You mean he's not with the squad Currently?

Ayojideonline:
Since you are sober about it, get over it. Apologize to your Mom as hard as it can be and move on! At all cost avoid people who trigger your anger. Ignore those coming to this thread with generational stories of your children doing such to you! Understand yourself better and make the best out of what you love to do. You didn't know your Mom today, so let your wisdom increase every time you are around her.
All the best. .....REMEMBER ....DO NOT MARRY SUCH KIND OF WOMAN ALSO! .....GOOD LUCK! ..... I FULLY UNDERSTAND YOUR PERSONALITY ...A PERSON WITH SIMILAR NATURE AND EXPERIENCE IS WRITING THIS!

thanks bruh! I appreciate

InTheCloudySky:
You and your brother are victims of verbal and emotional abuse and I'm sorry your mom has been treating you this horribly since you were children. Sometimes these types of abuse are worse than physical abuse because of the deep, invisible damage they leave victims with.

Nonetheless, knowing her ways, you shouldn't have allowed her to provoke you. Rather, you should've removed yourself from the scene when she was insulting you. The next time you see her, get on your knees and beg/apologize to her. She's still your mom no matter what and need to always respect her. That said, for your own wellbeing, you need not continue putting up with her abuses. You need to leave the environment and focus on your own life. Aim to move out asap and take your little brother with you, if possible.

Moved back to my base already.. my brother is just about writing his waec, will take custody of him once hes done with secondary School. Thanks anyway

oilmane:



It has happened though it ought not to, get your siblings and folks you know she respect, ie her pastor to join you beg her for forgiveness, hopefully she will pardon you. Never let such repeat itself again

Pastor?? Lol... She goes to church but I can tell u that she doesn't behave like a Christian and if any pastor pass their boundary, I'm sure the pastor won't ever wanna come in contact ever again As for the respect, trust me when I say she's always right and never wrong in her eyes.. so full of herself and thus respects no one. She only pretends to respect and thats eye service as far as I'm concerned.. however I'll do as you've said

dawnomike:
I like your nature... This was really a grievous error on your part. Go back and beg her wit everything you have

thank u.. you are nice

Toktee:
You and one ediot that called his mother who.re na the same motor carry una.....ur mother wants the best out of you while growing up...u love your father cos he is docile and allow you to do anything u like,let me tell you this is africa you have no right to place ur finger on ur mother with anger......
Concerning her not allowing you to do music ..have you ever ask her why? No cosyour hatred for her cloud your thought.

Cos u have rights to your opinion doesn't mean u should be say things anyhlw.. be objective in judgement and don't rush to conclusions. You don't know my family and I never said my dad was docile.. have a nice day

Ishilove:
This one pass me.

Op, learn to control your anger. You really have no excuse for hitting her. It is an abomination in any culture. You know her character so why do you allow yourself get anywhere close to her? Now that you have hit her your body has come down, abi?

Wisdom is profitable. Yes, she is toxic and she provoked you, but she birthed you and sweat and blood, so she has some sort of spiritual power in your life which even her character cannot subtract from.

Seek forgiveness from her and God, and for goodness sake avoid her so you the devil does not use her to enter your life.

thank you

oldienavie:
@op I can relate to your experience.
It is impossible for people who havent been in your shoes to understand.

The best thing you can do is to ignore her completely
Delete her from your mind, pretend like you dont have a mother, otherwise she will continue to disturb you.

Nothing you can do will change her, I know exactly what you are dealing with so take it from me, just act as if you dont have a mother and avoid every confrontation with her.
Dont even try to discuss anything with her or reason with her cos she will black mail you.

she threatened to bring police to my house and arrest me and she was dead serious, not scared of being punished for what I've done but she's only making hate her more. I won't run and i await them

anuofGod:

I'll weigh the consequences first
Plus I have cold feet's when it comes to approaching a man

How nice

frozen70:


What you did was out of anger and you already feel bad for doing so

I don't want to blame you because your mum pushed you to the wall

She is a character and now you know what your dad passed through from her

You have to let your dad know what happened and apologies to your mum in the presence of your dad

After that, stay few days, smile with her and leave that house if you can get accommodation else where, now is the right time

By the time she has no one to confront, she will start fighting herself

As for your dad he is already used to her naughtiness

At old age your mum will likely stay alone, because no daughter in law will want to stay with a crazy mother in law

you should know that ive got a place of mine own, I just went there last weekend cos of bad light in my area and there's fuel scarcity. However I do not take ur advise for granted. Thanks

