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Idowuogbo: u serious? panic attacks on d phone? she get syndrome?

Maybe but she was gasping for air and sounding like she was having a seizure.

I am with Jallowbah on this...there is no way I would tolerate such disrespect.

Idowuogbo: No! wetin i wan use pics do wen i see d same person every damn day.

You would be surprised and my friend was panic attacks on the phone! She think that men who do not have pictures are cheating.

k2039: I have the pictures of my close friends,both male and female on my phone.
So its clearly obvious I will have her picture when I get engaged and also when I get married

Do you think her husband is wrong for not having a picture of his wife on his phone?

Do you carry a picture of your partner or spouse? Back in the day.....some people used to carry color photo in the wallet or in their book bag. With the rise of technological gadgets...people have photos of their love ones on their phone or computer.

A friend of mine called me and told me that she was using her husband's phone and realized there is NO PICTURE of her on his phone. I asked her do she have any photos of him on her phone...she responded yes. The reason I asked the question was to see if she isn't being hypocritical.

She went on and on about how upset she felt and betrayed. I might be missing the point...but I don't see why she should be upset about her husband not having a photo on his phone. I mean I wouldn't see an issue with someone having picture of their loved ones...but is it important?

Personally...I wouldn't care if my husband doesn't have a photo of me on his phone because it doesn't change the price of garri.

Your thoughts?

I feel sorry for the Oyinbo chicks.

OP....you need to cite the source because you copied and pasted this.

CrazyMan: Nope it doesn't.


Before leaving your matrimonial home, you should ask yourself certain questions...

What lead to the marital infidelity?

Do you both spend as much time as you did in the early stages of your marriage?

Do you tolerate each other?

Has your spouse asked for your forgiveness, and you refused? They say apologizing doesn't mean you're wrong...rather it simply shows that you value the relationship more than your ego.

Or has he or she attacked your self-esteem by implying that you haven't been a worthy enough partner to warrant sustained loyalty?

What I think is that if the couples in question can swallow their hatred, pride and unforgiving spirit...and accept their faults, I'm sure that a divorce would be the last agenda on their list.


Then avoid separation and fight to save your marriage period!

I am using a phone so I can't cut and paste...but in regards to your last sentence....you said in the other post that you would encourage woman to leave the house not divorce but leave the house. Now how can someone fight for their marriage if they are getting kicked in the back and thrown across the room? How can you expect a sane person to stay in a house of such abuse?

You know that doesn't make any sense and I am sure if you were in an abusive relationship...you wouldn't stay in a house either.

CrazyMan: First, you should know that I'm against divorce...regardless of the magnitude of the offense.

Secondly, we're discussing about online cheating, and not the physical one.

But if you insist on physical cheating, I shall explain further...Marriages if you must know, are built on mutual respect and trust. Therefore you musn't allow it fall apart just because an attractive third party came into the scene.

You two must go back to the drawing table and ask yourselves possible questions that lead to the intrusion of the third party.

I'm sure that if that love is built on a solid rock, there's no way that it wouldn't withstand the storm.


The only time I would advise a lady to leave her matrimonial home ( Not divorcing her husband )is if her husband has practically turned her into a punching bag.

In such cases, staying can be very dangerous because such a person could end up taking your life in the process.

Therefore I would recommend that she leaves his house for the time being.

Since you don't encourage people to divorce for ANY REASONS...do you think that encourages adultery? If a woman/man leave the home because the home is violative or unsafe and there is no hope for reconcilliation because one party is determined to maintain their destructive way of life...you think the person will avoid all temptations not to engage in a relationship that is opposite of what they are used to?

To me...adultery is worse than divorce since after a trial separation and there is no hope. A person can accept alienation for so long.

Let me ask this question Crazyman.....what do you suggest a couple do when one partner found out her/his spouse is cheating or cheated?

