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Can't wait for my own experience which is coming soon!

I am a matured lady, no he isn't the first n wouldnt be the last. I'm done. Don't need more on this particular post.

There is  no day that I don't go out, I dont meet guys, men. Even an ex is aking me back at this period so men are not difficult for me @ all. Even my friends get pissed most times that I'm too beautiful for such n some are even like they wish they were me, so guys, relationships aren't my problem. @ least this man of mine or i meant soon to be ex man hasn't for a fact concluded n still tells me he loves me which i dont buy of cause. I just guess when u r being too good to some1, u tend to be taken for granted until u decide to leave, then the other party's eyes open. We don't know what we have until it's gone. So people I'm not crying here, trust me, but it's the situation I was trying to find insight but it's all good!

Also this is a forum, where people come to share their feelings n so on, so people with negative attitudes esp when it's not called for, i think we should respect that though there r exceptions, not everyone on here which i also agree make reasonable posts n that could be annoying. Thanks y'all!


@ Chika98
Yes the sex was good , though I dont emphasize on the sex cos if it was, man! would i be everywhere with the amount of guys or admirers i have now. N of cause my ex trying to work things.

Tope2000
Yes ooo n this would be the end.

@ Sauron
Yeah that's just what i want, to ask him but I'll just forget bout that n do me. I tried at least.


Trust me guys, i'm not crying, ok I'll stop. End Of Post!

I don tire, Busy_Body, ok now what same guy or not?

Newayz like i said, if u dont have anything reasonable 2 say, then vanish! as simple as that. N i'm good. Would handle the situation myself. It will be well
 @ Chika98

I can end this post. I'm not holding on to the guy. It's just not a good thing to feel when u part with someone for reasons u couldnt see n so on. But it's good. It will be well n I'm good. I'll handle it myself n thanks for the gud contributions.

@Springss

Thanks a lot dear, U just concluded it all. It's hard for me to believe that most of these people that post rubbish or just like yabbing n running their mouths are matured. People have feelings. Of cause I've got zillions of friends, family, admirers, guys at my feet at this very moment, God especially n so on but when it comes to matters of the heart, most times u want to keep to urself or see if u could get an insight. I'm Nigerian so sharing point of views with other Nigerians isn't bad but most of you are, can't even say the word

Simple, if u have no reasonable thing to say, then don't post. It isn't by force. There are still some reasonable people to give advice on here, even if it's just one person, a word is enough for the wise. I'm not the kind of person to be exchanging words esp wit pple I ain't seeing

Springss, once again, thanks for ur maturity, only those that are n have been there can really tell how it feels.

@meexteriox

Thanks for ur understanding, It seems u were the only one that understand from a matured perspective and Chika98. As for the others, I dont know what to say, U can only talk if U've been there but if not, I guess I'm the only one that knows wats up! n would handle it by God's grace.

@Whatever90

Thanks

@Whatever90

If this is what u came here to add, pls leave, im not ready for all these. Where did I mention I went back to the same guy??

I'm asking the best thing to do. Cos that would the first step to healing. Should I talk to him over the phone for the last time or what? n tell him my mind, that I know there is another woman but i would have respected u tell me. Different people have different ways of handling situations.

It's ok if he is, u know cos there are millions of people out there but no one wants to feel used. I am a straight forward person. Talk to me cos even if i try to move on, i would still be hurt on way or the other if this is the way it would end. I've asked him n by the way we have invested a lot. if u want to move on or a break, then he should tell me, that's why I want to talk to him. Am i wrong here?

What is the best thing one can do in this situation. I had an argument with my boyfriend due to his lack of understanding and distance. Making me feel too left out n we are still together especially when u call just to know how he's doing once in a while. I even asked him if the best thing was to have a break so my mind would be clear n he said no. Well after the argument, I didnt speak to him for like a week, then called him and his phone was switched off. 2days later I got him, and asked him, he sounded differently, like we weren't even fighting. So I asked him why his phone was off, if he was ok, n he said he just needed time to himself, we talked for a few mins. Then I called him that noght n his phone was off again, then tried it this morning with blocked id and it was on.

What do I do cos I dont even know if this is a relationship anymore, I'm tired of being the one trying to make it work. I have a feeling that he has another woman maybe even living with him n I cant just go to his house as a surprise before i find out something else n dont want to act too desperate. I want to call him this morning but want to say the right thing.

