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Last time I checked, Nigeria has a free market system. The market determines the price. No one is forcing you to apply for the job, so it cannot be an enslavement.

If people refuse to apply for the job, it may force the hand of the employer to increase the starting salary.

yolada:
Inside this kind economy, you want to dey pay person 17k a Month to dey work from
8am-8pm, Sunday to Sunday. Just imagine. E just be me as if make I give the idiot woman better blow for mouth as him dey talk that rubbish.... I no know weda Na by force to start business if you don't have money to pay better salary. Instead of trying to enslave people's children for job wey you no fit allow your own pikin do.

How?

cococandy:
Both of them are complicit?

Will you also be willing to play your traditional part, or will you claim equal partners when it comes to your own responsibilities?

mariahAngel:
Many men of this generation have successfully manipulated women into sharing their responsibilities equally with them, and so many women have fallen into that trap, trying to prove what they need not, thereby, overexerting themselves.

I have always been under the impression that the it is the females that decide to marry into a polygamous household. They were not forced or coerced into it.

Since you are not a fan of such family setting, would it not be prudent for you to advise the unmarried females against going into these settings rather than attacking a man for the outcome?

cococandy:
Answer first. If you will let your daughter share one man, you should be okay with your son sharing one woman. I’ve never been in support of polygamy. So my answer is consistent regardless of gender. But the question is are you a hypocrite? Do you support polygamy when it’s a woman but suddenly frothing at the mouth when it’s a man?

Nazgul:
Don't blame them. Nigeria isn't working so once people see any business that gives money, everyone would dive into it and over saturate it.

This is actually a normal thing, practiced almost everywhere. I believe economists have a term for it, known as "perfectly competitive market."

Once the barrier to entry is minimal and there is a noticeable demand, people will rush toward that business until profit from it becomes almost nil.

Nigeria is filled with so much hate and tribalism.

Just imagine the kind of hate emanating from people of the same race, from the same country, and I wouldn't be surprised, from the same tribe.

These are same people that travel to the western countries and will be the first to complain about racism. Real shame.

Based on the most comments above, if Nigeria is divided into multiple parts as countries, each independent part will turn out to be worse than the original whole. This is simply because you don't love one another.

The real question is why the courts are taking too long to hear and provide verdict on the cases. The constitution already says when swearing date is. The judiciary is simply messed up.

People should learn to stop lending money to friends or family. That's the quickest way to destroy that relationship.

Instead of lending them the full amount, give them just 20% of it as a gift. If you cannot afford to do that, then simply tell them you don't have it.

See what exactly in the post?

Your last two sentences just confirmed why I said the woman should have been better off a single mom.

jesmond3945:
read his post you would see it. Besides you dont live with them to know what she is doing. My mum gave me 5 million when I graduated from Uni. My dad doesnt know about it up till today.

You didn't answer the question. What does she contribute to the running of the household?

She makes 800k per month. Yet, the husband takes care of 98% of the financial needs of the household. It would have been great if she contributes about 40-50% of the finances, but she doesn't. So, of what use is she to the husband?

Such a woman would have been better off being a single mother and focus on her career and not have to worry about demands of a husband.

jesmond3945:
a woman that is making 800k a month and you still want her to cook everyday or let me say you still want her to give her husband food everyday? Are you normal at all?
Even Op is complaining that she doesnt wash his clothes. Common man in 2023?
You people see women as machine in that shithole country.
Somebody that is still nurturing a baby. Have you child minded or baby sitted before and still add 800 k per month hustle to it. If they born Op well make e divorce the wife na im loose. 800k x12 with 2 kids she would ball hard. She wants a bright future for her kids.

Let both parties work as equal partners. There is no work reserved for any gender.

Odiegwu! A father hired thugs to kidnap and torture his own child on couple of occasions? Maka why? As a father, this makes me very very sad and angry.

He has damaged this young man's self esteem.

He needs to start remedying the damage by genuinely apologizing to his son. If not, once that young man is able to move out, he will erase everyone, except the siblings, from his life.

Obviously you didn't get my point.

The fact that forex carries more risk means potential for a higher reward.

This greed for a higher reward shouldn't make you blindly turn your money over to any Tom without the appropriate due diligence. It is the psychology of this greed that these crooks use to hookwink the gullible.

And like I said, any money you invested in Forex or stock market is not guaranteed. You should only invest a money you are willing to lose. And yes, you definitely can lose most of your money in a stock market when you don't do the appropriate due diligence.

Kobicove:
Please don't compare forex trading and stock market.

In stock trading the performance of a company stock is based on the financial results or outlook of the company but forex trading carries more risk because there are a lot of factors that can be manipulated which make it difficult to predict with a high degree pf certainty

You do realize that money in Forex trading, just like in stock market, is not guaranteed by anyone or institution. It is not like money you deposited in a bank. It is possible to lose everything you invested.

If this individual can prove that he used the money to trade in forex, can show the losses, there's really nothing you can do about it.

You took a risk. Unfortunately, it didn't pay off. Greed is sometimes good, but blind greed is disastrous.

