tell her exactly what you wrote below, and if she is a friend indeed, she will understand. dont get sucked into dating her to "please her"

dauntless15:
i see her as a friend and sister and am not attracted to her one bit, not that she's unattractive but the feelings is not just there, i love her as a sister

Garbage (with capital G)

you have to stay calm, call this babe, sit her down and calmly explain to her that you are done with her PERIOD, and warn her that the next time she makes the mistake of going near any of your friends/family members etc.... she will taste her own medicine
****

mmclatino:
OK but if 50 was neither bankruptcy nor broke that's mean 80% of his wealth is not legit.

again, there are many LEGAL financial structures to make sure that a man's wealth is PROTECTED, and there is nothing illegal about that.
anyone in the US can have asset protection strategies in place to protect their wealth. its so easy to create a LLC or blind trust and throw all your cash/assets in it via some clever financial montage. et voila, money is protected, and you can say you are bankrupt with the little you have left in the open.

educate yourself on the issue, as no clever man like 50cent can lose a $150M fortune

sadly, many restaurants aint any better, as many dont follow proper health and safety checks and procedures... as for the many late night kebab shops (all around the world) that many love to attend after partying, only a divine intervention can save you.

NONSENSE!!! he didnt photoshop himself in these pics, he took the pics at MADAME TUSSAUD museum (these are lifelike dolls)

mmclatino:
clever!!!!!!! 5O is nonthing but a JOKER.

possibly a joker yes, but laughing all the way to the bank, right in the face of the institution.

ask yourself this simple question: who do you think get all the royalties for his music OR where is his $150M fortune after he sold his stake of the Vitaminwater to Coke OR who gets the cheques to his highly successful serie POWER?! that man is/was never broke, he is just smarter with his money.

the important question should be: WHY KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT?!

- is she scared her other BFs will get to know?
- is she scared people will get to know the type of woman she is?
- is she ashamed of what she did (then why did she do it then)?
- is there anything wrong with standing for what you did (and not being ashamed of it)?

mmclatino:
50 cent fake money. xo xo embarrassing.

dont believe the hype... 50cent MUST say the money is fake, if not he has to pay a settlement of a few millions. so hiding his money in financial montage, and saying he is bankrupt, is his way of not paying Rick Ross ex. very clever if i must say!

in poor and miserable countries, anyone rich is a supernatural being.... because, in these miserable people's mind, they foolishly believe that the rich have what could change their lives for the better in an instant!

its the poor man syndrome, believing that money is the answer to all their problems

Gbyte:
Why do you say blaming Nigerians as the root of their drug pointless ? In a country where anything that has to do with drugs is traced to Nigerians. And for Xenophobic attacks, why are we complaining about people that are killing foreigners when in our own country we don't stop killing ourselves everyday.

stop being an hypocrite... when these xenophobic attacks happen in Nigeria (aka muslim killing Xtian in the north) we denounce them.. why think that because it happens in Nigeria, its "ok" OR we should accept it in SA? thats very myopic. wrong is WRONG whether in Nigeria, SA or bloody Orlando. all these acts are from deluded people!

Boko Haram has been killing Nigerians for years, are boko haram not Nigerians? Are the people they killing not Nigerians? Now we have been dealing with herdsmen, some people say they are boko haram in disguise, the truth is, they also go about killing people. My brother, in SA they have a working system, and a system that loves its citizens and prioritize its citizens in everything. But here in Nigeria, no such thing.

i do feel some sadness when reading the above... so because we havent EXTERMINATE these Boko terrorists yet, should be a reason to say that what is done by them is RIGHT?! wake up bro, as you certainly live in la la land placing these SA racist/terrorist above anybody. these motherfukcers who killed foreigners are no better than these deluded boko boys.

Have you had reasons to report anything to the police and they ask you to bring money? Well, I have. And you think it's not fine for people to live in a country where the risk of dying is very minimal?

police in Nigeria is shiiiit, but that isnt an excuse to say that being LYNCHED by these racist/xenophobic SAfricans was anywhere near "ok". remember, the police is NOT the problem here, never was!

South African government was able to curb xenophobic attacks in less than a month. It took us years to conquer militants, and there are new sets of militants coming out again now. We've not been able to conquer Boko Haram, we can't even get the Chibok girls from the Boko Haram.

you never cease to amaze me bro... your ignorance is very powerful! the WHOLE world is trying to eradicate Al Qaeda and its sister groups like BH, yet after more than 10yrs nobody has succeeded. its because deluded people like you (who think moving to SA and being lynched there is better) that fight against such terrorist will never be won. and btw, the same racist/xenophobic attacks in SA happens til today, just because you fool yourself that all is good, makes no difference to the issue. they have been happening for years, and they are not about to stop now.

