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tope5000:
Do u socialise at all? if u dont i suggest u start asap.
I have always said no guy own a girl until he put a ring on it . . . . .go out, have fun, go on date . . . .laugh ur head off

I am very social. Funny enough, I could be in the midst of a thousand people or should i say guys, yet at the same time, I could still be alone in my thoughts, somewhere deep down, My ex is there, but it is emotions so I would have to deal with them.

Treetop20:
you have made lots of sense here mate
i once felt that way about someone and somehow
i know she is that one you never really get over but you learn
to live with it. It is hard doing so but once you meet someone wonderful
it makes it easier. Never compare because no two human beings can be the same
there is just one or several things that will make you happier in the future when you look back( you have to get there first)
asking yourself questions will do you no good because only him( your ex) has the answers
it gets easier. . it really does!

I agree with that statement there and that's something I have to put in mind. There are a lot of loving guys out there but sometimes I still remember my ex and feel he is better than some of what they o and that makes me withdraw.

tope5000:
No need to force it . . . . .its not easy to let go-agreed
But is the dude worth fighting for? If no, count yourselve lucky to be out of the relationship and move on . . .one day at a time though

You are right. Not easy though. It is not even about him or being with him, I just miss him even as a person. There are more loving guys I've met but still he is always in my thoughts.

Romeo4real:
Many posters assume this is a simple black/ white issue, without understanding the intricacies and complexities of emotional entanglement.

Thanks everybody for your help, I guess, I'll have to force myself to let go of such emotions.

ogaga4luv

Are u serious? what is all these?

Does the cliche time "Time heals" really help? I was in a loving relationship but had to end it as I was still missing one of my exes. It's been a while and time has passed, even though the relationship was not all that great, I still miss him. I fear as time keeps passing by, I may not be able to love another or as much as I did with him. Anyone with suggestions?

Assuming you were a marriage or relationship counsellor/advisor and you find out one of your clients was your ex, maybe you didn't know has gotten married or the relationship did not end well and the new partner, how would you react and feel? Would you advise them?

What really makes us (women) moody during menstruation? even sometimes use the frustration on others.

He does talk about God but I agree not much emphasis but mostly on life in general.

MrCrackles:
wat is the point of a LovePeddler getting married?

Did she just throw a wedding because everyone else is or what?

I personally like her n don't see her (Ini Edo) as a LovePeddler but getting married to this guy is what I'm unsure if it's for real considering the whole stories or, Newayz they are the only ones that know,

Full Story


Though the gladiators are artistes, what is currently playing out in Nollywood is by no means a movie. So, it is no make-believe. It is a scandal of worrisome dimension and it is real life.
The dramatise personae include Ini Edo, Ruth Okoro, Emeka Ike, Jim Iyke and a US-based Philip Ehiagwina.

Scene 1:
Ruth is based in the United States of America and was once married to Philip Ehiagwina.
She alleges that Philip married her in order to secure America Green Card. According to her, Philip abandoned her even when she was just recovering from cancer of the blood and started dating other girls in Houston, Texas, where he now stays.

Scene 2:
Like a chicken that just arrived a new environment, Philip reportedly stood on one leg until he got what he wanted – Residency (Green Card) before he started playing big boy. Now able to shuttle to Nigeria, Philip allegedly dumped her for Ini Edo.
At a point, he was said to confessed to family members that he had to sleep with Ini to prove a point.
An infuriated wife, Ruth reportedly wrote Ini, pleading with her to “leave my husband for me”. Not only that, she reportedly warned Ini that Philip isn't the kind of guy any girl could put her trust on. Ini allegedly forwarded Ruth's letter to Philip, who accused Ruth of being unnecessarily bitter. That was the beginning of war among the trio.

Scene 3
Now the die seem cast, as the Ini Edo/Philip relationship has gone beyond bedmatics. Already, Ini, according to industry sources, might have accepted the proposal to marry Philip.

Scene 4:
Enter Jim Iyke and Emeka Ike
Nick-named Nollywood's bad boy, Jim Iyke' s alleged role in the current love war seems to portray him thus.
According to Ruth, she had always known Emeka long before her marriage to Philip. “He and Philip were friends,” she says. The duo of Emeka Ike and Jim Iyke were on the same location to shoot a movie, “The Preacher man”, in America. Ruth was later brought in by the producer and Jim Iyke who had been asking to date her despite the fact that Philip was his friend, put more pressure on her. It was there that she ran to Emeka for shelter.
According to Ruth, “I have always seen Emeka Ike as a big brother. Even till tomorrow I call him 'Big bros.'

