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at least one of the above favourite is not gonna reach the semis... anyway PSG is winning this one!

Skooltynz:
omo this account locking no funny at all,i have 15k my last card on my palmpay but it has being freezed because of my NIN/BVN UPGRADE,i have inputed my BVN but hve lost my NIN slip,i dont even know what to do i need 3k to retrieve my lost NIN but everything is got now is my in palmpay account
please make una help me with anything just to eat oo i will pay you back after fixing it trust me i swear.

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GOD BLESS you.

so you have NO siblings, NO parents, NO extended family members, NO friends, NO neighbors, NO colleagues, NO street vendors in your street etc in your life that can borrow you chop money, that you need to come to NL and ask total strangers for help?!

Bossladyy:
MEN STOP DATING A LIABILITY!
1. A girl who doesn't have transport fare to visit someone that she claims she love. (liability)

3. Someone who can't comfortably call you on phone for 5 minutes.
Always flashing, complaining and requesting for data and airtime...(liability)

what does love got to do with BEING BROKE?! if you (a man) willingly go ahead and start dating a broke woman, then you should expect that she wont have money for transport/food/airtime/school fees etc. how immature of you to "now" claim she is a liability, while she was one FROM THE GET GO (but you still decided to date her).

4. I wonder how some Men cope with ladies that think relationship is an occupation where she's supposed to be paid and taken care of??(S*x is not a benefit to only men.). She might not even allow you have the s*x, yet you keep spending on her like government, kwantinue (liability)

many women think in this (foul) way because majority of men in Nigeria believe that they should make money 1st before seeking for women... aka wrongly teaching women that only men with money should approach them. so now, these deluded women ask men for money to prove to them that you are a indeed rich. dont blame women for that, blame the yeye donkeys who claim that:"make money and women will flock to you"
if a woman didnt value you when you were broke, you have no business being with her when you've finally made it

6. Date someone who's capable of managing multiplying whatever she has and the ones you give to her, your soul will be at peace!
Not someone that will always be at the receiving end.

not everyone has/need that... whats more important is to make sure that she can manage a family home/children (anything else is a bonus). some women out there are great mothers/wives but are useless at making money. that doesnt mean they are bad partners, it just means you should understand who she is and you should not put a business in her hand. she just brings different qualities to the table.

7. I'm not saying she must be rich.
But let her have something doing no matter how little it is, because no matter how much money you make, she must be able to assist you during the rainy days...

let her do exactly what she was doing when you met her and decided to be with her. if she was a beautiful olodo but you decided to date/marry her then do not expect this beautiful olodo to change her ways. if she was a doctor when you met her, then after childbirth and the kids are off to school, she will be so bored she will quickly ask to go back to work.

he spent enough time in jail already, let him rest... dude's been releasing mad tunes since the very 1st day he was locked up. this man is UNSTOPPABLE!!!

there is not much you can do but to contact his parents/Guardians and let them know of your findings... and hope for the best.

any man (especially billionaires) has the right to decide what type of woman/women he wants for his life. wealthy men buying women (like cattle stock) that are their great grand daughter's agemate, is nothing new.

to each their own misery...

only a fool gets pricey dental work in San Diego, when they can just hop over the border and get it for half price in Mexico... just sayin

the fact that this demon is still alive is what amazes me...

ONE bullet to the back of the head, no questions asked!

too many people are getting married for the wrong reasons... due to social/religious/family/peer pressure, and therefore have no respect for marriage nor their partner.

in the Arab world, they postpone matches during the ramadan and/or only play after sunset
in the west, most of these muslim players break their fast or simply dont play (and lose money).

chidiokay:
The threads say "What's The Difference Between An Alpha Man And A Simp?)

