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so many clueless women will be so desperate to punish a man that they wouldnt even understand that the worst person affected here is the poor kid in the middle. they selfishly use children as the bait for unwilling men (for whatever reason) to stay with them, or have any contact with their kids under their BS rules. keep fooling yourself!

they are DANCING, and NO they are not possessed by any demons, believe it or not... and as they say, to each their own!
(fast forward to 3min mark to see that lady put it on her own damn self)


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dkOzBXMizVU

no wonder Africa is going backwards

NevetsIbot:
lol bro... On the other hand... I turn ladies down. I havent found the right girl ni jare.

bro, then you need to look within yourself and figure out what makes you push them all away... and if the gem wasnt there, then change environment, tactics or whatever it is about you that keep attracting these no good women.

Mypeople2:
Guy I love that your reply.But is it viable? Abi na Nigerian film u look talk am?

its all about what you desire for yourself.... and never settle for less because of some woman. i know what i need in my life in order to be happy with a woman. no backing down or compromise. btw Nolly movies dont have a clue when recreating a great r/ship.... they always corny!

viki84:
guy you be relationship counsellor?

if you have enough dating "trial and errors" under your belt, in due time you will have an understanding as to what makes a great balance between yourself and women... its like a dish that always get sweeter as you try to perfect it, again and again. sadly, even after 100yrs, i doubt any man will fully understand women. only a woman can understand them fully

ronald4lif:
Nicely said and all true. So simply put, no girlfriend no problem.

kai bro, that one is worst than death.... BLASPHEMY!!!

NevetsIbot:
1. Your freedom. Your dress sense, the way you eat, talk or do things naturally... She wants to tweak it all. although its a different kind of "freedom", why would she even wanna change you? is that not the "you" that made her fall for the great man that you are? you can give it a go but anything that you aint comfortable with is a straight "HELL to da NO"

2. safety of your foodstuffs at home but equally the beauty/satisfaction of having someone cook for you when you cant be bothered to do it yourself

3. Your social life. Ehn.. When you cant rapport well with other with her monitoring your every move... She'll be like ''i'm seeing you, continue'' she'll get tired of it after monitoring for months without having anything valid to complain about

4. Your Hangout with the guys. ''bodunde seems like a bad guy. '' or ''ion like your friends'' simple reply:"babe, i had a social life before i met you, and as much as you are welcome to join me any other times, when its boys (girls) night out, its should be just that... and you dont have to like any of them, you simply have to TRUST me"

5.Your savings. Not when brazillian hair just got delivered into her street and that rival is wearing one already. i would easily find some more important aim for that saving (than Brazilian hair)

6. Your time. It's her everytime... She dsnt leave your head. You cant utilise your time to do something worthwhile haba, we'll simply do something worthwhile together

7. Your playboy attitude. To our playboys who are into a relationship... Enjoy your tunnel of boredom. Ion support playboyism sha sadly, playboys simply evolve to a more demanding type of game... but a r/ship's never been an obstacle to them

8. Freedom of movement. ''where are you?? Doing what?? Why??... No why are you there??'' tell her exactly what you are doing, where you at etc, no sweat.... and if you are a playboy then check previous answer

9. Your freedom to be friends with diff ladies without someone nagging over it. if these ladies are indeed friends then bring your gf along with you once or twice, and i can assure you that the problem will be quickly solved.

10. Many girls out there. yeah.. Too commited to one girl, you miss other brilliant good girls out there cos your gf said she dsnt like seeing yu with girls. if thats what you desire (sampling other girls) then you have no business being in a r/ship... unless you are a playboy who isnt really commited to anyone

11. Your peace of mind. A nagging gf is a pain in the scrotum say what?! come on, all the great moments shared together are worth 10x that, and when you need a quiet time then just let her know... et voila!

12. A week without drama. When your gf is a drama queen rule #214: drama queen should be avoided like Superman and kryptonite!

13. A week without shopping. 'honey, the latest wares are now in shoprite just 5mins away''let her spend all the time she desire there while you sit at a nearby cafe/bar having a chilled drink, relaxing

14.your liberty. She watches you everytime how can someone "watching" you be an obstacle in your liberty?! nah, just give her more to admire about you

15. Your games or football matches when she wants to watch telenovelas. we share!! she can watch her telenovela on TV while i watch my sport live, streaming online... next time, its vice versa. but, if/when its a big game, race or major sporting event that you are into, simply invite a few friends over as there is no debate whatsoever

16. Your sanity. She's gonna get you insane with her endless rants. she'll also bring some balance, joy, companionship, needed peace of mind etc into your life... but more importantly, she will be there when you need that someone to open up, grow as a unit/team so that you can possibly evolve into the best ever/greatest version of yourself. without that other half, we are just... "men"

Pg. This list is not to bash the females o.... We're just catching fun aren't we? why didnt you say so before? i wouldnt have typed all this.... lol nah, its all good

Counterthread dan land. I'm enjoying my single nature tho kai, so you too you are team "single and fully enjoying that status"? in due time, you will ultimately find her bro, that gem is out there somewhere, lol!

