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Lizzyangel:
Unfortunately, mum's place isn't the right place for now, I'm just going to add up to her burden, she's living in Igangan, she was the head of a school and had a shop, she retired 2yrs ago to face her business until Fulani's brouhaha stormed Igangan, her shop got affected cos it's located at the burnt Kara market, she picked up the few things left and started a new shop where she's MANAGING, if not for her predicament, I won't think twice that night,but I wouldn't like to add salt to her injuries, dad wasn't in support of her living in Oyo state which made him not to show interest in the story, efforts had been made to make him bend his strictness but he's the type that doesn't compromise easily.
I'm screwed up.

Lizzyangel:
Kindly go through my response to ishilove's quote. Thanks Sir.

Lizzyangel:

Lizzyangel:
My bride price hasn't been paid.

Lizzyangel:
Thanks for your response, he had been telling me to leave, he even threatened me, to take my life if I insist on staying,atimes , he'd seize the key, lock me out, abuse me and others but I'll still beg him for my kid's sake and he's using this medium to blackmail me.

pocohantas:
Hahahahaha. This is so funny, especially the part he opened a new church branch for his new wife. Like say na POS business. Hahahahaha!

Mannipple93:
Is this natural or am I a pervert?

For the purpose of accuracy in perspective, let me start from the beginning.
Am male
27
Straight
Been in several serious relationship but only fully committed to one, nothing really serious now in that area
Ok... I have this neighbor in the compound I reside, his a wife beater and was even beating his wife when she was few weeks to EDD. The first time it happened I didn't know what to do but could only listen to her crying all night feeling nothing but pity and disgust and anger for the whole situation. ( Yeah I have a tender spot and yet fear for pregnant women and babies)
It happened again and I reported to the Landlord, the Man was called, cautioned and adviced... Seems it worked as I didn't hear any sound of crying or belt lashing.

Now it's been months and it started suddenly again, last night was leaving to get something across the street when I walked close to their flat. I suddenly heard her again, her crying and his harsh whispers, a whoozing slap, something falling and belt landing, she cried and whimpered, moaned softly but instead of rage or at least empathy at her situation...

I discovered my pipi was kicking. I turned back, went inside my room and turned off the fan so I could clearly hear the sounds she was making, am afraid to say they felt like music to my ear. I grew more aroused as I closed my eyes retreating into a darkness of evil imaginations toying with possibilities as different scenarios played out in my mind.

Christ have mercy.

VERTEX1:
Currently doing psychology can you let me pm u

postmann:
50 years in biss is better than 80 years as a single divorced woman.

cococandy:
How does one double like a post? Because this is thumbs up. The goal of all moral policing of women and preaching about values is never because those who say it mean are good people or that they even believe it.
It’s because to them, that is a way they can scare women into thinking they do not deserve anything more than a mediocre existence subject to the generosity of the man giving it.

Hathor5:
You have said it all. Beautifully.

@bold
So true. But I have no hope for this generation. Instead of finding ways to build loving homes, they think of ways to manipulate, use scare tactics or swallow some red pills and suffer from megalomania. Very unhealthy approach. I pity their children who will never experience how a loving couple operates as one unit. This mentality will lead to many dysfunctional homes. At least, you will never run out of clients and clinical case studies.

postmann:
Your attempt at rebuttal at the OP was poor and driven by emotions.

Women stand to lose more in divorce - FACT! Everyone knows that while men age like wine, women age like milk. And except the woman is rich no one hardly wants a committed relationship with a woman divorced with child. Her market value isn't the same. Some may stick around for the money but it doesn't really end well.

As for your point with house helps, friends and family helping. That's a truck load of crap. No one does it like it's his/her own. It's never the same. Your husband standing in for father's day for a colleague --that's unfortunate as it's shameful. You only unwittingly drove the OP's point home.

Women can't raise adolescents and can't really train boys on their own.

While in some cases separation might be the only remedy, divorce should not be encouraged and it's consequences downplayed. A good portion of outlaws in our society today come from broken homes or raised by single parent.

sweetflame:
Thank you all so much for your suggestions

I got some garlic now, and let's see what happens in the next few days, then also try out the banana therapy.

I'll be back with the progress update, thanks guys

Munzy14:
What if this said career woman is in a secret affair with someone esle and the hubby decided to let it slide and remain the union, but definitely must fill up the natural need called konji.
After all uwa wu ofu mbia...

pocohantas:
Shebi e done die. Make the woman add his assets to hers. Let’s call it the hand of God.

Nigerian Stock Exchange (NSE) should put his wife as top gainers for the week.

Munzy14:
This question will be rhetorical if you do a research on how some of us who have a working class mother kept their home and marriage up till date.

Like our working mothers brought resources home to assist our fathers, still looked after the hubby and kids and harness everything to work fine without hitches.

That can't be said for some mothers of current modern world.

It's a pity the man is dead, and dead men don't tell their stories...

Many well to do guys go this way...And the wives move on...But it doesn't call for her to celebrate because las las everybody go kpai!.