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Foreverdope:
senior! I don meet girl wen I lash that same day & I won't lie I loved her & we still going on fine today.. No be how far na how well senior


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Exactly how well...But I feel such proposal is too early...I mean you really need to know the person in a different setting from the place you met.

Kriss216:
I still don't understand how men feel comfortable booking Dickpointment at a woman's place. The risk outweighs the enjoyment.

A jealous jilted lover must be involved in the murder.

Some guys reason with the diiik na..

Normal gf suppose come over, fwd babe suppose come over...Na mugu dey go woman house...Like how do dey feel comfortable doing that and dick rising in a strange environment

Very risky...

uyimen:
Just to add that initially there was nothing i did not do humanly possible to please these people name it. All to no avail.

You went extra mile to please them..smh that was the costly mistake that made them take you for a fool.

If you had operated on principles, trust me they will be scared of visiting your home even when you invited them..Your wife is their house help (slave girl), Even as married woman, they still have that mentality of she is our slave..And psychologically she accepted her fate...Even you, will not change her....

If you like take her overseas, she will be home sick in weeks...You could av sorted this baggage initially, but you played inyo the Aunt's tricks and traps..You even call her mummy for what exactly?

Is she your MIL?

Infact address her by her name Mrs A or simply Madam....Very formal.

The reward for trying to please people is disappointment and depression...

It is better to be feared, than to be liked~~~~Nicolo Machiavelli in his book "The Prince "

Cc Mariangeles this case is a perfect of that narration...I kwu tere ya ofuma that day.

There is little or nothing OP can do , he failed to man up from onset...

O nor na arachaa ndi na enwehu time ya..

Mariangeles:
If he has any atom of intelligence, it should.
Evil spreads when we see it and do nothing.

If he had typed Nigerian men are useless...all of them would you have thought it was funny?
Would you have quoted him with a laughing emoji?

Lol...You really don't know me sha...

I huru otu a m di, ya si m na nne m di useless, I will quote him with more laughing emojis..

If I check, nne m o di useless ma nwoke aluo ya, ya na ya amuta onye di ka m

If he say men are useless, I will even quote him with a laughing meme

These things don't bother me at all...If you carry these things for head, it will affect your psychology and will weigh you down..

Okwa Nwaanyi muru ya? check am na.

Hapu o, Ighota uwa deep, you always smile at some comic reliefs here and there...

Mariangeles:
Well, I believe she can still redeem herself. She made a mistake once and it is not enough to condemn or write her off as a bad person.

Remember that the op typed that she always buys him stuff, so I don’t think she’s stingy. Probably irresponsible.

What she needs to do is to start working and earning money, so that she can start contributing and being responsible for her family, because that is the only way she can earn her husband’s respect.
And if I were her, with a husband like the op, I wouldn’t want his money to establish myself, because he’s the kind of person that will most likely going to always remind me that I owe my success to him.

Do you think this kind wife will step in when bigger challenges come? Even if she is working and earning cool.

She is who she is na...Change doesn't happen sudden...It involves a process...Very simple as ABC, she lost the trust the man has for her...

O di m ka aga m e tinye kwu ituashi na my deal breaker.. Nwaanyi m ekwesi hu ituru m ashi at all and it is vise versa...I mean if we can't stand up for eachother, Onwehu ishi na.

YourCoffin:
Well you are also condemning the man. Why can't I do the same to the woman? Ordinary one night feeding money she no gree bring na contribution she go come do? The husband isn't even asking her for money. He was in a bad spot just for a night and she couldn't pick up the slack even when she has. Lord knows I can't be with that kind of person. It is not a mistake. It is the kind of person she is. It doesn't mean there are no other good sides to her, which is why I didn't advise the OP to throw away the baby with the bath water. I only said he should look out for himself.

You said it all.....

YourCoffin:
I only said he should start saving for his future. If he was dropping 100% of his income for family expenses, he should reduce it to 50. Invest the remaining for his future. Otherwise he will hear wee when he gets old and can't earn as much as he currently does

This is exactly the fate of most men who married such women when they get older and didn't save for their weaker days..

Them the hear wee Incomplete meals with Heavy Insult all the time. In such case you will hear dead man I no blame you, because I agreed to marry you. .

A man is valued for the fact he can provide...

Mariangeles:
I wouldn’t even say she’s stingy because according to the op, she always buys him stuff whenever she goes out.
I think it is a case of her still learning how to be a wife. They are a new couple.
As one of the commenters rightly commented, she still treats her husband like a boyfriend.
She also believes it is his sole responsibility to take care of her as his wife.
What she did was wrong, yes, but it was not enough to condemn and term her a bad person.
She needs to be given the chance to redeem herself.

I blame the op for discussing and allowing all kinds of people type sh!t about his wife. And he was foolishly agreeing with them crucifying his wife.
A woman he should protect. A woman he sleeps and cuddles with. The mother of his child.

Talk about an enemy within! God forbid bad husband!

