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dominique:
Good decision you made by cutting her off. I would never have allowed her come that close, once I catch negative vibes from a person, I make sure I distance myself from such person.

It was a lesson learned, experience is the best teacher.

omoseun:
@ OP, you are quite lucky for dumping your frenemy before it's too late (just after 3 years).

I dumped mine after 7 years and she almost ruin my wedding , caused a lot of conflict between my immediate family and I, she also gossip about me.

This is a person I help alot but financially and emotionally and never gossip about her.

I thank God that we are no longer friends because I was drained emotionally anytime she start to display her foolishness.

With such friends, you no longer need enemy.

Am sorry you had to experience this, such fake friends come about as nice, warm people because they have mastered the art of scheming then they pull a good one on you, never a dull moment in life, smh

Tallesty1:
Two of you gossiped about a chick that was dating a married person.



And you felt bad when she gossiped about you?



Thats funny dear, cause what goes around comes around.

I was no upset she gossiped about me, but she threw me under the bus knowingly, we both shared the gossip I paid for it, if you really know what I mean

@ thanks mutuwa
I now pick friends like a grain of salt, I have been burnt with bad friendship at this stage in life, my friends are my family and few, when I say few 3 good friends that's it.

What surprises me is that I give it all to friends, iam never a fake friends but buoy, do I attract bad friends, it's like they can pick me in a crowd.

Have you had any bad friends(frenemies) that with them you did not need enemies, please share your experience,
My experience with a friend I met going through so much,
How would you feel if a so called best friend gossips about you to anyone that could care to listen? I have known this friend for maybe three years and before I got married we spoke on the phone everyday, one day I call her to tell her I had broken up with a boyfriend, I get to work next day everyone knows my story, the girl don call everyone to share my story which I had only shared with one person and that's her. That how I knew she shared the story.
This girl plans a birthday party invites everyone but me, remember I just spoke to her on the phone the day before with no mention of anything, then day after party she calls and is like, "damn there were a lot of people here ,even so and so" am like "oh cool" but deep down am like wtf? I decide not to make her feel very important for bringing up the issue, so I ignore it and let it go.
Third stroke, we are gossiping about some chic we both knew dating a married man it was almost obvious everyone knew about this, so one weekend we have to attend a wedding and lo and behold we run into the chic dating a married man, so this chic hugs my friend and completely ignores me, damn I felt bad, so apparently my gossip friend had passed gossip to her that I told this, really, now she has made this other chic hate me, so I decide to cut her off once and forever without making her feel bad, so this is what I do to get rid of her,
I decide to play phone tag, she calls I return the call when I know she's at work and so fourth till she gave up, I changed my phone number and one day I check my email, she is written an epistle seeking my friendship back, I decided to ignore her forever,
I cannot tell you how peaceful my life has become since I cut her off.

Was going to Las Vegas on Valentine's day with my sister for some celebrations, flight was to leave at 1 pm, I decide to go to the salon to look good for Vegas, little did I know the hairdresser was running late, my sister calls me at home a few times, I'm like don't worry will make it, getting to the airport flight had already left,wait list was 10 plus people heading to Vegas, we went back home with my beautiful hairstyle and curses from my sister.

Kenya more developed, more foreigner friendly, fast pace, expensive,,very warm people
Tanzania pretty, laid back, affordable, very suspicious of foreigners especially Nigerians because of bad reputation.
Ethiopia, don't know much about Ethiopia,
But checkout Rwanda and Uganda too.

Daymmmnn!!! That episode is a masterpiece,
You cannot make that shit up,
That man is a airhead lol
Representing Nigeria in all the right ways

I agree with him, even though his description of most of the places mentioned is downright condenscending