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I would never try that in my life... To allow a girl stay in such a room with me.... When I know that I can concentrate on my business and make lots of money so that she could come and enjoy luxury with me....

First of all... Calculating the no of cars I have.. I don't see why she should be in a bus

Relationship should be built on hardwork

What is the real basis of hardwork...

Hardwork is when you are employed, all you have to do is attend to customers that come to you and make them come back... Instead you went the extra mile of using your facebook, twitter and instagram account to advertise and invite customers for a business that does not belong to you..

That is hardwork

You get two things.

A raise (possibly)

You will be called to important meetings and you will learn adequately how companies work and then you can use this fresh information to create your own company, (first hand experience is the best experience)..

Now hardwork in relationships..

For Men

Men you guys are falling your hands (you can't fall mine) I came to understand that when some men when they walk up to a girl, its not to make this woman his wife, it is to try his luck if she accept, they get a relationship if not, he moves to the next caro.

This is how many relationships starts,

Men!

How many of you have carefully understood history of your girl... how many of you have perfectly understood how the female mind works, what periods do to their moods and so many stuff like that (hmmm)

What they are so restricted in their thinking, How many of you have understood why she dated those past guys and why they broke up, how many of you have asked her what she wants from a relationship, how many of you have asked her what she likes to achieve before 25 or before 30, how many of you have seen a bad habit and made her improve, how many of you have asked her how many times she reads her books to gain knowledge (not to pass exams) how many of you even know the value of knowledge, how many of you have tried to improve your conversations with her, so that every conversation you guys are talking about moving forward not only in your relationship but in life ambitions

Have you ever sat down with her one day and say.. lets discuss about your ideas for this world..

Have you asked her what she plans to do for her future, she says 3 kids and riches... so how do you plan to get those riches...

All these are hardwork, seriously, getting to know the emotions of the woman you date,

Hardwork to make her safe and secure when she is around you...

Question: Have you ever shaved your girls pubic area?

Many of you haven't, the same way many of you don't actually care about what goes on emotionally and mentally (not physically that I just went to work, slept and the popular question.. have you eaten?

If you read the Relationship Tips Part 1 you will understand that the one rule of relationship is understanding boundaries, and a good relationship should not have such boundaries...

I see dating a girl as a responsibility, like I leading one of my sisters, I learn new stuff just to teach her what she doesn't know, I teach her musical instruments and other amazing stuff so that her peers can never compare themselves to hers, I teach her marketing (because women are good marketers) so that when she starts her business it will be a marvel.

I learn why she does what she does, her tantrums, struggles, lies and so much more, Everything she does has a reason, its not because she just feels like it, its because she knows it makes her feel good and it is right..

This is hardwork, its not all about training her in school (my friend you are not her father, you are her lover, mentor, role model so act like one)..

Some guys are actually afraid that a woman will leave them even after all these hardwork, and that's where your own value comes in (With a high level of value you are barely comparable, because you care about everything and think unlike everyone else, a valuable man knows all the relationships rules and applies them accordingly, which keeps the lady trapped in his reality)

Let me add this to tell you why hardwork makes you the best package

How many of you have read sex books on how to make sex romantic and emotional for her (not how to give her 10 orgasms)

How many of you have tried to impact in her, she likes to party, but she is a good cook, you accept this and when she stays late you start suspecting and complaining, my friend, your value will make your woman to say to herself "Partying like this does not represent the personality of my boyfriend" It ridicules him and makes me looks like a slut...

She changes not only because she wants to impress you but also because it is the right thing to do.

Woman are attracted to guys with value, power, influence and a purpose.. all these are hardwork...

If you think there is anything I missed you can let me know by commenting..

If you want more tips and stuff.. you just just follow

styles2009:
Thanks.
People really need this as the current economic state needs an inward look not just to survive but empower people globally.

Remember,

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

Nightie:
ok

Where have you been?

OBTSubtle:


Your opinion.. Others think differently

I know..