Juzzybabe:


Come to think of it, do u think he even care about the kid? NO. So y would i want to use my kid against him?

sadly, BOTH threats you made are about him not having contact with his child... so you can write all you want here on NL, but deep down you know he does care, if not you would never mention your child in YOUR issues towards him.

If i were to be your sister, am sure you will hug such a BIL and tell him he's the best guy and hustling so he should stay in wherever he is until he get rich and marry another woman.

if you were my sista, i would have asked you to leave this man the 1st time he laid his hands on you. if you therefore decided to stick with this monster, then so be it and that would be your cross to carry from that day forth.

He is not rich but he is ok and meeting ends for himself. If you have no idea about what marriage entails, i will tell you today that communication and understanding matters most.

yet you couldnt find it in you to find a common ground for peace?!

I know his income in Dubai and its equivalent in Naira or dollars. I only married a self centered man that thinks about himself alone.

if you fully well know that then why are you upset that he is the way he is?

Its not revenge or blackmailing. those on this forum who have interacted with me on phone knows me to some extent. Am bitter he knew he wasn't ready for marriage and he got me into it and now he feels he cant go on, but life has to go on. Am doing my best taking care of the kid alone, do u expect me to dash her to man man who has shown no care but have all the time to post on facebook the latest tattoos drawn on his body?

your bitterness is what will fail you... whatever he does on FB is irrelevant here, as it could well be a FREE tattoo, isnt it? but then again, your negativity on this issue will have you fail time and time again.

If i were your sis,will that be your advice?

if you were my sis and THAT deep in such r/ship, then you would be OYO

what moral value can a man of such impact in his kid? teach her her how to pierce her body?

even if that father is the dumbest on earth and cant teach your daughter anything, you have absolutely NO RIGHTS to stop him from having contact with his daughter (if he ever desires it). let your daughter make that decision when she is an adult (and hopefully hasnt been brainwashed by you)

I know he will come someday looking for his daughter,and i hate it when people thinks he has every right to his child weather he performed his duty or not,isn't that so sick to say?

i suggest you sit down and re-read the nonsense you just wrote... as if father are not fathers any longer because they didnt perform their duties bwaaaaah!

I left his parents because i didn't want to die there. Even tho i gets home late someday to have a chat with my daughter but the kiss on her head even when she's asleep,our Saturday trips,the fun we share is just too much to have missed in the cold hands of death. Leaving that house,even my enemies told me was the best thing i ever did. you need to see my before and after pics. you need to see me while pregnant, how depressed and sickly i was due to emotional stress. I have had enough sweetheart, am only sharing but trust me, am never going back.

good for you, and thats ok, but remember, that is HIS daughter too.

achicares:

You obviously didn't understand her post, just the same way, your post is not making sense to me.
maybe, your looking issue from "the man's world", that's being self-centered. You get to be realistic.

sadly, you are mistaking, i am solely giving my opinion about whats best for the CHILD. if you think that its ok for a mother to possibly stop her child to have contact with her father, because f some selfish issue, then i am sorry to say that YOU are the one not thinking straight

Did she need to go go to Dubai, while she has a job on which can comfortably take care of herself and the child?

going to Dubai is the plan they've had since 2014, thats the plan her hubby had for their family, thats the plan this lady had until she realised she had to go and hustle 1st before bringing their child there. if she was indeed well off (as she claims) then there wouldnt be all these money issues in her story.

What if she had lost her life when the man was giving all those beatings?

the important part is that she didnt lose her life, and she EQUALLY didnt act right after the beating. so dont bring to the picture "today" what SHE clearly was ok with (when it happened).

What if there had been a miscarriage?

then they would have got back on their feet and gone to Dubai to hustle as planned

And please, I want to your own definition of blackmail.

very simple: a woman using her child to demand for whatever BS, possibly stopping daddy from having any contact with his kid (if he ever desires) because he didnt sign her "support petition"... that is blackmail imho

Apparently, you're commenting on a wrong thread. It seems to me, you read something another thread, come here to comment. That's why your comments are line with this thread.

i suggest you go read her initial post on the issue, back in 2014... the link is in her 1st post, enjoy!

