₦airaland Forum

drimzsmoke:
Seriously he's part of the problems of this country,see the way he said university level as if after university the kids are made for life...now he's going to expect the government to help him provide jobs for those 4 in future...the most annoying thing is that,he still has plans of giving birth to more

They'll attend one non-rated school and ASUU strike will still delay them! That's even if they attend school before one Danjuma or Dogo marry them at age 15.

Jovialjune1:
When we say men should clip their balls, they will come here to start wailing like babies, isn't it very obvious they are the cause of overpopulation thereby inducing poverty in the process? they will be having children with different women everywhere, encouraging baby mamaism in the process, children they will not 100% cater for, leaving majority of the moral responsibility on the women, even the so called educated, enlightened and rich ones are no different

Now look at Op, with his sweaty and sun beat face, he obviously is a night husband: leave the home early in the morning to hustle, come back at night when the kids are asleep to offload his stress into the wife, na the mumu wife I blame, nonsense.

nedekid:
How will you train those puppies you are having yearly?
Babcock uni sch fees for law ₦2.4m
Medicine ₦4.5m. Just for year 1.
Imagine having 4 non spaced kids all in uni at same time.
Seems you just want to propagate poverty.

Those kids are not planned for those schools or courses.

sharone21:
And just this morning, I was reading of the guy abroad who just gave birth to his 10th child@ 22 years- An NBA player....The 2nd to the mother of this 10 th child ...Strings of ladies in between.

What do you aim to achieve in life as everything is not reproduction? Bishop Oyedepo once said that once the use of a thing is unknown, abuse sets in.

Congrats though

NBA YoungBoy is not a basketball player. He's a rapper!

easytig:
I wish him the best of luck.the economy is not smiling, maybe he is in the north ,then no wahala, but if na Lagos,he is on his own ,four extra mouth to feed for the next decades with these inflation,the lord is his strength.

I don't wish him any luck. The only thing I wish for him is to have sense!

BRATISLAVA:
Erm... They make noise at baby showers. To be fair, everyone makes noise when their child is born. It's a thing of celebration.

I was to write "...here on Nairaland?"

CheapHomes1:
What's the correlation between your comment and my earlier comment?

Seems you lack the ability to comprehend.

CheapHomes1:
How do you know he hasn't planned for these things? I ask once again...do you know him?

He's not planned for it because it's obvious. And no, I don't know him.

And moreover, why's it that rich or people living very comfortable don't come to make noise about their child delivery? Only poor people come here to get validation for the foolish life decisions they make and still making.

CheapHomes1:
Oga, it's the same thing we are saying. When is the earliest a man can finish university? Was there any need for that in time past? No

There's nothing wrong in any gender having kids in their 30s. Life was never easy for most Nigerians while growing up and they should be wise enough to make sure they make enough preparations before they start breeding. The offsprings must live a more better life than them.

It's foolishness if your offsprings live the mid or below average life you lived.

ukaface:
Pity the woman abeg
How can she be giving birth every year? Allow her reproductive system to heal Na, haba
Thus one is not about counting children and boasting about money, it's common sense oga.
Imagine having kids aged, 4,3,2 and 1 ...habaaaaaaaaaa, you're wicked sha
You don hear of family planning before?


But abeg, which work you dey do? And are you Hausa?

Pity the woman? Was she forced? Don't you know these people have no life ambition other than to live a very poor life?

They see unrestricted breeding as norms. They have no cap on number of offsprings they should have.

Yampotatocarrot:
He fit be Hausa. Maiguards at my place marry almost every year they travel home for Salah. They ain't really concerned with how their children grow

What you'll hear when they return is, "Oga Dogo, me e don marry another Mata" or say one of their wives don born... These guys ain't up to 24 o

They'll raise kids in poverty and those female kids will be married off to men living in poverty also while the male kids will to back to village to farm and continue the cycle (breeding like rodents) their ancestors have started. Disgusting!

CheapHomes1:
It is education and religion that has made adults in Nigeria to be children waiting till 30 and above before getting married

It's like that because you can't get a decent job without being educated in Nigeria. You expect an uneducated fellow that earns 20k/month to live a good life?

Some educated folks and even the educated ones with very low income that have started their own family are among the problems of the nation.

eteebanky1:
Guy, four children Is too much in this current Nigeria weak economy, why not give birth to just 2

Na Una dy give us problem for this Nigeria, how I wish Nigeria seperate with immediate effect

4 children is too much anywhere especially in Africa.

CheapHomes1:
How has he not planned his life well? Do you know him?

And how has he planned his life well? Can he afford quality education for the kids? Can he afford quality health care for them? Does he have plans in place for their survival, if anything happen to him now? So many questions! Y'all should stop supporting nonsense.

When I mean quality, I don't mean just attending school and I don't mean mushroom hospitals!

