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donstan18:
She’s more concerned on how good and generous she’ll look in the eyes of sympathizers, than getting justice for the little girl who according to her, was molested.

That's what you got from the video?

What a pity

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This is a secret that you carry with you to the grave.

How do you expect her to live with the fact that you slept with her sis? That's going to be one hell of a marriage.

Don't just stand there and start looking into her sister's eyes. Have a confrontation with her, tell her you are sorry all over again and it will never happen again. Ask for forgiveness.

She is definitely not happy with you and maybe wants u or wants more or whatever, you have got to change how she feels about you if you truly want peace and want to avoid future threats.

Talk to her, apologize and tell her you love and will treat her sister right.

You need to apologise again before the wedding.

Don't even let her discover that weakness, she could use that to threaten you later. Just be man enough!


Plus, how can u say her weakness is that she trusted you? You are the bad person here, not her.

etrange:
And he started by telling us her wife's flaws (one of which is that she trusts him o). Meanwhile, he's the bad egg here.

Wonderful.

I just weak! The manipulation!

It's not funny.

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See alpha males oo���

However, l find fault in your comparism of Nigerian girls "uselessness" and "sex" as quoted. Nigeria girls aren't intimacy gadget, okay. Because that's what l can decipher from that. You mean despite their uselessness, guys still use them as intimacy gadget. Remember those guys bang not for love but for fun and share escapade. lnfact some Arab men will cum and shit in your mouth even. Demanding for sex as quoted by Nigerian men from their girls is demeaning to me. Your logic aren't adding up for me.

A well bred girl doesn't offer sex or only sex to a Nigeria guy. If she does, then she is what these folks call her. "LovePeddler"

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Men hide behind these "using women for sex" to hide their weaknesses and the fact that these thing controls them a good number of times.

It's mere pretense just to caress the male ego.

U shout women are useless here and there and the next moment, you just want to jump into her pants: Where is the sense?

That's a total weakness that men paint as strength!

Men hide behind these "using women for sex" to hide their weaknesses and the fact that these thing controls them a good number of times.

It's mere pretense just to caress the male ego.

U shout women are useless here and there and the next moment, you just want to jump into her pants: Where is the sense?

That's a total weakness that men paint as strength!

"Nigerian Women Are Useless, All of them"

Sounds familiar right? Well, all hail Mosdii and all other Nigerian men.

So, everyday we have one guy wailing about how Nigerian girls are this and that.
How getting married to Nigerian girls has been added to the book of history as one of the 0000 ways to die.

But this is where it gets interesting; no matter how much you guys say Nigerian girls are useless, they don't deserve love and marriage, please why has any of you guys not come out to say they would never have sex with Nigerian girls?

Infact, it's funny how guys here advice themselves to f*** the hell out of girls and get lost or threads where after a guy is done wailing, he ends it by saying he has a girl coming over.

How can you be so mad at this gender and yet this malady hasn't reached the point where you guys come together to say; Okay, we are done! We are not even sleeping with these disloyal girls anymore.

That's the solution to these endless cries from you guys; Date, love and sleep with the western women you all crave.

Unfortunately, I think you all will never have the freedom you so crave.

As for me; I love and respect men♥️�. I believe in spoiling my man, smashing goals together and being responsible.

Plus, there are so many girls like me out there.
You attract your kind.

It's funny how you hate the "9ja" women mentality but forever remain trapped and mesmerized about their bodies and that's why no matter how one guy comes here to scream, another guy is there getting billed unnecessarily ��.

Don't be deceived, you so called Alphas still pay money for the BOOTY.

Solution: You can't hate what you can't totally do away with it.

Nigerian girls are this and that, yet you guys cover your shame by acting as if you are purnishing girls with sex; Those whores are meant to be f******���.

Unfortunately, your cravings for sex is why they keep shouting the future is female�.

Food for thought: Ask yourself, when do you want to stop being an ATM machine and start attracting responsible smart girls?

You know you can do that without the wailings??

So much energy on top woman!

Some guys out there are reaping the benefits of being with a good woman but no, as for you, you still keep moving in circles and shouting All girls are useless.


Any man that says this is talking from Experience and that why it hurts that much: You Are A Simp.


#My Pen Bleeds.

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Carchoice:
just a fling. Even at that I, i don’t think my dog is safe around her anymore. Make she carry the yansh go.

Just a fling? Glad you deleted her number!!¡

She sounds like she is tripping!!!

LordofNaija:
I told him what he wants to hear nah, ask him if he isn't happy with what I told him, he clearly saw level 3, and he is asking questions wetin make I answer am nah

Really? Change this approach pls. Tell people the truth and leave! How they feel or what they choose to do after shouldn't bother u anymore.

