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Why would you propose to your girl at someone's wedding?  That's their special day and let them have that limelight for a day! 

You should come up with something more personal and make it special for YOU GUYS without an audience.

Remember it is just a proposal not an introduction nor a wedding.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=828490.msg9797466#msg9797466 date=1324307615]Sweeery. by the way, am related to Snooop Dog!   (3rd Cousin) [/quote]Snoop from Charlie Brown? That makes sense!

[size=55pt]RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!![/size]

Nj girl:
love can do a lot of things to people including affecting d way they think, this applies to both genders, but since its a mans world ladies need to sojourn d world with wisdom.
Hence ladies DON't
1 Give up your dreams 4 a man: eg u are in skul and u have a bf with whom u cohabit, then completely ignore your studies to turn to a househelp, or u re seeking admision and dating but instead of concentrating u re overwhelmed with love and hence ignore your dreams, seriously that is not wise cos same dude u gave up your dreams 4 will be hustling and when he decides to break up he wont consider your sacrifices.
2 Expose urself to STD cos of love; d anatomy of a woman makes her more susceptible to STDS including d incurable AIDS dan d male, some dudes claim to lyk it without protection, and many females out of love succumb; he myt just be cheating on u without protection and u myt just get AIDS or other stds.
3 Commit murder cos of a dude; i saw a thread here abt a lady dat hat 4 abortions 4 one dude, dats just insane, which kinda love would make a lady kill 4 unborn kids, risk losing her uterus and stil cumback to d same man. Abortion is d murder of a very very very very very young child. Dont let love turn u to a murderer

Just when I thought you couldn't hurt any more! Gbam! Some women often misconstrue desperation and loneliness with love for a guy. They will do whatever it takes to be with a man and inherit his full attention. I always tell women if you have to submerse your true essence of self to have a man then he isn't the man for you.

That's why I always recommend women to befriend their boyfriend/husband first before getting serious.

zolzlolz:
I was talking about why it might be wrong for some black men and women to marry interracially. Of course you know the historical interaction between black people and white people and the effects it had on many black people. Effects that have been passed down for generations. Some black people hate themselves so much, that by marrying White people firstly they get some sort of positive validation and secondly they breed their blackness out by having mixed children. I've seen two posts already that say the mixed children are "more beautiful". What does that tell you of the self-esteem of the black person writing. Who knows, maybe your "black husband" married you because hates himself? *shrugs shoulders*

Regardless of what anyone say or try to defend, self racism does exist and it is real.   As I have stated before YOUR PREFERENCE in whom you want to date and marriage is on you BUT THE ISSUE I have with some people is justifying and belittling THEIR group to impress their lap dogs. 

Believe it or not, many Asians have self racism and will only identify themselves as white.  Hmm.

bekay911:
Well i c nothing wrong with adopting a child or tvo as long as we both agree. But cant impotency b detected  b4 marriage if tests r carried out?.

More logical way it to have sex with the person to determine if there are any reproductive issues however, you do not need test nor cohabitation to detect if someone has a sexual problem.  

Our bodies are amazing but complex at the same time and many women/men are healthy at some point even at procreating.  However, our bodies has it own timeline of when one will carry out a child and age has nothing to do with one's ability to procreate.  For example, men can procreate a healthy child at 99 and a woman in her 60's delivered triplets without medical technology.  

Impotency isn't genetic and often time it has to do with our diet and lifestyle.  You can be with a man for a long time whether you live together or not and not notice any sexual issue because impotency maturates through time.

What contract fool?

LMAO@cohabitation disclose impotency 

I swear some people sef!  People are constantly proving my point about loving someone UNCONDITIONALLY isn't common in TODAY'S society.

slimyem:
i'dd rather not marry at all than sign such with any man for any reason whatsoever and like flash said,marriage is so NOT A BUSINESS ARRANGEMENT! at least not for me

We are not talking about YOUR MOTIVE TO GET MARRIED, we are talking about the overall arrangement of marriage.  Anytime money/fund/collateral/bonds is exchanged between a customer and an organization, it is a business transaction/arrangement.

Again, marriage IN TODAY'S society is a business arrangement when governments INTERFERE with God's natural orders. 

Forefathers and mothers back in the ancient times weren't paying court fees and licenses fees to get married.  Prenuptial agreements are contracts therefore it is a business transaction and if you get a divorce in developing countries divorce IS LUCRATIVE. 

That smells like business arrangement to me.

Flashaldrin:
that's not relevant.
the truth is most women entice and lure men to marry them just for their wealth.
hope you read enough hardley chases

Unlike your sisters, I don't need to chase men. I make my OWN MONEY. It is a foreign concept to you and yours. Let it soak a minute.

The fact that MEN ARE PAYING bride price and proposing IS RELEVANT to THIS THREAD and it DOESN'T MATTER HOW HARD OR FREQUENT A WOMAN CHASE A MAN, a man STILL has to say I DO.

Dum dum.

bright007:
@mrs chima:sorry if I didn't put it well.But I know for sure dat she has got bad breadth.

There are always two sides of every story. Let me ask her.

