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pocohantas:
1) Some men pay for rents alone and their wives still get to dictate who stays and leaves. So I wouldn’t be going with that argument.

2) She is already in the French speaking part which she claims is the safe part. So insecurity is not the problem, but if at all it is, is her brother a member of Mossad? If insecurity is such a big deal, they shouldn’t even be in “Africa”.

3) She has been complaining they didn’t offer to come pick her from the airport. They don’t want to come see the kids…etc. It means she isn’t so afraid of them after all. She would actually appreciate their attention and care.

4) She can go ahead and bring on more drama. Her family, her choice.

Wow. What a dumb submission. Perhaps you wrote this while feeling very sleepy. Kpele

MALIGNANTGuest:
If you are a single man & you are doing well, please just avoid marriage. Kindly remove it from your agenda. The chances that you will end up sad, months after getting married now is very high unlike before. Trauma is now ubiquitous.

Before you consider such decision, Kindly & quietly ask yourself what the woman will be doing for u that you can't get with your money & effort?
Just name what men get in marriages, you can't get as a single man? My advice. Ponder on it.

Don't ever ever rush into marriage.
It's most likely not going to worth it in the end especially with the category of ladies we have now & the devices at their disposals . If it were in the era of our mothers, i would advice one to jump in blindly. Marital disharmony & killings are now on the high side. People should start learning to live solo. This applies to the Ladies too. Since they can't take shit from men, since na only men dey shit, you Ladies should start learning to remain single, however that won't stop you from having kids if you so desire.
Civilization & human advancement comes with its challenges and this is one of them.

But you're married. Why didn't you take your own advice? You're probably missing a few screws

grop1040:
There are plenty things that have gone down the line that I had to stand my ground on, but yet she still do otherwise, I cant do more than what is meant for a man to do, trust me I always stamp my authority diplomatically, it just does not work.

Shut up!!! Weak man!!! Ball-less man!!! Your brother is controlling your wife around and you can't do anything about it only to now "stamp authority"with your wife


If you can't stand up to your brother, step aside

grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So im 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.
He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness
how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs, there
was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to
cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that. Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed
as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage,and our family background from my mums side where
this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when
the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids,on getting there while in his living room,
he said to my wife " I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him. While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic
and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too
that she never thought he would say such a thing. 5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round
but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when
I knew something could be going on. Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her
to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick,that when he knows
its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing
with him thus her refusal to pick his call. So i called my mum and I was like being calm,patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean
that the recent things happening wont seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos shes
76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise. The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick,
she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me,it means
something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didnt u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam
was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother
called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.
Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.

You're a very docile and spineless man. Please leave your wife out of your nonsense and man up to your lecherous brother or is he the one feeding your family?

How can a man just stand there and watch another man disrespect his wife? You're lucky to have a good wife sha who still respects you because you don't actually deserve any respect

At the risk of sounding like a coon, I just want to say I thank God for the 'white man'.

Look at everything we enjoy today. So much quality information shared for FREE on the internet and on social media.

They always seek to make life easier and humanity better. I'm sorry to say this but the black man, hmmm..... it's a pity honestly.

OP, try your best to learn from him and explore the internet too especially YouTube.

29kobo:
Typical.

Don't fight corruption, this is what happens. Stealing enmasse.

At the end, it predates this administration, and will continue when this admin is gone.

I reckon a good way of stopping this...digitalisation.

Oh, it's digitalization now. It's no longer subsidy?

Okay, lol

where is twentyfivekobo? What do you have to say about this now

Blessedmercy8:
I'm not sure he's what I want but then I don't have anyone at the moment making it look like a perfect situation.
My heart is not settled with the whole idea.

I want someone on a neutral ground.

Blessedmercy8, you're over thinking this thing. You see, love has no time schedule and it comes when we least expect it. Why not open your heart to it and see where it goes?

Allow him to send all the messages, chats. Let him court you, tell you how beautiful you are and make you feel like a lady.

All will be well. Just believe.

My advice is for you to give it a chance and see where it goes.

