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BOSSkesh:
Aunty nobody cares tbh
You’ve been making noise about marriage since and up till now you’re still not married
Change your character or allow us to hear word

Anny69:
12-11+0.5-0.5🤭

1Sharon:
Was he denying her sex at home?

Sonnobax15:


I've stopped carrying family problems on my head.......Tho I was forewarned, but I thought people were only trying to make me hate my fam....

But las las, I've learned in a very hard way....such a way that could have ended my life....But I think my best decision so far this year is that.....

MSN1:
Just few moments before we mark a new year, it is pertinent for us to eradicate this stupidity from our lives.
When we complain of entitlement mentality, it doesn't mean we are complaining about what is at stake, rather it is a means of restoring sanity and gratitude to humanity.

Giving or doing good is something that is very rare, because it takes a kind heart to release.
I have seen alot of people that has millions but can never give u 1k, even if u are dying, they will say; E NOR DEY. While we have very rare souls that can even borrow or give u their last card.
Its ONLY a fool that thinks kind people are foolish.

☆My encounter with two entitled girls yesterday and just now.

Yesterday, i decided to check on a chick which i have been having interest in for sometime now.
When i got there, what the family were eating was pitifully bad. Soup that looks like water with little or no fish, so i invited her over to my place because i bought rice amd meat for my supper.
When we got home, we ate together, u could see how she was feeling relieved on the sight of something good in her stomach.
After eating, i brought Predator and Gordon Gin + 2 glasses, she refused to take alcohol and i expected her to take predator and i open both drinks and started cooling off, immediately, she collected the predator, saying; She would take it along, i declined and asked her to use the glass because i would need the rest after sipping my gin, instantly, she said; if i refuse her the whole bottle, she won't take.
I simply said; Ok and emptied everything, after sometime, she left angrily, to me, wetin consign me and this mumu.

So today, i was at home all through and i decided to come out to eat, on my way going, i saw a teenage girl, she greeted and requested i buy candle for her. I told her no probs. that she should wait till after i finish eating. After eating, i checked her but she was not around. I proceed to my fav. spot to take a little gin b4 going to church.
After buying my stuff, i bought 2 candles, with the hope to use 1 and give her the other.
As i was chilling, she came in, to get candle o, but she saw me accidentally.
I gave her one candle, could you believe this little teenager told me, the candle is too small, that i must buy the big one before she accepts it. I simply told her; THANK U and that was all , she left when she noticed i wasn't even listening to her noise.

NOW THIS IS THE DEAL;
How can a reasonable person tell or control u on how u should help them, when we have millions of people that would say No, EVEN IN MIDST OF PLENTY?

A lot of entitlement in women are caused by guys.
Most can't approach ladies, so they use money and foolish kindness to get the cookie, little did they know; They are creating a foolish mindset in ladies.

THIS MINDSET SHOULD AND MUST STOP, IF U NOTICE ANY ENTITLEMENT IN ANYONE, SHUN IT, EVEN IF ITS #20 INVOLVED.
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THAT WAY, SANITY AND GRATITUDE WOULD BE RESTORED IN THE SOCIETY.

Thanks.
☆Wish u and your household a blissful, fruitful and Prosperous year ahead, coupled with sound health🙏

Birdbyrde440:
If you're a 90's baby you will understand what I mean.

Back in the day there used to be Christmas and New Cards, this is another stark reminder on how technology can render a whole industry redundant in one fell swoop!

OneCandleAway:
Technology took over. Now email. Sms, videos
. Just like postal stamps hardly exist for letter posting.

RevenuesBoost:
Today marks one year of our marriage journey.

Thank God for the smooth start🙇‍♀️🙇‍♀️

Happy Wedding Anniversary to us!🥳🥳
🎂🎂🎉🎉🎊🎊

I'll always love you babe❣️❣️❣️

okeysoninv:
You have 100m , billions of naira instead of going to South East to develop our land you went to a strangers land to develop it for them. Foolish set of people. They should demolish more lands of this set of foolish people who refuses to learn.

LadyRosa2:
As the topic implies, this is a true life story.

Although my knowledge of this family started around when I was 19 years old.

I will call this friend of mine Sarah, the first child and daughter of her father. This true life story appears sad, and in my quiet times, especially recently, I'm beginning to feel sympathetic to both sides of the coin.