Flashaldrin:
try to draw your conclusions from facts.

You seems a bit overly defensive. You are the "she" he is referring to huh?

Flashaldrin:
nah, more like when women saw it as a means of making money they didnt work for!

I'm sure you got up to ten lawyers to help sign yours Mr chima don enter!!

Please don't confuse me with your gold digging sisters. If women are seeing it as a means to make money then why are MEN paying bride prices and PROPOSING to women and not the other way around?

Princek12:
so, in the same vein, are you saying lady who asks for a prenup does not trust him?

It goes both ways but men are more likely to ask for prenups than women.

Miscarriages are considered involuntary abortions so those women who experienced miscarriages, murderers?

Flashaldrin:
^^there was no joystick sucking, get your dirty mind outta here

How do YOU know?    Suspect!  

When government decided to interfere with God's natural orders it became business henceforward.

Flashaldrin:
you guys are making marriage sound like a business

obowunmi:
Darkskin, you will continue with an impotent man ? No kids? No sex ? Do you know what I mean by impotence ?

Why do you think some married or dating couples adopt children? Just for sports? No, for some reason either the woman or the man can't have children of their own so they opted for adoptions. I know several couples who are married that has children by adoption because one of them can't produce children.

Barren women and impotent men are happily married or dating with those who accepted them flaws and all.

Shocking, I know!

Op

Did you noticed BEFORE she sucked your dick or AFTER she sucked your dick?

If the prenup is fair and sensible for both parties then I don't see an issue.  Just know by law a person can contest the prenup as unfair and unjust so many people doesn't know that prenup agreements aren't always withstanding.  

Ladies, prenup agreements in some cases can protect you and if you have a good lawyer the prenup agreement can be written so that both parties are given fair share of everything earned after the marriage because who knows what can happen.  You may end up being the bread winner and without a prenup, your assets are divided or dissolved.  

So if a man feels comfortable enough to ask you for a prenup then he doesn't trust you.

Shanay:
I am in a friendship with an Nigerian guy. His ethnic group is Ibo. He is a first year medical surgeon. I am African American with a regular paying job. We have only been friends for 1 month in a half. He had a birthday recently and I offered to by gift of cologne or shirt, which he declined and ask for expensive 300.00 USD gift.   Which I did not buy. Then I ask his sister What would be inexpensive gift for him for Christmas. Thinking that she is woman with family she would understand times are hard and have better understanding of inexpensive than he. She gives me ideas of 200.00, 300.00, and 450.00 USD gift. Then she request a gift for herself that cost over 100.00 USD.   Is this normal? This kind of behavior is frowned upon in the US. When I refuse these gifts he calls me stingy. I am the most giving person, but I feel like they are trying to take advantage of me. Am I wrong in my thinking?

First, I want to stress to you that it has absolutely nothing to do with his ethnicity because all Nigerians aren't the same just as well as all Americans aren't the same. We need to judge each person individually which could be hard for many but that is the truth.

Secondly, You are in a friendship with a guy who is a student most likely he doesn't have a job or sustaining income so he is looking for "relief" from you. You guys aren't dating, exclusive, engaged, nor married YET he feels comfortable enough to ask you for things KNOWING your situation. That's insensitive and disrespectful.

Third, he REFUSES FREE GIFTS BY ASKING FOR EXPENSIVE GIFTS. WTF. Seriously! That's inconsiderate for your feelings and a slap in the face. He has taken you for granted that you are willing to pay for his time and half.

Fourth, the sister isn't looking out for HER BROTHER, she is looking out for HER POCKET. She has the nerve to suggest what type of gifts you should give him then IN RETURN asked YOU TO BUY HER GIFTS. WTF. Seriously! Do she have a man OF HER OWN that she should be asking? Just saying.

Fifth, the fact that you felt compelled enough to come on a world wide web and asked faceless chatters if your thoughts were right tell me that you have already made up your mind about what you should do but AFRAID to do so and need encouragements. It is good that you have recognized the bullshit and should deal with your ex-friend accordingly because if he can act like this as a friend, he would definitely act like this as YOUR HUSBAND.

Don't be a fool and there are plenty of limp noodles out there that will appreciate your cologne and shirt. Good luck!

[quote author=D-sense link=topic=827741.msg9793650#msg9793650 date=1324262997]Kai . . .me like that style too . . . But it has to be with mature people,not some riff raffs

OP.

Its very normal.

U wish

Does he do the down like i do it [/quote]You wish you can cook better. Keep dreaming oloshi.

ogugua88:
Tell nothing to no one. Some people feel the need to weigh in on everyone's issues or lack of, romantic ones included, which could end up clouding one's outlook on his or her boyfriend or girlfriend. The less said the better. My lips are sealed as if superglue is my lip balm because I simply have no time for any kind of input from anyone lol.

Awww@profile picture. When is the wedding?

I would tell people good general things about Oga Chima but that it.

For example, Oga Chima can make good pepper soup.

I know intelligent Nigerian women are asking for something more PRUDENT than an out of style phone and some dead people hair. Seriously.

LMAO@OP excited about a toy car.

OP

I like nice warm bubble baths.