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it all depends on the individuals..... even if she wasnt a virgin, some men will still divorce that woman. we cant sit hear and pretend that its "easy" to forget such an evil act (or not). some will and others wont, and there is NOTHING wrong with that.

the important point here is: if that man had sex with his wife before the rape, would it make any difference to this nightmare?!

as for me, if i feel the same way about this woman then i will stay, if i dont i will go

2sexycom:
bro, last time I ever stepped my foot in church was in January, which means, I am not an active church goer, mostly busy chasing my dream but it does not mean I don't believe in God.

This thing actually happened. I would have not attached any meaning to it had I not see the mode of entry of the lightening.

I can't make you believe what you never saw but the day you experience something that your human senses can't comprehend nor explain, you will understand better.

here is a SIMPLE question for you: can you give us an INTELLIGENT explanation as to how you confirmed that this was an "act of god" (aka Sango/Amadioha), and NOT A) pure luck, B) an act of satan, or better yet C) the fantastic work of Harry Potter?!

this is such a silly way to confirm whether it is genuine product or not... the fraudsters will just buy ONE genuine cream, get the code and then put that code on all the future "fake" ones they will create.

any fools/sheep can come up with whatever BS fake stories and/or what not... we know who they are, as they are very active on NL every sunday (after their weekly dose of brainswashing)

MmmS:
What are Nigerians known for worldwide? Obviously you are bound to be discriminated against just like anywhere else in the world. Watch "Border Security" almost every West African and Asian is searched for drugs or prohibited food items, should Nigerians stop going to Australia because of this?

sista... next time you decide to quote MBJ, i suggest you follow the discussion "fully", and understand the SUBJECT, so that you may understand my replies in that particular thread. let me help you... here is how it went:

1st, a poster asked for advices about emigrating abroad, especially in SA

boljamogun:
Please set the ball rolling on your advice for the intending Nigerian emigrants abroad on things they need to know before taken the final decision to seek 'greener pasture' abroad. Please relate all your experiences particularly in S.A. and other countries (if any). Observing!

2nd, a certain poster "claimed" that Nigerians will make more money in SA than Malaysia because "supposedly" Africans are discriminated upon in Malaysia

ucheokpara100:
u 'll make more money in south africa than malaysia in malaysia when they see u they know u are from africa u 'll be descriminated, then another country i 've been to is Ghana, it's better u stay in nigeria than going to ghana.

3rd, i MBJ simply reminded this poster that Nigerians are "also" discriminated upon in SA, and therefore his point about SA being better than Malaysia for Nigerians was weak/false... AKA Nigerians will have just as much chances to make it in Malaysia as they would in SA, because there is discrimination EVERYWHERE

MRBrownJ:
but then again, as soon as you open your mouth, dont they know you are Nigerians.....and are Nigerians not "viewed" as the criminals/drug dealers who are supposedly destroying SA? (its always easier to blame their shiiit on others)

which brought us to your reply, that you clearly made without properly UNDERSTANDING the discussion (or my reply). next time, i suggest you understand the debate before wrongly quoting others

does he use online banking?! someone must have gained access to his online banking login details

#3 means a person who is sniffing (in French), so i guess its got to do with these people who get turned on by sniffing panties

i guess some men like fat women... to each their own

this information wont change the poor state of these "run down slippers" she is proudly showing to the world....

he can be called "the greatest" anywhere in the world, but not in his native Argentina... where MARADONA will always remain THE GREATEST

lizzybog:
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One Adeyemi Ronke Bola petitioned EFCC alleging that he collected over N1.2 million under the pretence that he would help her secure traveling documents, but later gave her fake airline ticket and visa. When the charges were read out to Moses, he pleaded not guilty to the charges preferred against him.

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what has the above got to do with the title of the thread?!

koniyah:
,why always people want to paint kenya badly,
look at this nairaland thread about kenya before underestimating them:

https://www.nairaland.com/51356/nairobi-photos-kenya-beautiful-east/173#46964571

who even said that Kenya wasnt a nice country?! but the important question IS: do you think that because its nice and beautiful in Kenya, there is no fraudsters/criminals there?!

