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Angelfrost:
No you are not... You are mostly politically correct cowards that prefer to fight wars and rant on social media....

This is why South Africans are not bothered by your threats... They know even Buhari can't and won't do a damn thing.

I find the rants childish and immature however you should also be bothered because the BH can put a call across to their Alshabab mujahideen brothers in East Africa to pull some stunts and with the number of Somali and Ethiopians also affected by the xenophobic attacks,they would be more then glad to put SA in the news at least for the sake of their slain brothers,however I'm not in support of any for of violence whatsoever.

Sermwell:
hahahaha!!! how old are you?? even one of the FBI agents said they will get at least three to ten years jail term. US law is not so strict on non violent crimes.

Depends on how many charges they are eventually convicted for with 225 in the bag let's say they lucky to get 100 and each is 1 year then u do the math.

hyperflex:
These niggaz about to miss Friday clubbing for the next 10years at least.

10 yearsThose guys captured are not coming back home for sure, they have 225 count charges against them so they will be spending at least 100 years if they are really lucky bastards

evilive:
Maybe I don't see anything special about nights. I think, if I can say "how was your day? How was your trip? Then, I think,"how was your night?" should not carry any special meaning other than how it sounds; with the mentality that night is for sleeping.

I don't pick offense if anyone ask me such and I have no intention of correcting them due to its triviality (to me). I only respond to what I perceive to be your intention, not what they say your borrowed words meant.
However, I shall definitely respect the stand of anyone that finds it offensive.

Words are mere sounds you know; they are meaningless until meanings are attached.

Maybe you don't see that it's all shades of wrong as long as English language is concerned.

There are collective nouns that always start with "THE"

"The sun"
"The moon"
"The stars"
"The air"
"The earth"
"The day"
"The night"

Except u own all this thing then I guess I should have made myself clear.

etrange:
I believe you know what it means for a statement to be grammatically correct. So tell me, what is wrong with the grammar "how was your night?"

Being vague or not is debatable but that does not make it grammatically wrong except you're telling me it should have been "how is your night?" or "how are your night?" or "how were your night" etc...

Point is, the grammar is correct. It may be vague to you but not vague to the society that uses it.

I believe you have ever heard of the word how was the night

How do u mean how was your night it was never yours in the first instance except you are the custodian of the night we all never knew.

It's not just vague but might really be grammatically incorrect however this is just my own humble opinion.

evilive:
Nigerians and wahala, nah matter wey no be matter we dey flex muscle on top.
"How was your night" has no other meanings to a sane mind than what it meant in structure, nah only robot they look for meaning wey no dey. Must we forever be zombies?

In Nigeria, night nah night. Period.

It would have, been better asking how was the night than how was your night,you have absolutely no frigging business in his night,its his to deal with.

etrange:
First, "how was your night?" is grammatically correct and therefore cannot be termed "wrong English". Having said this, it's apparent that its use or otherwise is subject to regional differences.

Some greetings are used more frequently in certain parts of the world than others due to cultural differences and provided there's nothing wrong with the grammar, there's nothing like wrong or right here. While an English man would rather ask about the weather, a Nigerian man would prefer to ask if your night went well.

However, you might want to use the form of greeting more popular in your immediate location.

Do you know a Chinese man asks "chi fan le?" as a form of greeting? It simply means "have you eaten rice?" or more literally "eaten rice?". And no, it's not wrong.

If I am any right I don't think how was your night is grammatically correct because it's a totally vague question in the first instance how was your night and how was your noon mean exactly the same and the answer is my night was my night not yours and vice versa, subtly put why come up with such a vague question when u can use hope u had a restful night which is a much more of a direct question in my opinion.

Here is the solution

Get another girl immediately it doesn't even have to be a relationship you could as well be friends make sure she has better or perhaps same level of looks with your ex, make her come visit u at work so your ex can be aware buy a gift for the new girl and surprise her when she comes visiting then sit back and watch as things unfold her reaction will either get u off your addiction or bring you guys back together,then choose what's best for your life.