A few days ago, around 6 am, Sarah called me, and our conversation went like this;

Me: Babe, how far, this one you dey call by this time?
Sarah:I'm going to drop my papa at the park.
Me: for what na? Person wey just enter town yesterday? You for allow the man rest small...

Sarah: no be for my house, I don drop am, pay him transport, and still give am 5k to hold the body for the road.

Me: Babe, I dont support this one, in less than 24 hours your dad dey the Road for like 12 hours.

Sarah: That one no concern me, no be me invite am come.

A day earlier her father had called her from their previous location, he must have gotten there only to find out his 'ex-wife' had moved out. He decided to call Sarah, and she picked up, accommodated him for the night and bundled him back to the next available bus to Makurdi.

Truth be told, the ex-wife no longer lived in the slum he visited. She is now in a duplex, paid for by his first son. Let's call him David. David is in Europe and through one of my kinsmen, had secured a 3-bedroom duplex for his mom. His father is not aware of this.

Those children suffered men!

Big Mama, Sarah's mom was abandoned by her husband when Sarah was just 12 years old. The same year, Sarah was brutally raped by a neighbour because of 20 naira, while her mother was bedridden in the hospital after child evacuation. The father left while she was pregnant with the 5th child. Sarah would hawk all manner of foodstuffs to put food on the table. When she doesn't sell, she sells her body for peanuts to buy pepper and oil to make even the cheapest dried akro soup.

Her father had remarried and stopped caring about their welfare, a federal government worker in a good money-spinning ministry. He got transferred to another state and started a new life.

When I knew Sarah, she already had a child, a small saloon and four more mouths to feed. She would work in the morning and at night she would visit lounges. Life was hard, and so cigarettes and drinks became her god.Sarah till date is a chimney and she does so even in the presence of my husband, he no longer minds.

One cold night a couple of years ago, after we shared drinks at my place. She narrated how she and her siblings suffered.

" Sis, say my brother travel abroad, no be my power,na say God don look us say we don too suffer. David go gather wound for his body, from one Lebanese and Indian company to another, na so machine go dey cut cut his body. So so blue ink full him body"

I watched with tears how she broke down completely, spilling her wine all over my tiles.

"Sis, na 20 naira e take to lose my virginity, 20 naira!"

", My father...Wetin' we do am?!"

Two years ago and some months , she got a huge break. She called me to follow her to Transcorp Hilton and made me promise that I 'behave' myself.

We met this man, well groomed. We were half into the conversation when she looked at me with a forced smile, and said to me
" Sis, this is the man that raped me"

The spring rolls in my mouth turned into vinegar, my heart began to pound, and I could only see everyone but the man blurry. I eventually kept my cool but was silent the whole evening even as the man apologised profusely. My baby was beginning to cry, and I took the opportunity to leave their table because I was feeling sick and nauseated.

In less than 6 months after that encounter, he had secured a bigger and well-equipped saloon for her and had given her enough to travel out to buy hair.

Let's talk about David. David suffered oooo. I remembered one time I was going through her old pics and saw a younger version of David, sickly with his tummy protruded.

" My sister, na poison. My father come one day,, carry am go makurdi, na so person call my mother say make she come do carry her pikin before them kill am.My mother enters Moto, and as she stops for Keffi, she stand for Road dey beg for Moto wey go carry her reach makurdi, no money na. We carry am waka from one church to another before God just save that boy. "

I looked at the picture again and gently dropped it, still overwhelmed with internal grief. The first time I saw David in person after he graduated from the University ( he sponsored himself with the help of his sisters), I asked in bewilderment,

" So na this boy your father abandoned?"

Standing before me was a young man, fair, built and with a height I reckoned would be above 6. In inches. No wonder white women couldn't get off him as soon as he landed in Europe. He got married to one and life in that family changed in a flash. I enjoyed it for I got a cut from my father's kinsman when he bought a property.

Their father is no longer with the second wife, as she left him after three kids. He married a third and is now a retired pensioner.

Last night, while shopping together, Sarah was laughing and I asked, " Babe why you dey laugh"?

" When my father comes to my house, him dey ask me why I leave one bedroom go enter 3 bedrooms with my son. I tell am palee, this house no be rent o, na my house be this o."