The same way i define ALPHAs is the same extension to Simp .. inbuilt : intuition, discretion , strength and intelligences level are the major differences between an Alpha & Simp

i see people using Women as the sole yardstick, which is not valid enough

yet you still not answering the question... is that so difficult to answer?

ok let me try slowly.... knowing that simps are solely graded upon their interaction with women, whats the difference between an alpha male (aka leader of the pack, top/dominant/confident brotha, decision maker etc) and a simp (aka a man who is used/abused/degraded/played by women)?

Afrobasic:
I disagree.
Simps are the main reason for the hoeflation we are witnessing in the dating market today.

i disagree, we always had low life hoes everywhere and/or women who try to abuse and degrade men for their own selfish/financial agenda. the catch is some of them were very sneaky before, but now that some men are willing to belittle themselves to be with these women, they openly seek for SIMPs rather than real men. also, we always had simps, the catch is that these men wouldnt openly show their weak low self esteem immature nature to the world... but it seems like today, its like a badge of honor (pride)

They over inflate the egos of these 304s to the point of delusion. Have a look at social media and see how bad these women behave, because they know that irrespective of their bad character, there's always some simp somewhere willing to wait and fund her life.

THATS A GOOD THING!!!! i dont know about you but i dont want to have anything to do with these low life cheap hoes (unless to bust a quick nut), and i'd rather i know straight from the get go who they are than wasting time/energy on a woman before realizing she is a low life cheap hoe.

A good example is the recent marriage of that BBN 304, Queen, who was sleeping around, got pregnant by another guy and still found a simp that waited through all these to marry her. Now tell me why she would change? When she had no consequence for her actions.

there will always be weak low self esteem men out there willing to wife a hoe, and if thats what they want for their life then so be it. i certainly do not think it is right to wife a hoe but if thats what some men wants to do then so be it.... because we are not created equal.
some brothas dont have what it takes to control their woman; some men dont have what it takes to stand to a woman's nonsense and say "NO/STOP"; some men dont have what it takes to walk away from a yeye good for nothing woman acting a damn fool....and therefore these men would fit perfectly with these damaged women who are treating men like garbage.

i dont want Queen to change, thats who she is, the whole world knows who she is, let her proudly stand for her hoe nature... because no real man should want her as a wife. i certainly do not expect her to change, why should she? these women are needed in the world. they are fun to fukc, fun to use, fun to mount when you want to bust a quick nut etc... the catch is that YOU SHOULDNT DATE/MARRY THEM and instead simply pass her along to the next brotha to have fun with her.

chidiokay:
Its appalling that "ALPHAS" as being limited to women affairs only, its beyond that
ALPHAness is all about natural attributes based on discretion, intuition and intelligence to stand out among peers (male or female)

stick to the issue at hand. you are giving us the definition of an alpha male but sadly, the question was not WHAT IS AN ALPHA MALE? the question is: WHATS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AN ALPHA MALE AND A SIMP?

now care to answer the OP's question?

shortgun:
This is not true.
Report shows that individuals who make frequent visits to medical facilities have a higher mortality rate than those who do not

we are talking of top athletes here... not yeye out of shape common people.

actually, i believe these simps are needed so women know exactly who the REAL MEN are...

damaged women who now believe that their mental illness is a decent way of life.

often happens to top athletes who dont get proper medicals.

HHMM ok

cococandy:
No you just want the single women to be desperate about it. And when they are not you guys get upset. Hence the constant harping on and on about single women that men tend to do.
No one is more obsessed about single women than men are
Please exist in your lane and leave single women alone

at least let us be honest here... with bodyclock etc, single women in that age bracket (35 yrs old or over) would be highly desperate to marry, compare to men of this same age.

yes men are obsessed with single women, because we men want/need them as mates (and vice versa). no single person wants to remain single all their life, thus why the obsession with singles of the opposite sex... but as much as single status is important to us men, so is AGE.... and that goes for EVERYTHING IN OUR LIVES:
- why buy an old iphone if/when you can get a newer model for that same price?
- why eat old food if/when you can get fresh food for that same price?
- why buy old clothes if/when you can buy new ones for that same price?
- why get an old car if/when you can get a newer model for that same price?