LilMissFavvy:
You think I didn't take time to read your write-up before responding? You want me to quote your whole post and show you the demeaning things you said about your mom. You probably forgot what you typed. Like I said, if you can't cope with her, stay away totally from her, allow those who can tolerate her to live with her.

okay.. I still do not take your "advise" for granted

baby124:

Go home and give your mother a dirty slap to say good night and break your father’s teeth as good night. You are doing well.

sleep well bro

baby124:

You are deranged for slapping your own mother. Or don’t you realize yet that you have a big mental problem? You are instead asking me that question? You and your mother are deranged. Since you are both fighting like untrained animals in the street. Next time give your father a big blow and break his teeth. Your parents deserve it for raising a mad animal like you.

lmao shey this matter abi another one cos I still don't understand you o

LilMissFavvy:
The way you have spoken about your mom, you think there is a perfect human? If you can't cope around her, why not go and get your own place? Your dad is not complaining, and they have been married till his old age, yet you are insulting* your mom, saying she isn't good enough for your dad/family. You write lengthy details of how good a son you are, whereas if your mom should say her own part, we will hear something different. Go and marry your own wife, your dad married his own, stop complaining.

read this over again and i can tell u this isn't my story! Don't know where u got this from

Antina:


Because you didn't want to listen to the truth? Some mothers behave worst than yours, yet no kid is able to return insults let alone hit her.

That is the way you were brought up. That is the truth.

Your mother for that matter, Then who cant you hit?

didnt notice u modified your comment.. however, thanks

LilMissFavvy:
You think I didn't see that part of your writing? What do you mean by you "you know my type" make it clear let me understand.

u saw it and turned a blind eye to it abi?. You won't hear from me after this

Antina:


Because you didn't want to listen to the truth? Some mothers behave worst than yours, yet no kid is able to return insults let alone hit her.

That is the way you were brought up. That is the truth.

okay thanks

LilMissFavvy:
The way you have spoken about your mom, you think there is a perfect human? If you can't cope around her, why not go and get your own place? Your dad is not complaining, and they have been married till his old age, yet you are insulting* your mom, saying she isn't good enough for your dad/family. You write lengthy details of how good a son you are, whereas if your mom should say her own part, we will hear something different. Go and marry your own wife, your dad married his own, stop complaining.

you didn't read where I said I only stay alone.. i only came here cos we've not had light in days and we stay close. I know your type here actually but i won't say much to u

baby124:
Awon ti redpill. If you had respect for women, you will hit your father first and hit your mother too. Your mother is reaping the fruit of her labor where she did not raise you to respect her and other women. 3 gbosa for you! Now your eye don clear abi?

sigh! Are u deranged?

Fahdiga:
I will start tagging all your girlfriends and alerts them to the disaster that awaits them if they mistakenly agree tomorrow

are you making sense right now?

Iyaebe:
Op don’t take advise from some people here ooo,they are living a street life and no nothing about the deep things of life.I wish you well

Thanks

slimjohn2k5:
U story go chase wife from u ohhhh

maybe on nairaland.. no chance in reality

Juliet751:
Just leave the house for now,learn to control your anger pls.

gone to my place since it happened

Sirsuky:
Am really feeling your pain but my advice for you is that Go to God for forgiveness and try to beg her for forgiveness and if possible try to avoid her. That is why Colo 3:21 advice parents.

thank you sukanmi

Fahdiga:
Your own will be 39ft and above in future

okay, u can rest in peace now

Juliet751:
You are brainless.

he is.. trust me

Iyaebe:
Hmmmm,you need to seriously beg for her forgiveness else your future kids will hit you too and it becomes a thing in the family, you should have simply left the scene rather than exchanging words with her but she pushed you to it which is bad on her side but she’s your mom and has some edge over you.Learn to keep some distance from people who can easily trigger you be it parents and whatever.

thanks.. I'll make amends. I've basically not done anything with my life since it happened. I even stayed away from my phone

Fahdiga:
You try. kudos. May your children lift you 8ft above the ground and leave you to fall yakata in future in Jesus name amen

okay

Freestainworld:
I sympathize with you for having such a mother, what was your dad's reaction about the incident.

he was away when it happened... And he's yet to make a comment nor call me since yesterday

Skyfornia:
Our markets are not organized...any small fire will turn to disaster. I blame the citizens mostly, I'm sure if there are fire extinguishers stationed at every corner of the market, some people will steal them.

lmao� I wasn't expecting the last line

Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.

My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!

However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her

Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...

I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...

Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..

I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect

Pls ignore my typo errors abeg

valdes00:
They wont come to your house address... But they will so embarrass you, you'd wish they come sef
They willl send different demeaning messages to your contacts, just try and pay them back

he said they've done that already