OMOANIBIRE:
I have come across kehinde kehinde in my secondry school time[color=#006600][/color]

It's rare but not impossible because as per Yoruba culture the person brought the name from heaven,the Surname is Kehinde and is fortunately also a twin so its total divine coincidence.

LOL

I can tell you for free it's a scam 100%

You should be able to see through the scam easily,no sane and responsible mom will tell a boy she has never met to buy a phone for adolescent daughter.

Naija girls with their petty scams always make me ,they are not even half as smart as their looks while at it.

My advice is that u should buy the phone provided you can really afford it,as affordable as it would mean nothing if u lost the money,then call her out to hang out and u give her the phone in person.

Do not send the money for the purchase of the phone buy it yourself and give to her in person so u can meet her and assess her better.

Then sit back an watch her reactions,if it's a scam like I guessed,there will be a second billing,act all cool and follow through only that this time the terms and conditions will be getting bouncy in bed or nothing.

You are nothing but a pawn in the game of ripple effects.

The Lady sure knows her onions in the game and you my dear are way too gullible and needy.

The Lady definitely has some other guy she is in a relationship with somewhere trust me.

Disloyalty to your friend is not my issue but your gullibility shows how much of a lowlife you are.

Getting all intimate with a girl u just met for the very first time that's in a relationship with your friend is all shades of low.

The lady is definitely the winner in the game whichever way.

If your friend goes all ballistic and decides to end the relationship due to this issue, she reluctantly agrees but goes all emotional on saying u have spoiled her life, you fall for the guilt trip and get emotional, get her laid and get all committed to her after all if u don't have her who will.

Result=He gets to dump your friend with little collateral damage on her reputation after all u are the he goat that caused all the wahala,she has her relationship with the other guy Mr X intact and also gets a new puppy of a love in you while at it.

If your friend goes all emotional and gets ballistic with u,you get axed from his social life or perhaps something more sinister happens to u depending on your friends vengeance.

Result=She gets a big boost of trust and confidence in her relationship with your friend while she keeps her relationship with Mr X intact while u my friend gets destroyed until she finds another he goat destined for destruction that's ready to play the games.

All in all she goes home smiling.

The Irony of it is that she will never take u seriously even if u guys are eventually in a relationship,men are typically more reliable and trustworthy than women and Evey lady knows this,if u can stab your friend in the back just on the first day of meeting her,trust me no lady wants such a cunning,thirsty,betrayal fox of a man like you in her life in the long term.

My advice GET RID OF HER.

ayanbaba2:
SMH!!!

you think everything is sex in a relationship, uhn?

SMH again!

SMH!!!

You think everything is salt in a pot of soup

Definitely not however a little of it makes a whole lot of difference at least to the taste buds.

Sex cannot be taken with a pinch of salt in a relationship between two sane matured individuals(perhaps u might not be matured enough anyway)

Sex is the salt of a relationship.

The irony of it is that u were in a relationship with yourself for the 2 years as you won't be too surprised that the same lady was actually getting laid by some other guy.

The church excuse is a ruse she totally got bored and tired of been in such a tasteless relationship and she bounced to the other guy that would make her feel like a woman,simple.

Time wasters like to waste their time with others and you my dear are one.

SMH!!!

ayanbaba2:
my girlfriend "turned fiancee" broke up with me exactly a month ago because of this "nonsense" after like 2years!

...saying because of the future! ...ehnn, we are not compartible and the rest!

I can't believe it because I thought she has a brain of her own. I was wrong, definitely!

the thing was like film trick to me because we've never had any issue!

i think the breakup was easy for her because we never had sex!

I just let her be, no Lele!

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Your girlfriend of 2 years turned fiancee and you guys never had sex, and u really think u have a fiance like for real?

Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.

Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.

The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time. Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.

Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

Let me advice you from personal experience if your own side of the story is as true as it seems.

One thing every man, must, realise either single or married is that, every lady has a plan B so stay a step ahead of their games make sure u have a plan C.

Having a plan C might not be your thing due to your religious and personal lifestyle however this is exactly where they come in handy to help you heal from the emotional trauma that's why real men never stop exploring even when married because never say never is an, alien when it comes to women issues.

The reason I am, writing this is because u have been sincere enough to admit your flaws and you it's obvious you would rather have your wife back,most importantly I want you to heal, because u need to heal before u can start to be useful, even if u get a great job in this state of mind chances are your productivity will be low which is not great for financial stability.

In my own opinion due to my experience here is what u need to do.


1.Hustle harder not because of her but just because u might just be about to start a, whole new life entirely all over again which means two families in proxy and therefore more responsibilities.

2.Make sure u send something to your son through her as much as u can much preferably monthly at least not because it convenient but she won't be able to play the irresponsible card on you if the cookie crumbles.

3.Explore,life is too short to be fixated on some woman get a new wardrobe and keep yourself busy,dont be on a revenge plan to be in haste for just any lady, take your time and be open minded,be in a NSA relationship with her,you need some companionship and good sex to make you heal,however u might as well decided not to be sexual based on your discretion.

After u are healed them take a, pen and piece, or paper and write down what u have, gained from her so far and what u might have lost,will u be better off without her,every good businessman,will analyse his ROI on any business and if a business is not as buoyant as u thought it should then u diversify.

Dont call her unnecessarily but make sure u do at least once in a month just to ask after your kids,goof around,be relaxed when talking to her and not so uptight,act as if nothing happened and u all good.


Lastly if your wife returns which I hope and pray happens soon because that's your dream anyway make sure there is NO SEX WHATSOEVER,for at least 3 months after her return so you would have slim chances of been responsible for another man's pregnancy at, it's worst,here is where your plan bees and sees come in as contingency and u won't appear as some needy thirsty little fox.

alphaNomega:
Calm down, I'm on your side. Just anwser

UPDATE (after several posts from you and no response to the question): This means you do not know what to do when your in-laws try to take away the properties of your deceased married children. You would fold your hands and watch. The in-laws now own everything. The End.

Like I said your question is too vague and does not deserve any reasonable reply however if u can't wrap your head around constructing a question of a sentence then I'm sorry I can't help you.

adanny01:
The child bears a name that the late father gave. No one can take it away. Does the family have patent rights over the name? WTF are you talking about?

Does it make any sense to alienate the family of the father of the child denying them their identity right to see their grandchild

Sterope:
You can go and meet her husband on behalf of the family. Tell him to come and give his child another name. If anyone of you kidnappers cannot force the father to change his son's name, you have no point.

I can't see that stupid link you keep hammering on. He remains his father's child and therefore a right to inherit his father's property. The right to his property isn't only by name. His father recognised him as his son and that is all that matters. If the family like, they should even consider him a bastard, it is your headache. They want a fight, let them take it up with him.

Does your own logic make sense to you? Are you one of those douchebags in-laws? We hope to see you Roy in hell. Wicked people!

With she devils like u roaming God's green earth I guess we have a whole lot to worry about.

His fathers name is his property according to your logic
His father's family nko,not his property,afterall what financial benefits will you guys derive from a bunch of old aunts and uncles,
You want the sweet, his father's property,yet you are disgusted by the sweat,his fathers family.

Do u have a surname, if yes I can only help but pity the man be it father or husband u are using his surname, he is totally hopeless.

[quote author=teemotee post=80380274][/quote]Of course children are properties of the family name they bear,that is why there is something called disown, a father disown a child because he owns the child,are u the one that impregnated her or did pregnancy just fall on her like manna from heaven, a man spends a fortune to marry a land and equally spends a fortune maintaining his family,after his demise you now want to alienate his own family members from their own grandchild,its all shades of wrong.