Mekurexx:
Damn this is tragic and shameful.... I hope the babe is apprehended. Man everywhere is dangerous. even while clubbing you gotta be uptight. ALWAYS ALWAYS HOLD YOUR DRINKS. never leave it open or unattended to except you are done drinking. Anything can happen. Not everyone who is clubbing has good intentions!

the majority of single (and even married) men have only ONE aim in mind when the enter a club: PULL, and these criminals use that exact same concept to find victim potential.

if a person is drinking alcohol then they MUST have a friend present who aint drinking (aka the designated driver) as tipsy/drunk people are an easy target for these criminals. same for babes who accept drinks from total strangers. another rampant scam is the perfume sales person that stops you in the parking lot of supermarket and say they has great perfumes for very cheap prices. then they will spray some on your hands and ask you to check the nice smell... if you do, LIGHTS OUT!

aremed:
d babe is pretty

Bluezy13:
But that babe cute na...
Who no go wan drink with am
Anyways, amen

thats why this scam works so well, because generally its a fiine babe that these men could only fukc in their wildest dreams... but lets not fool ourselves, due to A) our nature B) what konji does to us and, C our inability to tame the tiger in our pants, even an ugly babe could easily con men that way.

Nnaemiemax:
Pick a random girl in a club, take a snapshot with her and post it online..?
Who even does that?
Dude's such a donkey!

a guy that want to brag about the babe he just pulled from the club, not knowing he fell (head 1st) into a bloody trap.

some of these prostitutes want EVERYTHING you got, not just fukc money. they'll bring you back to your home/hotel and clean you out. they'll take your laptop/TV, phone, bank card and anything of value there. a famous Argentine footballer got conned this way by 2 ashewos, and they took his fancy dog and even his damn car (he later went on TV to beg these con women to please bring back his dog), lol. some of these babes rub the drug around their n1pples, and then take you home, UnCloth and tell you they are h0rny etc; by the time you start kissing/sucking/licking her breast, then its LIGHTS OUT, you are gone! it is a very lucrative biz and, because most men are ashamed of how they got "played/robbed" like novices, the majority dont report these crimes to the police (thus these babes are almost untouchable).

TRUE STORY: a buddy was partying here in Rio getting drunk with some bombshell he met at some random club, and next think he knows, he wakes up the next morning in some strange hotel room, nekkid. he goes down to the reception and ask how he got there, and the receptionist tells him that he arrived in the middle of the night with a fiiiine babe, paid for a room, ordered a few drinks, and went up... and then an hour later some other dude joined them in the room... then early in the morning, the new dude and the fiiiine babe left together. full damage: his money/CC and jewellery was gone, his account was debited fully of its daily limit AND, most insane part was, there was blood on the sheets, his aaass was hurting and bloodied. he spent the next 3 months living like a zombie in fear/anguish of what may have happened that night. its only 3 months later, and an all clear from all the various tests he did, that he was able to start "living" again.

havent you guys seen the show SCAM CITY? here enjoy:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WEgol8UstaY

i hate moving with a passion, and will always use movers in order to get rid of the burden and/or stress of packing/lifting/driving to new location and then lifting/unpacking.

did you tell him beforehand that you were gonna pay the rent on monday?! go see him and explain that the rent will be paid asap

JuanDeDios:
So he deserved this for hanging out with a random woman?

nooooo, he deserves it for being STOOPID, big difference! in this day and age, and with all the warnings about drink spiking etc, any fool who still fall for this trick (because of a pair of tits and aaass) needs a "wake up call"... and what you are witnessing in these photos up there, is indeed that foolish man's wake up call.

his luck is that he took a picture of that sexy criminal and posted it on social media (unbeknownst to her). i guess, since she was gonna steal the phone anyway, she didnt mind taking the pics.

dumbass.. if this story is real, he got what he deserved... and he better count his blessings she wasnt working with a gang of gay rapists OR human part salesmen

nothing wrong here, even if that was his daughter.... until that child reaches a certain age, this is fully acceptable IMHO.

the Chinese shouldnt even waste time and instead just massacre these criminals, ONE BULLET to the head each!

arrant nonsense!

EfemenaXY:
What void are you referring to?

the void of CARE/AFFECTION/LOVE/COMPANIONSHIP in his life, or even yes, the void of having someone alleviate that "konji". this is some of the joy of being in a r/ship, and i believe OP must find the time to get a female companion.

He stated very clearly that he does not want a girlfriend yet, neither is he ready for one. So why try and rope him into a relationship he neither cares for nor wants at this time of his life?

NO, he just said he hasnt got time for one... HUGE difference (meaning he would like to have one if he had the time), he just need to find TIME.