OnaRegina:


It isnt just about what I desire though. Relationships are a two-way thing, aren't they? If a man will be stingy, he shouldn't come to my house expecting me to give him any food, abeg.

here is a again a very failed way to look at life... this is who YOU are, and he shouldnt try to change you. as long as you know that he aint into such meaningful gifts handing, thats all that matters. BE YOU, and accept him for HIM. opposites do attract sometimes.

many women have tried changing their men, and have unfortunately failed. dont waste your time trying the same mistake.

Mindfulness:
You are rather accusing her of doing so. what she has stated is that she wants sole custody and it is a very wise decision to try to get it. We can argue about morals but we don't need to argue about pragmatism.

no, thats actually what she wrote.... in her initial post:
A) if he doesnt sign her "support petition" then he can forget he ever had a child
B) if she does all the work then daddy loses his rights

having sole custody doesnt give her any RIGHTS to remove that man's status as the biological father of that child, thus having access to the kid (whether now, next yr or in 10/15yrs). being a childs father doesnt fade with time, as much as you women would love it to

It's not for you to decide. And if I were her, I would get sole custody, let him see his child

thats what i have been saying all along. i dont give a damn who has custody so long as both parents can have access to the child whenever they may desire for it. her stating that he wouldnt because he didnt sign her "support petition" is my beef here. aka mummy using the child to punish daddy

if monsieur EVER remembers his child again - and take great pleasure in reminding him that he is at my mercy. You hurt my child, I will hurt you ten times back. You cannot kill maternal instincts.

here is exactly the BS i am taking against. so because daddy had some issues and couldnt provide, he now is "at your mercy" that you would use the child against him?! whatever is the issue, having financial problem happens to many fathers, and that shouldnt be ANY reason to stop a father from seeing his child... NEVER! if you guys can sort out your issues then so be it, but if you cant then that should equally not be in the way of that child's emotional wellbeingl

For now he seems to be the only one enjoying his life.

thats such a poor statement....he had plans with his wifey in Dubai but she decided instead to run away to GH. should he now jump from the top of the Burj because mummy decided she didnt want to follow in his plans OR because he doesnt have any money?! life goes on, and he should continue in his hustle to better his life. if that man had no money to rent an apt for wifey (that he had her staying with his parents), then why do any of you suddenly think that he is in any better financial situation?

That her daddy is a bastard who doesn't give a f.uck 'bout her? I thought you had the child'S best interest at heart.

if thats what you wanna tell that child then so be it, i would prefer just stating the FACTS... aka daddy is working/hustling in a far away land and mummy didnt want to go there. thats also why he cant come to GH at this point in time, and mummy doesnt know when he will be back. thats the truth and it needs to be told. what else would you rather tell your child?! BS lies making daddy look like a demon, and fairytales that will make mummy look like the saviour?!

In my family, it was my father'S job and now it's my husband's job whether we stay together or not.

ahahahahahah thats a funny one. i guess you also want that daddy to go and stand in the way when they bully your daughter, right? come on, these are KIDS, and as adults you will always have authority over these bullies (whether mummy or daddy). the catch is to act as soon as you discover the bullying. running home to call daddy will be your downfall in the eyes of that same bully who will now have power over your childs mama too.

He can care for the child financially, physically, emotionally and spiritually. He chose not to care AT ALL.

come on these are big assumptions. give this man the benefit of the doubt... what we DO know is that he wanted wifey to come and hustle with him in Dubai, thus if he was swimming in luxury she would have known and therefore ask for their child to be flown over. also we do know that mama doesnt want him to have access to the child.... so what you wrote are just baseless wild assumptions

Are we still on the same thread?
The child does nto have access to both parents because daddy doesn't give a f.ck.

and you actually think that this is a VALID reason to deny this child access to her father FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE?!
here is a simple question for you: how is this gonna help/helping THE CHILD?!

naughtynaughty:
nah u can't knw anyone exact number except she tell u. I mean Wat do u even care about it

i actually dont care about the number so long as the ride is "right".

