Hollybratt:
Lolzz as for me, The only way you can oppress me now is to snap with Jesus.

IRMC

LOl

It's a debt that every living creature must pay, but may we not die in our prime especially when our kids need us the most.

Here I am thinking of death 🙇‍♀️ because I have been sick for a while now and can't even access some basic prescriptions due to high cost of medication/drugs.

May the healing hands of God touch and restore the health of those who are battling one illness or the other here, it's well.

NairaMaster1:


Things have really gone wrong. So no one can discipline anyone again. No wonder. I was at area 1 in Abuja and I saw how a teenager was abusing and elderly man. In our days you don't dare that. They call it bully today. Okeooo. Thank God for my children. I trained them the way my parents trained me.

Watch the video again, no be correction that girl has been a bully for long she just met her match in that little boy.

Young boy your parent are proud of you.

TheWinterBird:
Yep, I'm a big believer that married people should not have friends of the opposite sex. The only exceptions are work colleagues and your family members who are females, or males. I'm always annoyed and irritated when married men try to talk to me, like go chat with your wife, Sir.

I kept Wondering what exactly I will be discussing with the opposite sex to the extend of being close friend with one as a married woman?

Sorry to hear this, may God comfort you and the children she left behind and may the soul of your wife rest in peace.

Sapasenator:


Plus, I believe most of these guys grew up in homes where the father never respected the moms, I also believe they were never exposed to true maternal love growing up. Something is definitely wrong for the level of misogynist views expressed on Nairaland.

💯

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
I was shocked when I saw it on one church lady's Facebook page like that, this girl no nothing apart from going to church, come dey see doggy something something

She didn't post it she was only tag to it. Things like this happens because they go about accepting all manner of friend request.

Sunnyrado:
Thank you so much I really do appreciate, Yes I have more love and care to share.. it's not am I don't like a single lady/woman to marry but what I am looking concern about is the child bearing at probably 44 and I will be 45 by next year God's grace, so I have calculated that by the time am 60 years old, my first child will be at the age of 16 I don't know if you get my message so when am 70 the child will be in 20s so so that's why why am considering a single mother...I am here for advice and if you have someone you can connect me with I don't mind... Thank you

I don't think you are too old to go for single ladies at 44 I'm not saying marry a single mother is wrong but your reasons for making that choice is what I don't buy.

I will advise you stick to the fact that you are looking for a partner to settle down with and stop trying to make a lady you intend to marry think it's because you are in your 40s that's making you so desperate to settle down.. you won't like the outcome.

There's nothing wrong with remarrying after the lost of a spouse, companionship is the key in this case.

Nice one op, farming is the way forward

poshestmina:
He should have carried the gas and foodstuffs to her in the Labor room .
He didn't have to wait till the next day .

Honestly

Happy birthday to you old twins. May my own twins age together in good health, Amen 🙌🙏

Such a very good friend

Irreplaceable01:
pls believe whatever you want to believe. How did the pregnancy now disappeared. I took her for ultrasound and nothing was there again.

OP I believe your story, I believe the pregnant aspect of it but I want you to also believe that your ex aborted that pregnancy even before it got to the 7th month she was just deceiving you to think that the baby was still intact. Focus on your healing, move on and be more careful in your next relationship.

Gift her anything related to the skill she has acquired, if she's a tailor gift her sewing machine, an hair dresser gift her hair dryer etc.

Kobojunkie:
You are one of those naive bits of humans out there, aren't you? Just hope neither you nor your children ever encounter the kinds of manipulative beings that the world outside of your home and mind are filled with.

Person dey dey literally tell you A and absolutely A but you dey blindly read B and only B from the same text. Na special talent your kind get be that. I can't imagine why for the life of me.

I am unavailable Biko...

Kobojunkie:
1. Go back and beg for the woman whom he helped turn into an abuser and a monster to return to him. This time around, if one of them ends up dead, will you be there to open your mouth that you were one of those who suggested they get back together?