Relationships come with responsibilities and are time consuming at best. Here we have a very focused young man who just wants to get on with his projects and self development and all you can think of is how he should start scouring for a girl to bed, cook, and clean up after him? Is that how lowly your perception of women is?? And before you shout 'companionship', did the @op mention any where in his post that he is lonely??

as i have always said... a good woman in the "RIGHT" r/ship makes a man turn into the best version of himself. we need women for many different things and i am sorry if you selfishly viewed my post as "women only good for sex/cooking/cleaning", when i specifically wrote:CARE/AFFECTION/COMPANIONSHIP before mentioning the SEX/COOKING part... i guess you are picking from my post only what fits your agenda.

Mindfulness:
Re-read what I wrote. I wrote that you automatically receive shared custody when you are married. If you are not, you have to notarize a written statement that acknowledges the unmarried father's paternity.

again, if your name is on the birth certificate, you automatically get rights towards that child... thats why i dont need to "receive" custody to make my children's passport, if my name is on their birth certificate (as their father). thinking that a father has NO right until he gets married to the child's mother, or a judge/notary gives him that right, is wrong.
furthermore, if a father's name is on the birth certificate, then EVEN if i am not the biological father, i would still legally be the father, and have to pay child support, if their mums and me parted ways.

No, they are not. You act like you know the laws in all countries when just recently these laws have been subject to controversial discussions in the country where I am located because cohabitating couples do NOT have the same rights as married couples and conservative parties want to keep it this way.

fair enough, they probably dont apply in Nigeria but they certainly apply in any country in the west (aka Europe, North America etc)

Again, not true!
You can't even get a family insurance including everyone if you are not married.

pls educate yourself on the issue of common law union AND civil/domestic partnership, as you clearly are misinformed.

Ask your children's teachers and doctors. I, for my part, want to have the same name as my children and so does my husband. It shows that we belong together and it gives a sense of unity.

do i really have to educate you on this issue?! unmarried couple can give their child ANY surname they desire, fathers/mothers or anything else they desire.... having BOTH parents surname is the best IMHO, because guess what happens when you divorce your husband and have a child that bares ONLY his name?! having both parents name is easier.

Really? There was only one occassion in my life where my ENTIRE family and that of my husband met all at once and that was our wedding.

why do you wanna meet them all on the same day?! and if that is really an issue, then what stops me from inviting them all on the house warming party?! arent they all gonna meet? why do you think that a WEDDING is the only way they can all meet?

Who said that anyone should be forced to stay with anyone?

well thats your assumption, isnt it? that marriage will make people stay together where unmarried people will just part ways.... well if parting ways is what a person wants to do, why not let them? or are you insinuating that marriage stops people from wanting to leave? marriage stops people from arguing/having enough? sadly, we cant ask Titi Arowolo, Nike Shonde, Rose sougie or even Mr. Oyelowo how that piece of paper has made their lives "better" by having them stay longer in their respective union.

BWAAAAAAH! Because you say so?
wife noun
the woman that somebody is married to; a married woman
http://www.oxfordlearnersdictionaries.com/definition/english/wife?q=wife

you see, what you wrote above is the reason so many fail in marriage... i (MBJ) dont need any certificate to feel/understand that someone is my wife. our actions will dictate that as this lady will do EXACTLY what any married wife out there will do ( and so would i, compared to any husband), so NO i dont need a bloody certificate to call her what i fully well know she is.
EQUALLY, many clueless deluded married women are called "wives" but wouldnt know what it means to be one, even if she was beaten with the manual ( i wont even bother mentionned the gazillion cheating men foolishly called husband). but hey, we are living today in a world where any donkey can claim whatever (or holier than thou) because of some phoney certificate.

It's not about you or me. As a matter of fact, if you aspire to run for a public office, you better be married.
I couldn't care less whether you do or don't.

who gives a damn about running for office? stick to the issue at hand, its about whether being married is stamped on anyone's forehead before you can judge them... so as i said again:
1) if i met you today and introduce my partner to you as my wife, why would you think that she is any less?!
2) many Africans polygamists are legally taking X amount of co-wives, how are these union any different/better/legal IN YOUR EYES than a common-law union (knowing that traditional marriages are just as valid as common-law union)?