AnonDude2004:
True. But even if I'm as rich as Elon Musk, I won't have more than two children. If any.

2 kids is enough. I'm even cool with one.

People keep having kids without having a solid plan for them all because of their sexual indiscipline and selfishness.

easytig:
Hmmm Bros plan Thier future well,naija is not smiling and the rich folks won't help in any way o.government is bleeped up,better Start family planning and stop procreating anyhow.congrats by the way.

There's no way he can plan their life well. He's obviously not plan his own life well also. And ignorant him will tell you family planning is against the law of nature or his religious doctrine.

alphabbey1:
1, 2, 3, 4 - at 26 years
Logically, if you are not a millionaire, it's criminal to have 3 kids, suicidal to have 4.... you are harming the society bro....
Aint my business if you work ur whole life training them, Just make sure u train them well enough not to be troubling rich kids for giveaway in nearest future coz richness have already fly over u unless you go through any illegal, unreligious path..... Hope and pressure will now be passed unto the poor kids....

He's obviously not a millionaire and not rich. A man like this is among the reasons we have more menace in the society.

AnonDude2004:
You try.

NBA YoungBoy is a rich dude. He's not living in poverty.

Calibrator:
I dey avoid mingling with people like this in real life because when Jungle mature, na so urgent emergency loans they go use finish their friends, family and acquaintances.



Body go tell you

Absolutely! Some people are comfortable with poverty.

Stop breeding like rodents!

Bfly:
Why are you so pained?
I mentioned Nigeria cos that is where i'm and can verify. Afterall she was not the oldest as at when she died.
Telling us she died of old age is not complete.
Which part of her did old age mess with? It happens to people differently.
This is simply Biology.

I hope this painkiller works on you.

Stop bringing out shit with no evidence. At least, y'all can see the Queen's transparency about her are. Y'all Africans will come out to scream how your village grandmother lived for 1000 years with no evidence. Even the life expectancy in this country is averagelly 61!

2elliot:
Don't mind them. Someone I know wants to remarry again. Already, they were having problems before they left for them. In fact, once, I was the one who settled their beef anonymously by sending apology messages to each of them. They didn't suspect. They settled. Then they traveled to Australia. The man already had a daughter in his young teenage age and she was already grown. So, he also brought her the abroad including his wife's maid who was from his community. Immediately they got to Australia, he wife and their maid conspired to be thorn on the man's flesh and that of his first daughter. On one certain day, the man had a big celebration in his office and wanted to treat his guests and colleagues to African dishes. So, he asked his daughter to prepare the food since she knows his tribe's delicacy. He asked her to bring the food to his office when he she was done. But after a long waiting at the office and the occasion was set, the daughter was nowhere to be found with the food. He tried to call to no avail. So, he quickly left the office for the home. When he got home, he saw his daughter fighting with the maid, and he asked what was the reason for their quarrel and also why she didn't bring the food he asked her to prepare. Then the daughter narrated that she was already through with the cooking and was about packaging it when the maid took the pot and hid it because of a quarreling they were having, and that she refused to bring it out. The man became enraged. And when he asked the maid where she kept the food. She said that she kept it in the garden outside, out in the cold. He was very mad at the girl, and thus he confronted the wife with the matter. But instead of pacifying him, the wife was equally rude and was in support of her maid who is from her tribe. So, that angered him and for the first time in their marriage, he slapped her. The wife in turn called the cops on him and had him thrown out. She equally tried to damage him and his job by getting him fired. But luckily for him, the cops didn't find him much at fault. That made the man to abandon the marriage for her.

Damn! That's sad. African marriages works abroad for some people and it doesn't for some people. It's all about the individuals.

Bfly:
Old age or no old age. Something incongruent must have occur in her body system. This is what you should talk about.
Everyone knows she died at 96. Yet we still have 100+ roaming the street here in Nigeria.

Show me anyone that's 100+. Y'all Nigerians like this bullshit talk always.

Lvgirl:
More,
How it work , it will go out in human form to promote Ur business. People telling people about you. May be in a car ,bus or just anywhere by any means. If this people come to patronise u and you don't have what they want. They may never come back. It's like going on a Radio station to promote Ur barbing salon yet you don't know how to barb. Several people will come but you lack the ability to retain them. That is how Esu Apede work. It's in different categories. This one I am taking about only collect Gin when you go to it's stand to pray. There are some that collect water , some salt, some urine. Yes urine ( it has no negative effect on the urinator). If you are in doubt pls ask any competent babalawo.

Waste of time, resources and money.