as much as older women dont like to hear this reality of life, it is what it is. a 35yr old single woman who brings the same to the table as a 28yr old single woman, would ALWAYS BE OVERLOOKED and dismissed at the expense of the younger one. its that simple

EmekaStanley:
Lately I have been seeing lots of parrots videos on my fyp on TikTok, especially the talking ones. I found it so cute and amazing.
This afternoon on my way back to the office, I saw a guy selling these parrots, na so I call am, bought the parrots, 2-in-1 for that matter.
Getting to the office, as a new and first time pet owner, I was excited.
I noticed that if I tried to to get close to the parrots via the cage, they turned their backs especially the smaller one.
I didn't know what prompted me to try bringing the birds out from the cage with my hands, one of the birds grabbed my finger with it's beak and bit me real hard.
It gave a cut that bled more than I'll ever imagine.
Long story short, I just told my office assistant to carry the birds to her house. I no do pet owner again.
Imagine if this had bitten any of my kids.
Same day I owned a pet, same day I became petless.
ES

so you though that this parrot will just be comfortable around you after just 5mins? it will take you months if not years before these birds are comfortable around.
dont you see many people also having pet lions/tigers. if you now got an adult wild lion/tiger as pet, would you also enter their cage and put your hand in their mouth?! lol! not even domesticated pets would do that...it takes time for any animal to trust you.

cococandy:
they are single at the same rate as men. Y’all Just chose to focus on the women

yes but its so much more difficult for a comfortable woman 35yr old (or over) to get married than it would be for a man of that same age/comfort. so men of that age are not stressed/desperate about it, like women are.

Faposky95:
Desperate times need desperate measures.
A bible prophecy is about to be fulfilled though....

let us all be honest here:
why would men settle for these desperate women with their desperate measures? whats the incentive when we all know that any of these men out there (and their dog) knows that there is equally gazillions of 18-25yr old single women that are desperate to marry too.

cococandy:
1) Settled men are not overlooking women in their 30s. Let’s not accept your conjecture as facts. Like I said, it’s another hideous lie aimed at telling women they have to settle for anyone or they will miss out. Sorry it is true.

we are talking about a 35yr old single woman here... but hey if you believe otherwise, then so be it you are entitled to your opinion (just like i am). but if you truly believe that a comfortable man would choose a 35 yr old, over a 28yr old or even 25yr old that brings exactly the same (and/or even more) as this 35yr old would bring, then you are not being honest with the truth here.

2) where’s the pretense? Unless you’re not reading what I’m posting, I’ve stated clearly that a young woman is only marrying an older man if he’s wealthy.So yes I know why a young woman would marry a man that’s extra old. But many Nigerian men are not wealthy. There are those older men who can get young women but it’s not a majority of you.
The examples you gave earlier shows that you’re so far removed from the Nigerian society, many women are already financially in those positions you described. I wonder what would make them see it as a reason to get into an unwanted marriage with an unreasonable age gap. Please what’s 200k/month that will make a young woman accept to be a third wife ?

again, the above in bold is were you are going off topic.... YES, single women that are well in their thirties may be financially comfortable to refuse to date an older gentleman, but these 18-25yr old women are certainly NOT financially comfortable and therefore would NOT overlook an older man coming with a secure and comfortable life. furthermore, that 35yr old single woman would be desperate to get married and have a family due to her bodyclock, while these youngins wouldnt.
better yet, how many 18-25yr old single woman in Nigeria do you know that earns 200k? 10/20/50 women... ok thats great, now how many jobless, broke, hungry, desperate to marry 18-25 yr old single women do you know? 1000/10k/100K women.

The only answer is that it’s a result of y’all’s incessant shaming tactics aimed at bullying them into marriages they do not truly desire.

this has nothing to do with shaming/bullying women into settling, it has all to do with Nigerian SOCIAL/CULTURAL/RELIGIOUS/FAMILY pressure that brainwashes women into believing that their only salvation in life is with marrying a man (and nothing else).