She still needs some brushing up....Men will do anything for the wife, as long as quality and genuine care from her is guaranteed.

I believe the OP was seriously disappointed by seeing his own better half telling lies when he has seen evidence.

Though oruhu ije aji akpogbo ya n'obe..But first impression matters..It will take time to regain the trust..Not when he realised he went to bed on empty stomach as married man..

Kitchen and her family's stomach wunu ihe nwaanyi ji eme onu na, but Nwaanyi op no send...Slay queen wife.

No matter how buoyant a man can be, a day will come when he will be out of cash at hand and with no options...That's when a wife can step in immediately to fill up the space..

Trust me if OP is no longer providing, this one go run...Or ga a gwa di ya ihe nshi ka mma.. like my Mom will say.

Mariangeles:
I remember some guys constantly chyking one of the male food posters because they thought he was a female.
Ndi umu nwoke hugburuhu onwe ha.



Males do it more.
At some point, it became a trend among them. The whole thing was just a mess.

Thats normal normal naa...Nwoke kwesiri i chyke na...Some mitiri better half ha o tu ahu..

And i mahu na it is easier to find it here based on the person's contributions to issues here...no matter how incognito we found ourselves on this forum, Someone somewhere is observing and following.

When you type as a human, it depicts a mindset..And your mindset determines your life setting.

Mariangeles:
O dizi ka robot. Repeating the same sh!t every time.



Sometimes, when I’m moved to react to some kind of comments, I react spontaneously.
Those comments determine what I respond to them.

Lol
After the reaction, did it change anything?

Mariangeles:
She’s not a bad wife, she’s just stingy.
You can open up and try to talk to her about it.
Make her understand that you are not her father but her husband, and she’s obligated to support you in providing for the household in any way she can, no matter how little.

Stingy for who exactly? Di ya ka owu nwa ya...Comfortably allowed them to sleep on empty stomach just to pretend that she doesn't have?

If she doesn't spend on the two most important people in life, who will she spend on? Smh ufodu umu nwaanyi sef ...Herd mentality ndi my pastor si...Di m ga na e provide mgbe o wula..

Mariangeles:
Happy birthday to you!!!
More wins!

December born are born leaders!

Ndi nsogbu...

byrron:
Thanks

"Que Sera, Sera (Whatever Will Be, Will Be)"

Exactly..Welcome!

byrron:
This is very illogical.

Would you have voted for her knowing fully she is about to get 50k from somewhere else?

The answer is an emphatic NO, therefore she won't have gotten 100k and this is where common sense steps in.

Outside Nairaland, yes she can still win the prize for the contest because, sentiments won't be the only factor that voters will be looking at.

The point is this, let the voter's decide and there is no ambiguity in this.

The honest truth is, If not for the fact you pointed out a usual scam formats here, no one would have noticed the lady.

They have selected the woman with three business plans or the other person....This place works like a clique, they influx and influence decisions for a chosen thread with tags..

Remove sentiments, ummufarrah stands no chance.

You really came with a veteran mindset and principles worthy of emulation...

There is no justification for removing her from the contest, even if she is moving with grace in regards to this.

Workers do get double promotions atimes, business profits do tripple even when one has just a little profit projection from cost analysis.

KiNg0G:
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Now I have seen the reason why your pastor gave you an impromptu closing prayer lead..

You get your wahala for body...

Why blackmail snowland in his act of magnanimity....

Mariangeles:
Who can even stand a househusband!?

Even housewife is out of the equation nowadays, ma ya fodukwa nwoke kwesiri i headi a home..

If no work, business is an option..As long one has a place to go to in the morning, and return later.

Idleness comes with a lot of dirty mindset.

My aunt wu housewife ji awa di ya ishi...I can't set my head on fire biko....If I win bread, ya winia akara..

If She wins bread, I have to win Akara...It is a must..Maka happiness and love in the family..

Mariangeles:


The day we all remove the M and the F tags beside our monikers, nairaland will begin to make sense.
Our comments will no longer be judged based on gender, but as our opinions.
Gender hate will decrease drastically.

Then same genders will begin to admire and chyke themselves na....The negative side of it..

Even though some males claim female, while some females claim male here.

Mariangeles:
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Hypnotized zombie!

nke a ekwehugi mkpata..

How do you see such comments here? Onwere o tu oshi eme gi in terms of reacting?

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

This guy sef...Signature comment..

Soon ffk will release a picture of him and Mercy...

And he will follow it up with a foot note saying; At a function with the sweet mercy lambo. I had a lot of discussion with her, regarding her achievements in the industry and how to move Nigeria forward..lmao

Alaigbopress:
That is my Class Mate KK Hills
Head Boy of Our Set at FSTC Awka
KK Hills have been a Champ from onset.
Really FSTC is producing great men
I am really happy for You my man.

