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She can never stop because it's obvious she's from poverty. She will keep draining you till you have no more because you obviously don't wanna have sense. I hate men like you.

I'm not a redpiller but a man must have sense! Your girl obviously see you as a way out of poverty and since you're always doing her biddings, she becomes more demanding, more inconsiderate and becomes a full-time liability. Once you stop giving her, she'll become aggressive and most probably cheat because relationship is a meal ticket to her and her family!

Why would any sane man with ambition go for a lady that's from very poor home, especially a man that's still trying to find his feet? And later on in life, if you couldn't achieve your ambitions, you will be blaming your village people or innocent old women for your misfortunes.

Some of you need some mentorship in life!

Jamesz12:
Please I just read about a similar case on this platform hence I was inspired to also share the greatest challenge my family is passing through at the moment. I have a sister who is in her mid 30s and she is having mental issues, most times she stays silent for days without talking to anyone and sometimes hears voices. And this has been happening for close to 3 years now, we have taking her to several churches and we have we have even carried her to UBTH in Benin where she spent over one month in their psychiatric ward yet to no avail. Please the entire family is tired as this has been milking us dry financially and is draining us. Please I need genuine help �

Mod Please take to front page abeg

The best and only advice that you need is to take your sister to a more better health facility. Don't let anyone deceive you with spiritual or demonic bullshit. You're desperate and also vulnerable now and that's what these Pastors, Imams etc. likes. Even these clerics would opt for a medical solution if they were in your shoes.

They feed on people's vulnerability and fear. Be wise!

garriAndsugar:
Have you tried mountain of fire or Lord's chosen?

The same God that made couple "not to have" kids for 28 years?

Zi:
He made a lot money when he was alive (perhaps liberated his kids and kin from poverty) that is why they are celebrating him like this in his death.

If you die poor, nobody will throw this kind of charade on you.

Stop justifying some things. Africans are known to waste money and resources during funeral, even if they live in poverty.

The moment I realized the cost of going to Mars.

Womanwoman:
Like the one that attended to her child and caused her this much pain yh?

Blame it on the Nurse and the clinic. How often do you see a well equipped hospital with good work ethics to cause such disaster? Very unlikely!

You must understand that there's higher probability of getting the best health care if you go to a reputable health facility. This incident is just unfortunate.

Michelle70:
i don stop to argue with u.

we all have our individual preference.

U can stick to ur million people ways

And preference is based on level of enlightenment and willingness to accept change!

Goodbye!

Michelle70:
Have u seen a year old child before?
A year old child needs to have his/her small bedspace in same room with u.

A 2yr old child could start having her own room

Yes, I've seen a year old child. Such child can have his/her personal room and a baby monitor with camera can be installed in such room.

Millions of people do this always!

PlanktonX:
I swear marriage is not for everybody.

1. Your husband is your Lord...to be held in high esteem. Never use a command on him, but subtlely make your request known to him.

2. In marriage, women, know very well that more of your request should be channel through prayers.... don't just think that you will just call " Chinedu, oya do this and that" Imagine queen Esther approaching the king casually without first taking it to God.

3. Both partners, need to unlearn so many things and relearn again for marriage to work ooo.

4. You see that phrase "am Sorry dear" as small as it is can resolve a lot in.marriage.

5. When Bible say, no carry anger go bed without settling it, you think say na rubbish talk, see as small satan begin dey gather roots for your marriage

7. Well, my advice for you is to first run go get this book" The power of a praying wife"
Read am well. An you will understand your role as a wife in a man's life.

8. In case you need a soft copy of it, holla me. It's free. May the Lord sustain and uphold your marriage. But remember, your husband is your Lord.

Imagine the trash you typed. Disgusting.

Michelle70:
a year old?
Jesu thats evil na, a year old child still needs the parents.
at least allow am reach 2yrs abeg

That's not evil. That's the proper way of doing things.

general111:
poverty bros..everybody likes confort, but you are as comfortable as your pocket.

Everybody likes comfort but many are lazy to work for the comfort. Comfort don't come to people, you work for it!

Womanwoman:
What we have left in our hospitals are quacks since qualified medical personnels japa....talk more of the "chemists turned nurses in private hospitals"

This is seriously heartbreaking. God! I pray this mama finds justice.

There are many good clinics filled with qualified physicians. Stop going to quacks!

ravensckar:
I feel for that woman. Her story was really touching! How Nurses could administer injection without running tests on the patients still beats my imagination.

Although, most Nigerian nurses are useless, but I think there's still more to this story. A proper investigation should be done by the Government. No parent deserves to lose their child! It's very painful!

May the Almighty God give the woman the fortitude to bear the loss.

A reputable clinic with good facilities will never go out of the ethical code.

Xwizard:
No matter what, I don’t go to hospitals, if you see the number of IT staffs wearing doctor gown around lol

You have no reason not to visit a clinic. A physician's name is always inscribed on the chest always. Stop using your inability to afford a reputable health facility to justify nonsense.

ukaface:
you never can tell if she was forced.
And who are ' these' people?

