I can't believe that a grown man can still think that it is OK to hit a woman. So if your boss, stranger or your mother talks to you thickos then it is fine to hit them.

I suppose you are "teaching them a lesson". Try it with in some countries with proper laws and you will find your behind in jail.
Seriously, your parents should be ashamed.

If you hit a woman you are unable to control yourself which makes you a weakling. Seek counselling.

Just because you are male does not mean you are superior to a woman.

Thanks guys.
It is HSDPA and it was locked to 3 network.

I have unlocked it. I actually got it for free 2 months ago but paid £4.99 for postage.

I now use my Tmobile on it because I have unlimited internet on my phone. I believe you can get one for £15 now.

Wondering if anyone can help.

I have an unlocked mobile broadband that I use here in the UK with any sim card. Although I have to configure the software application for the different networks.

I want to know if I can use this same dongle in Nigeria and if I can which is the best network and where can I get the configuration.

Thanks

I cannot believe people fall this.

Read the link:

http://www.hoax-slayer.com/krista-marie.html

Check all emails for spams/scams before forwarding them unto everyone in your address book.

I get all sorts, forward or you will die, don't use deodorant because you will have cancer, forward and receive a blesssing within days etc.

It only takes a few seconds to check the web(if you are unsure) to find out.

Why can't the guy clean his own house.

You should be asking your brother this. She is not married to him yet so should not be doing the cleaning.

Even when they do get married, he should still share in the cleaning. If he can't then they should get a cleaner or househelp.

I have 2 boys 4 and 6 and yes my husband and I do kiss in front of them, not full snogging and the younger one will always go eew to get a reaction from us, but the older one will tell him we are allowed.

For example dad comes in from work , kisses/cuddles his children or they hug him first and then he does the same to me , the only difference is I get lips and they get cheek or forehead.

They already know that they are not allowed to kiss anyone on the lips not even mum or dad, even my 4 year old will tell me my lips are only for his dad.


I believe there is nothing wrong in moderate affection, i never did see my parents displaying any affection to each other.

If we can kiss and hold hands outside, I see no reason why we cannot do the same in front of the children.

The other alternative is to take of your baby yourselves,

There might be conflits in the way things should be done, bathing, feeding etc and this might just give the new mother unnecessary stress.

I have heard MIL tell DIL that I did this to your husband and nothing happened to him, why can't I do the same for my grandchild (eg umbilcal cord)

I didn't want the stress so for our two boys I didn't want anyone and I coped fine.

It might also be a good bonding time for the family.

I do take money from my husband's wallet or car when I need cash and I don't want to go to the cash point. He always has cash on him. I tell him sometimes and other times I forget.

In my home everyting is completely joint . So basically for those saying it is stealing that means I am stealing from myself.

I must have been misunderstood along the lines. I am not just giving my husband my money and he is squandering the money as he likes, it goes into a joint account and he administers as necessary.
I also stand by my point , there are so many things that as a spinster I never thought I would do as a married woman but once you get married it all goes out of the window, I am no longer my own person, I decided to get married so therefor I have to agree to become one in everything, and same goes for my husband.

It is up to individuals to choose if they want to be one in everything or choose to be cling to somethings regardless of what the other spouse wants, at the end of the day as you make your bed so will you lie on it.

at IAH,

"Hmmm it's easy to sit one's fat ass behind a compurra and claim wealth, maturity, experience, good marriage etc. Have you been to their houses and seen that they've got good marriages worth brandishing the way you've done in this quote above"

I must have mentioned somewhere that it is not easy , and for your info I do have a very good marriage which I thank God for.

It is only money at the end of the day. Are you all saying that the man you will choose to marry(I am assuming you are not married) will not be responble or trustworthy enough, then ladies it is better not to be married at all than to get married and let money break down your marriages.
Experience is the best teacher, come back after you have been married.