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diamantnoir:
Does virtual love comes true? If so, please share ur experience or story

yes, "some" people can develop a very strong feeling towards a person they have only ever met online... and whether it can be sustained when they finally meet is down to if they continue being the person that he/she portrayed online, and possessing all what the other expected.

Gbyte:
[b]My dear, SA people are not blaming Nigerians for their drug problems, Nigerians are really the ones doing drug in that country, [/b]I won't mention the tribe so as not to look like a tribalist. And then Nigerians make their citizens push drugs for them.
You won't know all these things unless you go there and see for yourself. The only fear I have in that country is HIV, but trust me, their ladies are very beautiful. Finally, you don't have to buy okrika to wear original stuff. Just go into a mall and pick whatever you want at a reasonable price depending on your pocket.

sadly, Nigerians are only the main drug syndicate because they corner a market (drugs sells themselves)..... any major city in the world have a Nigerian drug syndicate (believe me!) whether it be a major player like in Asia (Thailand/China/Indonesia etc), or just one of the many major syndicate like in Australia/France/Holland/Germany/Scandinavia etc but these countries (or you) should be smart enough to know that blaming Nigerians as the root of their drug problems is pointless.

again, these attacks where not the 1st and targeted ALL blacks that were non South Africans.

@femmysin
your post makes a lot of sense but we have to be realistic about LIFE, and understand a few points:
- many are really honest and truthful when making such promises, and simply dont have a clue about how hard married life can become. so they really believe within their hearts that they can keep these promises, but when married life hits them full on, they have no choice but to fail.
- many people are really honest and truthful when making these promises, but then they grow up, become more mature and, as they go through that transition, they CHANGE and may have a difference perspective on life...

i dont think its wrong to come clean to your partner, as soon as you realise you cant fulfill your promises and tell them:"i thought i could but the reality is i cant" or " i am not any longer the man that made these promises".

as for the one about cheating, as much as many men fail miserably here (or cant really be honest about who they truly are), there are many men with principles who stand by that rule, whether rain or shine. there is nothing wrong with being attracted to a young sexy thang, so long as you "act right".

IMHO, its a MISS

so all the African cities where war are raging (as we speak) or mad countries like Somalia, are safer than any of the mentioned cities?!
today, strolling as a foreigner in any places like South Sudan, DRC, Ethiopia/Somalia, Mali and even Algeria could get you killed faster than in any war zone

their restaurants, their rules... and as much as i understand the smoke part, many have strong scented perfumes and there could be a fine line there. the guy who receive all customers will have a tough job n his hands!

if thats what rocks his boat then more power to him... to each their own!

adewumiopeyemi:
How many guyz can do this

i wish i could but i am too afraid to make a mistake and mess up the punana.... just like i wouldnt let her near mine with a razor!

as much as the "one dance" song features Wizkid, i have tried very hard to hear where his part was, but it seem it is only in the background of that chorus. nevertheless, this is such a HUGE step and its just a matter of time before he gets some proper worldwide hit. he is the biggest artist coming out of Africa right now.... and getting to tour with Chris Brown is a proof that the man is going places!

what man (in his right mind) would hide such tiny dikc to his future wifey, until after marriage? thats evil, and he must tell her about his unusual tiny organ.... as there is no way he can even have sex with her. what kind of sexless marriage would that be?!

i weep for the god fearing woman who will end up with such man, and are against divorce, thus having to "manage".....ouch!

thats why people need to embrace the life they have TODAY, and enjoy it to the fullest of their abilities, instead of being miserable because they havent attain their hopes and dreams. as we dont know when it will be our last day, its our duty to make sure every single day COUNT/MATTERS....