Our Class was indeed a very hot one. Full of geniuses, even Nkem could not even hold first position for two consecutive time. Ah I also remember obele, another Dora Akunyili in the making, that one is doing great in the pharmaceutical field. What about Chima, another Doctor. Nonso another Doctor. Just one class almost seven Medical Doctors. Inded there are exceptionally brilliant students and there are average students.

Interesting...Some schools are highly competitive..Reminds of my alma mater...Very rare to see first position, not to talk of holding it twice..

Kuriosmynd:
He gained admission as Anatomy student
He moved to Pharmacy
Then moved to MBBS, all within 3 years of gaining admission as Anatomy Student.
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Trust me, this can only happen with connection in any Federal University in Nigeria.
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Listen I'm not saying he's not brilliant, but I can assure you there are many more brilliant students in Anatomy who wanted Medicine , or brilliant Students in Pharmacy whose dream is medicine...but could not go cos the system does not allow it
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But then..his connection made him switch department 2X (twice) in 3 years....Haba. Na connection things make we no argue am again

No doubt...

But you see UNIZIk, that school does good on merit...A lot of students do exactly what this one did...Ones you take exams and reach cut off mark, your admission is sure...Any course works fine.


You must be very intelligent to excel and graduate in that school, otherwise you go frustrate...Unistress.. Lecturers No get your time at all.

Funny enough, after recording this, she will go home to cook and serve her man... while deceiving some other women...

This life, learn to slice your Onion yourself.

Ingocof:
Pls tell me the reaction of the lady when she saw you

E no go pass shame..

Panda7:
wahala people, my gf does not lie to me only my ex was the lieing, gold digging and nagging type and I could have sworn all women were her type, anyway it's not good to be in an abusive and obsessive r/ship it could damage you permanently

Truth.....Abusive ones will make you think they are all the same.....The psychological torture.

berryPee:
This babe look so innocent. whenever I pay her a visit, she's either in Bro. Femi's room laughing to his jokes or they are having a chat in their compound, She kept telling me ghat he is just a nice neighbour and there's nothing going on between them until I mistakenly enter her chats with him. What I saw made me to vow NEVER to be serious with too sanctimonious girls. My people I tried to force tear out of my eyes to wash away my pain but the man in me refused to shed tears.

Eeeyaaaa!!! apple of your eyes, bro femi dey chop am from behind...

Sorry man.......Maybe you aren't aware she has needs..As a lady..She is equally open to romance...Or you were seeing her as an assistant pastor or a reverend sister...

Na her type the choke guys with excess care...ones you genuinely show her love..

Anyways we are humans regardless.

Mavrick2012:
Caught her entering a hotel,she vex.
Why will i be following her.
That she was only testing me,and i have failed.
Jeez
Like am a fool!!!

Valuc:
Told bae I don't have money.. even open my acct balance to prove further my word.. 2k dey inside my account... bae even use hand close her eyes sey she no wun see the balance... I think sey na der e end... As I stay finish sey I wun dey go.... Omo next thing I hear na.. share the 2k with me na.. gimme 1k Inside... I was madly shocked... Like seriously I think sey u locked ur eyes like u no dey interested to see before ... I no no sey u dey peep from inbtw ur fingers .. omo I fear girls

icebird25:
That if I leave her that she would die ..
So I decided to leave her to see whether she's going to die... Cynthia is getting married next year January...women are scum

Na who never learn lessons from experience...Everyone is replaceable..It will only take time...

Genuine people will only hold on to for the genuine reasons..

Odewaleadesoye:



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Maybe she went there to break up with him physically

You be comedian...

PlayMaker14:
Munzy, the question is, how do you know that the Warri guy be like Churchill Usain Bolt?

Him babe cast am na....

KiNg0G:
I didn't know it was hard to pray, untill I was given microphone today unexpectedly.

I wouldn't say I disgraced myself, but bro you supposed know how that kind thing dey be.

Elders are there, deacons and deaconess are there ever ready to be called at any giving opportunity, na me when sit down my own jejely for congregation dey look time...na pastor see call.

The full church was just observing as the usher was bringing the mic to where I stood.

I fumbled, even my voice for the speaker echo, the way my voice sounded in the speaker, some people Burst laugh.

Where I want start from,

My buddie that came with me to the church.(guy man just smiling sheepishly)

I just had to coordinate myself a little, I kept it short and simple.

Well, na small thing dey disgrace person.

A young man like myself go come dey fool myself say I nor sabi pray.. thank jah for how it played out.
It wasn't really that bad... he's not supposed to Take me unaware.

Because it was just as if the pastor get me for mind before.

Ever since have been attending that church it's elders, deacons, evangelist he normally calls to give closing prayer... and I know he normally informs them down.

As for my pastor am thinking about having a chat with him, I really didn't like it.

He can't just take me unaware like that.
if he wanted me to pray the closing prayer, he should. Have sent the usher with a piece of note to come inform me.
That would have been better, not calling me unexpectedly.

brother Kingog lead us in prayers...lol


E go come be like make ground swallow you.