Millerz:
I'm sure you followed them in their handbags to know exactly what transpired.

edorhe14:
How dyu know?
Do u know them personally?
From the moment the married everyone have been second guessing their wedding.
Dont Judge a wedding by what u see on tv or what u read on the Internet.
Its not fair.

bwaaah, that is my opinion, and i hope its still not illegal to have one

Mindfulness:
I share your views on marriage to a large extent but there are very good reasons for a couple to get married.
1. You automatically get shared custody with every child born.

if BOTH parent's name is on the birth certificate then a father has just as much RIGHT over that child as his mother, and therefore custody will be 50/50... unless stated otherwise (by a judge) due to unforeseen issues.
here is even a clue for you: these children can even have daddy's surname, since his name is on the birth certificate, thus mummy's surname will be the middle name (mine do)!

2. You have rights concerning your spouse if she becomes involved in an accident and ends up in hospital.

the laws today concerning common-law union are exactly the same as those of marriage union.

3. Tax benefits.

the laws today concerning common-law union are exactly the same as marriage union.

4. Same family name.

not every married person change their name, but the important part is how is that a "benefit"?

5. PARTY! It is also a good opportunity for the two families to meet and get to know each other.

why wouldnt the families of common-law union meet?! its only if the parents are against such union that they wouldnt, but many are cool with that (so long as the couple are happy).

6. More stability. Married couples have higher chances of staying together than cohabitating couples. And if they don't want to, there is still the option of divorce.

BWAAAAAAAH! if someone doesnt want to be with you any longer then i dont see why they should be enforced to stay, as what you wrote above entails. this is a union, not enforced slavery.

7. Some people prefer to refer to their partner as wife / husband instead of boy-/girlfriend.

dont be mistaking, they are (common-law) wives and husbands, and furthermore, you dont need a marriage certificate to call anyone your wifey/hubby (or whatever you desire). the minute your bf/gf moves in with you, whether married or not, then she becomes your wifey.

but here is 2 very important questions for you:
1) if i met you today and introduce my partner to you as my wife, why would you think that she is any less?!
2) many Africans polygamists are legally taking X amount of co-wives, how are these union any different/better/legal IN YOUR EYES than a common-law union (knowing that traditional marriages are just as valid as common-law union)?!

8. Some peple will take your union more seriously if you make an official commitmen. Imagine, the president of any country referring to the first lady as girlfriend. The world is not there yet.

i dont care what people think of my union, and would certainly NOT get married simply to please/accommodate unknown strangers in my life. so long as partner and I take the union seriously, is all that really matters.

9. If you die, she will not have to pay a huge sum on the inheritance if she is your wife in some countries but if she is 'just' your girlfriend, oh well, she will.

the laws today concerning common-law union are exactly the same as those for marriage union... but hey, a simple will is a documented that will sort that issue out (and since any gainfully employed adult needs a will, ).

Ogbeche77:
The wages for these dirty jobs are so poor and in a few months/years the renumerations ll be poorer... I think the idea behind the refugee influx was to lower the wages on the long run. Don't underestimate capitalist..
I will give you an instance, have in mind that Germany took in almost 1million refugees in 2014- Feb 2016.. In the city of Berlin, refugees get accomodation, food, clothing, free german language classes and a monthly stipends of 220euros or there about.. They are entitiled to this until there status/ resisdent permit ll be issued.(some take 3 years or more)..
Now to relive the refugees of boredome (they are practically idle from almost all day), the city have employed a good number to work in restaurants, as city cleaners, janitors, e.t.c for just 1 euro a day.. Have in mind that alot of germans/E.U citizens also do this jobs, meaning their job isn't secure..
It doesn't take a genius or prophet to see the rise in xenophopic/racial attacks when alot of foreigners begin to accept low wages and Europeans are out of jobs.. I am not sure Europe is ready for this
http://www.thelocal.de/jobs/article/germany-puts-refugees-to-work-for-one-euro

spot on! of course this refugee crisis is a bloody scam. there has been refugees running away from wars in Afghanistan/Irak etc dying by the boatloads for years, yet they never lifted a finger... and suddenly today they care?! there has been Africans running away from wars (Libyans/Ivorians/Sudanese/Somalians etc) dying on these boats for years, yet they've never ever lifted a damn finger. there are gazillions of refugees that were already in Europe before the Syrian crisis (check Calais refugee camps where these refugee try to hide in trucks trailers and/or running inside the Eurotunnel) why didnt they try to sort these guys out 1st, instead of simply bulldozer their camp?!

