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Peacefulplace:
It has been two years. He proposed to me 8 months ago but we knew of each other for two years prior

i dont know if its your story who makes very little sense, or you have difficulties telling your story:

ok so below you said:

Peacefulplace:
I caught my husband flirting in multiple women's comments when we were first together and engaged.

so what you are saying above is that for roughly 2yrs of knowing this man he was "cheating" on you AND YOU GUYS GOT ENGAGED while you fully well knew he was cheating (and thereafter asked him to stop)... correct?

then you wrote:

But tonight he told me that the two women that were accusing him of cheating, he actually was cheating with in the beginning when he first proposed to me. Not cheating on person, just cheating online. He had me believing they were crazy.

have you confirmed that he actually stopped messaging these women?

Only now, 8 months later did he tell me... In total though, we have known each other 2 two years. So it's been a long time.
I am so upset. He does not do well when I cry. He does not like it. So I excused myself to cry. He told me not to get upset, but I feel betrayed.

at least you now know the type of deceitful/untrustworthy person this man is. shouldnt you first make sure he aint doing this deceit gain before getting married? or better yet, ask yourself this simple question: what was it about you or your r/ship (In the 1st 2yrs of dating) that was lacking that he had to go seek validation from other women online?

We are getting married this month and now I am so worried upset with him. I am 31 and he is 30. I am a Australian woman and he is a Igbo man. I am moving across the world to be with him. I have visited him many times but I decided to stick by him and marry him.

...and you have the right to be, but you sound like someone who is like has to "settle for less" or accept something that you aint down with? why the rush? cant you wait until this man does right by you before you marry him?

I am very upset with him and hurting from within. I am trying to deal with this pain but it is a lot. Should I continue to stay by my man? Or should I leave? So far he has not cheated for quite awhile and I am hoping he has learnt his lesson.

YES you should stay with him but you definitely should wait until he shows you that he is the PERFECT MAN for you to marry, and not some 2nd/3rd best option. the fact that you even write that:"he hasnt cheated for a while", as if this is an achievement. NEWSFLASH: he shouldnt do that to begin with! here is a clue: you shouldnt even have to tell him to stop... if he really wanted you like that (aka as the woman he wants to spend his life with) then you wouldnt have to tell him to stop trying to get with other women online or whatever, because he wouldnt even think of other women like that.

if you believe that a man ho had no respect for you nor your r/ship will suddenly stop (because thats what YOU want) then you have a lot to learn about men. so far we know, he could just be more careful now. remember: you cant change a man, no woman on earth has ever succeeded.

Peacefulplace:
I caught my husband flirting in multiple women's comments when we were first together and engaged. I told him he cannot do that. He then stopped. But then I found out he was following ex's and other women alot on Facebook. I mean like 100+ other women with very inappropriate photos.

I told him to stop. He stopped for awhile and then I found out he did it again. I told him off again and so far he never did these things again as far as I know.

But tonight he told me that the two women that were accusing him of cheating, he actually was cheating with in the beginning when he first proposed to me.

Not cheating on person, just cheating online. He had me believing they were crazy. Only now, 8 months later did he tell me...

I am so upset. He does not do well when I cry. He does not like it. So I excused myself to cry. He told me not to get upset, but I feel betrayed.

We are getting married this month and now I am so worried upset with him. I am 31 and he is 30. I am a Australian woman and he is a Igbo man. I am moving across the world to be with him. I have visited him many times but I decided to stick by him and marry him.

I am very upset with him and hurting from within. I am trying to deal with this pain but it is a lot. Should I continue to stay by my man? Or should I leave? So far he has not cheated for quite awhile and I am hoping he has learnt his lesson. .

leave where exactly? are you not the one who wants to marry a stranger you barely know (only 8months together)? so when exactly did this cheating stranger propose to you, since its only been 8months? how much other shiit he is possibly hiding?

i suggest you guys stop acting desperate and TAKE YOUR DAMN TIME to get to know one another properly.

Fearyourcreator:
So for them to come to this father's funeral it's nothing to her... She and you dey m**d together

i didnt say it was nothing to them, i just said she can mourn as she pleases... she doesnt need to get up or kneel to anyone whatsoever.

Viper000:
baby wipe is to prevent infection. E no dey clean nyash well besides all these girls no dey like take corrections, I doubt if I go knack dat girl again.. na why I bother tell her.

baby wipe has absolutely nothing to do with infection and all to do with cleaning/sanitize the area... if its great to clean babies nyansh, it should also be great for adult nyansh too.

