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Gabless:
I am 28 years old, a graduate of one of the university in South West. I work as a contract staff in a bank
I met this guy about a year ago through my best female friend, and the journey started. I took him to my parents and he also took me to his parents too, and the wedding preparation started. We were suppose to do family introduction but my parents says there is no need considering some logistic reasons. Although my mum has her reservation conserving him. But since my father has no objection I think am good to go.
He has sent money for some preparation since he is not residing in Lagos. The problem started after I went to idumota with my aunt to buy our engagement clothes. It was my aunt that drove me to the market. When we returned, my fiance called me, we talked for some times, but he couldn't appreciate my aunt for her kind gesture. Although my aunt didn't say anything that day but she wasn't happy. My dad also complained that.he has been rude to him. The same goes with my mum.
The last straw that broke the Carmels back was when he was arguing with my aunt over the phone. He did not know I was in my aunt's house that particular day. I wasn't happy at all, thinking that if he would not regard my parents how would he treat me after marriage, so I confronted him the second day over the phone, telling him that I'm not happy about the way my parents where complaining about him, and that attitude of him is creating fear in me. Instead for him to be a little remoseful and even call those people and apologize, he was arguing with me, still in my aunt's house. So I told him, maybe we should put the preparation on hold thinking he would at least try and apologize to them. He just said, is that what you want and ended the call.
Everyone was surprised. He didn't call back it was his mum that called my mum, she didn't even persuade them to stop me from taking such step, and the guy too didn't call me for like too weeks until when I called him and he said he wasn't interested in the marriage again.
Actually,I wasn't happy and I have been downcasted since then, but on the other hand, May l ask this question does this guy really loves me?. Is he really mature enough for marriage. Is it all my fault? Please don't insult or abuse me. I just want to know if it's all my fault.

Your mother's reservation about him, put alot of ideas into your head. I hope he is financially capable though.. Because that is where African mothers start to weigh a prospective son in-law..If he isn't, reservations will start coming up

Work on yourself and mindset first, Before you think of marriage..You must have a mind of your own..Otherwise you will be a pushy pushy by external forces who most times pushes you for their own selfish interest.

GboyegaD:
I think the ladies are been emotional as such, don't get offended by their post. I wonder how he waited till this moment though cos I for one cannot. A relationship where you are dating the entire family is gibberish. Parents and family members should learn to stay clear of people's relationships.

This! Thumbs up!

The moment lovers realize they are meant to put themselves first, Before anyone, even their kids. The better they enjoy each other to the fullest without third party influence.

As for the ladies comments, they are attaching Emotions as always.

Men work on logic.

mariahAngel:
You dodged a bullet dear.
Be thankful.

The guy got saved from a potential problem as well.

She is being influenced heavily by people around her..The Union won't even last stronger than a crackers biscuit.

I can't even date a lady who doesn't have a mind of her own, not to talk of marrying her.

She will be ever ready to be influenced and manipulated by external forces, there by denying the home the needed peace..Her type ga wu ndi ma Pastor said..My mom said, my Aunt said...no no no way.

She should wait for a man with her kind of character.

It is not always Rosy, but a lady I want to marry, putting the preparations on hold, till I apologise to her Aunt For a reason unserious is a total Fucc up.

NwaNimo1:
Shiit proof suit?

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Smh...lmao

Trust uzodimma at your own peril...Person wey no dey sure of second tenure

Governor wey dey move with military battalion..

The hustle for Emilokan's dollar is real..

gloryhomemaker:
We all crave Sharwama at some point and sometimes its better we make it our self.

This video details how i make Sharwama at home for myself and my family.

I hope you learn a thing or more.

Ingredients:


Boneless chicken
Sausages
Carrots
Cucumber
Lettuce
Onions
Mayonnaise
Tomato ketchup
Garlic
Ginger
Seasoning
Salt
Tortilla wrap
Pepper
Curry powder
Thyme leaves
Vegetable oil





https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OLIDJBvhyQA

Awesome!

I wanted to ask about the Tortilla, whether it was home made..But, I realized you bought.

Can you make tortilla at home?

Petty reno..This is damn hilarious though..

By this time next year the heat will be over.

emnite:
Can't you just be friends without you Knacking her?

I find it difficult to believe this advise is coming from a male gender.

So he shouldn't go for what he want? But allow himself to be manipulated by the lady, so we can say he is a nice man?

The lady knows he really love her, and she is using it to her advantage while neglecting his feelings..That is pure manipulation.

I can't deal with such a cunning lady..

@ Adeleketj since you have madr your intentions clear, she declined...Just move.

Move and never look back...Focused men don't waste time on frivolous stuffs.

Two can work only if they agree..She want friendship, you want relationship...

mariahAngel:
I sikwanu'm mee gini?

Seriously speaking, couples encounter different challenges in marriages o.
Even this one that op is complaining about is nothing compared to what some others are going through.
There are truly only few good marriages.

Chiwa nu o

Surely..The mindset one has, prior to it, will determine how successful one grows older in it..That mindset of steady sacrifice.

Eji m nke mpa m na mma mara..It cannever be easy..Even with wealth.

Onwu nwa ekwensu kariri..

Festus30:
I and this girl have been dating over a year. I took her serious, I've sacrifice a lot for her and it made me so heart broken when I noticed she cheated on me reason I almost took her life.