That's why a father tells his son that the way he is going he will end badly and his friends tell him

Your father's opinion, We all know differently... we go blow ....they will say

It just the same thing...

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

judeefcc:
Obtsubtle

I don't think so

I have seen talk2bella and so many others and now am seeing this one...

I am beginning to think that all these relationship situations might be fabricated.....

Marriage is not an achievement

knight05:
i

Have you read the article on being an active and differentiating yourself from the passives

Read it here https://www.nairaland.com/3404844/when-pains-poverty-too-much

budosky:
$400 payoneer fund needed asap.. Let me know if you have..

Have you seen the latest post on being an active and differentiating yourself from passives

Read it here https://www.nairaland.com/3404844/when-pains-poverty-too-much

agrovick:
Live report from this side of Lagos, it sure doesn't look like a no bra day.

have you seen the latest post

read it here https://www.nairaland.com/3404844/when-pains-poverty-too-much

forghon:
excellent dis deserves leadership nd daily trust front page nt even nairaland bravo it reallu motivates me

Thank you ...

I loved that pic you put up....

Also you can follow me for more posts ... if this one really motivated you.

ariesbull:
Sent you an email

I didn't see it.. here is the mail hearts6055@gmail.com

I can...

and it is so simple... all I need is people who are ready to think differently

HungerBAD:
I like this write up.

Interesting...

The main purpose for this write up is not for us to like it, but for us to learn something from it and practice it everyday...

If you did like it you can follow me and I will share more

This is something really Important for Me to share

First I want to thank my followers for believing in what I believe, that Africa is about to become the world's No.1 continent with creative minds

You can follow me if you believe in what I believe.

Also, you can stay up to date with my posts by following me.. The titles are somehow misleading.. But its has the best things we can ever wish for

I promised this article sometime ago which talks about the Difference between Living to Exist and Living to Survive

If you didn't read the first article Click here https://www.nairaland.com/3394271/igbo-guy-blackmails-posts-unclad

The Difference between[b] living to survive[/b] and living to exist is view and people who live to survive have a limited view....

I came to believe that this view is natural, the way nature intends for organisms to live is how they live.. eat sleep reproduce and die...

For Example

Imagine you strike a 1 million naira a month job in an oil company, 99% of us have just made the biggest achievement in our lives getting a job in shell.. and then we proceed to own houses and rent them out to get more cash or do some business just for the aims of profit and that's it our children will get to live a happy life, and if we care we send gifts to orphanages and all sort of homes...

This is the life that most of us want and that is what I call living to survive... you just want to get the best for yourself and that's it (and maybe hand your friends some few cash).. Giving gifts to orphanages, food stuff and all those necessities doesn't make you an active, because those orphanages will finish that food and look to another benefactor for more and you will be forgotten.. You didn't think of providing what will impact them in the long run..

The passive only sees his own problems, how to make himself great, make life worth living for himself, he does not see the world, so he will do anything to get a better life, than try to change the world around him..

Thats how it is in Nigeria, we see lack of social amenities and unemployment as what we each want and that is the number one criteria before we elect a candidate into power, we don't look for intellect, we look for Governors who promise to make 100 millionaires in a state of 3 million people in 4 years (just 100 in 4 years.. what MTN does in 1 month who wants to be a millionaire promos)

Lets talk about Mark Zuckerberg...

He enjoyed developing computer programs, especially communication tools and games

he built a software program he called "ZuckNet" that allowed all the computers between the house and dental office to communicate with each other.

all these he did in his early years and in the end he created facebook which was to allow users communicate with each other irrespective of location or whatever... Now he wasn't looking for a job at Shell or Chevron, he wasn't doing what many Nigerian entrepreneurs are doing, which is creating a business just to get profit (big amounts of it) Instead he saw the bigger picture, with an unlimited view and he saw how he could connect and impact billions of people in the whole wide world and that is what he did and today he is ranking as the 5th richest man in the world..