MsGlobalwonder:
ok.. your inference is based on what u categorise as "main" issue or not? *sigh. She summarised and asked for legal help. She didn't state all that because that's not the bone of contention. See u gloating on your assumption? Smh!! Should a responsible man be told before he supports his child and family especially when he can? Should a responsible man attempt to kill his wife? Should a responsible man denounce and deny his wife publicly and to her parents? The woman should keep the mirage "war room" abi? I don't have strength again dakun.

the above is the same old BS that women use to play the "victim" card when it fits their SELFISH agenda. NONSENSE!!!!!
A) whether this man is responsible or not is IRRELEVANT to him being the childs father.
B) if a man attempt to kill his wife then she should have run THEN, and not now (months/years after) that her fairytale plans didnt come about. if the beating was NOT a problem for her (when it happened) then she has no reason to bring it to the table NOW

Juzzybabe:
I didn't wanna answer you cuz obviously you didn't read through my responses. I want family.

we know you do but just because a man has other plans shouldnt be a reason to punish your child for it.

I married him knowing he had nothing. Living in dubai doesn't mean he's rich but i had never had any love nor support from him although he was and is still capable of meeting ends he only dont want to do so. When i dated him,he lived on my pockets. I am a strong woman,i don't depend on people for survival.

if that is the case then why the big issue today about him paying anything?! if your child has EVERYTHING he/she requires in this life then why stop that father from his child (if not because of revenge using children)?!

How i wish i could post of pix of my kid and myself. am beautiful,brilliant and talented and educated. Yes i have short short comings cuz am human.

you are also in a desperate state, and people in your state of mind dont think rationally. think of your CHILD before making hasty decisions (trying to punish your ex hubby)

But i hate when u keep repeating "USING THE CHILD TO PUNISH HIM" Neither am i waiting for him to cater for my daughter. My daughter should be in the US to have a good life before this year runs out. My dear,am not waiting for him to support. as i type now,am still in the office. I work hard for my own money.

if that is the case then there is no need for this thread, nor the threats of blocking access to his child unless he signs whatever nonsense you desire from him, is it? just be merry, move on with your life and let bygones be bygones.

Y i will never take back my husband,i just discovered that my husband apart from all that has been conspiring between us had the guts to forward to my brothers closed pix i shared with him while he was away. He told my brothers am loosed to have snapped and send him such pix. but he requested for them. and i as a wife felt its good to share at least he is my husband. So dear, apart from all other thing this alone which i have not stated all along is reason far enough for me to stay clear of that dude. And trust me,my brothers are waiting for him. Some would say y didn't u leave ever since, but its marriage moreover i married the man i had truly loved. I hope some of us will learn from my mistakes tho.

fair enough, stay away from him but this certainly doesnt give you any rights whatsoever to stop him from having contact with his child.... the only reason you would do so is to get back at him ... aka revenge. balls in your court to "act right" for your kids instead of both of you acting like teenagers.

Mindfulness:
Are we discussing access to the child or legal settlements aka custody rights?

i am talking about parents using kids to punish the other parent

There is NO WAY I will share custody with someone who is not in the child's life for a considerable period of time.

nobody says she should but at the same time, such parent shouldnt be deeted from that childs life.

Do you know what it means to have shared custody without the father being around? What if his signature / presence is needed to get the child some documents or anything else of that sort?

there is a reason it is a shared custody, meaning that the "other" parent has as much RIGHTS regarding this child, as the other parent. your way of thinking is not only selfish but also WRONG. just because YOU guys cant make it work as a family, doesnt mean one parent MUST be suffer while the other enjoys life

So what is a mother supposed to tell her child when on picking her precious little one, the prescious little one starts asking questions why daddy does not pick her up from school like other daddies do?

what about telling that child the TRUTH?!

Or why he doesn't play with her like other daddies do?

what about telling that child the TRUTH?!

Or doesn't come to help when those bad boys in school act nasty toward her?

thats a funny what one, as if mummy suddenly appear to beat the bullies away?

I wasn't even talking about money. That would be the least of my probelms. What about the emotional well-being of the child whose father doesn't give a f... ? Who was talking about money?

money is the whole reason why this lady (OP) wanna remove daddys right, because he cant provide financially. if not, as i said earlier, there is NO reason why a parent should lose their PARENTAL RIGHT to have access to their child, NONE! (unless there is a clear danger).
even the most irresponsible parent has the right to see their kids.

a child NEED/MUST have access to both their parents, whether irresponsible or absent is irrelevant here

jmichlins:
man that is our everyday scene in nigeria. Lagos for example is a place where people jump in and out of moving vehicles. Have you imagined what will happen should one loose balance in such vehicles

i fully understand that, now doing this with children is the irresponsible part. dont blame Lagos for the stoopidity of people, many dont jump from moving vehicles.