For the record since this an anonymous forum(for me anyway) I am very educated with a very good job and earn more than my husband, so those of mentioning education, it is nothing really where your marriage is concerned.

Someone said no two pregnancies and labours are the same, but for me they were quite similar.

My 2 pregnancies were both straigh forward, no morning sickness, no cravings , I could cook and eat without any problems, did put on weight even thought I didn't pig out but lost the weight within 6 weeks of having the babies without trying but I believe my tummy went down because of only breasfeeding.

The first time I tried not to go to the hospital too early, as a first time mom I didn't want to be sent back, but my friend who is medical doctor decided to check how far dilated I was and she was surprised I was 6cm and still at home, we decided to head off to the hospital at this stage cos we knew we couldn't be sent back, my husband was too excited and I just wanted to get the baby out, my bags were already packed because baby was ten days late already, basically labour started around 12am and had the baby before 7am in the morning. I asked for epidural but was told I was too far gone so had him with gas and air, couldn't push because they gave me pethidine which made me sleepy and didn't do anything for me for the pain, vowed never to go there again .
Anyway I was sleeping when I was meant to push and tore really badly.

Second time by the time I got to the hospital I was 8cm gone so too late for epidural again, turned down pethidine and really concentrated so as not to tear like first time. Baby came within an hour or two and no tear.
I was more in control the second time because I believe I was prepared , I didn't want another tear , (for me that was the worst thing that happened to me ). I pushed only when I was told to and stopped once I was told to stop, not like the first time that I just wanted the baby out to get over the whole thing.

The two times they had to break my waters, dunno why and it stang like mad

The pain was bad but the second time was not too bad, I am grateful to God that everytime I contracted my cervix was opening up and my pain was not in vain as it happens unfortunately to some ladies.

Also I always prayed for short labours , I believe that my faith has to be bigger for a pain free labour which does happen for others. I know 2 ladies who had pain free labours.
Maybe if I am having a third one I might start believing God for that but I know we have stopped.

Child birth is definately a wonderful thing, my husband was in the position to appreciate it more than myself because he saw everything as they were unfolding according to him the greatest moment was when he saw the head, he is also also always the firt to grab the babies and come and see the way he starts to decree blessings on his boys, I am sure the doctors and nurses have seen all sorts, he will be speaking in tongues and praying in English and yoruba because at that stage I am always too weak to pray except for the second time that I was only able to pray in tongue as I was pushing.

Ayomide means my joy has arrived
Ayomikun means my joy is full
Ayomiposi means I have more joy
Ayoyimika means joy is all around me
Oluwatobiloba my lord the king is big ( I think)

They are all unisex

Seun:

Here are the facts:
- You love your man, and your man loves you and wants to marry you.
- But you can't get married because the bible says "honor your parents (who don't accept him)"
- The bible does not have anything to encourage parents to be more tolerant.
- You can't even have sex because it's "fornication". Now you feel guilty over normal loving sex.

Your 3rd fact is not a fact
Colossians 3:21 Fathers, don't provoke your children, so that they won't be discouraged.

As someone must have mentioned , submission only applies to you if you are a child of God and want to do His will.

Submission does not come naturally to anyone- (at least not to me, it took me almost a year to back down), believe me it is hard and I have only been married for 5 years. You might need God's help to be able to do this at least I did.
You need to always remember that you are not doing it for anyone but for God.
You also need a Godly husband that will not take advantage of this.

Ladies if you are married to a man who really loves you and you trust, you will not have any problems being submissive.
It is not that the man will be making all the decisions and not value your opinions, but he makes the final decision.

If you are so certain that your man is about to make a bad decision and he is not prepared to listen then get on your knees and pray, the Lord can change his mind or turn things around. You don't get anything by nagging, controlling etc

That is why ladies you need to be very wise in choosing who you get married to .
The Lord will help us all

I started with Mechanical Engineering in Nigeria, then came over to UK for a first degree in Computer Aided Engineering , currently a Network Infrastructure Engr.
I have not had any problems, except if I have to lift servers, rack stuffs etc, then I have to call the guys and I hate doing that.
Also whenever I am pregnant I am confined to desk duties.

