

at opp....

if she can look inwards, she will see where the problem started.......

generationz:
You are using the Bible to stop support this stupid thing you just wrote God will never forgive you for this. nonsense

sorry are you not a Christian? why shouldn't I back my claims biblically since is God that ordained the institution.

God is not a man....chill you don't order him on whom to punish..... peace.

Blackivy27:
nah. And thats the reason. Since i cant practice i will discuss it. Thats better?

you think so? discussing without practising, what's the aim then. why putting your self in such a Hot state.
you don't smell what you don't eat.

[quote author=generationz post=81821663]Why is it that we never hear stories of men praying forbtheir wives to turn a newvleaf, it is always women Doing the praying.


I'm sure if Nigeria was like America where The man looses everything during a divorce it is the man that would be fasting and praying.

Nonsense.[/quote

is nature that made it that way, even in the bible so don't get too emotional about it, a good wife take care of her home, support her man. men are not that complicated to handle so to speak.

Blackivy27:
Dangerous combination. Wow for the first time nairalanders arent encouraging someone to commit suicide. I am proud.

sorry to say these, you're always in the midst of sex discussions, you yearns for sex?

back to the topic..... that mixture is a sure way to your grave, always take your food as your medicine,not your medicine as food. you might not encounter the adverse effect of it now,but subsequently your dick will suffer.