EgunMogaji2:
Another American Dalemosu loading up - how cute

MrBrownJay1:
so because she does it often, does not make it CHILDISH any longer?! this is a childish/immature behaviour.



again, if you understand that what she did was wrong, while would you continue this arrant nonsense behaviour, instead of DEFUSING IT?!?! what would that man gain from alienating himself even longer from his children?!



as i stated earlier, any smart man knows that some women are irrational and emotionally incoherent. thats the type of animal they are, you cant blame an animal for being an animal.



i believe she came here for moral support....aka women telling her that what she did was "right" and/or men talking down about what her husband is doing.

Bro, you're off point but to you, they are good points. Enjoy your principles, Mr. Emotions.

MALIGNANTGuest:
You are Right.
However, some get into marriage pure and only get converted at their workplaces into tigresses for the man at home.
My duty is to ensure i educate most young unmarried men on the realities about marriage.
And why they should start seeing that as least of their problems.

Statistics show that
7 out of 10 men who recently got married would wish they never neared it just one year after marrying that ANGEL.

Out of the remaining 3, 2 get tired of it 5 years into it. Only the remaining man successfully sees his marriage such as a miracle. This is still subject to change may be in 7yrs, 10yrs, or 20yrs time

It's do because many young couples are not looking beyond the outward appearance.

My view about life and many other things are different and I've noticed that many women I've come across don't view life that way. It would be catastrophe to be in a relationship with such women. I'm not the type that does the PDA or lovey dovey social media stuff. I'm private and my interests are not many ladies' interest especially in this part of the world (Africa).

I've understood that and that has made me not to go into any relationship all because of pressure or the social media frenzy. Relationship and friendship to me are not just for fun. I'm selective with things and people.

MrBrownJay1:
sadly not many people know how to COMMUNICATE and would rather burn their house down, while we all know how irrational some women can be at times. what wifey did is CHILDISH, playing tit for tat with your wife is equally CHILDISH. none of what these people are doing is right, and understand the type of woman you have is key. your wife gives you the silent treatment, big deal... just understand that this is how childish she is, play hard to get for a few hours and basta. taking this shiiit by the horn and carrying it for months is truly immature. at the end, none of them is winning shiiit, the "family/kids" is who is losing here.

Stop throwing word (CHILDISH) around unnecessarily. Why are you ruling out the fact that this might not be her first time of such behaviour?

Also, even if it was her first, is it ideal for the kids not to even talk to their father for 9 weeks? Even if parents despise eavh other, do you think it's ideal to deny them the right to talk to their father?

In this digital age that things are easier, you can't use anything as an excuse for kids not to have access to their father. What she did clearly shows how vile she is and a shame to womanhood. She's selfish and didn't consider her kids mental health!

Even the reason for speaking out now is because of her sister, not even because she is remorse or consider the kids. Shame!

qtguru:
So because I'm staying in the US I can't communicate with someone over the internet in Canada ? You didn't make sense at all sir. Nigerians have spouse outside the country, she is not the first and couples communicate.

You need not to respond to some people. Not everyone is enlightened.

MALIGNANTGuest:
Amen!
My friend's wife angrily removed her wedding ring recently and threw it away. My friend picked it up when she had already left and hid it somewhere without his wife's notice.
Today her anger don calm down and her eyes don clear, she now went back to look for her ring but couldn't find it. Now she has been pleading with her spouse to fetch her her ring. Husband claims he never saw the ring. Wife is now persuading him to get her a new one and husband refused blatantly & warned her from getting new one.
This is the 4the month & madam no get wedding ring. Husband don tell her she's free to go out on dates with as many as possible.

Reason for ANGER; minor Baseless issue and not even infidelity matter.
Wife eyes don clear now.

Personally, I believe you can never change anybody's character but can only influence the positive/change and it's still up to them to change.

Also, some people are the cause of their misfortune, before you marry your partner, there are some traits they can't hide!

MrBrownJay1:
nine weeks of silence in some people's mind it is like a break up/divorce... this woman is really not thinking straight. thats why i always say:"COMMUNICATION is the key to a better r/ship"

You keep screaming communication as if we are ignorant not to know how vital it is in human's life. The man really knew the woman he married. It's most likely this wasn't her first time of exhibiting this bullshit behaviour. People like her can't be bowed down to. If the man had been a coward and tried his best to resolve things, the malice wouldn't have happened and everyone will see them as happy couples.

Individuals need to take the bull by the horn. Never let anyone play smart when they shouldn't. People should learn to understand that marriage is a partnership and not some slave-master shit. Most people are used to suffering in marriage all because they want to maintain the aesthetics.

I'm proud of the man. You can't manipulate some men/women like us.

You ignored your husband for the period of 9 weeks? That's 2 months and 7 days. You deserve all he's dishing to you now.

In all that even happened, you were much interested in him not responding to your sister and her fiance. Damn!!!!

I would have filed for divorce in the first month of your stupid drama. The narcissist in me would never let me take you back. Nobody dare hurt my ego! Nobody!