Viper000:
Abeg make una dey wash una nyash well wit water after using the toilet especially ladies.

Tissue paper is not enough to clean ur nyash properly. I no talk say tissue paper no good but always use water along side with tissue paper and wash ur hands wit soap.
There’s dis girl I’ve been crushing on, she came over to my place, she av a nice big curvy ass, i like chubby girls. I entertained her well and we started to do-the-do…. We started with missionary style as I switched to doggy position and abt to insert my dick in her pussy the next thing I saw was dried particles of poo in her asshole, I jst hated myself for having sex with her.. my dick flat sharp sharp. I stop sex.
The girl was like babe I’m feeling u so what happen, why did u stop.. I didn’t even tell her becus she might get angry.. they hate to take corrections.

I think she poo in her house before coming over to my place and I guess she used jst tissue paper to wipe her ass.
If u enter my toilet u go see hand sanitizer and dettol soap, if I use toilet I dey wash my nyash thoroughly wit water, then I wash and sanitize my hands. If I wan bath sef, I scrub my nyash and preeq well, I dey wear my boxers once a day. I no like dirtiness.

i fully disagree, water is not needed if you use baby wipes and it actually does the business quite nice.

BTW if you didnt tell this girl about shiit in her nyansh then you are part of the problem here.

Fearyourcreator:
Call your uncle by name then... It's wrong of her not standing abeg ... Una like dey hide behind nonsense ... If it where to be her grandfather won't she have stood up to greet him ...

ARRANT NONSENSE... your grandfather is family and lost his son too. you guys are mourning together. how can you compare a family mourning with some yeye stranger? she doesnt have to stand up for ANYBODY, she is mourning, let her mourn the way she is comfortable with.

how are you ever gonna learn if you do your homework for you?!

here is for your education of the day (AI is your friend):

11) To calculate the amount of work needed to stop a bullet, you can use the work-energy principle which states that the work done on an object is equal to its change in kinetic energy. The kinetic energy of the bullet is given by ½ mv², where m is the mass of the bullet and v is its velocity. As the bullet is brought to a stop, its kinetic energy goes to zero, thus the work done is equal to the initial kinetic energy of the bullet.

only a very gullible person will believe the above nonsense... yes some oloshoes may dress like the above (they've been degrading themselves forever), but claiming that this is the new fashion is a damn lie.

AGAIN the Drake bad mojo/luck strikes again...

the yeye fool couldnt even last 2 full rounds. what a disgrace! mouthing everywhere as if he was the next Mike Tyson while in reality he was a sideshow, a one hit wonder. all hype and no value whatsover. reminds me of Kimbo slice and/or Jake Paul!

LIE FROM THE PIT OF HELL!!!!
the UK is not the greatest country out there, but to claim that its the most miserable, when we fully well know that there is at least 100countries where life is more miserable than the UK, is the joke of the day!!!

as for them having Brazil AND Australia in the bottom 6, is a confirmation that the people who did this study are out of the damn mind

Drella:
You have a point but it's not as easy as said.
As a student, getting a job means earning about 10k per month at the expense of my studies.
If others can get opportunities just because they are close with someone, I don't think wanting to be close to someone because of opportunities is a bad idea.
I appreciate your input

LIFE is not easy, get your story straight... thinking that everything is easy and everybody can easily get rich, is the reason why you are not sensible about this issue. open your eyes and understand that out of all the people who open businesses, the majority fail what some few succeed immensely. why do you think that is? do you think that they are all the same? KNOWLEDGE AND LUCK is what matters, not who you hang around.

if you think that most Nigerians are broke because they aint close to someone who has made it, then you sir will always fail. STOP LOOKING AT WHAT OTHERS HAVE DONE, and focus on your race/life/speed. you are NOT Them and they are NOT you.
what you are saying is as clueless as saying that, because Jeff Bezos has $200B therefore we can all get it, and now you will sleep/eat/live to get $200B. LOL!!!! no wonder so many brothers fail in life, they are so concerned with the life of others that they cant value the little they may have.

maasoap:
Insurance doesn't work when you commit suicide by jumping in front of a bus

if you focus carefully on what i wrote, this would not be deemed suicide by the insurance.