The passive (those who live to survive) one thing about them is that when they make it, they still don't impact on anyone, even their friends, their friends wish to be like them and not impact the world as they have done. Olamide is a perfect example of this...

He does not impact for a positive change, because he only sees what is around him and not the 1 billion people in Africa he can impact, it's all about improving his music, creating his brand and not about impacting Nigerians for a positive change..

For example

Beyonce has a song titled "I was here" I implore you to listen to this music and tell me if It does impact you to make a change..

Because the passives look at themselves in the mirror and see only themselves, their fame, achievement, how they suffered and how they are here now.. Instead of counting how they have brought forward a movement with their music, or how it brought a change in millions of people..

Like I said

Don't try to impress people with your lifestyle, trying to make them wish to be you.. Instead build people inside and out and they will be forever be indebted to you, including those they will build..

Talking about limited views, the week just began, I am sure many of us have planned how it will go,

Now how many people did you plan to impact in (I am not talking about preaching here) what skills, ideas did you plan to improve on

Limited views makes us restricted and we are never able to achieve fully the potential we have from birth, it makes us accept the change we see, it makes us accept things we refer to as manageable till God gives us something better..

A limited view is the reason why you are running from interview to interview, instead of you creating interviews, it is the reason you are running from merrybet to nairabet , instead of you being the one creating job opportunities for the youths, it is the reason you are looking for profits in MMM and blogging rather than impacting people, it is the reason why girls go into prostitution and being call girls (that is what we call runs girl mind you)..

Think of creating something huge that will impact all.. Dream big, rather dreaming of you working in an air conditioned office working for an Oil Company, instead dream of you being the CEO in an air conditioned office, owning a company that employs thousands or hundreds of thousands, that provide a valuable substance or material to earthlings,

The world is more than just about you being rich and owning houses in Lagos, Ibadan and America, more than you driving 10 jeeps and buying bugattis, its about you waking up one morning and seeing people driving jeeps of expensive nature (not keke and volvos) all around and you say to yourself.. I made that happen...

Remember to follow me for updates and just take a look at my signature for a tip of inspiration, also you can share your inspirational tips

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise.

and its the other way round

Stop Living

Start Existing

ariesbull:
I love your writing style, can you do more of content development for us ?


But with a real name bro

My Name is Newsphases

and if by content development you mean write articles on inspiration for you then contact me by mail hearts6055@gmail.com

Naff24:
Marry someone you both love one another dearly.

I don't understand what you said but here is why I said what I said

Remember I said if a man loves the woman darely

Its simple, everywoman is responsible for her man, men who love their women dearly cheat for these reasons

Bad sex life

Stress and quarrels with her

AOT - Advantage of time (when he is drunk, or something)

Now for the bad sex life, she wouldn't just wait for him to be doing all the work, (sex is not all about fvcking my friends, it all about creating a strong emotional bond) but get herself into work to give her man a mind blowing time in bed..

Stress and quarrels, a woman is supposed to build herself on tips on how to reduce stress and frustration and also provide escape routes during such events, I have learned that what we say fuel quarrels sometimes and even saying nothing fuels a quarrel.

advantage of time is always a mistake, a woman teaching her man the principles she lives on and how these principles should reflect in him will reduce the chances of such mistake happening..

So if a man loves you darely, he will never cheat on you...

redcliff:
Oga its not about Love. for a man not to cheat is called "Discipline"

Remember I said if a man loves the woman darely

Its simple, everywoman is responsible for her man, men who love their women dearly cheat for these reasons

Bad sex life

Stress and quarrels with her

AOT - Advantage of time (when he is drunk, or something)

Now for the bad sex life, she wouldn't just wait for him to be doing all the work, (sex is not all about fvcking my friends, it all about creating a strong emotional bond) but get herself into work to give her man a mind blowing time in bed..

