as a man , i can tell you categorically there should be no compromise here.... a good DAD/HUSBAND or nothing.

paschal1995:
bullcrap...and how are u so sure abt d 2..like it's only poor girls dt b1tch around...

there are many b1tches around poor AND rich, yes, but the ones that are after sugar daddies do so "solely" for the MONEY. someone who has money dont need a sugar daddy, because they have money themselves (or they parents do).

Odunharry:

Very true bro.. nice input.
That's why I stated BE YOURSELF AS VERY VERY IMPORTANT..

yes, but sadly the majority today rather live fake lives and pretend to be who they are not, they are ASHAMED of who they are, and thats where the problem starts. i will be even bold and say that women are the biggest culprit here. how can you be short but put on heels to look tall? how can you be darkskin but use cream to look light (with a foul body odour)? how can you be ugly but put on make up that makes you look attractive? how can you be bald but put on Brazilian hair that make you look "foreign"? so a man gets attracted to a certain look, and then when the dust settles, you have a complete different person. these women are criminals and the reality is that they are using it to con men into falling in love until they have invested heavily in that r/ship and reached the "NO GOING BACK" zone (aka marriage). thats only when these men will truly discover how these women look like.

but men aint no better, they foolishly throw money at women and use bling to attract women. while we sadly know that such act will attract any animal around (the good/bad/ugly/miserable/hungry/deluded etc), who no like better things? the reality is that these men AINT got nothing about themselves, no character/personality to attract these women the RIGHT way, so they have to use money/bling.. but the funny thing is that they get mad when some other dude throw the same "honey" to steal their babes, bwaaaaah!

people have to think about themselves as NAKEDD if they want have the peace and serenity of love. forget the money/cars/blings, and if that person cant attract a mate then whatever tools are used to do so is a waste of life. yeah, the Oshiomhole are envied by many young brothas but ask yourself this question: how does these old men feel at night when they close their eyes and be honest with themselves, knowing that these babes would never even give them a second look if they were poor? how EMPTY they must feel to have to pay to get these young ashis to be by their side? but hey, whatever makes these men feel better at night, right?

bro Odunharry
i always say that 1st and foremost you need to be yourself at ALL times, as faking it is just a recipe for disaster.

also, it is important to shine positive vibes, and this starts by loving the person you see in the mirror everyday...so many brothas and sistas dont even love themselves, yet they expect someone to do so. highly laughable.

then you definitely should be happy with the life you got. too many miserable people expecting their future mates to miraculously turn their lives into fantastic lives... and in the process, they become bitter beings if/when their expectation doesnt match what they have.

i wont even dwell on the sad ones that have deluded views on love, and expect the nonsense fairytales they see on Telemundo, simply doing copy-copy/follow-follow like sheeps, while dreaming of fairytale BS. what they see on telemundo isnt any different than how their pastor/family/friends/society "may" expect them to act... and thats why people should forget whatever their pastor/family/friends/society etc are expecting of them, and SOLELY do what their heart desire!

she is free from bondage and can finally live her own life

VERY TRUE, but its important to know what they think so you can remove the snakes from the real friends.

there is something VERY wrong in marriages today, if/when husbands call out other women's name during sex and their wives keep quiet, then come on NL asking for what to do....

sadly, it could be fantasies, innocent crushing or simply the name of his mistress.... how should we know?

paschal1995:
chill..saving up for dia daughters..

so you actually think that A) daughters of rich men seek for sugar daddy and B) as their daughter might be your age, how can you ever become sugar daddy to someone your own age?!

as someone said earlier, EVERYTHING is wrong in this pictures, both are deluded and there can be NOTHING positive coming out of this madness. some desperate women (and h0rny men) will never understand until someone start to go insane and kill somebody, as we have seen that its the new trend these days

isnt #5 a what everyone seeking for (aka a keeper), and probably set to be your future partner?!

one bullet in the head for all these mad men, rapists and criminals... no questions asked!

that community toto must have seen a few dikcs... she looks so cheap, i doubt these polithieves and wannabe big boys pay more than 20k for that washed up "thing"

sadly with all the media and nonsense about Kardashians/Ini and yeyebrity, there will always be deluded women (and men) who desire to burn bridges and get what they dont DESERVE! so prostitution (and what not) is the only way out for these deluded people. but my question is WHY YOU CARE?! let them live their deluded lives while they can and instead you should focus on the GOOD women out there.

there will always be wh0res and skanks out there and sugar daddies only make it easier for people to know who they are, so no man foolishly go and marry one of these h0es.

as if only ugly women commit crime. NONSENSE!

for many people, YES, marriage is the only way out!
- thats what they have been brainwashed to do since they were kids, and parents hitting the jackpot with bride price.
- many have been brainwashed that marriage is synonymous with happiness, thus so many miserable people wanna get married.
- many have no aim/prospect in life apart from "attaching" themselves (like a virus) to a partner, get married, and possibly have any chance of a bright future.
- also, this is what the religion say is the way to have "legal" sex with anyone, so thats why so many sheeps would marry any donkeys out there, just to get jiggy?

firing squad, no question asked!

delivery complications happen all over the world, even if/when going to the best private clinic in the world.

lmao, she might as well bring her kid(s) and put them in that pictures.

