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firetrap: I don't really care as long as the age difference is not above 3 years. Anything above that I done dey marry my elder sister mate be that

Haha ok that's understandable, I suppose it helps
If you age quicker than the lady aswell because if she looks 10years older than she really is then that won't be great

SLIDE waxie: U are jes an attention seekin mofo!
Are by any way related to onila?

Why don't you go fuu.ck yourself since you clearly have no advice to help me!

SLIDE waxie: that's d point! If it aint good then, it shldnt be good now!

So why is it ok if the tables were turned and the guy was older ? Double standards!

SLIDE waxie: the only wrong thing is that: 10yrs ago, wen d guy was 17, and d girl was 20, she alwys ask the guy to go find his mates wen he tried to approach her!

Now, the lady at 30, wen desperation sets it, age is now a number. Abi?

No but 10 years ago she would have been dating an underage guy u see. So are you saying 20 year old girl an 17 year old boy is ok? It will look like she's baby sitting her younger brother na lol

Is there anything wrong with this and can you do it? I just sent a friend an unclad picture of myself and it felt good at first but now I'm getting a bit worried

I went on a wild rampage after my break up and lost my virginity to a stranger and I've missed my period by a week, could I be pregnant? Help!!,I mean it was my first time and it happened only twice so how could I be pregnant

soderican: I feel u.don't give up on ur emotions. U r nt alone in this.there r so many ladies out thr that also having this attraction for dominating and violent guys,aggresive love-making and all.Don't feel bad,I repeat,don't.be yourself so far it makes u happy but if u start harboring negative thots bot dis feeling,u can call me for moral advise on soderican@yahoo.com,07039186458

I'm harbouring negative thoughts I need your help'

Why does age count so much? What is wrong with a 30 year old lady dating a 27 year old man? I don't see anything wrong but society makes it seem horrible why?

fr3do: cos u are miss independent i guess.

Haha good guess but my point is I would only want it from that special someone if I had one not any Tom dick and Harry

Sorry ehn but why would I want that from EVERY boy?!? Ah ah

SLIDE waxie: as a vampire, this is day time for me!


And as a witch, it's time to catch her flight. She's packin her luggages.

Hahaha speak for yourself o

SLIDE waxie: u say?

Ur cute

firetrap: Been there and done everything on the list and still came out worst for it. Her excuse was the ignoble " its not you its me". But it doesn't meant when I meet someone else I still wouldn't do them all over again. I'm a sucker for romance

Aww that's great

SLIDE waxie: can we do it at the church too?
#GodWillBeWatching na

Ah! E don dey madt abi?

SLIDE waxie: unless u and i....
Abi?

Unless u and I go to church together? Sure why not

SLIDE waxie: ^^
Sex has a grt benefit! Check it out o!
Tell me u dnt like it?

I wouldn't know

SLIDE waxie: Hehehehe, i am die ooo!
Wetin we no go see for nairaland?
If she curses me, make i do wetin?
Hehehehehe, i am die!

Wot my girl shld undstnd is, if i push downwards, she shld wringle like a coil and push upwards with a moan!
Lobatan!

All some of u guys know is that! Ah ah

chikeorji123: l have lock up all these inside a wardrope..unlock it when a lady who deserve it will emerge..

Haha so how will you know the deserving one when it's already locked up, she may leave before you open it

eyenCalabar: @OP
Well, since you are still bent on being with this guy again, why not just put a call through and try to tell him how it has been with you since he left. After all, you are a woman. Tell him you'll like to see him atleast even this time would be the last. He'll definitely give you a chance. BUT then, be warned, men don't really care. Even though you see him today, he can still place you in the past.

Personally, I'll advice that you move on. Take your mind off him ...the beautiful ones are not yet born ...the best is yet to come ...better is not enough my dear. Don't settle for less. That guy is less for you as far as am concern.

So what are you going to do now? Get more skills, further your education, get professional certificates, draw up goals in life, work on yourself -interpersonal communication, attitude, ordering your steps, etc. Just strive to be self dependent. I bet you by the time you are done with yourself, men would be lining up begging. You'll be the one to select. Don't put yourself in a position which you'll have to beg for every little thing because that's what you are trying to do. When you force yourself on a man, you are putting yourself in a position you'll always have to beg which is very bad. It'll kill your self-respect as a human. Strive to be strong and self dependent. Strive to be excellent. Forget about so-called love feelings which would die-off when you start seeing dissapointments in the relationship. Forget about your age because there are so many who got married for that reason, 10-15 years after nothing is happening in their marriages. No happiness. No satisfaction. Just nothing. Why? Because they entered into wrong relationship.