Stress and quarrels, a woman is supposed to build herself on tips on how to reduce stress and frustration and also provide escape routes during such events, I have learned that what we say fuel quarrels sometimes and even saying nothing fuels a quarrel.

advantage of time is always a mistake, a woman teaching her man the principles she lives on and how these principles should reflect in him will reduce the chances of such mistake happening..

So if a man loves you darely, he will never cheat on you...

OLUWAcypris1:
no lady can stop a man from cheating, the decision has to do with the man,

Remember I said if a man loves the woman darely

Its simple, everywoman is responsible for her man, men who love their women dearly cheat for these reasons

Bad sex life

Stress and quarrels with her

AOT - Advantage of time (when he is drunk, or something)

Now for the bad sex life, she wouldn't just wait for him to be doing all the work, (sex is not all about fvcking my friends, it all about creating a strong emotional bond) but get herself into work to give her man a mind blowing time in bed..

Stress and quarrels, a woman is supposed to build herself on tips on how to reduce stress and frustration and also provide escape routes during such events, I have learned that what we say fuel quarrels sometimes and even saying nothing fuels a quarrel.

advantage of time is always a mistake, a woman teaching her man the principles she lives on and how these principles should reflect in him will reduce the chances of such mistake happening..

So if a man loves you darely, he will never cheat on you...

pressplay411:
What u mean "allow it"
I don't think any woman would allow her man to cheat.

Its simple, everywoman is responsible for her man, men who love their women dearly cheat for these reasons

Bad sex life

Stress and quarrels with her

AOT - Advantage of time (when he is drunk, or something)

Now for the bad sex life, she wouldn't just wait for him to be doing all the work, (sex is not all about fvcking my friends, it all about creating a strong emotional bond) but get herself into work to give her man a mind blowing time in bed..

Stress and quarrels, a woman is supposed to build herself on tips on how to reduce stress and frustration and also provide escape routes during such events, I have learned that what we say fuel quarrels sometimes and even saying nothing fuels a quarrel.

advantage of time is always a mistake, a woman teaching her man the principles she lives on and how these principles should reflect in him will reduce the chances of such mistake happening..

So if a man loves you darely, he will never cheat on you...

I give it a 0/10 ...

Because I know you can totally do better than that.. and also since it is a new blog.. you should ask for ratings until you are true with designing it...

For example check out newsphases.com

Presh900:
lol....this escapee 4rm YabaLeft

Remember

Don't try to impress people with your lifestyle, trying to make them wish to be you.. Instead build people inside and out and they will be forever be indebted to you, including those they will build

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

I don't think love is religious... If it was so.. then so many marriages could have been able to stand the test of time...

If you are single and looking for a man... Then you should get ready for a man to find you....

since you have me in mind Presh900 it means you are seriously following on my posts...

Nairaland has not allowed me to post for a while now and that is why I am not posting

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

The key to a successful relationship is not love, but perfect understanding... There is a reason why blood is thicker than water.... and that is the ties that hold us to our parents, brothers and sisters..

If we can recreate those ties in our relationships then gbam perfection..

But the thing is that you as a lady might be creating this link with him and him as a guy is just after your body... or he has already given up.. Finding the right man is not about the most romantic one, it is about the one that can say..

You are my wife and life the first day you go on a date with him... he already has plans set for you and is not waiting to date you and confirm... that way you both working towards this tie...

I am single right now...

But a [b]Smart [/b]Woman is all I need

Don't need hardworking or ability to cook

The worst thing that can ever happen to a lady is she talking back at me or she looking down on me....

This is not actually what kills them

The real deal that is killing small businesses is why they were started in the first place.. To make profit...

If you business has one primary goal of making profit and only profit then sorry it wouldn't survive in this 21st Century

The title of the Article should be stop Struggling to Survive, But struggle to Exist

Also I would love for you to join the active community ... simply follow me for more upcoming posts... so that you can copy and share to the world

and one thing is that... My articles are created with a reality.. a way of thinking and a perception that belongs to me.... If you can't recreate my perception... then surely you wouldn't be able to go far with copying my articles

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise