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This is really sad and the bank officials are so unprofessional. Contact the CBN via mail and all social media platforms especially Twitter.

Denoh68:
BRO SHUT THE HELL UP, I AM IGBO FROM AROCHUKWU,I AM CURRENTLY LIVING WITH MY PASTOR WHO IS A YORUBA MAN,MY ONLY BROTHER IS MARRIED TO YORUBA WOMAN.MY FRIEND TOSIN, A YORUBA PASTOR MARRIED AN IGBO GIRL FROM IMO,I WAS WITH HIM FROM THE BEGINNING TO THE LAST DAY.MARRIAGE THING DEPENDS ON FAMILY.TOSIN DIDN'T SPEND UP TO 100K,IF YOU WANT CHAT ME UP ON WHATSAPP 07084902573 I WILL SEND YOU THE PICS AND VIDEOS, NO DRINKS,NO CANOPIES,NO ASO EBI,NO GOOD FOOD SEF.WHEN THE WOMAN WAS SICK THE FAMILY PAID ALL HER BILLS,TILL DATE PASTOR TOSIN DOESN'T HAVE A JOB THE GIRL'S FAMILY STILL FEED TOSIN AND THEIR DAUGHTER.

Tell Tosin to go and get a job and stop relying on the poor girl's family for survival. It's shameful and disgusting to see able bodied man with no job but could go ahead and marry and be sleeping with her.

I'm sure if they should have kids now, the girl's family will be the one to fund and feed them too. This is among the reasons poverty continues in some family. And this is the reason pastors always feed fat on their congregation's offerings and tithes.

Denoh68:
BRO SHUT THE HELL UP, I AM IGBO FROM AROCHUKWU,I AM CURRENTLY LIVING WITH MY PASTOR WHO IS A YORUBA MAN,MY ONLY BROTHER IS MARRIED TO YORUBA WOMAN.MY FRIEND TOSIN, A YORUBA PASTOR MARRIED AN IGBO GIRL FROM IMO,I WAS WITH HIM FROM THE BEGINNING TO THE LAST DAY.MARRIAGE THING DEPENDS ON FAMILY.TOSIN DIDN'T SPEND UP TO 100K,IF YOU WANT CHAT ME UP ON WHATSAPP 07084902573 I WILL SEND YOU THE PICS AND VIDEOS, NO DRINKS,NO CANOPIES,NO ASO EBI,NO GOOD FOOD SEF.WHEN THE WOMAN WAS SICK THE FAMILY PAID ALL HER BILLS,TILL DATE PASTOR TOSIN DOESN'T HAVE A JOB THE GIRL'S FAMILY STILL FEED TOSIN AND THEIR DAUGHTER.

Tell Tosin to go and get a job and stop relying on the poor girl's family for survival. It's shameful and disgusting to see able bodied man with no job but could go ahead and marry and be sleeping with her.

I'm sure if they should have kids now, the girl's family will be the one to fund and feed them too. This is among the reasons poverty continues in some family. And this is the reason pastors always feed fat on their congregation's offerings and tithes.

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TemmyDayo50:
I'm not regretting the pregnancy Mr man.. So no bitter lesson to learn here.. You dig...

You were lamenting about the bride price and all.

MessiahMARLIANS:
Wonderful.


I'm from The Yoruba Part of Nigeria too.


However; As an Agricultural Journalistic Entertainment Tourist (AJET); I Travelled Down To Cross River State and Have Settled in Ekori, Yakurr Local Government Area for about 2 Years since I left The Year 2020 EndSars Protest in Ikeja, Lagos State.




To The Glory of God Almighty;

I'll be getting Married To My Bossom and Missing Rib Whom I Met This Year as an MTN Customer Care Representative when i went to retrieve my line at The MTN Office in UGEP Town.


We will be getting married Next Weekend - December 9, 10; 202.

All Nairalanders are invited

As a teacher on Nairaland; She's now a nairalander too...and I'm teaching her to teach other people on Nairaland How to bank "Customer Care Representative" Jobs with Brands and Top Companies.

(For Your Information; UGEP is The Town That Yearly Host "MISS LEBOKU" which is One of The Paramount Rural Tourism Attractions for Business Initiators and Investment Tourist.