My girlfriend and I live in the same city (Mowe) but I traveled out of the city 2 months ago for work things (ibadan), so around last month she called me that her phone screen (Samsung) is broken, that she's just managing her phone and to fix it is 35k but she already have 15k so she's in need of 20k to complete it. So I sent her 21k.

Fast forward to Friday when I came back to mowe, I went to see her, I saw her holding iphone Xmax. I was like who gave you iPhone? She was just telling me lies upon lies. At first she said she swapped it, then I was like why didn't you tell me you bought iPhone and who gave you money to swap it becus you'll need over 190k to swap. To cut the long story short..

I later found out that a guy bought the phone for her. The 21k I sent to repair her phone, she repaired it and gave it to her younger sis.

I was so heartbroken. For a guy to buy her iphone that means she have been dating and having sex with the guy secretly without me knowing. She has been begging me, calling & texting since Friday but i didn't reply.

She texted me she was coming to my house yesterday. The only word I said to her since on Friday was to meet me in a uncompleted building close to my house yesterday, I have this machanic slege hammer, it's one of my tools I use for working, so I held it while waiting for her.

My plan was the moment she enter the building, just a powerful whiplash on her head and she's dead, I felt so cold inside of me, I was also shaking while holding the hammer and feeling so heartbroken. Then I heard a deep voice inside of me saying "YOU WILL REGRET YOUR ACTIONS" (twice)

Then she called me that she's there, I already sighted her through the window, I came out and I told her to run away and never come back anywhere around me again. She was still begging that she's sorry. And I said if only you know what I'm about to do, you will run.

She left, I just sat on the floor feeling so heartbroken.

Man down!

Sorry man, lessons learnt..Move on.

Some ladies will do anything for apple products... Even it means discarding a long-term love story.. .

A gadget that upgrades almost every 6months.

Black berry extinction didn't teach them any lesson.

You are lucky you didn't harm her..That's someone's wife to be, probably not yours.

mariahAngel:
Hahahahahahahahahaha

I chiga ochi..

mariahAngel:
Most men are like that. Hehehe

Ka Chineke gbawa op ume.

If not Anyi n'ile o..

Unless one becomes wiser from lessons learnt..

I pity him, another case that can result into such, is a man marrying a lady who is not into him like that...You will get burnt out in the long run..

It is heartbreaking pleasing who doesnt care..

The best thing that can happen to a man, is settling down with a lady ji obi ya hu ya n'anya..I mean you will want to break the boundaries to make her happy always.

Not udi nwunye OP..This one can make a man question God

divinehand2003:
The school feeding programme is a huge scam. Apart from the ghost schools, they claim they feed the children during holidays as well.

The government keeping running us G fulltime..

And useless EFCC KEEPS going after ITunes card boys

mariahAngel:
You've always known her to be that way, so you can't get tired now.
Keep up the energy.

The signs are always there...But men will always be men...Prioritize sex over good character and conduct..

Any man who can control his sexual urge, is destined for greatness.

VeryWickedGoat:
But you were grinning and dancing on your wedding day because of kpekus that others will still shine with you.

Youuuu

Generalwoodz:
Face of passport money.
Latest passport couple
Queen and King of passport money.

You said they fell in love while serving in a command, I think you should be more specific and point out that the lovers met in passport office.

You guys eeeh!!!!!

A wise man see business opportunity where everyone never dreamt of.

One thing you can't take away from Catholic is discipline..In their very face, Mbaka will be moved to rome to join another spiritual congregation till he grows old and transit.

He allowed crook politicians use and dump him every election year.

Nothing wey money no go cause for this life.

mariahAngel:
If what she gave is the essence of the show, then she deserves it.

She was herself from day1 till last day...

The essence of reality show..Be yourself, people will like you if they want to..without pushing you to change to what they will like.

It was purely a lady's season.. Even Bella was herself from day1.

Anyways, ka anyi face a Emilokan with full force and more strength as the distraction is over

O le ebe unu kwushiri, ka anyi yiri shoe na Jersey joinia..

The trick is, start selling something...

Either produce and sell.
Or Buy and resell.

In that way, you are taking in money from other people,as you are spending yours.

mariahAngel:
Naija is eff'd up!

How? You don't think she is deserving?

Who theyyyyyyyyy...

A case of Que Sera Sera...

Next season winner will be shouting whoooooooooooo...

mariahAngel:
Exactly.
You're not as excited about the show now as you were back then.
Unless maybe until after the elections (next season's edition).

So, do you have any idea who might win this year's edition?

Yes..I faced the reality the day I slept off while party was on.. and repeated same next party.

I really don't know...but it's a tough race.

But it has always been a Phyna season..

Finally she won.

I am happy we have the winner from level2..

The real content house for the season.

Threebear:
Phyna won.

Which ring I go use propose

davodyguy:
The GOC, and his boys from Bonny Cantonment are on standby

What happened in 1859 will repeat again

Amaka na weyrey

Twoclans:
And everyone taught it would be Chi Chi on stage first .

What if ebuka evicts phyna next

Runs out of thread .

Lekki toll gate scatter will be child's play

Twoclans:
Bia munzy hapa m aka .

Your individuality is not allowing you conclude on which of your collective harem of women to settle with.

Na my side chic I go carry...

MI when Vector show face...lol

Or Vector right now...

nazablossom:
A pia walu ya azu

Back to back o...

iamyemiakins:
Winner still never clear till now, this season choke sha

Choken't it?!

It choketh...

Even, most gorgeous don choke..