Say the truth!

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See a psychiatrist soon....

You can't hold meaningful & smart conversations.

This is all you have got to show for the number of years you have lived on earth?

Sex, women still freak you?

Calm down....

Zeeknow3245:
Guy I hate this thing you said you just generalise women. I swear you deserve rehabilitation classes. Lazy thinking? remorseless? Selfish?
If your mother and siblings are like that don't generalise it. Prejudiced opinion is bad.
Bleep you and your red pill.
Many of you guys saying red pill are dingbats and nitwits.
If all the women in your family are those things you highlighted above, then it is fine.
Guy have you gone to markets these days.
Have you seen women trying as much to sell goods not even worth 5k all to feed their husbands and their children and that same woman will still cook and have sex with the husband that same day.
Guy women are trying. If you think it is the cheap girls you get with 5k, indomie and egg then You are in a fool's world.

Mind-blowing piece♥️

optimusprime2:
Although I agree there are lots of genuine women out there, that's absolutely true.

But wait till Nigerian men tell their own side of such stories...

Some who haven't even experienced anything still come out to bash, maybe to feel among.

Okay, hopefully, something would make men speak up and they will talk about the genuine women they have encountered.

tonyson010:
Interesting piece......


But apparently it is just few that carrying such responsibilities. In a world like ours where men are passing through lots trying to provide for their family....many men get lost in this battle. We appreciate women that stand by and still respect their husbands even in their downfall.



A lot , I mean very much are dependent. Looking for ice cream and iPhone boyfriends.

Guys can easily spot these kind of girls but just because of certain benefits, they go with the flow but it's funny how they come out and say different kind of things.

Guys really need to start asking themselves what they want.

No one can eat their cake and still have it.

blinking001:
I love it when they wail

Okay. Goodluck listening to wails.

optimusprime2:
The dangers of a single story... like this one

This part of the story needs to be told too.

BabbanBura:
Is this the ngozi I know?

Babe, there are good, bad and ugly in every people - when the bad overwhelms the good, the entire class is deemed bad - na why dey label all girls what u referred here.

Taken a step back, are u advertising a wife to us or may be even wives?

Which Ngozi do you know?

I am not advertising anybody. It's just very sick that on every thread I see women are useless etc


I wanted you all to know about the Heroines and many more out there that I mentioned in my write up.

No one is focusing on this part of the story
No one talks about women that provide for the house and so many women out there that do this.

This part of the plot needs to be heard too.

blinking001:
You write like you're frustrated . and I love it when you lots get all worked up over nothing ...Redpillers gang una thank you oo

Frustrated? Definitely. Reason: Why do men cry women this, women that? Why can't y'all stand up for yourself and change the course of things? Why are you surrounded by bad women? It is really sad, that's why I am forced to think that alot of guys just come online to lie.

What if for once you just decide to not get tempted by the flashy things and settle for a good woman, hardworking woman?

Face your fears Men, stop running away because that's what most men are doing these days.

blinking001:
Buhahahaha

Hmmmmmm. I am trying to understand the laughter.

She works in a general hospital and now an assistant Director. Before marriage, she was richer. His business only started to boom years after their marriage.

She is the one that takes care of us, over 70% and we are cool and there is mutual respect at home with everyone managing their money.

Oh really? Now you are going to shout on the roof tops about how Nigerian Women are useless? Just before then, should I tell you the story of my mum? Helen.

My mum is actually older than my dad with 3 years and she is submissive till the end of forever. She is a nurse while my dad sells tyres, obviously richer than him yet she serves him his food and packs his plate everyday! She pays our fees, buys all the food and she and my dad built our family house together. She pays the bills! She grinds!

Oh really! Now before you make my eyes get teary again with your slang "Nigerian women have nothing to offer", Let me tell you the story of my Aunt in her late 20's. She is the bread winner! She feeds the family, she even married as a virgin! Guess what? She is highly unhappy in her marriage, her hubby cheats like a fish!

Now before you tell me, that's the old generation, let me tell you about my friends: You want to know about the times we have cried because we really want to achieve our dreams so bad? Should I tell you about Upali? My best friend, at the age of 25, she is the one taking care of her family. She pays her siblings school fees. She just renewed their rent at home! Every night she has to listen to her father funny story: "No money"

Okay, now, I am starting to get emotional, this is where I would love to tell you about Aunty Esther, a woman down my street. She is the bread winner of her family! Guess what she does? House maid! And the husband? He sits at home like the boss and she brings him food to eat.

Oh , my mum, once again, mama Ejima! I pray you reap the fruits of your labor. She grinds hard!