Senegal has a strong and diversified musical history that dates way back... and apart from Fela, no Nigerian act can compare with the notoriety and success of either Youssou N'dour and Akon

you should expect her to do exactly the same thing she does when she "hopefully" becomes your gf and some stranger claims to love her too.

thats not true at all... at least not for most men.

here is a simple question to ask yourselves: imagine that you could get "just" sex from a stranger (whenever you felt like it), would you say that you wouldnt want have a gf by your side?! as much as our women provide the needed sex, they also provide companionship/care/affection/love/help etc

ahahahahahahaha what BULLSHIT stories wont we read on NL! snake ko, girafe ni....

Prettiepearlz:

Okay, I get your point now. But don't you think the man is also planning to get the child and then make the child forget the mother? Because from every indication, he also wants the child for a reason too, probably to spite her.

that man should NEVER have unsupervised access/visitation with this child UNTIL they are assured that he isnt a flight risk etc

dauntless15:
she will never understand

how can you be so negative.... at least give it a try instead of being scared to even ACT RIGHT. better lose such friendship than dating her out of pity

the reason why so many people in 9ja are getting played is sadly written all over this thread. if you fukc someone then you should have NO issues if everyone knows it. the majority of people who want their shiit ro remain hidden have some BS in their closet. if you fukced person A then stand proudly for who you are instead of trying to pretend to be who you are NOT.

no wonder today so many are easily double/triple dating and cheating when they can fukc someone and/or be in a r/ship while nobody knows. i aint ashamed of MY game or the women i fukc, and if these women cant stand for having fukced me then i certainly dont wanna fukc these deluded women. there are too many INSECURE people around!

furthermore, if a woman is a h0e fukcing everybody then the word needs to be out so that she doesnt fool a brotha who is gonna try to wife that h0e. all you men who aint telling are doing a disservice to other men, lol! i hope you guys settle with a beautiful princess of your dreams, who happened to be the undercover neighborhood cuum dump

Prettiepearlz:

Oh really? The fact that the man almost killed her when she was eight months pregnant should be overlooked because she mentioned it later.

it certainly shouldnt be focussed on "now" that she is seeking excuses to dismiss this father. yes that man has done many wrongs but he hasnt done ANYTHING to warrant being deleted from this child's life.

Gosh what is this world turning into? Are you indirectly supporting the man for beating her or what? Because from your post, you're overlooking it ooo,

nah i am FOCUSSING on what is important here, and you people are NOT. i never ever said that this woman should stay with this man, i said she should ALWAYS allow this father to have access to this child. you people are using this act of abuse to punish this child, which is WRONG in my book. this woman has moved away (finally) so i dont even know why you guys are still mentioning the abuse, as if it is an issue here. NONSENSE!

I am sure that was how Titi Arowolo, Nike Shonde and Rose sougie and even Mr. Oyelowo (the man that was killed by his wife) were all adviced to stay and make it work, till they ended up walking to the great beyond and lots of people who were never mentioned to the media, my school daughter in the university then narrated how her eight month pregnant aunts was murdered by her husband all in the name of for better for worse and after that incident her grandma couldn't survive, she died not quite long from her daughter's death , she died because she was too devastated( you know old people now, she lost the will to live). God forbid her own case gets to that.

most of these women did a mistake, and they had to pay for it in a gruesome way, but thats IRRELEVANT to whats best for the child in this issue. even if that man beat her every night, he still has ALL the RIGHTS to see his daughter (when he will finally desire it)

She needs freedom and she will get it.

she is in GH while this man is in DXB... is that not freedom?! she just has to get a lawyer and file for divorce... where is the big deal/issue?! is that SOOOOOOOOOO difficult for this seemingly successful/intelligent/mature/financially comfortable woman to do?!

Rexphobia:
Fixed

kai, that will be any man's (and his family) downfall. the minute you fukc that maid then thats the minute she will stop respect you (and most importantly, your wife) and she will think that she has the RIGHT to watch Telemundo whenever she desire now. i'd rather go smash a crackhead LovePeddler than someone working for me. as much as it may sound cliché: NEVER mix business with sex (i wont even call fucking your maid "pleasure"

walk to the kitchen, pour a glass of water, then throw the content all over the floor and then tell this LAZY maid to do some damn WORK, instead of watching telemundo BS!

disgusting