My Present Wife-To-Be attended to me very respectfully, selflessly and sacrificially like MTN was Her Papa's Office.


And Since I loved her selflessness and respectful manners - Somehow Today; The rest is HISTORY.



Below is The Bride Price Provided to me from her family.



This is exactly what is obtainable in The South-South; Precisely UGEP.

Very unnecessary information.

TemmyDayo50:
I'm really proud of we yorubas in this aspect... I can remember during my elder sis wedding, we made things just too easy for the groom.. No stress and unnecessary bills on him... Infact, he'd already have the sense of these people not selling their daughter....

Fast forward to 2022, I impregnated an Igbo lady.. I reason am say make I kuku tie knot with her... The bills these people put on me alone mehn, I was shocked... I tot it was just exaggeration that igbos traditional rites is expensive... That shit got me so pissed like are u guys trying to fucking sell your daughter... I realised they don't even care about if you really want to take care of their daughter or not... All they care about is that list and the exorbitant unnecessary things on the list... Las Las, it discouraged me totally...

No love from those people at all... Well, maybe it's just how that particular family is wired!

The problem is not the Igbo or their tradition, but you. Your recklessness led to the pregnancy, which brought the reason why you got involved in the mess.

I'm sure you've learnt your lesson.

Mindlog:
Love the poem.

It makes no sense the entire family travelling at the same time as many thought they would gat accomodation easily upon arrival, only to find themselves staying in an Airbnb for some weeks.

Thank you. Some even spend months.

crood:
Really? i can't wait to visit oh, all my life i have been hearing about there but never could imagine how it be like to finally be there!!!

Just be more careful and be vigilant. Lagos is about smartness.

No place like Lagos.

I can't relate. Love will make you weak, indecisive and reckless. I can't afford to be vunerable.

One communist gone.

Nigeria, another name for hell.

Indeed a distinguished attorney. I hope many others emulate him. Sadly, many young attorneys have turned to real estate agents.

olasaad:
Because our media are biased. They are more interested in painting the North black than exposing most of the atrocities going on in the South.

Their bias is not peculiar to a particular location, it cut across.

toysoldier13:
Hello, I just got an appointment date. Please what is the minimum account balance for the proof of funds for student visa for Poland?

You didn't know that before you started the whole process? What if you couldn't get the said amount in your account now? Or you are among those using fake statement of account?

Well, how long did it take you to get that date because many have been complaining about gettimg appointment date?

The innocent devil is now the culprit. Humans!

Dshocker:
How is it a trick?

And if you claim anyone can do it, please i "ask" how do you, or how can you do it?

Find the queen been and see what will happen.

He was/is lusting after you but couldn't get you. He's jealous of the closeness between you and Mr. A and it's written all over him. He didn't want to be a sissy, hence the reason he started talking to Mr. A again. Although he's still a sissy for his actions of being jealous and keeping malice with you both.

Funny enough, he's fighting over a married woman and that shows how shallow he is. A typical man with inferiority complex and sexual indiscipline.

Ignore him and continue your friendship with Mr. A while you focus more on being productive at work but don't hold any grudge against him.

I wish you well.

Dshocker:
What do you expect, when Christmas is around the corner.

Psychologically, they both planned it, because they were two, and one of them was the person that came up with the idea and the other bought it and played along, since 150k was involved and will go a long way for them this festive period.

150k has no monetary value in Nigeria, but due to the current situation of Nigeria, 150k is a big money... If it were in other parts of Africa, they would have sent bees, through the help of a native doctor to everyone involved, and they will all come back begging, with swamps of bees all over them, stinging them.

That bee thing is a trick and anybody can do it.

Religion has eaten so deep in some people's brain that they make stupid decisions at their own detriment. This could be the reason the ladies played her; she's gullible.

She should go and ask the church to pay since she's stupid.

Religion is the opium of the poor.

I just hope your parents are financially buoyant enough to fund your next plan or you have very good grades in your undergraduate to get you a good offer of employment.

Also, you should go and get some certifications like ICAN or ACCA, doing Masters shouldn't really be your plan now.

Stay focused, you don't need to be down because of negative things. Channel your energy to the main purpose you're there and let your sufferness fuel your zeal for success.

Ace all your classes and aim high always. Age is not a barrier to success.

Damn.