Sterope:
HIS father's property. He is his father's dependant. He is his issue, his father's son. His right over his father's property superscedes his father's family. Unfortunately for you, they cannot enforce those silly rights in court.

Is it so difficult for you to grasp? Why on earth would you assume that those rights are even remotely equal? Let me break it down for you.

See ehn, my dad can ask me not to visit my grandparents. There is nothing my grandparents can do but lament. They cannot enforce such right or bar me from inheriting my mum's. However, it changes with me being an adult, my dad can say what he likes but he can't bar me from visiting them. Relationship between the child and his father's family is to be encouraged however they cannot force it or claim that is a right they are entitled to especially where the mum is disinterested maintaining that link. No one can blame her in the circumstance, they have proven themselves to be distrustful and wicked.

Oh the mom is disinterested in maintaining the link,then she should go ahead to change the name of the child to whatever name she is interested in the link.

You can't be disinterested in the link and at the same time use the link to own properties,you have to be be as disinterested in the properties as with the link.

Does your logic even make any sense to you,why am I not surprised with your comments I can see a cold hearted cunny double faced hypocrite.

Sterope:
The child doesn't owe it to them, it is his father's name. The name that his father gave to him. If they have a problem with it, they should confront their son. I expect them to have dial number for the dead.

Oh I now get it you want to enforce the child's right over his father's property at the same time deny the family members of the deceased the right of identity over their own grandchild,isnt God just wonderful?

With cold hearted conniving ladies with no dignity like you in the picture,i guess we are in for some real trouble.

Sterope:
Technically, the family does not have a right to that child when is mum is a live and when the mum has not expressly appointed them as the guidian. His father's properties are his and his mum for their upkeep, the father's family may have some rights in the propertybut it is limited. They can choose not to give the child his father's inheritance, it is their choice. None of the above justifies kidnapping a child from his parent.

Technically if the family does not have a right to the child then the child does not have a right bearing the family name either technically losing any rights to any properties in the man's name.

alphaNomega:
Your answers make it more specific, as you can see I am defining the questions as we progress.

There are no answers to such vague questions unfortunately.

alphaNomega:
Thank you.

Now you have established your child to be married with children. Let's move to the next phase.

What will you do if your in-laws try to take ownership of that property?

The question is vague can u be more specific in what context?

alphaNomega:
Two scenarios:

1. If your son dies and he has no will. Who will own his properties?

2. If your daughter dies and she has no will. Who will own her properties?

All other conditions being equal.

Scenarios 1 my son and daughter will not die prematurely

Scenario 2 In the event that my son has a wife/wives,kids or both then the properties will be owned by them.

Scenario 3 In the event that my daughter is married,has kids or both then properties will be owned by them.

Sterope:
How does that change that the fact that the father's family didn't give birth to the child? Surname is bullshit because it is a norm doesn't mean you get to take a child away from his mother.

I'm not supporting taking the kid, away, from the mom,the family didn't give birth to the child but their son did so technically they equally have a right to the child,But if the deceased has properties and the kid is the next of kin does that mean the properties belong to the fathers family since the fathers family didn't give birth to the kid anyway in your words.

Sterope:
A child belongs to his parents. It took two people to birth a child. In the absence of the father, the father's family has no right to take over the child unless the mother wishes or is incapable of taking of the child. If she likes, let her marry a million times. It is her child. That child is a relative to everyone else.

I don't get this your logic sorry the surname of the child is of the fathers so the kid definitely belong to the fathers family in my opinion

RichBoy247:
Which history? The history of how Ojukwu fled to Ivory Coast after declaring war and sacrificing three million of your fathers and uncles or the history of how Cownu Nnamdi fled to UK and Israel after abusing Buhari who is not his(Nnamdi) useless father's level? Which of the histories are you attempting to rewrite?