I am afraid I do not understand why most people are saying it doesn't matter.
Nigeria is an English speaking country so I'd expect all Nigerians that have been to at least secondary school to be able to speak proper English.
The national language is English, if you met a stranger in Nigeria, it is accepted that you converse in the accepted national language which is English.
French , German , Italians etc do not have to be able to speak English properly because English is not their national language.

Except you have lived in the village all your life then you can be excused.

Just to inform all those that have been saying that men can now "babysit". You cannot babysit your own kid, just because you are looking after your child and you are a man, the term babysitting should not be used.
You don't use that when a mother is looking after her child do please don't use the term babysitting for dads. I hear men saying they are babysitting and I always feel like shaking them hard.

Regarding the topic, I don't believe that a man should stay at home while the lady works. He is the man, even if the wife earns more he should still bring his own money into the home.

As allonym said,

there can be plenty of reasons why a person would do that. They could be:

1) better at managing money
2) they won't get stressed out about paying bills and taxes
3) they make better investment decisions
4) they are better at enforcing they couple's rules when it comes to money
5) more reasons a person could think of

Ladies I'm sure your husband will not ask for your money so he can squander it. If you married a responsible man then you will trust him to manage the household money.

Someone mentioned they can lend their husband money and but he must pay back.Marriage I am afraid is not like that . I am sure most of the ladies saying this are not yet married.
At the end of the day this is only money, our marriage I believe is more important

I have been living here now for 14 years and when I think about living in Nigeria, it is scary. Everyone is out to cheat you, I drive and I consider myself a good driver, but i cannot see myself drive in Nigeria. There are no rules and regulations and if there are they are ignored.
People expect to be paid to do their jobs....even petrol attendants. And I am not even going to go into petrol scarcity in an oil producing country.
There is always a reason for the students to go on riot , thereby spending an extra year or two in Uni.
The rich are just getting richer, there is no middle ground .

Imagine a whole governor of a state dressing up as a woman to flee the UK. It is just too shocking

I have been to restaurants in Lagos and sales assistants are so rude it is unbelievable. Everyone is just used to it and just carry on as normal.Please and thank you are still in the dictionary.
I can write a book but I am going to stop here.
I belive corruption is still the main thing crippling Nigeria. If everyone refuses to give bribe that would be a start

Shief, you said is so perfectly.
Men are the head because the Bible says so and we cannot try to reason it out. The Bible says in Isaiah 55:8-9 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways my ways, says the LORD.
As high as the heavens are above the earth, so high are my ways above your ways and my thoughts above your thoughts.

We cannot begin to try to comprehend how He thinks, because the foolishness of God is wiser than men, and the weakness of God is stronger than men (1 Corinthians 1:21-25).

The thing is many men have got it all wrong, they think being the head means gives them the avenue to throw their weights around their homes. They do not know the responsibility they have taken on. They are the spiritual head to their wife and children and when we get to heaven they need to give accounts.
If they don't abuse this position then it will be so easy for us ladies to submit totally. Although regardless of what they do we still have to submit and pray that the Lord will touch their hearts.

Everything still needs to be discussed and the man having the final say so. Although hard but if done in love there should be no resentments.
At work we all have people that we report to and they report to others and so on , the world cannot exist if everyone is the "boss".

Those ladies that are not yet married are still "under" their parents and once they are married then the man takes responsiblity and the man is under God.



HTH.

We personally wanted to know and it didn't spoil anything. It was not because of the clothes because I could still go and shop later. I don't think I could have waited.
Even if we didn't want to know for our 2nd boy it was obvious he is a guy because of the thing that was just there and so obvious immediately the lady placed the thing on my tummy. I have kept the scan photos and will show him when he becomes a "big" man.