Blackmail
But Jim Iyke, obviously cashing in on her predicament, allegely made the moves to date her. Ruth claims that he once called her to report her husband to her, that he was sleeping with girls and frolicking with them at a club they were together. From one issue to another, both Ruth and Jim Iyke fell out, but the movie mended the gap. As a regular boy, Jim was said to have rekindled his request and kept asking until Ruth had to shout him down. He shifted his attention to Ruth's friend, Jamaican lady. And pronto, he swept her off her feet.

Mix up
At some point hence, it appeared that everyone had in fact abandoned Ruth. It was then that Emeka who was shooting another movie resumed location. It was a relieved and an excited Ruth that welcomed him. She reported what happened to him and expectedly, he offered to play the role of big brother. That decision was later to become Emeka's albatross. And to make matters worse, Ruth played the role of his mistress in the movie.
Out of jealousy, according to Ruth, Jim Iyke called Philip and lied to him that she had been sleeping with Emeka.

Ruth is unfaithful –Philip
Philip who had not seen his wife for more than two years hopped on a plane and headed straight to Maryland, the movie location. He was said to have gone to Ruth's room and knocked three time but got no response.
In an earlier interview with a news magazine, Philip had alleged that Emeka Ike was actually in bed with Ruth, the reason they did not open the door.
But Ruth says she had never slept with Emeka.
She specifically denied, saying: “Emeka was not with me on that day. What happened that day was, we had gotten back to the hotel around past eleven. When they brought food, Emeka called me to come and take because they took the food to his room. When I got back to my room, I went to the bathroom. I was already in the shower when my room phone rang. I couldn't take it and said whoever was calling me would call back. When I got out, my cell phone rang, and it was Philip my husband. He hadn't called me for God knows how long.

Rebuff
He asked how I was, and I replied why he cares since he had not called me for years. He said Jim Iyke told him I was shooting a movie in Maryland and since I had told him earlier that Jim was asking me out, he said he would ask Emeka to keep an eye on me. I said you've been out of my life for so long and I've been fine, anyway thank you. Shortly after that he said he wanted to say goodnight that he was about to sleep and was in the kitchen.

Philip's stunt
Before I knew it, I heard a hard knock on my door but I did not answer because nobody has ever knocked my door like that. I called the reception and nobody picked up the phone. I also called Emeka's room but he didn't pick up. Later, a call came into my room and the receptionist said policemen wanted to talk to me. The policeman said a guy was disturbing them at the lobby, and asked that I come down. I informed him that somebody just knocked at my door three times so I can't come out on my own but I would if they come to walk me out. Police came and peeped into my room and walked me out. Behold, the person I saw was my husband who just told me he was fixing his food. The police asked if I knew him, I said yes and no. Yes, because I got married to him five years ago and no, because exactly a week he got his Green Card, this would be the first time I'm seeing him. The police asked him the last time he saw me and he said it's been a few years. The police asked him what he was doing there, he said one of his friends by name Jim Iyke called him that his other friend was taking advantage of his wife. The policemen said they don't have the right to judge but if he abandoned his wife for so long and anything like that happens he has no right to blame anyone. He was told to leave the hotel immediately, he left in shame.

Emeka not my lover
Emeka had no idea what was going on, it was in the morning that he was told. I've never dated Emeka before. I have never slept with him. We've known each other for a long time.

Virginity palaver
For now, there is no doubt that divorce is on the card for the onec love birds.
But Ruth, in her letter, is cursing the hell that her virginity, spirit of her unborn baby (she said she suffered a miscarriage due to shock of discovering that her then husband impreginated a girl in Houston, Texas), her money and fame you are trying to work for now will unite and fight you. Philip, according to Ruth, was responsible for her miscarriage because of the trauma associated with the discovery of his philadering.
Ruth is a runway model who has done a couple of works with Beyonce. She is now venturing into acting. She met Philip when her parents sent her to Nigeria to acquire some 'Nigeria ness'.

Emeka angry
Today, Emeka Ike is angry, as he alleges that Philip goes about scandalising his name; that he now reports regularly at Zone 2 Police station.
But I don't even know where Zone 2 is. I was not invited by the police neither have I been there in relation to Philip's case.

Ini, Jim can't be reached
When we called Ini Edo's number, the person that picked the phone said she had stopped using the number for over a year despite the fact that we spoke with her on that same number less than three months ago. Besides, the voice at the other end sounded unmistakably Ini's. Jim Iyke who keeps changing his number was unreachable.

Na wa 4 sum of the replies, Haba, Newayz I wasn't referring to them as kids and I'm happy for her as well, This is just a thought asking for opinions, whether good or bad, wouldn't stop the marriage or whatsoeva

Those of u saying if it's my business, just like it isn't your business asking 'bout the lives of other celebrities.