... and of course, they cant be seen doing the same things they did back when both were bachelors, because one of them is MARRIED now. buddy hangouts are greatly reduced in order for the married one to spend important/valuable "family" time.

as much as i respect my parents and the way they will always look out for my best interest, they can never do such a thing because THEY will be responsible if ever she happens to be a disaster, and they wouldnt have that..... from the day i turned 18, my life, my decisions and my headaches!

ournaijablog:
Black Africa is indeed in shambles, and the whiteam Africans don't consider themselves one of us

whether black, yellow or green.... at this rate we are ALL doomed!

i never gotten the chance but if i did it would be TOO awkward to achieve peace of mind in such r/ship. i grew up with these guys, meaning i definitely must have seen their sistas grow up in front of my eyes, and she would be more like family than someone i could ever see as "dateable". i would instead look out for her and warn prospective BFs of the pain they will endure if they fukc up, lol!

God left this WORLD a long time ago... Africa is just the worst affected but the whole world is dying. the west has robbed Africa and other places of its resources, and in due time, they will get everyone from these affected places migrate to the west, and they will equally run out of resources.... thats why they are using every poison/diseases/plagues trying to wipe as many of us as they can, until the whole continent relocate to their front yard.

thats no surprise here!

sad insecure men like the OP are the type of men that always be miserable, with whatever women they get in their lives

orimsamsam:
U suppose don agree on top salary before u start to dey work.

Are u telling me u didn't agree on any amount before u started teaching

zikter:
how on earth can someone under any circumstances not negotiate for salary before taking up a job? bro u hv seriously undervalue urself by that singular act, therefore the employer may choose to give you anything or nothing. leave the job if u are not OK and don't commit this kind of blonder ever in ur life.

exactly my thought.... how desperate must one be to do such an irresponsible act?!

staples:
Thank u very much for this piece of advice. Can I have this discussion via chat or telephone conversation cos our seeing/meeting face to face again is till weekend..what do u think? Secondly, I hope having such discussion doesn't make me look desperate..

it will be best to explain all of this face to face, so you can see his reaction. as for this discussion making you look desperate, it wont, it will make you look determined about how you desire to be treated in this r/ship... and if he decides that he doesnt want to be with you, then so be it. but dont settle for less and be treated in a way that you wont desire, just to be in a r/ship that you ultimately wont appreciate.

this r/ship is very new and, as much as you must deal with your insecurity/jealousy issues, he MUST understand right away how you desire to be treated, in order to have any chance of success here. let him know that it is NOT ok to refer to you as "someone" etc.

Lilteece:
easy, my goons will always remain my goons, i just ask for ur opinion and not for calling me names, i just met her, my goons have been there for me since childhood

your boys are irrelevant here, and if you cant understand that there is a time to stand up and be a man (in your own rights), instead of asking for life advices to your boys, then you will remain just that.... a boy.
you cant change your stand as you please, so 1st figure out what you really want (and who is in charge of your life), and then when you do, you can start acting properly in order to get it.... but certainly dont act immaturely towards a person and then expect to be taken seriously.

and yes, this talk of "my goons this and that" is CHILDISH, and you know it, because if their words was so valuable to your life then you would ask THEM for advice right now, and not NLers.

staples:
exactly my thoughts.. hmmm,he even asked me what i expected him to say "I wanted to tell him he should have told her he's going to drop his gf " I thought it would sound too possessive of me that's why I didn't say anything..
Moreover it's a new relationship ,just about a month old...I just feel bad,because of this little discussion we had this evening, he's already thinking I"m a little bit troublesome.. hmmmm

you have to let him know how you expect to be treated, how you wanna be viewed/described etc since you have some insecurity/jealousy issues. tell him that this is what you need in order to feel comfortable in this union, and dont forget to ask him what he THINKS you are to him.

dont settle for BS because he thinks you are troublesome, tell him you are a woman that demand RESPECT, that demands that her man be fully open and transparent about what you guys have, and if he has a problem with that then he should wait until he is ready to be in a r/ship (with someone like you).

this is what YOU need, dont be afraid to demand for it, and if he cant deliver then move on instead of staying in a r/ship where you dont feel comfortable in.

what best way there is to make a gal understand that they are just friends, than by saying:" i am gonna drop my GIRLFRIEND off in Ikeja?
this is not about explaining himself to her, this is about putting value into what/who you are.
if he cant even acknowledge what you guys have/are, then there is a red flag here. is he ashamed of you or your r/ship?

go date your goons, na!!! r ask them for dating advices, since their judgment matter. whats the point in asking such question here on NL since you will do what your boys decide....?

you want to act tough in front of your boys, but you are immature and childish.

Greenback:
its got to do with their body language,gaddemit! We all knew from da onset that if he doesnt win da ucl,its curtains for DS. Besides,are they rallying on him like relegated newcastle is rallying on world class benitez?

he is the best coach that club ever had, thats why the last time a coach lasted as long as DS has was 70yrs ago. that club has struggled for so long to get a coach like DS, you really think they will let him go?