RADIO1:
When I was growing up I have this cousin that stay with us during her university. She was very close to me in fact my best cousin. After school she was very lucky and got a big job with big cash that she sponsor herself in travelling to Europe, America and Canada for holiday . I notice her character change especially when you ask her for money she becomes upset and say some annoying words So I have to give her space.
Futunately for me God bless me and I got a very big job too with cool cash. Now the problem is most people don't call me to check on me or even chat with me. Almost every one calling me is asking for money or favour. Nobody care about me all there just want is money. My friends start bringing various business plans for me to establish them. Is not that am selfish but am choke up with different people calling you for money at once. My friend that are in my place of work are using iPhone 13 Pro max and me is still using huwei and I get bigger salary than some of them. The people in my place of work are calling me stingy guy and asking me how do I spend my money because I don't take good care of myself. Land I have nor get, house am still a tenant, cloths I still buy cheap cloths because because I keep giving in which I know God will bless me.
The most annoying part is some of my friends get entitlement mentality. One call me and told me he has not eaten today and very broke then I reply him that I would give him 5k to see road then he shouted that I am bigger than 5k and I reply him with anger if he want the money or not. Another one go collect loan in which he was not able to pay and the next thing he send me message for one evening that he needed money to pay the loan before night go reach as if he keep money in my account. Another one always call me in which I dey wire money to am constantly because he try for me when I get nothing but the problem is he keep asking me money every week and the more I give him the more he keep asking thinking I don't have plans for my money. Some will call u when u are broke and once u tell them that u are broke there won't believe you and will keep intestify the begging. There are many instances in which I can't mention because some of my friends are in nairaland and I don't want them to know am talking about them.
Now let me go to girls. Most girls throw themselves on me which let me to loose interest with them because there are after my money. Now I only follow girls that are rich or richer than me because I believe she will follow me for love and not money because she don't need my money.
From conclusion I can say I understand why my cousin was behaving like that because right now am in her shoes and I know what it means to have little money.
Please I type very fast. Don't mind my grammar and spelling

Where do you work bro? I'll like to work in your company and earn big dough just like you.

No jokes. I'm really serious man. Help me with job.

As for your leeching "friends", cut them off. When they finish your money, they will turn on you tomorrow and call you mumu. They will say to your face, " How much did you give me sef that person will not hear word?"

Be wise. If you don't know what to do with money, save it in dollars and keep it towards your retirement. Old age is long oo.

He that has ears.....

XXMML33:
Focus on the subject matter black fool. We are not talking about buhari and baphoment, black negro fool.

Everything you know about history was given to you by your enslavers, black fool

History is written by the Victors, black ignorant fool.

You know nothing about your history because it is strategically hidden from you, black fool

Ignorant black fool that hasn't left the shores of Nigeria but thinks he knows everything about history because he read books given to him by his racist slavemasters

Stupid black fool.

Stop abusing him. You can make your argument without insults please

StaffofOrayan:
If I remember correctly, Orji Kalu, Ngige and co were part of the Buhari crew

Hey papi. It's being a while since I saw you on this nl streets. Welcome back

ifegen:
Good Afternoon dear,

I haven't managed such a case yet but it's not uncommon. There are lots of things that can cause it and it's mostly by hormonal imbalance. I'll first start by asking the age, marital status and past history of contraceptive intake.

Cabergoline will help though but there are other drugs that would have helped as well. So I'm believing that the medic that prescribed that for her had clerked her already to have made that choice.

Hey Ifegen. Sorry my response is coming late. Off the top of my head, this person would be late 20s, single. Contraceptive intake, hmm, yeah, once, once now especially last year but nothing recently.

The doctor did not really examine her or anything. He only recommended the drug because she mentioned that she has clear discharge from her nipples.

Sorry if it's TMI. Which other drugs would help in this circumstance?

How you dey na. Hope work's good.

@ifegen, na you so you do me? I sent this message eons ago with no response from you. If it was a matter of life and death, na so the person for die troway

Is that good?

As for your broke crush borrowing #1000 and sex enhancement drugs, leave the broke-ass where he belongs. You don't have taste ni?

Yes, bestie. I'm spoiling for a fight.

cc ifegen

ifegen:
Easy on that one bestie let me settle down and get the money first. Thoughts of marriage will follow later! Don't get me wrong, I do think about marriage and giving my mom a grandchild but really, it's not an easy straightforward thinking for me. I have got my HIV status to consider, then my sexuality. Either way, I'll love to get married to a lady but it's not gonna be the secular kind, I'm not gonna be the head of the household and I'm not gonna be the sole breadwinner either. In fact, if I can have a lady court me and do the proposals and all, mehn am down seriously!

The funny thing was that before my first gay experience (I don't want to say conversion), I've always pictured being wooed by a girl instead. I was a shy reserved kid growing up and couldn't see myself having enough confidence to approach and toast a girl talk more of a guy! Even during my first gay experience, it was the man that approached and lured me into his house using novels and 5, 5 hundred Naira.


Anyway sha, I'll get married eventually but I've got a lot of work to do on myself first before that.

Hey ifegen. Good morning. I want to ask about something completely unrelated, okay.

Would you, as a pharmacist, recommend Cabergoline 0.5mg for a lady that hasn't seen her period since her last cycle in June? No, she's not pregnant and has no known infections. Her period just didn't show up as it was supposed to in July. It's August now and still nothing.