Learn from this for your future investment endeavors.

I see. You have an absentee father. That's not fair to you and your siblings.

This may also be the reason for the financial pressure on your mom and siblings, hence the utterances. I hope you can see things from their viewpoint. Things are really hard everywhere, moreso in Nigeria.

I still recommend for you to undertake a craftmanship training, specifically in a tech-related area. Speak to your father first to help pay for it before reaching out to other family members. I understand he has not always been there for you, but it's still his money and your father, so ask with
humility. For the sake of your self respect, don't squander the opportunity if and when you get it.

Naofumi:
My mother and Sisters..... Although when my mother complain about me she says my brother money is also involved. Although my father sometimes sent money but I can't even call him my father.... Man has been away for 6 years already. And the last he sent a dime was 4 months ago.

You are 18 and already in HND 2. To me, that's an achievement in itself. Your mates in the U.S. are just finishing with their high school education.

Since you are in Nigeria, I'll recommend you plead with your parents to help pay for you to learn a skill you are passionate about and which is financially viable. With this skillset, you can earn money on the side, and with that, you will start earning the respect you deserve.

You mentioned that your father doesn't provide at all. Who's the one that pays for your tertiary education?

This is what enabling laziness results to. Entitlement mentality.

Please never ever do what these people are asking you to do. Once you do that, you have completely lost your self respect in the family, and you may never get it back.

For your own peace of mind, send your parents periodic messages (if they don't pick up your calls) and send them money when you can.

But you see your brother, don't call him and don't send him shishi. He needs to grow up.

The lawyer would have been complicit too.

The issue here is that a non UK citizen brought (paid) someone from outside the country to donate an organ. It is called organ harvesting. It is illegal and attracts up to 10 years in imprisonment.

Everyone involved in the crime will be prosecuted.

Even if the young man didn't report it, the physician would also have reported it to the authorities once he noticed any irregularities. He has a duty to do so.

Reelmii:
But why did the guy agree to travel with them in the first place, does it means that they did not tell him wat he was going there for....

But Ekwerenmadu should have involved a lawyer right from the start of the process where both his family and the boy possibly with the boy's family would have signed an agreement.....

I am sure that would have proven to the court that the boy was fully awear of the process and also consented to it

Please I have a question. Does all these marine spirits, witches, wizards, serpentine spirits, etc, occur only in Nigeria, and Africa at large? Are they the reason the country and the continent is in a downward development spiral?

Maybe we should increase the number of churches per street block from the current 6 to 10, with each one projecting it's outside loudspeakers in different directions.

Also, we should increase the number of people that preaches on the street with megaphone speaker at 5 AM up to 4 people in a street, each with his/her own megaphone speaker, and starting from 4 AM.

Definitely these noise pollutions will chase these damned demons back to wherever the hell they sprang from.

Is the woman kidnapped? If wasn't kidnapped, then she wasn't "snatched", because she's an adult, capable of making her own choice.

If the babies die during birth, could it have something to do with your wife's Rh factor? Just a possibility, assuming it wasn't run.

Ddeliverer007:
As a matter of fact, every Igbo man is an IPOB, the IPOB led by mazi Nnamdi Kanu.

If every Igbo man is a member of IPOB, why is Obi campaigning to become Nigerian president?

I am not sure you understand the main ideology of IPOB. IPOB is a separatist group.

I believe you are being too dramatic now.

I realize this is a sensitive subject, but we need to be realistic. The Government does not provide any form of financial support to the private clinics/hospitals for services rendered to the public.

If a private hospital uses their resources to offer emergency room services to about 100 lives without any reimbursement, you do realize this hospital can't afford to pay the staff and may have to close down.

It is a lot safer to take patients without ability to pay or John/Jane doe to FMC or general hospitals.

FlawlessKarl:
Shut up there. If a patient refuses to pay after treatment can't you take a legal action with such a patient? okay, Because of bad attitude of few patients that's they reason you fools kill alot of people by not attending to them until the pay till the last dime.

If there's any body that can beat or kill some of you fools I will be so glad and infact I will pay such person. Nigerian doctors are bastards, fools that knows nothing rather than priding themselves in quackery and killing alot of innocent people.


May God punish you guys, may you people die miserable in this life.

This is for all those berating Nigerian parents, especially fathers, about the discipline they try to instill in their kids. They nicknamed it abuse.

This is the result, and it's going to get worse. Parents are now afraid to correct their children the old ways. The children are, instead, molded into spoilt brats. These teenagers didn't learn these immoral behaviors at school, rather they brought them from home.

Please define "care" in this context.

Chee59:
If it is effeminate to care for your kids, stay childless.

Men and women are different, and each provide different kind of influence on the kids. Nigerian men are typically not emotional, just like Nigerian women are typically not romantic.

Women should desist from trying to turn men into effeminate beings, as seen in the west. It's already creating leadership vacuum in families, which in turn affect the children.

Bottom line is that a man should not have to depend on his children for his retirement. While training your children, put a little on the side, because these children will have their own family to take care of in the future.