Oh please, now I know what you are about to say next "Marriage benefits only women. Women have nothing to offer"

Then I must tell you about the story of my friend; Feyi, recently married and the man lost his job. She doubled her hustle! She stood by him! She made him start a business with her own savings! They are doing okay now.

I know women that grind. I have lived very close to guys. They bring girls to their house everyday; these girls cook, clean and these guys even borrow money from these girls.

Now, you can imagine the huge fist I make when I hear them mocking these girls.

Should I tell you my friend; Gift. At 29, she is hustling and contented with her boyfriend even if he isn't financially stable.

All of the girls I have interacted with; school, service and area. They all grind. Esther my friend just got married while doing her masters abroad.

Bose, who stays on my street hustles really hard despite getting pregnant without a marriage.

Oh please! Should I tell you about Iya Ade in front of my house. What won't this woman sell; Kerosene, Water, Vegetables just to take care of the family.

And my twin sister? She is proudly in love with her boyfriend, she has never sent a dime to her. He is currently out of jobs, she borrowed 7k from me last month just to send to him.

Or Theresa my cousin, 25 years old. She is doing fine with her boyfriend! She brings out the best in him, oh please, don't give me that look, he lives in a self-con with no car or iPhone! She loves him! She supports his business!

I am surrounded by girls that grind! Girls that hustle! Girls with big dreams, even Akudo is about to continue her education abroad.

Olosho? Bone straight? Married men? The craze over iPhone? Take these away from me! I can't relate! (Yeah, If you read this like a scream, I actually screamed)

Me? At 24, I grind! I buy my things. iPhone, bone straight, expensive clothes; I have none of these but I have mind-blowing ideas.

I can't stand small conversations and I believe in submissiveness and loyalty.

So, Where are y'all seeing the crazy girls?

It's raining blue, black here in the girl's world and yet none of y'all is seeing it?

This QUESTION begs for an answer: Where are you all meeting the bad girls that have broken you?

So many girls out these grind! So many women out there are actually the bread winner of their families.

There are definitely bad girls as there are bad boys.

ADVICE: The problem is you, open your eyes.

I am grinding my head out here! I want to double my salary, start my business, take care of my mum, my dad, my siblings and yes, I want to LOVE that special man hard.

You men see a pit, you run into it and then come out to cry!

There are countless good women out there, if you can't point to just one single person then I am forced to ask:

What do you stand for?
What are your values?
What do you look for in a woman?

#MyPenBleeds!
#NgoziWrites

(This is a true story of how I got scammed. Developed phobia for Facebook and was madly hurt by this Yahoo guy... From beautiful girl to messed up soul)

Sometimes the things you want come in form of monsters!

The Story Begins:


Where do I start from? From how my palms immediately became sweaty or my shivering voice or the sudden thought of loosing mum and joy? At 24, even though I had never been pregnant or had a child, I felt like a mother to Joy. I pictured myself giving her all the love her "dead mother" couldn't give her.

Before dive too deep, Joy is supposedly the fake daughter of my "Scammer". The one who has now fallen terribly in love with him. He doesn't know how much I hate him yet, I would probably demand for his eyes on a plate someday but yikes! I know it, my heart is too loyal, too sincere and caring to HURT.

Guess it's time to meet my scammer right? Yeah, let's do that. For the purpose of this write up, we shall call him fool..... okay, let me be nice, he will be D! Of cos, D for Devil! Haha, kind enough yeah?

Okay, so D chatted me up in August 2020. I checked his profile picture, good looks but location was Carolina, United States. That was a total turn off! I mean, I was done with distance relationship, I didn't want the lies anymore. I didn't want games anymore! Being in the United States spelt nothing but trouble, infact so many abstract ideas filled my head , forming a big monster that looked exactly like him.

I got messages from D repeatedly, at one point I simply replied with a Stern "What".

Okay, so, I am single, working class and wanted a good relationship, starting with friendship. It was during this time that K showed up in August as well.

K is 25, goal getter, smart, creative, hardworking...

He came to me saying he wanted us to work on a project together. We worked, went on a couple of outings.

I shared some of my short terms goals with him, he fitted in and yeah, I started imagining a big business empire with him but whoops! He suddenly dropped the bump: He actually has a girlfriend. That Confession only came after we had already shared a kiss.

Dude obviously knew there was no way he was going to get the cookie and wanted to "japa" Hey, K, Bye, I hope u have had a good bang now and stop lying to girls just to get down with them?

Back to D!

(Before that, you can think of me as someone who who constantly forgets that the world is a bad place)


After this Confession from K, I decided to finally listen to D in September. (Wasn't he isn't bad after all) well, that decision was the beginning of purnishment.