Do I invite him over for a talk even though i know he moght not show up, or ask him over the phone or what? It's getting to a new year. Im already hurt and would be hurt but I just want to know what's going on or where I stand. Pls what is the best I can do?

I agree that you should give him some space but that could have both ways, good or bad. Within that space period esp the 6months, isn't it possible for him to meet another person?

Sistawoman pls where I checked for it but couldn't find the original post through the link

I didn't just jump into another relationship. But considering this situation now, what would u do? Do i just call him to know if everything is ok, im surprised no one has seen him.

JJYOU, pls wat do u mean by time?

Now pls tell me what to do. For a week, I haven't heard from him which is unlike him cos I decided to give him space to sort his problems like y'all suggested even though the last time we spoke, he apologised for making me feel any way n left out from his poroblems that I shouldn't give up on him. The problem isn't even him calling me yet but online n facebook, which he is everyday, that last time we spoke, he hasn't been online till present as I write. I am so worried.
I disguised myself as another person on his facebook just to know when he's around for a long time n it helped me know when he's around n so on. He hasn't been, where he used to hang out, even his friends haven't seen him. I am so worried that something has happened to him or was he thrown out of his house or what? I don't want to call as y'all suggested to sort himself out n i dont want to just show up at his house u know. How do I know if something hasn't happened to him.

What do I do? Do i just call him?

Now pls tell me what to do. For a week, I haven't heard from him which is unlike him cos I decided to give him space to sort his problems like y'all suggested even though the last time we spoke, he apologised for making me feel any way n left out from his poroblems that I shouldn't give up on him. The problem isn't even him calling me yet but online n facebook, which he is everyday, that last time we spoke, he hasn't been online till present as I write. I am so worried.
I disguised myself as another person on his facebook just to know when he's around for a long time n it helped me know when he's around n so on. He hasn't been, where he used to hang out, even his friends haven't seen him. I am so worried that something has happened to him or was he thrown out of his house or what? I don't want to call as y'all suggested to sort himself out n i dont want to just show up at his house u know. How do I know if something hasn't happened to him.

What do I do? Do i just call him?

Girl I've been thru this, People would say this n that but the truth is only u that can handle it. I think the best is to ignore too n focus on other things, yes @ the end, he would return.

I dont know what else to say Men! so difficult yet we can't do without you

Sauron, It is true, but not all women are like that

Well u r right in someway but in my own case, I'm trying to be there n offer solutions not worsen it n I'm sure most women too do the same thing, trying to offer solutions.

No u didn't, Im sure u can buy urself more than that but u wanted to see what she would do. No U didnt make a mistake, u want to know who u r dealing with.

Lmao, yes ooo But we do it with style n class unlike the guys. Just be m,essing up the whole place anyhow

lmao
well even if most girls believe that it should be the guy doing these n spending money, C'mon she should have 100 box to buy card for some1 she loves.

@Sauron
How would the man know that the woman can offer solutions when he hasnt even opened up to her not to talk trying to let her in but if that's what u men want then I guess,it will be done.

U know I decided to move on, I didnt even bother seeing him again n before I know it. Text messages, WATS UP BLA BLA, to he hasnt heard from me, to if I still love him, to he still loves n will always love me forever. His text messages n missed calls r still saved on my fone , infact he showed up at my place a lot of times but twice i saw him, he got me lots of foods, bags n so on, i thut it was wonderful but I didnt want to show him in my heart, i still loved him.

@sisiJinx

Let me join u

@Chika98
My dear, he is still there. Begging n begging n begging.

@Okija_juju
Ok I'm here waiting 4 u

@JJYOU

Why now?? i wanted more opinions that's y.

@agaba123

Lmao

@Chika98
Thanks a lot dear , though I would save it now he's under stress or do I even send it to him?
If u have more, I wouldn't mind. U r just too much!! Thumbs up 2 u.

@Mohawkchic
I can relate very well to what u said. It makes a lot of sense.


@DavidDylan
It isn't about spending time together or so on. Ok let me ask u, for example, ur babe calls u once or twice in a week,to know how u r, if u've eaten n that's bout it. Not asking anything from U. Isn't that enough space or what type of space do u want or r u looking for??