Na wa 4 sum of the replies, Haba, Newayz I wasn't referring to them as kids and I'm happy for her as well, This is just a thought asking for opinions, whether good or bad, wouldn't stop the marriage or whatsoeva

Those of u saying if it's my business, just like it isn't your business asking 'bout the life of other celebrities right?

OBVIOUS:
I wish such evil upon you too now say Amen.



Point of my post is this, people think they're good, doesn't mean they are. The notion of goodness and badness is relative. You're not god to see what evil so called "good"people are doing in secret or rather thinking in their hearts.

You are getting the concept wrong and i assume Vanesa didn't wish for u to have an autistic child, Ok let's use the example of Job in the Bible

OBVIOUS:
meaning: whats wrong in having ugly babies, autistic children, or a fat and ugly wife, nothing makes anyone more special than the other.


your friend looking for a wife, may he's a boring guy or thinks he's "holier than thou" most so called born again men have this trait. Let him keep searching, there's nothing wrong in finding what u're specifically looking for.

Don't get me wrong or get the words twisted, These are just examples and I never mentioned anything wrong or ugly babies,

tekia:
is it your goddam business

Were u forced to write??

landwin:
For those asking Is it your business?,they knew what they expecting to see before opening up this thread

@post

So,Ini Edo married someone else's husband,she should be ashamed of herself

Thank you my brother n yeah he was the ex husband of Ruth Okoro, I think they broke up. It's okay if they love eachother but I was wondering if it was right since the other woman (actress) was very hurt.

OBVIOUS:
hahahahahha, life happens.

I don't know the reason why people illusion themselves to think that they're special than everyone else,


HA! Nigerians and false feelings of superiority,

I don't understand. What has superiority got to do with this?

OLAADEGBU:
Here is the formula:

If there were no God, there will be no atheists, since there are atheists therefore God is, was and is to come, the Almighty. (Rev.1:8 ) QED

Well said!!

Sometimes I wonder why most times bad things happen to good people and vice versa, good things to bad people though not in all cases. I know this is where test of faith comes in like Job in the Bible for example.

I remember a colleague of mine where we worked together, he was desperately in search for a wife but hadn't even been in a relationship, mid 30's and very God fearing and still searching, while the other total opposite, screwed as many women as he could n so on, happily married with a kid.

Another instance- My friend's dad a very humble pastor with an autistic child while those i see getting kids up n down n so on with healthy and very beautiful babies.

arianne:
mindset thingy, , for me, seeing my ex looking good makes me feel even better, even if we didnt work out, he wasnt d worst mistake i eva made!

Sure?? even when another girl is enjoying all the goodies??

What do ya'll think about Ini Edo's marriage to Phillip, Ruth Okoro's (ex) husband? Do you think she did the right thing an made a good decision considering the fact Ruth is also an actress?

allboyz:
@OGAGA4LUV

I DECREE BY THE POWER OF THE HOLY GHOST THAT,THAT SATANIC SPIRIT DEPART FROM YOU NOW!!!! IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH!!

YOU NEED TO COME BACK TO YOU SENSES REAL FAST!!!

MAY THE HOLY SPIRIT BE YOUR GUIDE, YOU ARE SAVED!!! THANK YOU HOLY SPIRIT.

HALLELUJAH!!!

AMEN!!!

ziddy:
no they probably just catch HIV and die off quietly of AIDS. isnt that karmic enough?

Haba lol, this one is worse than karma

Ok let me try n explain it better

Man meets woman, toys with her emotions n all, woman is left heart broken, hurt n breaks up with him. Then man goes around his business still playing around n doesn't have anything to lose as long as he is good looking, can keep getting as many chics, so law of karma never catches up with him, so as a player he would never feel the effects of his game n vice versa with the woman.

Understand?

What question? What don't u understand so I could explain better

Well I don't pray for any but definitely a pregnant daughter at least she's fertile, Gay son, no way!!

Yeah as they say "First Cut Is The Deepest".

SeanT21:
Some Men are born to be players.

They have the player mentality.They never settle for 1 woman.Only God can change them!!

I agree n so are some women too but u know how people say they believe in the law of karma, do players actually get caught in their games, so long as they can get partner(s) as much as they want so in other words they would never lose.

Was watching this show on VH1, "Tools academy", bout 9 frustrated women trying to transform their boyfriends into better men, Don't know if some of u guys know it. Most of the guys very good-looking admit they are players n that's who they are, that the girls can go if they can't stand it.

Was thinking, do they (players, both men and women) ever get hurt or sorry, as long as they could get as many partners as they want n keep getting as they lose so in other words never lose?

A womanizer, I believe a person/guy that loves n chases women a lot even when he is unwanted while a ladies man- the ladies just love him, he doesn't have to chase them, we just love him