jmichlins:
all am trying to say is that just like the guy did not envisage such tragedy while fighting for the money same say did the woman never knew such thing will happen

bro, when MONEY is more important than LIFE/SAFETY, then no wonder so many innocent kids/adults are dying everywhere. it is irresponsible f anyone to knowingly put their children's life at risk, for ANY amount.

jmichlins:
let me give you a scenerior of the reality. Just yesterday at my workshop, my boss told someone to stay back and not join to the site but the guy refused and joined the motor. When they were offloading the contents, he had a deep cut that is capable of cutting off his thumb. In my place its said that no one asks for hot water to be boiled before climbing the palm tree

i wish i could reply but dont understand the relevance of what you wrote above with the subject

Mindfulness:

It's not JUST revenge as you have shown above. He abandoned his child and the moment he did, he - this is the line of reasoning - opted out of the privileges and responisbilities of a Father.

ABSOLUTELY NOT sista Mindfulness!!!!
yes, that man has no right to make any important decisions in that child's life BUT he certainly hasnt lost any PARENTAL RIGHT as to being the child's FATHER! whether this man acts right OR not, he will always remain the child's biological father, whether women like it or not... and thus should have access to his/her child whenever possible.

Now you can argue whether it is in the child's best interest but it is NOT just revenge. It's a logical consequence of the decisions he has made.

my main issue is the child here, and thats what these 2 irresponsible person should think about here... as ONE thing is certain, preventing a child to have access to their biological parents can only be counter productive to the child, unless there is a clear danger (which there isnt any here)

I, for my part, would allow my child to see his father when he decides to change his mind about father AND manhood and I wouldn't talk badly about him to my child - not out of some moral superiority or extraordinary character strength but for the simple reason that I would not want to hurt my child emotionally - but hell would freeze before I would allow him to have the same legal rights as I do when I had to do the work that was supposed to be divided - by law and nature - all by myself.

again, are you saying that if you'd separated from your hubby and he couldnt provide financially for the child's upkeep, you would refuse to let him see his child?! for what reason, if i may ask?! is having a setback (or being broke) against the family laws these days?

No responisbilities, no rights. Simples!

BLASPHEMY!!!! responsibilities arent just about MONEY, because if it was then many women would be deemed IRRESPONSIBLE, as gazillions around the world dont provide a dime yet dont lose their rights as parents... so let us not play hypocrites here. if daddy cant provide today and mummy can, then so be it, NOBODY loses their parental RIGHTS!

here is again a confirmation that many miserable women are willing to marry ANY donkey, as long as they can flaunt that BS "Mrs" status, and pretend to the whole world that they are seemingly happy.

will be waiting for the thread where the OP will be complaining about being used as a punching ball

jmichlins:
guy the reality of the situation is that we protect our money first then other interest follows. She never thought of loosing her child to the issue if not she would had trecked the distance or not come out at all that day

absolute NONSENSE!!!! only a very poor minded evil person would KNOWINGLY put their lives (and that of their kids) at risk because of money... but then again, this is Nigerians we are talking about.... aka people willing to sacrifice their loved ones for money rituals etc

MsGlobalwonder:
i'm never gonna be surprised about anything in this life again. afteral, here on nairaland, some deluded folks were supporting lekan shonde for killing his wife. so, ur phantom analysis dont come as a shocker. also, it's either you didn't read her post and her subsequent rejoinders or you are related to her husband or you are a potential wife beater/killer or one already. two main issues are prominent here: 1. attempted murder... yes, he pummeled her while 8months pregnant and several times before and after that. she could have bled to death or lost the baby or both. 2. since she put to birth, he has never supported his child financially. if you followed @juzzybabe 's replies; u'll know he is doing that to ''punish'' her not because he doesn't have. he flaunts his riches and lifestyle to her face.
but no, you conveniently left the main issues and found a way to blame the victim!! typical... very typical. he calls her parents harassing them and disclaiming her as his wife, she should keep praying the ''war room' way abi? when he has obviously moved on? smh! he has the option of supporting his child financially or denouncing ownership since he already denounced the mother as his wife. you dont know the trauma she has gone through, please leave judgement for Almighty God the Chief Judge himself. quit being a judginus/judgina. she sought for legal help, if you cant help, jejely waka pass. cheers.