Again, don't make yourself a victim of love. Yes! Love can victimized. When you are placed below your worth in the name of love, you have become a victim of it. And you'll never be happy with yourself for the rest of your life. Fighting to change the situation would only take you to a Juju man's house or crying to God everyday over an issue that you had the power to change. But you were too blind to see problems coming. Don't stoop so low. Where are you in life circle right now, what do you think can be done to make a step further? Remember, you are a princess, recognize that and live in that consciousness. Respect yourself. Respect your beauty. Respect your parents (death/alive). Respect me.

However, if you feel your mind is made up to be with this guy and even if it'll make you resort to any means in order to keep him for yourself, remember, anything that is not of God don't last. They only give shortlived happiness and satisfaction. So the choice is yours. Life is so fair to present us with ability to make choices. I can only add to your choices but the power to choose resides with you. I can't choose for you. You choose. But whatever your choice may be, make sure it is good with God and man. Don't make a choice you'll regret in future. Have foresight. All the best.

Thank you soooo much!!!! You truly speak words of wisdom! God bless you

[quote author=tpia@]smacks of low self esteem and deeper personal problems.

op, do you have issues you're afraid a new person wont be able to handle?[/quote]Maybe I do

jubrealguy: hmmmmmm, u just want him to have a taste of you again

Maybe

gabon: Firetrap, on behalf of Missindependent I must say thank you for the advice you gave to her.

Missindependent, try to get him back, you love him and thats all that matters. you never can tell, he might not be happy in his present relationship.

girl fight the good fight.

Good Luck

Haha I will, I'm ever more determined than ever. Thank you

lrguru: she is nothin compared to u abi? But he chose her over u... Guess u dont know how to fvck that's y he dumped u easily, and i could swear he's not even thinkin about u

Why don't u come and confirm whether I know how to or not! Anuofia

sakaguchi: Babe, stop it. You don't need to go back to your ex, if he is over you, he is over you. Just live with it.
You gambled away your chance in making the relationship work and he moved on, you need to move on and make your ex stay where he belongs, the past.

But how can I move on , it's easier said than done

jackbauerspower: But why would you want to go back to your ex though?

Because he's mr perfect ie the best I ever had

firetrap: you never know if u never try

I must say I do hate rejection but I'll try, it's worth it. Thank you

lumideezle: Bia @op leave this guy alone now is he the only man alive? you have already opened 3 threads about trying to get this same guy back werin b ur own self the way u dey go u fit do jazz oh! beta watch yourself you cannot force anyone to be part of your life who does nt want to be. so quit giving yourself sleepless nights

first you decided to get over him on this thread, www.nairaland.com/1183769/how-get-over-guy, when you couldn't you now decide to steal him back smh https://www.nairaland.com/1274192/how-steal-guy-girl I pity u, its like the stealing idea dint work prolly cuz his present gf dey go cele so her prayer dey hot well well, you are now here asking how to win him back. honey you are confused

Yes I am that is why I'm here asking for your help, the girl is nothing compared to me sef

firetrap: out of sight is not necessarily out of mind but in your case it probably is. I don't know the dynamic of the relationship but from the original post I can deduce that you started seeing someone else cos he was not around. so its safe to say that the main problem to your relationship is distance. if you want it to work you must be ready to up and move to the city he's in. if not, all the nairaland advice gotten will amount to nought. if you want it to work first fix the problem "distance". since your the one who wants back into his life you should be ready to go the distance (pun intended)

Yes I'm willing to fix the distance problem but even when I do I don't know if he still wants me

firetrap: humans and their selfish and brutish nature. you care only for yourself and your not considering whether he's happy in his current relationship and u want to throw a wrench in his cog.

lesson 1: "trust" there must be trust in a relationship, if there's no trust it will never work. if you caused the breakup due to your philandering, he will never trust you again. and if he left you for someone else; how can you ever bring yourself to trust him.

lesson 2: as a man I can tell u that no man values a woman who cheaply offers herself to him. if he cannot fight to a certain extent to keep u. then you're of no use to him. if you ever beg him to take you back, him go use your eye see something. he'll use you and when he's done he'll move on to the next one.

my advice to you is that you apologise to him for whatever you did to him and let him know that you know that it will be hard for him to fully trust you again but your willing to earn his trust and try the hardest to make things work between the both of you. don't ever tell him to leave the person he's with for you cos if u hadn't left in the first place he wouldn't be with someone else

Thanks but I didn't necessarily leave, it was long distance and things just went wrong

odeebee: . Ɣ☺ΰ followed money, now Ɣ☺ΰ r missing †ђξ 1 dat hav true L♥√ for Ɣ☺ΰ. Galz Ɣ☺ΰ really dnt deserve any Ǥōōd guy

I did not follow money, it's a long story!

I want it to go back to how it was when I used to travel
To see him