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but would he have stopped cheating if the girl didnt get pregnant ?

Can anyone really say

Look y'all its easy to blame we all know that, whats difficult is to look past a mistake
thats when we know who is who

@ poster
Let your friend and the guy talk (really talk!) about it and come to an agreement, and then move foward from there
I guess it wont work out, but then, what do i know, right?
And, if he's sorry does it not count for anything?
Does she want him back?

@thread, easy with the fire and brimstone, a lil' faith . . .

Nobody likes a cheat . . .
but they are human too.

Who never made a mistake here?

@ poster

There really isn't any big deal about all your questions, its just that we re sorta used to having isolated relationships is all.
I mean, if you re obviously "involved", then a wedding is just another outing unless of course you ve got something in mind and you re scared to talk about it, but if you re both clear on what you re doing, as per where your r/ship is heading, then its no biggie.

@question 2
would you give your friend who was beside you your phone to say to your f/f? if yes then whats the difference btw that and a family member?
If no? why not?

Every r/ship brings two sets of people together, not just you and your g/friend but at the very least your circles of friends.

think about it and stop missing out on fun things to do !!!

@ poster.

he just doing his job, i'm sure your narrative is a bit one sided.
just try to take it easy with him.

For what i know is love destroys and alcohol builds,esp the hard wine

i think maybe you got it the other way round

I smoke and if anyone don't like it, oh well too bad. It's my life and if I chose to die of lung cancer so be it.

So be it !

@thread

Okay so we all dislike smokers, does this mean that smokers dont have boyfriends/girlfriends

Be realistic!!!

What do we really know about love?

I know exactly what you re talking about, and we trust . . . .

Not because its the right thing to do but because its all we can really do (with of course a margin of error!)

There can be no meaningful r/ship without it.

Also, you should watch the kind of men you get involved with, if you cant trust him then dont get involved.

Unlovable?

Untouchable?

Which do you mean?

she's your friend , no your girl , oh!
why cant she be both?

@ ladies

Thank you !!!

Here's a guys opinion

@poster

Sorry Man about everything, i know it aint easy to lose a loved one but you ll get over it . . . . . eventually.
You didnt do anything wrong (unless of course if you didnt mention it in your post!)
she deserved to hear the truth about her other guy.

Dont feel bad about her needing space, we all do from time to time, she may be back yet and then you ll have to decide for real to get back or not, i have this opinion because you seem to have been a truly loving and caring boyfriend.

however, you chose to risk entering a love triangle and your angle has become decidededly acute,

my advice to you is to keep on holding on, you ll find someone else.

All the best

I saw nice looking girl and i want to date her
i all ready have a girl friend.

does it means that she is not satisfying me Huh Huh Huh Huh

Sounds Contradictory poster, you seem to want NLanders to tire with you, and its working!

Get a Life!

why are nigeria ladies love pretence

An ambiguous question if i ever heard one

what was the son doing in the club when he should have been in school, studying?

. . . Folks me I done tire I swear, . . .

You sound like you re enjoying these duties, else maybe you should be telling her what you wrote.
Be honest, dont lose and end up bitter.

. . . before i let the act out of the bag.

@ poster, i believe you mean cat

On to the issue at hand; friends first is usually a good idea but ensure you dont lag, make your intentions known early but dont rush into anything
sounds hard right? well, it aint impossible!

All the best.

Here is her phone number 07039628230

guy you've just lost your babe!!!!!!! how can you post her number on nairaland??!!! you're obviously dumb!!!

Hope you are okay? Undecided

Here you have it, Nlanders have spoken, advise her to change lines ASAP !

Fidelity is a highly personal issue.

@engrbrume
Ride on man!

@poster
He was spot on, what i consider flirting may be full blown cheating to you, but ask yourself "will it be worth it?"
the truth always comes out,, eventually.

A walk to remember- it's amazin how the guy's life was influenced by the gurl

@ sayoh
Thanx, i was wondering why no one mentioned that one, wonderful story, with just the right amount of reality (Love hardly wins at the end of the day!)

So there y'all have it, A WALK TO REMEMBER (with Mandy Moore), go watch it

. . .and there stood my man, mouth agape ,looking as if he just saw a ghost with ANOTHER BABE clinging on his sleeves.

Ouch!!!

Hey, y'all are a bit too harsh !
How many of you havent ever done something that you ll do anything to take back? its easy for you ta advise her to "leave him", "dont take him back"
"drop him like he's hot" and all that, but as poster steve49ja said: its a hard one, and these things are never that easy.
it depends; does she want him back? can she say he honestly wont do it again? (i think he will, but thats not the point! i dont believe the best in any situation )
my dear, forgive him if you feel he deserves it but let him suffer a bit more , find out the cause of his distrust and make sure it stops; keep him on "probation" for some months, and see how it goes.
I wish you all the best

Dude, in case you havent noticed, you should have at least shown your displeasure. i know how it is to be "so considerate" that you dont even object to things that you should object to.
have you asked yourself if you really "love" her? coz if you do, then you wouldnt be so lax about something like that!
If you dont want to lose this girl (if you havent already done that) then you d better start getting jealous and confrontational!

Sorry Ladies, you cause these situations, otherwise i wouldnt be advising a guy to get jealous!

poster coolejjy get the f%$k outta that situation! change schools if you have to, do not, i repeat do not, take

"by all means"

Lightly

God help you !

I would like some decent advice please

Sorry about your plight miss reese, but as someone earlier pointed out, sexual urges are very human, and it would be pointless to think otherwise, now some people may believe that "the best way to get rid of temptation is to give in to it" but thats another issue entirely, i think your answer lies in your partner, if your relationship is strong enough; he should be able to help you pull through, theres really nothing to be ashamed of

So, go to him tell him what and how you feel, and ask for help and support.

All the best

It may sound like a cliche, but you dont find "true love" , it finds you , just keep an open mind (heart?) and remember that it comes unexpectedly and in the oddest ways.
I wish you all the best