AGAIN, whether a man beats a woman OR NOT is irrelevant to the point at hand, because if that was REALLY an issue, then thats what the OP would have written as the MAIN reason why she needs a divorce... but, as we can all clearly see, even after all the beatings, this woman was willing to accept this man "IF":
- the husband has intention of settling down and having a family (with her)
- the husband shows signs of care AND remorse over he and his parents acts towards her.
- he supported the child in any way.

so stop fooling yourself, as i said earlier, this is just revenge (using their child) from the OP, because husband didnt do the above point

jmichlins:
this is someone walking on her rights and sweat. I will fight for my #1 and will never allow anyone steal it in daylight

as much as you are right about the aboveo, you need to FIRST make sure that your children are safe before doing anything.... putting your children's life at risk because of ₦150 or even ₦1M can only be described as madness (IMHO)

jmichlins:
And before you blame the woman do remember that the economy is not smiling and to leave 150 for someone now is almost like economic suicide if this is hitting you well and do remember that she never envisaged that death or even accident will occur. Rip little child for the struggle to survive has yet taken another life

so now because of the bad economy, people should take drastic measures, and put their children's life at risk, because of ₦150?!

as much as many would love to know the exact body count, simply the look/feel of the coochie will give her up, as well as her actions in the bedroom.

OnaRegina:
When my boyfriend and I go out, I make sure to sometimes pay and don't leave him to pay all the time. I think I pay a lot of the time actually. He earns more than me. However, recently, we went out with some friends and when he tried to pay with his card, there was an issue with the POS machine so I had to pay for him and myself. He mentioned that he would give me the cash later for both of us. When we drove to the ATM later, he took out the complete amount (covering both our bills that I had paid). I noticed that he initially counted out the full amount but later only gave me the money he owed for just his own bill. He had told me in front of our friends that he would repay me the amount for both our bills and besides when he attempted to pay using POS at the restaurant, it was for both our bills. So I dont know why he did that.

your BF was wrong there and you should have pointed that out then.

Also, in the 9 months we've been together, he has never bought me a gift (not even on my birthday or valentines) and at Christmas, he gave me a book he'd just finished reading as my present. To be fair, I didnt give him anything for christmas but I did give him something for his birthday.

i guess you guys aint that different.... giving isnt an obligation

When I travelled, I asked him what he wanted and he said nothing as he didnt want to feel obliged to return the kindness. I found that odd. I wasnt trying to buy him something so he could return the favour. Nevertheless, I bought him a small gift anyway.

the man was honest enough to say he doesnt like being obligated to hand gifts, but instead you want him to act in ways that he isnt down with

I spoke to him about it and told him that while I'm not expecting expensive gifts, giving in a relationship is nice. I suggested chocolates or flowers and he said he didnt know etc.

giving for no reason whatsoever, or against ones will/wishes is wrong... if you wanna give gifts then by all means do so, and dont expect anything in return

Are my expectations high (based on the brief background I've just given) or is this sounding like a stingy guy to you? I feel a bit resentful but want to be reasonable about the whole thing.

there is nothing like expecting a man to do what YOU desire... let him be himself, and either take it or leave it

doll912:
What's your point?

MsGlobalwonder:
your point

achicares:
Out of point.

quivah:

You made absolutely no single sense! None at all.
I thought you were that intelligent man, maybe its seasonal tho.

as i can see some of you may have had problem understanding my post, i will post exactly what i mean, because there are TWO very important failed quotes from the OP here:

Juzzybabe:

THIS IS A DAMAGE DONE TO MY LIFE how can i make him pay for this?

It is either he signs to support this kid or forget he ever had a child with me

is caring for a child BLACKMAIL now? lets us NOT dwell on the story, what we DO know is that this guy is not making a lot of money in Dubai and he wanted her to come and hustle with him there, BEFORE they could bring the child over (which is what any caring parent SHOULD do). so we can confirm that A) money is tight and B) her help was needed in Dxb to make the family "stronger". that was always the plan since day one, she decided to run back to GH instead, which is her right.....

but here are the IMPORTANT questions that all of you should ask:
- if that man had no money before, why does this lady think that now that she is back in Ghana he will/should have any?
- if a father hasnt got financial support (thats the reason wifey had to stay at his parents, isnt it?), should he be automatically deleted from a child's life?!?!?!?!
- how is deleting the father from her life gonna solve ANY of the problem?
- wouldnt this broke father able to help the child emotionally?

this whole issue is about REVENGE, and nothing else, and this deluded lady is using her kids to get back at this man who "supposedly" damaged her life.

very simple 162=54x3