bro, Germany/France/Italy/Spain, same aim, different tricks..recently, in France, the gov tried to implement a new labor law, that had employers able to fire anyone without any obligation or legal/fair justification, and thereafter rehire people with new contracts that have unfair/illegal terms (longer hrs per week, lower pay for same job, less benefits, auction type hiring where the one who desire less money/benefits gets the job etc)... aka new jobs with NO protection/rights for the employee NOR any national law/union to regulate employment and employers. pure madness! exactly the right trick to dismiss French citizens from their jobs and subsequently hire east European cheaper labor... supposedly, this will jumpstart the failing economy, yeah right!

it backfired in their faces because the whole country started protesting/rioting and going on strike over this unfair law... and although the whole country is against this law, the gov fast tracked it in parliament... so now its war on the streets, the gov VS the people!!!!! in France we have always had great labor benefits, and we pride ourselves with the 35hrs /week employment, 5 weeks paid holidays, free healthcare and unemployment benefits 2nd to none, but its all about to go down the drain!

as for racism, it is expected... now everyone will blame the ones accepting these cheaper job, AKA East Europeans/refugee, and soon they will take all the blame and be labelled the new employment "terrorists".

OmichaelO:
@MRBrownJ I showed my friend the piece you wrote on this marriage issue.
Her reply "This Person is a Savage"

lol naaaah, i just fully believe in my stand against marriage... and also that many people have failed in their r/ships SOLELY due to marriage. so many are using marriage as a benchmark, like they've been dating/wooing someone and trying to impress/attract/entice that person, have fun together and all the beautiful madness of a r/ship... and the minute they get married, its like THE END. they believe that they dont need to impress/date/woo/entice/attract or have fun with their partner anymore (while this is exactly why that person fell in love with you). so now they become a "new" being, and it rarely work OR people unwillingly stay in this "often" miserable and boring union with a stranger. i certainly dont want that, and expect to impress/woo/date/entice/attract/conquer and have fun with her everyday that we are a couple (and i expect the same from her)... and the day she thinks she doesnt have to do that any longer then it would certainly be THE END for us.

bukatyne:
Isn't it strange you are willing to do all these and unwilling to sign a paper to make it legal?

A) dont get it twisted, all the stages that i wrote up there is what EVERYONE goes through in a r/ship (whether married or not), the only difference is the communication to tell her my views on the subject of marriage.

B) would YOU sign any contract which you didnt believe you got a fair deal out of and/or that wasnt a necessity in your life? i cannot be forced to enter into the bondage of marriage. i dont need a piece of paper to confirm what i have with someone, and if my woman did/does then obviously we have different aims/views in life.

C) again when someone explains to me (with intelligent facts and not religious nonsense) WHY i need to get married, is the day i probably will, but until then...

What does signing the paper take out of your relationship?

it takes a lot!!!!!
- it would take away my liberty to do what i feel is RIGHT (or wrong)
- it would take away the PRIDE i have to be myself
- it would take away some of the joy and happiness i have being in that said union
- it would take away some of the LOVE/CARE/AFFECTION i have for this woman who need a "contract" in order to believe in my intentions with her
- but most importantly, it would remove that said woman away from my life, as i certainly wouldnt desire to be with a woman who brings the above points i mentionned into my life.

chumakk:
I don't know if they will ask...I didn't report it missing to them but I went to police station. I still have the passport number

do you still have the (important) police report from back then?

Ogbeche77:
No need to say more.. All what you posted is 100% right.. And same applies to most countries in Europe... Some Eastern European countries may not be as strict as DK but life in those countries isn't different from Africa believe me.. Perhaps, no job & poor living standard.. Also more than half of their population have migrated to Germany,France,Scandinavia etc..
Mr OP.. You or your friend should think well before making this life changing decision

well said bro. i wouldnt even advise my enemy to move to East Europe. their residents are now considered the new "refugees" of western Europe. THEY are taking up all the "dirty" jobs that illegals used to do back in the days. its harder these days as the illegal immigrant has to compete for work with the legal eastern Europeans (willing to do anything for money)

there is just ONE reason...

marinepatrol:
should i just divorce her or keep begging against my will?

she's been gone for a year without contacting you, so whether you like it or not, you are ALREADY divorced bro!
you guys with both your misplaced egos are NOT compatible... accept it.