Mind you, the Yorubas stopped the Fulanis in Ilorin. The Yorubas that stopped the Fulanis in Ilorin are actually the soldiers of the Oyo Empire who went to the border at Ilorin to stop the Fulanis and they did that successfully.

I actually thought we are on the same page or do we have a problem?

BuddhaPalm:
The Romans, Greeks, Egyptians, Babylonians, Russians, Germans, Americans, the French, Chineese, Japanese, can all be defeated on home soil, but not the Yorubas.

Impressive.

Quite impressive until u are ready to rewrite history

Lol Fulani chestbeating at its best, I won't bedevil any tribe because I know other criminals have taken advantage of the Fulani menace to cover their tracks however if there were to be a war really which won't happen by the grace of the Almighty,the Yoruba will be the lowest casualties of collateral damage,we have the easiest passage to flee if we ever do unfortunately Yoruba people NEVER flee their home soil,you can chase them half way around the world but nobody can defeat them on home soil,that is a, fact anyone can take to the bank.

Timih:
Thank you all for all your inputs,i truly appreciate.
I've talked to him this evening, I asked him questions. He was trying to lie and do some sorts but I found my way in.. He said its not his first time of touching the girl's breast and she too do touch his pen.is sometimes. I was seriously down when he said this. He said more than thrice. I asked him why he didn't tell me or his mum, he said did day he wanted to tell me I was on call and mom was busy also then later mom called for night prayer. I was like, you could have told me still but I guess he's was afraid or ashamed to talk because I always give him attention when he calls me.
Well, I have talked to him like a son and brother, I've told him the implications of what he did and how bad it is,I've told him that he should report anybody that touches his manhood to me. He was close to tears though but I didn't threaten him throughout our conversation.

I've changed his plans, limited TV, more time with me, siezed his ball (still have some toys with him) and I'll have to make him spend more time with his books.. Hopefully he will change.. He was kind of relaxed I didn't beat him though

I haven't informed my wife about anything cos she's also faced a lot .. I seriously don't know how she will react and I don't want her to bounce on the maid, I just looked for something to make sure the maid goes and I've called the person that brought her that she's done here. I didn't even talk to the maid. I don't want to let anger take a high toll on me.. I just left her.

When they pick her up tomorrow, I'll tell her ward about what she did. I'll also take him to school tomorrow and tell his teacher talk to him and watch him too.

I pray he change...thank you all.. May God keep us and our children safe

I'm glad things worked out this way here are a few things I need to highlight
1.A seven year old boy should be able to bath himself,make him responsible by having him do that and also help you guys out with a few chores,assign a few chores for him that he would be able to manage to channel all that energy into something engaging so he can, get his mind off all that BS.

2.DO NOT tell his mom at least for now, there is no way a woman won't get emotional when she hears things and she will definitely escalate things and this will make the young lad withdrawn,you need to make him see u as his confidant so u can get more info in the future,besides u don't need things to escalate now because u yourself need time to heal as that event evidently got u broken.

3 Don't tell his teacher nothing about the event however u might go to the school for follow up and monitoring and perhaps tip the teacher(9ja tins)to keep an, better eye out for the ladies and monitor him well,i think that should do.

This is just my own humble opinion though .

Lastly to all those saying beating,they say experience is the best teacher and those of us who were raised by teachers and thoroughly beaten will tell u for free that beating does nothing but makes a child more withdrawn sometimes even rebellious as some of us were renowned to dust cane anyway,las Las Na cane go end am,in this age and time parents need to be totally unpredictable.

The desert foxes are cunny when it comes to fake falls inside the box to earn penalties,the defenders should be very careful,the S.E also need to a better marksman to convert free kicks near the box to goals and try more shots from the midfield.

Hienna:
All calm right now
But d news reported that it was four people...
Their corpse are carried away now..
Okada riders plenty for UCH now..

OK good to hear thanks for your time