By the way, the guy is still struggling, probably missing the pillow that used to support the weight of his abuse. If another woman were to get caught in that net, you would find that the memories of the other wife would probably all but disappear overnight. Care to send your own daughter into that web?

Kobojunkie, the guy said he has changed for good and from his writeup I didn't see where he said he attack his wife back rather he allow her to attack him instead and he also admitted his wrongs.

Let's try to show a little bit of love and kindness to a friend who is weak and in need..

Mimicle101:



Thank you so much.

Unfortunately the why i cant go back is that. i discovered that the marriage was never based in love.

She said she does not love me again.

I once knelt down to apologise to her so we work things out but she pushed me away.

She went Naked and cursed me that it will never be well with me.

She wished me death. while my father was laying in the mutuary awaiting the funeral date.

her family never came to my father (who went to marry there Daughter) funeral.

Her family never called my mom or family to wish there condolences.

She left with my Son ad refused me talking to him. for 7 months now.

her family never called or said anything to me since i informed them that there Daughter my wife left my house.

She blocked me from all form of communication.



Please where do i start?

OMG!!! So sorry you are passing through an emotional phase in your life, your wife too must have passed through alot for her to have reacted the way she did. Pray for God's intervention in your marriage and everything that concerns you.

I will also advice if you can seek the service of a therapist they are very good in handling such cases. It's well with you my brother.

soulhelper481:
Had it been she didn't leave you, you wouldn't have change. That's why every woman in her shoe or mine have to leave.

Maybe you should take a break from the marriage, I will advise you shouldn't divorce him yet.

Please always put him in prayers pray fervently ask God to arrest every gambling spirit tormenting your husband because what God can't do doesn't exist.

Mimicle101:


Yes she left.. I regreted it all. And i took the blame for the fact that i became Sick. And I am grateful to God all mighty that today I am getting better ( better from the abuse and crisis i recived in place of love). I am yet to fully recover financially But i still believed that my healling maybe would have came sooner if i had a support system in the person of my own wife. Rather she choosed to forsake me when i was afflicted and needed help. Its always about the Money. Nothing else matters.

At the point where she left was when she got tired of supporting the house. she was cooking and eating with our child alone. she stopped being a wife.. its was oky. i never bordered her as i took it as the punishment to who i had become. Untill she extended it with violent.

i cant really remember how it all became physical but one thing i know is i hated seeing her tears. so she would attack and hit me. slap me at a heated argument. i refused to hit her back. instead i restrained her from on few occasions from inflicting permanent damage on me. .


She was my world. I cant tell you one single reason why i love her but i love her more than myself . its still 7 months now. no day passes i dont think about her.

I would do anything for her happiness.

What i explained above... I dont expect most Nigerian woman including the Nigga kobojunkie who commented above me to understand it.

People always rush to use the word Abuse when men are involved. laugh.

Do you know the pain it feels when a mother would collect meat that a father gave to his 2 years old son and throw it away in front of the boys father? not once but 2 different occasions

Does 2 wrong make right? I accepts all my wrongs... Dont you think things would have been more different if A wrong behaviour is handled with a right behaviour?

Now that you have changed why not go back and beg her to come back to you, I'm glad you know it was your actions or rather gambling that trigger all her reactions towards you.

I sincerely want to congratulate you for being able to conquer that gambling spirit that tormented your life and destroyed your marriage and I also pray your wife sees reasons to embrace you back again Cheers!!!

So painful, may God give the bereaved family the fortitude to bear this great loss...I had to pause..so emotional

Are you for real?? Very unpleasant surprise!!!

Beremx:
even though what the useless mother did is wrong, it's better to abandon that kill the child and throw him in the trash. The child has become a government child.

And the best she would've done is never to give birth to a child she would later abandon. Thank God the child is in a safe hand.

Each passing day draw us closer to death. Always live the best you can

After stressing for some months the mom has to abandoned him, how can you abandoned a baby you gave birth to, be like say some women don't go through labor before giving birth to their baby.
It's well

Waoo, that's good to hear, God bless you and all the givers.

I pray God uses someone to bless me from this nairaland one day.

May their soul rest in peace