" So wetin' him come talk?" I inquired.

"Wetin' him one talk again? Shebi waist pain wey my mama dey go through na say he left her when she was in her twenties. The woman has not seen Preek 4ck till today, because she carries church for the head. Woman wey him marry when she dey 17 years."

I choose to use the word ex-wife, but they never really divorced because the bride price paid is still binding. The fact that this woman who has suffered so much will soon be a mother-in-law to a German BMW Engineer in a few days is overwhelming. I wasn't surprised their last girl will end well, she's always looking like something out of foreign red carpets all the time. Like David, she is tall slim, surprisingly Conservative and intelligent.

Palee will be coming again to grace the marriage of one of the daughters he abandoned. Can't imagine his regret when he sleeps in a well-furnished duplex, away from the slum where he abandoned his children and wife many years ago, only to find out the first son from his loins bought that for his mother.

E go to pain am.

But one thing is certain or I think I noticed, David and Sarah still bear the hurt. The other kids have moved on, and don't mind being in their father's life.

Kazim88:
What's happening to Nairaland today....

Off topics through out.

-I called my ex...
-I ask my wife for open relationship.

Ex this, ex that....

Don't you people have anything better to offer.

Fountainofyouth:
That means you are also a narcissist because only narcissists do this, and only foolish girls stay with guys like that

Ladies know your worth and do not allow men belittle and degrade you, when you know he has other women, be gone.

Saintinoo:
I never knew that I will one day write about this, because, of all the advice I have been given, I taught it was love in the air.

Some months ago, I created a thread about how I can't get over my girlfriend and another thread where I confirmed that she was a narcissist. But now, I have not only confirmed that I dated a covert narcissist for four solid years, but I have come to learn a lot about narcissism and how to unmask them. Sadly, we have more narcissist both male and female going into serious relationships.
White you are thinking about the problems in your relationship, the fights everyday, the mental abuse etc, you might just be in a relationship with a narcissist and that is the worst thing that can happen to anybody.

HOW DO NARCISSISTS GET THEIR VICTIMS.

Be it male or female narcissist, they hunt for their victims same way. A narcissist targets an empath, they target people who have something they do not have, learn empathy from you just to use it against you.

They portray themselves as the best thing that can happen to you after egusi soup. Yes, my narc ex portrayed those traits, that wife material characteristics, godly and prayerful, dress decent and act same. Do not be deceived, they know that is what you want in a woman so they give it to you for the while.

They will always talk about forever with you, bring so many fairly tails and give you the soul mate feeling, this you will believe you have found a wife or a husband, then you start making marriage's preparation. They have successfully made you commit. Mine always use this word "forever is the goal". All these is to make you commit and when you have committed, they start the abuse stage.

The narcissist common aim, be it male or female is to get you trauma bonded to them. Trauma bond is a situation when you excuse abuse from someone, go back to your abuser because you are afraid to lose them. I cannot count the number of times I went back to apologize for doing nothing, that is trauma bond working for her.

The narcissist will never apologize for their wrong at the later part of the relationship, they will do wrong, and expect you to take it, when you try to speak up, they give you the silent treatment as a punishment. Yea,because they have groomed their victims so much through the various love bombing stages. I was given silent treatment every time, and yes,after going a week of waiting to see if she will apologize for her wrong, I end up saying sorry. I was groomed during the earlier days to not do without her.

The narcissist will love bomb you at the early stage of your relationship, this is not genuine love,it is a tactics to get you used to them and whenever you try to leave and think of the past memories, you will have no choice than to run back to them until they are ready to discard you. In my case,she calls every day to check on me, would spend over an hour with me on phone, gave me pet names and showed the world that she truly loved me. Those were all lies.

WHAT WENT WRONG BETWEEN I AND MY NARC EX.

For me, i thought she was the last bus stop, in fact I had been planning how our wedding even though I had limited funds at that time, I was ready to go against anybody just to wed my soulmate. But then, this problem keep coming. I felt someone was trying to control me, someone was doing wrong and do not apologize. We kept fighting almost every week, and yes, I kept apologising.