Oh pls! Purnishment for what exactly? For Being real, crazy, sincere or most likely being innocent, some call it mumu but please I will be lenient on myself and go with another descriptive term; "not street sharp"


Yeah, D and I exchanged contact and we had this great conversation from the first phone call. I am sapiosexual. He said he is a marine engineer and currently on the sea but will be out in December.

He asked me if was in a relationship, I told him no and he Confessed he has a baby and he is widowed, then continues with the following words:

"Ngozi, I saw your writings, your skits. You are so smart and intelligent. Can we be friends? I will love to meet you when I come home by December. Can I talk to your parents but please don't tell them we met on Facebook, tell them we have been friends for a year and that we met when I was in Nigeria. I want you to trust me, Ngozi"

Oops, what's this? I said to myself. "Well, no harm in trying" I concluded.

He injured some more: (Yeah, I replaced spoke with injured"

"I will tell my mum and baby (Joy) they will talk to you in some days time"

"I can bring you here with me in a few months. You, mum and Joy"

"That's not on my mind!" I almost screamed, couldn't hide my irritation.

"That's not my goal. If you are here to hurt me, please go" I pleaded.

That was only 0% of the pleas I was still going to make later. Oh yeah, I pleaded for the lies to stop, for the credit alerts to stop coming in. I lost weight from depression and fear, all the madness he would later play but admistd all the pleads and pictures of my weight loss, dark circles, long necks, all I continued hearing was "Ngozi, I will prove to you that not everyone is evil. I love you very much. I love you so much"

Hmmmmmmmmmm.

Okay, back to the first call, I spoke;



"Okay, fine, I will talk to your mum and joy later, Can I see you in a video" I asked.

Yes, give me some minutes"

After some minutes, D truly called and (we spoke) . I swear, he was on sea. I saw the water. I saw the ship. Even the American flag and his white friend even waved. I swear, I swear, I saw it, believe me!

Now, you can imagine how shocked I was when this devil confessed months later that he only played a tape!

Okay…. Fast Forward: His "mum" finally called me; Fake mum of course.

"Hello, Ada, My Daughter. How are you". She spoke and yeah, I was hooked but I only got vulnerable when Joy spoke next.

"Mummy, you left me since all this days!" Joy said. Even though her English was perfect, she sounded like a village girl, yeah, the baby voice was there but everything was off about her voice but I just thought maybe because she grew up with a grandma.

That was how I played a mum at 24! That was the beginning of my blindness! She was the reason why I started having a soft spot for that devil! If a man has mourned a woman and even has a child he loves than his wife, then he would respect and love women.

I thought this was my new beginning, I never saw the darkness that was to come in the next few months...

... And that was how I doubled my hustle, taking several freelancing jobs, just to keep the money coming in for mum and joy and to prove that I would only ever need his true love. As each day passed, different stories came up, one lie, another lie and more and more lies.

"Help" I could have screamed so loudly from the roof tops.

If mum didn't hear me, maybe my twin sister would have heard me but most importantly, Emmy, my younger brother would surely have heard me! My best sibling! Love him die.

"He is scam. He is scam" Emeka would later say in some few weeks to come but I wasn't having any of his jargons and enough of him trying to access my phone already!

"Tule!!!!!!!" I would have screamed angrily at him the day he got to know my password and read all my messages with D!

"Tule joor" I would have screamed with tears making a mess of my face as I ran after him to get my phone, unfortunately, the slang "Tule" wasn't known last year November.

This is just the beginning....

To be continued.

#MyPenBleeds!

You are not facing the root of your problem. You are scared of being vulnerable, of being open. You don't believe in love anymore.

Do you think getting married to two women will change this? It won't. More questions will continue to come up.


If you are scared of being hurt, deceived, being cheated and getting broken then you need to address this and the solution isn't getting married to two women.

You are trying to avoid trouble but you are only getting yourself into more.

You have questions but those women don't have the answers, even if they do, you won't see it because there is a fault you need to address.

You need to redefine yourself and your values. What do u want in a woman? What can a woman give u that can make u contented?

Look for qualities you want in a person, when you find that then fall in love. Do not fall in love first.

Love who you marry not necessarily marry who you love.

Marrying two women will not take away your fears: Face it! Conquer it. That's where your true happiness lies; Defeating your fears.

Only then would you be able to see thru a woman.

Forget all the talk of you are rich now, everyone loves you: It's a dirty world. Even your male friends love you more and give you fake smiles.

To see clearly, you need to rid yourself off those fears.

#MyPenBleeds!