caye:
Pls sir, you are an elder on nairaland, we shouldn't trivialise a looming disaster.
We don't know what is in our karma. Suicide is gradually becoming an epidemic thing. I can assure you that 2024 - beyond will be years of tribulations and soul searching but hope in the Almighty God.
Pls, let's stop insulting one another. Rather emphatise with your brother.
Peace and reconciliation, Amin.
There are many kids here on nairaland. Pls, death is not something to joke with , and put away this yoruba-igbo silly banter; the zoo created by the white supremacist is no longer liveable for any of us.

are you high on some cheap drugs or something? where did my answer remotely touch on tribe?!
anyway this is my opinion on what that bastard man should have done before abandoning his wife and children to suffer... take it or move along.

blowjohn:
I laf when people just say suicide is not an option.
Ofcos it's not. But believe me if u were in their shoes, u will also have suicide as an option.

i really dont care about what went through this bastard's mind, because i do know that he selfishly only focussed on HIMSELF while he has a wife and 3 kids that he left to suffer EVEN MORE now that he took the easy way out and abandon them to fend for themselves. WHAT A SELFISH NARROW MINDED BASTARD OF HUMAN BEING!!!

whats wrong with this room? if thats what they can afford then so be it.

dead bodies on planes always come in cardboard boxes... regardless of who you are... then put in a casket at the airport of the final destination.

what a very selfish human being.... now your wife AND kids have to suffer, because you were not man enough to do whats right (aka get a life insurance, and when its valid for payout, mysteriously stumble in front of a gov public bus)

praise the lawd, ITS PARTY TIME!!!!!!

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unless she gives me a good reason why she wouldnt marry me (aka lets get married later OR i wanna finish my studies before marriage etc) then the r/ship will end that same instance. why waste time continue being with someone who has no desire to marry you?

who you are and how you move around is irrelevant to the issue at hand, you need to associate with people who dont see you as a threat to them.... you also have to understand that you need to focus on living life the right way and build a strong foundation and work hard for whatever you desire. looking at what others have as a benchmark to your own life, would always end in failure. you are not them and they are not you. stay in your lane and go about your own business/speed.

if you dont have 250k, then WORK HARD then save small small and when you have 250k, let that person teach you. dont try to cut corners, dont try to fake/lie your way through life. so get a JOB; any job so that you can cater for your immediate needs, then when you have a JOB, you can seek to better that situation... but until then, you are just wasting your life away seeking for the big prize when you cant even fix your own self.

Love800:
U are so wrong. Very wrong.
What do u understand by the word "child"?
A 19yr old is inexperience and immature to informations about life. He can if a has a guardian dat worked hard for him by providing information to the young lad. But which nigeria papa fit do dat one?
A 19yr old is a child. A young adult.
19-23- young adult.
24 upwards- full blown adult.
But mind u, the diffirence is how early u get quality informations dat will shape ur life. So even a 40yrs old can still be behaving like a child, though a adult.
Tankz

i fully disagree. a person's experience in life is irrelevant to who they are (aka child, teenager or adult).
a young adult is NOT a child. a 5/10yr old is a child. a 11yr old to a 17yr old is a TEENAGER, anything above 17yrs old is a young adult at best. dont be mistaking, you cant compare a 5yr old "child" with a 19yr old "young adult". a 5yr old child is still learning about life, a 19yr old is already a young adult starting his adult life. you cant be a child and an adult at the same time. you even.
here is a simple clue: children dont drive, young adults do; children are not allowed to drink, only young adults can.

you are right that the way you behave is important, but it certainly doesnt change who you are as a person. so a young adult could be acting CHILDISH, but that person is certainly NOT a child.

Mosetgg:
It has happened, the next thing is to correct it.
His number and his PayPal information is enough to get him. If only he knew who he defrauded he wouldn’t have thought of it.
He will pay far more than what he took, both with his freedom and assets.

true, but sadly, when you catch him and he goes to jail, you still may not get your money back.

IF A WOMAN HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOU AND RAISES HER HAND TO HIT YOU, YOU HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS TO DEFEND YOURSELF AGAINST SUCH DISRESPECTFUL WOMAN AND HIT HER BACK. an eye for an eye!

many men have died because they let women abuse them (while not retaliate)

you cant change a whole gender tactics, just like that. many women say NO when they mean YES simply because they dont want to look cheap/easy to get. but let us all be clear that this is NOT what leads to rape. what leads to rape is ignoramus who cant take NO for an answer. if a woman is screaming NO at the top of her lungs, then chances are she means it.

its called MOURNING... she doesnt give a fukc about VP (just like "you" wont care if/when your own parents past away)