What could be the reason for the missing periods and spotting? Like, it would look like her period wants to come, then nothing just tiny flow here and there.

aribisala0:
Not by noise.
if you like go and get microphone.
With your mouth you will scratch the ground and find that which will invert your intestines

So shall it be for you and your children forever. Don't quote me again.

aribisala0:
I, aribisala0, the demented bigot will not die well

So shall it be for your generation after you up to the 10th generation, Amen.

aribisala0:
You are daft! Incurably daft
What stake do Yoruba have in an Eboe presidency?

Shut up Agbaya!!! You're the daft slowpoke. Agbaya Alaso.

Your mates are elder statemen and kingmakers while you're here on a free internet forum playing bigotry with people young enough to be your grandkids.

Hide your old, wrinkled face in shame.

Old age, no wisdom.

MedicH:
It beats my imagination that there are some poor, stupid, useless Nigerians that will prefer thieves and drug dealers to these fine astute gentlemen as president.

Civilised people such as Peter Obi and his Vice intimidate a lot of Nigerians. You should know that many Nigerians suffer from a terrible low self esteem and inferiority complex occasioned by chronic poverty and in some cases, low IQ

The thieves and drug dealers feel more relatable to them.

aribisala0:
Well I do not see any share for me and my people in their endeavour
It is for Eboes alone
Wetin Coinzain me

You're too old for this. You're someone's dad and people look up to you. Kindly respect your old age, grandpa

GalRenaissance:
I thought biggie said only the four in the group are supposed to present simultaneously.
Why was someone drumming on the bench?

Hi there. please could you explain more about subliminals? Thank you. Nice diary.

Edit: Your diary entry resonated with me because I know what's like to look for love in all the wrong places and with the wrong people.

My suggestion would be for you to love yourself. You're young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Please don't waste it wallowing in self pity or self hatred.

You're valuable and you're worthy whether st or whatever recognizes your worth or not. Pursue self love with all you have. What do you want to do? If you could do anything, what would you do?

Start something. Get a small job that takes you out of the house. It doesn't have to be "big". You could freelance. Just try. Trust me, wasted time is the most painful thing.

Start no matter how slowly you go. The point is to make progress.

Take care.

ifegen:
Hahahaha, I've been looking for a Female BFF all my life. Not like a normal female friend that I'll be praying doesn't expect me to ask her out or woo her at some point. So I guess God answered my prayers! Don't mind me, I'm just been goofy.


Cheers to new friendships. Don't worry I'd tell you the pharmacy in our DMs. But it's not so bad sha as I'm making it seem and yeah I need to stand up and speak out for myself but the last time I did, we had a very bad altercation so I'm just weathering whatever comes our way till the end of the year when I'll leave her. It just pains me that she might not have something good to say about me when I leave. I'll be fine sha and she would!

Hi ifegen. How're you doing. How's work and everything. Is your boss still being a big baby? I don't know why some employers feel the need to dehumanize their employees just because they pay their salaries.

It's a mark of an uncivilized person.

Anyways, what's the real issue with your roommate? Is it possible to move to another apartment? You're not a native and I hope your neighbours won't try to make things difficult for you.

If you could, maybe try and rent a place with someone more friendly with people of your orientation. Like it or not, gay people are still obscure in our society. At least for me, I don't think I know any gay person in real life.

I've written a full textbook already, let me stop here.

So if it's not Airen or Flows, then which is it? Seems like your pharmacy is not very popular. Why is your boss now carrying body sef. So you're a pharm superintendent, shey.

I used to work in a pharmacy some years back and my boss was just like yours. Bossy and abusive. Like, this dude would dress you down in front of customers. I pegged him immediately to be a narcissist.

Do you think of getting married? What will you do then?

Alright. Holler back, "bestie" lol

twentyfivekobo:
At the end, it is the fault of the APC government for not improving funding for the security forces

As well as the governor's for not doing youth development

Sorry but I can't ignore this. Billions of naira have been allocated by the FG to fight insecurity, several fighter jets and other military hardware was purchased by this same government. All of these with no tangible results.

Just this morning, Lawan whatever stated that the 900 billion naira freshly allocated just recently to fight insecurity will not be enough. But according to you, Nigerians just want everything cheap. It needs to be some couple trillions, right?

In another news story a while back, half of those allocated billions was discovered in Buratai's house and you say that the government did "not improve funding for the security forces"?

You see why I call you a liar and a revisionist? You're just an old clown and I'll bet dollars to doughnut that you benefit from this government somehow or you're just dumb as I posited earlier. I'll go with the latter

Do my eyes a favour and stop posting. Your posts are an eyesore.

twentyfivekobo:
That's why subsidy should go.

But we don't want to pay the market price for petrol so we keep feeding the corrupt in return for 40 naira fuel.

Who is buying fuel for 40 naira in this country? Shameless old liar. subsidywise, backbencher, backbencher2.