PS i wont even talk of the gazillion yeye ones who just want to copy what they see on social media, at any cost, and would therefore marry any donkey out there.

meobizy:
The painful part is, bloggers and entertainment reporters will never know when or if this happened. If she didn’t say it herself, nobody would ever know. How Nigeria go better when we can’t train ordinary journalists? Our people are informed of events long after they’ve lost significance.

majority of these bloggers and/or entertainment reporters are only interested in the juicy stuff... thats what sell newspapers and/or bring traffic to their website/profile. if she had said that she was dating a blind albino midget, then they would all be interested and share the story like mad.

cococandy:
You’re perpetuating and propagating a message you claim not to be the author of. You don’t make rules but you’re enforcing it. So there’s no difference.

this is a national message that all Nigerians understand... a 18-25yr old woman today want the security/comfort of life that men her age cannot offer her. a 18-25yr old woman today want to get married yet men her age are just going through the hustle bustle of life and dont even know where they are going (let alone get married with someone)

let us not pretend that we dont understand exactly why so many 18-25yr old women are willing to marry older men in Nigeria. let us also not pretend we dont understand why many of these now settled/comfortable older men overlook a +35yr old to go marry a much younger woman.

cococandy:
You still live in this mental lala land that most of you have convinced yourselves is true.
I hate to break it to you. No 18-25 year old is checking for a forty year old man unless he’s very wealthy. And unless you’d rather deal in online nonsense than facts, many of you are far from wealthy. So the number of 40 year old men who will get that teenage (insert face of disgust) girl they want for marriage is only going to be limited.

again, i dont make the rules, i just follow them. a 40yr old dont have to be rich in Nigeria to get a 18-25yr old. you have a good car, you can get that 18-25yr old; you have a good job and your own apt, you can get that 18-25yr old; you wash dishes abroad but just got back to Nigeria with small small dollars to splash on these younger women, you can get that 18-25yr old; you are a married Nigerian that earns 200k monthly with a steady job and a good house, you can get that 18-25yr old to marry as a 2nd/3rd wife.

yes, 18-25yr old women dont go seeking for 40yr olds, but when such men come their ways and bring a mature lifestyle (aka his own house, car, a good job, security, comfort etc), these young women value them over the broke 22yr old who only can bring good anaconda to the table.

The rest of you will have to choose from women with 10 years or less of your age gap.

sadly, majority of men dont think like you women do. we have a set standard of what a "great woman to marry" is. that standard never change throughout our life, whether we are 22, 42 or 62.

For context I turned 34 last month and most of my high school/university classmates are only just getting married. Some within the last couple of years. Some with invites for dates in the coming months and into next year. And their husbands are within the same age bracket as them

remember, i am not saying that a 35yr old is a bad woman, many women get married at 35... i am just saying AGAIN that" if no men ever considered you nor looked at you as a possible mate all through these yrs, by the time you get to 35yrs old then its too late to now believe that you will enter market and people will rush for your goods" simply because men who didnt consider her as marriage potential at 28, will not suddenly rush for her at 35.

And I don’t what you guys tell these hideous lies for. So that young girls can think they have no value outside of marriage or that if they don’t say yes to the first few dvumfcks that come their way then they are screwed for life.
With the same mouth if they make a mistake y’all will be the first to say they should have chosen better.

i dont make the rules, i just follow them... this is what PARENTS tell their children in Nigeria; this is what PASTORS tell their sheep in Nigeria; this is what Nigerian SOCIETY/CULTURE tells Nigerians... marriage is a big deal in Nigeria, whether we like it or not. why do you think that Nigerians look down on rich and famous Nigerian women who aint married? why do you think that people still insult the Linda Ikejis and the Genevieves to go and get married (even with all their wealth)?! the value of a woman in Nigeria/Africa is solely based on if/when she gets married and has a family.