I'm not surprised things like this is still happening. Many other bad things happens but there's just no media coverage or it being exposed.

This is one of the reasons there's high percentage of hunger, unemployment, malnutrition, poverty, bandits, terrorist, out-of-school kids, drug abuse, incessant killings, gangs etc. It's really pathetic!

I hope the government find a way to fight it.

Klass99:
If I were him that woman will drop my two kids and leave or she can take the two kids she gave birth to and bounce, if she doesn't quit her BS immediately.

Some women think they can hold you to ransom with their nonsense and stupidity because they've given birth to a child or children for you. She met that girl on ground before marrying him, now she wants the child gone because he is not the biological father, she dey ment?

I hate it how people claim to love children so much, when in reality, what they really mean is that they love children who are theirs but not other people's children. Because most people who claim this are incapable of accepting or caring for other people's children (this applies to both men & women)

I don't think he was insanely or maliciously deceitful by not telling her about the girl's birth circumstances. He has claimed the girl as his child and she knew that from the start, new intel shouldn't change anything. This 2nd wife has issues abeg.

I agree with you that 6 kids is a lot and he needs to stop procreating asap. Re-marrying for companionship and sex is not a bad idea, I would have re-married for those reasons alone and I would not have added more children to the equation.

It is not a messy situation from where I stand, it's one of those situations where you take a stance as the boss and let others fall in line or bounce. There's no room for compromise or negotiation here, the OP shouldn't even be online asking questions.

I agree he wasn't deceitful by not telling the lady about the girl but however, common sense dictates he should. There's no excuse for what he did. Your spouse to-be deserve to know some important things so that it won't cause a major issue later on. He had thought the lady was a reasonable person but he miscalculated. People don't change in personality, they just don't exhibit their dark side when they have no power. The woman has always being evil.

Clearly, the lady is wicked and she's using the husband's "you didn't tell me about the girl's story" as an excuse for her actions. This is more reason couples need to learn and start being open about things before marriage, irrespective of anything. Whosoever that will marry you, will marry you, even if you have a baggage that ain't yours!

I agree with every other things you've said.

brandsoncharlie:
You're calling it etiquette, the way you will die like chicken it will be too late to see the truth about how wicked this world is..
You think Nigeria is a play ground. Let me stop here.

You're wrong. The guy will not even be harmed because he's seen it as norms, thereby always conscious of doing it in public.

All because of ignorance and gullibility, you're being bitter and unreasonable.

Nigerians should take this advise and stop putting themselves in difficult situation. Some will be going abroad with no enough funds and no accommodation, but will be expecting to squat with someone and end up being disappointed when they arrive.

As a Nigerian living in Nigeria, you must understand that nobody want you to succeed, and the chances of becoming successful reduces always.

Klass99:
You are such a jackass. There's nothing complicated here, let's flip this for a minute and assume you are the one in this situation, what would you do?

Ah! It's such a messy situation and I don't think I've ever imagined myself as being a father (especially to more than 1 or 2 kids) or husband to anybody. I just wanna be left alone.

However, I think the man should firstly admit that he was wrong by not informing the wife before marriage about the little girl. Even if he can die for the girl, it's a must to open up on some sensitive things to your to-be spouse because little things can mess up the beautiful union.

He should separate from that lady and both of them should rethink about their union, vows and way forward.

Also, the guy seem to be the "my family, my family" type of person, hence the reason his aunt could be so reckless, disrespectful and insensitive to have gone behind his back to deliver a message she wasn't sent. Nobody dare try that with me because I restrict and limit my relationship with everybody in the family except my parents.

Also, he should put a stop to breeding. I really don't know why he'd go ahead and remarry and now he's got 6 kids. Well, it's his choice and I must respect it.

So, your turn, what would you have advised him?

I'm confused. Although this is a beautiful design.

What could be the reason for wanting a herbal care?

Wether money was redesigned or not, political parties will surely find ways to get money. Also, all Nigerian elected public office holders have embezzled so much that they will donate huge amount of money individually with no hassle.

There are many wealthy private citizens that will donate also, so it's not only politicians that will donate.

And you should also be aware that corruption is everywhere in the world but Africans have blown their own trumpet through unemployment rate, poverty rate, underdevelopment etc.

None of my business. Only ignorant and stupid people can be deceived by politicians.