Early this year, I called her to discuss marriage plan, she disagreed with everything and went completely mute, I called the next day to resolve and ask for her opinion, she still went mute, the silent treatment increased. I vowed I am done and will not contact her again, went no contact. After two month, I saw her pic somewhere, and since I was trauma bonded to her and didn't heal completely, I went back begging her for over a week. That is was being trauma bond to a narcissist does, it completely makes you their slave.

During the cause of the discard from my narc ex, she knew that I have been trauma bonded to her and the sight of her pic will bring back memories, she used what is called " flying monkeys " to make me see her pics and believe that I will keep rushing back to beg her, because she enjoy all the abuse.

HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT YOU DATING A NARCISSIST; if you do any of those thing I did, you are dating a narcissist.

1. I beg for her attention when she gives silent treatment.
2. I felt like she is just the one.
3. I do not look at any other lady not even a friendly look because all my attention was around her.
4. Her eyes goes dark when she is angry.
5. She shouts and insults to any extent when angry.
6. When she wrongs me and I refuse to call and apologize for reacting, maybe for 5 days or a week, she rages in anger.
7. She belittles me when she is angry, this is a common trait with a narc, male or female.
8. From her story, during our love days, and from my findings her dad is a narc. Pls try and know your lover parent, narc is hereditary.


Did I talk about how I later confirm that my Darling angel was a terrible covert narcissist.

Early this year, I had a neighbor whose 2 years old daughter exhibited the same traits my ex exhibited, the anger, the manipulation, the gaslighing, everything.

Finally, narcissists are demonic, look for these red flags in your relationship and end the relationship the minute you confirm that you date is a narc, there is no changing them, I tried and got hurt. The narc know what he/she is doing.

Narcissism is hereditary and they are born that way, they keep getting worse by the day, so best is to avoid them.

Drops pen.

money121:
The people of Ogu kingdom in Ogu/Bolo LGA of Rivers State on Saturday celebrated Iria, an ancient ceremony that marks the transition of girls who are usually virgins into womanhood

Young virgins were given certificates by the Ogu council of chiefs for passing through the test.

Iria, is considered a rite of passage for young girls as they reach puberty and begin to mature physically

To pass through the test, the girls must first be virgins which will be checked by women of the town, then they will be kept in a room where they will undergo training on womanhood

After passing through this process, the qualified girls will be given certificates showing that they are now adult ladies ready to marry.
It's an OKRIKA Ijaw ceremony that dates back to the 17th century.

Cloggym:
We started a relationship at the end of August. She was the who wanted a relationship, and I liked her too so I accepted since I’m single.
We live just 1hr apart in 2 different cities in the east. So I wouldn’t completely say it’s a long distance relationship.

She visited, and I happen to check her WhatsApp while she was asleep. I found out she’s sleeping with a few other men, not a relationship cos I didn’t see endearing names or any romantic chats just stuffs like “ where are you? I’m at your house “
Are we seeing today?”

Should I confront her or use her for sex only , with protection of course



That is my chat bro



Is her name Tolu 🤣

NBAjunior:
Aswear they do bro they know they stink down there

NBAjunior:
Some girls are so disgusting and such a big turn off 🤮

I met with a girl have been crushing on yerstaday at a hotel but was so disappointed ☹️

When she opened her leg Omo the room was stinking fish odour plus there was stretch marks on the sides of her laps such a big turn that my prick went flat instantly.

This is a message to all girls take care of your body especially your private part no sane man would love to eat dirty

You ladies can do better Abeg!

Samantha124:
We're tired...😏😏😏

EmperorFred:
Doctors in the house, please what kind of skin reaction is this and how can I go about it, I have it on other parts too.

Asawoboy:
How do we say NEPA don bring light with correct English.🙄
Make una bring chair,
grammar go fall from sky today 🤣🤣🤣

Jennyclay:
May God help you broke and struggling men!

Biko, stay away from a relationship in order not to put someone’s daughter in poverty

Nobody wants to settle for less my dear!

Iamdbull:
Just heard about this oladipps guy omooo the hustle is real abeg support me now ooo make I no kpai before Una go dey send me.


Please enjoy what I have for you below


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q27magJz5UM?si=Nl03jde441qKPUZQ

RichAbujaGuy:
Seems like low mileage to me. But that yansh has been very well shaped by someone. 😆

nlparrot:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMi3vwo883k?si=gmXGjuYDu78DcPGr



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