Are there any other instances in relationship that you encourage couples to stay. leave, or indifferent?

sweetchicks: well you might be wondering what i'm talking about...

point is .. my mother wants me to keep my options open even when she knows i'm currently in a relationship..the funny thing is even my friends are saying the same thing that their mothers are of the same opinion..
they surely have a point anyways, because your boo might just up and leave anytime ^{boys of nowadays!}. but then, i feel nowadays its practically impossible to be juggling more than a guy; personally i think its emotionally draining and too much hard work plus how possible is it to have a relationship with guys these days without them breathing down your neck about sex?.. totally impossible!!!
i have tried keeping male friends, it has never worked. they are all sexually attracted to me.. that's why i don't bother with the notion again... even casual dates are no longer innoceent ..

There are women who are in relationships with men they are not sexual with it is your mindset that carries how your will function in your relationship. Of course men would want to have sex with you....if you are giving vibes that you are an easy play...why wouldn't they not take heed to that?

It is not complicated to have sex nor get someone who is h0rny. You just have to know the type of dudes you are befriending and establish boundaries...if that is not what you want then enjoy life.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI]lol thanks jare

Let's make some grown azz boys cry [/quote]

SPIFF: A friend needed my advice.

Though living continents apart, She suspected her husband might be cheatn on her. She trapped him. Opened new Facebk account with a different name and nice pix to get to him.

He fell for it. Said so many unimaginable things about his wife to this new stranger and that he's ready to divorce her asap. She later revealed her true identity. Caught him redheaded.

She's ready to end the 5 month wedding because of that but I advised otherwise. Told her to reconcile and forgive him since he has apologized and begged for her forgiveness.

Plz is that a wise advice I gave.

The best advice you could have gave her was to STAY OUT OF IT. You can simply be there for her as she need to vent or cry but advising her what she should do with her marriage is wrong. That's why I am always advising people on Nairaland to talk with their partner and FIND OUT what best FOR THEM.

WE ARE NOT IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP, FLY ON TH WALL, NOR KNOW THE WHOLE STORY. So it is best not to get involve and just simply be there for her next time she call and cry.

Now if he was beating her azs then I would say something about that because you do not want her to end up dead but this is a cheating matter so let it blow over.

[quote author=Ileke-IdI]WHy are you scared of me joining this debate? I want to oppose, dammit![/quote]Welcome aboard suga.

I am going to keep it real here because some people will deny it to the bitter end.

This message is for the married women....KEEP YOUR FRIENDS, ASSOCIATES, and co-workers OUT OF YOUR HUSBAND'S FACE. There is no need for them to be in your husband's face. He has friends that he can talk to and if he need a female companion...THAT'S YOUR JOB.

I am not saying that your friends and company are hoes...but you need to watch the single ones the most. Don't exclude the married one either because they can be some dirty hoes.

Your friends has no business asking you personal things regarding your husband..if she do...WATCH THAT HO. Tell her to get her own man and stay away from yours. It is unfortunate that we live in a world where people have no boundaries or respect for marriage/relationship these days so don't think your relationship is safe from temptation!

In fact...check out my diary because that is going to be my next topic!

No, I don't. We have our phones laying around so there is no need to snoop and in fact I am not interested in knowing his emails. It is his privacy and I respect it. He doesn't ask me for my emails either.

We have nothing to hide.

My opinion is that couples that are dating should establish a rule of who will pay and how it would be paid. For instance, if a girl asked a guy out then she should pay because it is her treat and the guy should do the same thing next time around. It is fair for both sides and no one will feel like they are being used or taken advantage of.

for married couples, it really doesn't matter who pay....it is coming out of the family's pot I don't need my husband to give me money to pay for anything...if he feel the house need new curtains then he can go out and get them and pay for them.

Culture or not. I am not big on traditions, customs, and cookie cutter idealities.

Even those claiming to be god-fearing are braised in the devil's blood.

I don't trust any man that say he is god-fearing....an imperfect man thrive to be better than his sinful self. That's the man I respect.