@NaijaDiva,
Proclaiming to be a christian to me means doing all that the father asks us to do. I am by no means there yet but I am striving and I know with God's help it is possible. Sarah was one as the Bible said. All I was saying is that we cannot say select what we want and reject the others. Partial obedience is still disobedience.
The men have their parts to play as well they are supposed to love us as christ loves the world, that I believe is much harder that submitting. If he loves you like that then he will surely do all he can in his power to treat you well, then you will have no problems at all in the submission area. I don't expect my husband to walk all over me and treat me anyhow just because I am being submissive to him.

NaijaDiva, submitting fully to your husband only applies to you if you are a born again christian, that is not the xtians that accepts some parts of the bible and rejects the parts that they are not happy with. so if you are not then there is nothing to contend with. You can do as you please.
No one says anyone should stay in an abusive marriage. That is why before you get married , you make sure that you don't just marry a bloke because he is nice, fine, rich whatever, it goes deeper than that. You seek the face of the Lord. If you feel you cannot trust the man with your all, then you need to continue looking. This is the man that is even more important than your parents or your children put together.
Marriage is much more than what we all think it is. You submit and leave the rest to God that has asked us to submit to them in evertthing. Saying that all wives need to be very prayerful that the Lord will grant their husbands wisdom and knowledge to run the home in a godly and responsible way. It still lies with you ladies, and the Lord will help us all because it is not easy. Although they are the head we are the pillars that hold everything together.

For me I'd rather be a housewife if we can live very comfortably with one income. At the moment my kids are 2 and 4, I leave the home at 6:30am and not back until 5:30pm. In this time another person woke my kids up, fed them, took them to nursery....basically all I should be doing . Yes I have the evenings and weekend but at this stage in their lives I should be contributing more into their lives, speaking to them once or twice on the phone during the day is not really it. Yes I have the degree, several qualifications, years of experience as a computer "guru", but I will give it all up in a heartbeat if I can.
Apart from the kids there is the time for my hubby as well. He will want to cuddle up , I will want to as well but I am thinking the time that I should be reading/painting/singing or whatever with the kids so my heart is divided.

My husband was there the two times and believe me I glad he was. He was an encourager and was there all the way, whenever I confessed negatively , he was contradicting everything, holding legs, rubbing my back etc. In fact if anyone asks him, he wouldn't have missed it for anything. He was strong througout . I couldn't have asked for any other person.

Thanks gospelman, I've only been married for 5 wondeful years and still trying to get "there". I pray the Lord will continue to sustain your home too in Jesus name. Another good thing about the joint thing it's that it curbs your spending. I do have full access to the accounts but I always think twice now before buying things. Our personal thithes we pay from our personal accounts by transfering money to our personal acounts. The other seeds we sow elsewhere are from the joint account.

And for the other ladies that are saying NO, before I got married due to not managing my money properly (earning more than enough)I was in debt, since my husband took over I never have to worry about anything financial anymore, everything is paid on time and thank God he is so disciplined, we are no more in debt (when we got married it became our debt), now my focus can be on my hubby and kids instead of worring about bills all the time.
Saying that I feel the more disciplined person should run the finances, doesn't matter if it's the wife or the husband.

Hello Ladies and gents, as a married woman I'd like to give my input. From a xtian point of view as wives we have to be totally submissive to our husbands in everything even in our hearts(hard, still trying to get there). So if your husband says hand over ur pay cheque u do and if u feel he is tight or sqaundering your money, go on your knees and let God deal with his heart. I pray that you single ladies eventually get married to responsible Godly men who has the family interest at heart. You can do your part by praying for wisdom for him. The Lord that has placed him as the head will surely honour your heart desires if He knows that you are doing His will.
Yes my hubby looks after our finances, and we pay our salaries into a joint account . Everything is joint, houses,investment etc. Once u are married two becomes one and everything is joint.