No, it's very unlikely. Poor people don't mind having sex every hour. They have enough time and willingness to do so.

I was referring to the "abokis."

Sluacoast:
Let me tell you something. There's a lady who lives in the next street after mine. But kasala really scatter for this women matter. She think say her husband no go find out. She went for a wedding and because of traffic congestion on the way. She couldn't return back home and she spend the night at her colleague house. But you know. Things always turn around so quick in a tickle of an eye. When they were in her colleague house. They were both obviously drunk after taking a lot of drink's at the ceremony. To cut the story short.. she was given a room to pass the night. Her colleague is married and she lives with her husband. Do you know in the middle of the night. She got out of her room completely naked and I don't know what I'll call this. She was probably sleep walking. She walked in the sitting room and her colleague husband was obviously watching tv. Something led to another and they had sex. Some men can never control their sexual urge. How can you take advantage of your visitor who came to spend the night at your place. The both had sex and she was pregnant o. Just like that sharp shooter lol. She knew something was wrong ever since so she confronted him and he told him. And you know Ladies. She hurriedly maybe had another sexual pleasure with her ownhusband to cover her footprint but after the child was Born. See where matter cast. This man and his 3 kids has small eye's yes I Said eyes. And he was kind of surprised how come his New child come carry Big eyes. If you see this man eyes and that of his kids. You don't need to asked if he's the Father of his children. He did DNA test and the results shows he wasn't the father. So sometimes all this women cheat not because they enjoy cheating. It might occur accidentally just like this. Thanks

And you believe in this thing you typed?

faithfull18:
Something is wrong with that man, he should just say he doesn't want to marry her again instead of this indirect method. Nonsense and irresponsible men.

Nothing is wrong with him. He's just lazy and believe children are investment. The woman should leave this lazy ass!

ibechris:
African men that think more children bring wealth should remember that the world has changed dramatically.

I think if this story is true,the man is crazy and would remain crazy.

Even in the olden days, children don't bring wealth. That statement that "children brings wealth" is what poor people use to console themselves.

I could never have had such as my sister because I got none. Also, if I had got any sister, she would never be with such a lowlife.

general111:
Its not owk, but the state of things in the country has permitted it

What are the state of things you're talking about?

ITbomb:
Do you think it is their choice to stay in a one bedroom apartment?

They should focus on having a better apartment instead of breeding like rodents in a studio apartment.

It's wrong for kids to be in same room with the parents.

FavouredNK:
Honestly the worst crime any parent can commit is bringing innocent children into this wicked world to suffer them without any tangible plan for their future. Why having them like puppies when you are not getting any award or certification for that in this horrible economy. Mtcheeew

They're plain stupid! They deserve no pity when they are in problems!

Segzy19:
I can feel your excitement.

By the grace of our Creator, may all your good wishes and heart desires come through.

Death or any other thing won't make you abandon your family prematurely, neither will you bury any of your kids...

All the provisions you will ever need to raise them in a godly way will be made available to you in Jesus name �

Cheers!

Jesus or prayer won't feed him nor make him financially buoyant. Stop misguiding people with prayer. Tell him the truth!

Johnnyjohnnyman:
She is aware of the result she swear that the child is mine that she wasn't pregnant when she breaks up with the other guy in July 2020. It can't be possible because she conceived in September2020 and put to bed in June2021 if she breaks up with him in July and I am not the bio father there is no way for the child to be born in June.
Unless she was slept with another guy before we got back together which she denied. She can't poison me I don't eat her foods neither do I share the same room with her, I eat out and I come home and spend time with my kids then I sleep. I don't know what to do about her and the baby yet but I was thinking about calling both families next week Sunday for a family meeting. I will update you guys on whatever decision I will take.

I still don't understand why you still haven't left that union. I really can't deal with anybody's mistake!

TANID:
please like how much is DNA I just had baby today but I'm not sure if I'm the father of the baby

I'm the father.

Pells:
If you the rest of your kids are yours then your 4th child was exchanged at the hospital by the nurses
Your wife is innocent
Don't be a stupid

Ignorance is your first name.

Sweetplum:
Bad decision. Who ll take care of your other kids?
Broken home is one of the major causes of BD kids behaviour out there.
Return the child. Ask if she ll still be with you. Count your loss and appreciate the remaining.

Are you proposing he continues the union with a deceitful woman that went to the extent of bringing an illegitimate child into his home through adultery?

Johnnyjohnnyman:
I have no doubts about my other 3 children because they are mine 2 are my carbon copy and the other one is his mother carbon copy

Don't raise your hope. Go and conduct DNA test on those kids also.

CalmElder:
Be strong and reject depression, by immersing yourself in whatever to keep you busy.
For the sake of your dependants, man up.



A colleague who is having issues with the husband told me that they didn't have a proper marriage, after 3 kids o.

She wants to put my heart at rest so that I can 'chop'. Not me.
Another mumu is sleeping with her and feeling like Romeo.

Sometimes I blame our fellow men for breaking people's homes.

You can't blame men of women for breaking homes. Married couples are the ones you should hold responsible.

In this digital age of so many societal ills, DNA test must always be conducted.