It’s cruelty at best. And something worse if we want to be for real

life in Nigeria/Africa has never been easy for men or women, let us not try (today) to make it look otherwise... the difference is that a man can easily get married after 40yrs old while the same couldnt be said for women...simply because the value of a man really "starts" from 30 and never stops while the value of women starts at 18 but "stops" at 35.

again, dont shoot the messenger.

Faposky95:
Because you no be woman ehhhnnn...?!
Let ladies drop the high horse shitz and locate a friend..... something may happen......
Time dey go

- so what were these women doing all their lives that "no friends was located"?
- why should these women suddenly change out of desperation to get married? NOOOO, let them continue being who they are AND accept who they are.

Elohorp:
It's too small,if that's what you can afford them not ready for marriage life yet,wait a little

if thats what you guys can afford then thats what you guys have to work with... nobody should pretend to be who they are not. a man and a woman can easily live in the above room although i wouldnt advise them to have children "yet". when they better their lives they can get a bigger apt and start a family.

just because you guys are married doesnt mean you have to have kids recklessly, regardless of whether you can afford/accommodate kids or not.

Jokerman:
Better to be called "old cargo", rather than being single till death

alizma:
And you consider this your advise better than being called a desperate person?

9japride:
[/color]Life is not that difficult. A wise lady will propose to the guy that is chasing feelings for her but too shy to approach her.

MisterBanny:
Why would she let go? Nawao to some of una oo. Who told u she can't get married at age 36 and even beyond?

hopexter:
There’s nothing wrong in giving the advice a try, after all men have been subjected to different names calling but that didn’t kill us.

Truthshotcrazy:
[color=#990000] Paris Hilton got married at 40. Even some women who marry early at 25 before 40 are divorced and in the single and ready to mingle market again.
Won't be surprised if 43 years old Kim Kardashian remarries again.

bigman001:
Bro you are not in any position to talk for the ladies, because you have gbola and you can browse any network if you so wish, so you can never understand what it means not to be married at such age, or not even having a suitor. Let the ladies speak since they understand what it feels like to be lonely or not been married while growing old.

so you guys mean its better to be called old cargo AND being single til death at the same time? isnt it better to accept your fate and be merry? let us all be honest here:

A) if a woman reaches 35 and no men has ever tried to marry her, then you have to look within yourself to see whats wrong WITH YOU! if you are beautiful, smart with the right character (and didnt focus on oloshoism during all your youthful years), then some men would have proposed to you by then. there is something seriously wrong with a woman that no man wanna approach for marriage.
B) why would a sane man (aged up to 40yr old) settle for a desperate 35yr old (almost into menopause) woman when he can easily settle for a 18-25yr old fresh woman? in Nigeria a 35 yr old is considered old cargo, in the west, 40yr old are old cargos...lets be real abeg!
C) only men well into their 70s would consider a 35yr old, because we all age differently. women have a sell by date while we men dont.
D) unless you have something valid to bring to the table (aka hard cash or a very successful career), majority of men would overlook such desperate 35yr old 9ja woman as a future wife. why should they even take such gamble?
E) yes Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton etc can get married at +40, but let us not fool ourselves, they are just rich and famous OLD CARGOs Paris Hilton and Kim K are some of the worst example you guys should bring to this table. they've wh0re themselves all throughout their younger years (BOTH have a sextape online for all to see their "glory" ) and found a simp to finally marry their "rich and famous old cargo" self. without money, they would still be wh0ring themselves around from one man to the other.
F) as for old rich men, they dont even consider these old cargos... so you guys believe that Ned couldnt find a 25-45yr old to marry when he decided to marry 19yr old Regina?! an old rich man can easily marry his great grand daughter's agemate in Nigeria.

BTW i am not saying a 35yr woman is a bad person, i am just saying that there will always be a better/Younger/fitter options out there.
ABEG dont shoot the messenger!